advice - Blogs - Black Business Women Online2024-03-29T14:22:41Zhttps://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/feed/tag/advice126 Dates in 42 Days - Secrets to Online Dating Success Teleconferencehttps://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/126-dates-in-42-days-secrets-to-online-dating-success2013-08-22T16:26:33.000Z2013-08-22T16:26:33.000ZCyndi Harrishttps://mybbwo.com/members/CyndiHarris<div><p>Yes, you read correctly... 126 dates in 42 days. And yes, I had an amazing time. Below is the main reason I am sharing this special teleconference with you is:</p><p></p><p>I heard a startling statistic. The statistic says...</p><p></p><p style="text-align:center;"><span class="font-size-4" style="color:#800000;">"The average single has not been on a date in 2 years."</span></p><p></p><p>I was shocked when I heard this disturbing statement. <span class="font-size-3"><strong>2 years, seriously, this cannot be true.</strong></span> But then, I started thinking about the stigma and difficulties some women have with online dating:</p><ul><li>They get nervous.</li><li>Are unsure how to write a great profile that attracts really great guys.</li><li>Have been turned off by their own or other people's bad online experiences.</li><li>Etc.</li></ul><p>With so many misconceptions and fears surrounding online dating, I understand it can be a challenge that most women will not pursue or if they had a bad experience in the past; may be scared to try again.</p><p>I am here to tell you once you understand how to properly use online dating it can be a wonderful way to:</p><ul><li>Meet really good men.</li><li>Make new friends.</li><li>Relearn your current city and fun things to do with a fun companion.</li><li>If you are new to the area, safely meet new people and quickly learn your way around.</li><li>Have a really good time overall.</li><li>And so much more.</li></ul><p>But, you must know how to do this correctly and with ease. Why? Because, according to online dating research:</p><p style="text-align:center;"></p><p style="text-align:center;"><span class="font-size-4" style="color:#800000;">Only 20% of the people registered with online dating site are actually going on dates, getting into relationships,etc. <span style="color:#000000;">The other 80% are not.</span></span></p><p></p><p>Well, I can tell you from personal experience. It is much more fun being part of the successful 20% and if you are ready to get out of your dating funk. Then, sign up for this special and lively upcoming call.</p><p>I will share with you some of my secrets to successful online dating and relationships. Especially since Match.com is famous for quoting that <strong>"1 in 5 relationships start online."</strong> This is probably true with the numbers being even higher. So, join me for a really great time and some fun and useful information that will enhance your love life.</p><p></p><p style="text-align:center;"><span class="font-size-4" style="color:#ff0000;">126 Dates in 42 Days - Secrets to Online Dating</span></p><p style="text-align:center;"><span class="font-size-4" style="color:#ff0000;">Success Teleconference Call</span></p><p style="text-align:center;"><span style="color:#000000;" class="font-size-3">Wednesday 8/28/2013 6p to 7p. EDT (3p to 4p Pacific)</span></p><p style="text-align:center;"><span style="color:#000000;" class="font-size-3">You may register at:</span></p><p style="text-align:center;"></p><p style="text-align:center;"><span class="font-size-3"><a href="http://undeniablyirresistible.com/126_Dates_in_42_Days.html" target="_blank">www.undeniablyirresistible.com/126_Date_in_42_Days.html</a></span></p><p style="text-align:center;"></p><p style="text-align:center;"></p><p style="text-align:center;"><span class="font-size-3">to receive the call in information.</span></p><p style="text-align:left;"><span class="font-size-3">Wishing you much love and unlimited joy,</span></p><p style="text-align:left;"><span class="font-size-3">Cyndi Harris</span></p><p style="text-align:left;"><span class="font-size-3">Lifestyle and Relationship Coach</span></p><p style="text-align:left;"><span style="color:#000000;" class="font-size-3"><a href="http://undeniablyirresistible.com" target="_blank">www.undeniablyirresistible.com</a></span></p><p style="text-align:left;"><span class="font-size-3"><a href="http://1000dollarperhourquestion.com" target="_blank">www.1000dollarperhourquestion.com</a><br /></span></p></div>Overwhelmed... Exhausted... Frustratedhttps://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/overwhelmed-exhausted-frustrated2013-06-25T01:30:00.000Z2013-06-25T01:30:00.000ZCyndi Harrishttps://mybbwo.com/members/CyndiHarris<div><p><span class="font-size-4">Question:</span></p><p><span class="font-size-3">Are you ready?</span></p><p><span class="font-size-3">Ready to:</span></p><ul><li><span class="font-size-3">Live pain free from fibromyalgia and other chronic pain.</span></li><li><span class="font-size-3">Enjoy better overall health.</span></li><li><span class="font-size-3">Enjoy your newfound freedom (newly single, empty nester, etc.)</span></li><li><span class="font-size-3">Live your life's mission: Career, motherhood, travel, etc.</span></li><li><span class="font-size-3">Experience new love.</span></li></ul><p><span class="font-size-3">Yes, then a special teleconference on <strong><span style="color:#3366ff;">Monday 7/1/2013 from 7 to 8:30pm (EDT)</span></strong> has been created just for you.</span></p><p></p><p style="text-align:center;"><a href="{{#staticFileLink}}10744097863,original{{/staticFileLink}}"><img width="400" src="{{#staticFileLink}}10744097863,original{{/staticFileLink}}" class="align-center" alt="10744097863?profile=original" /></a><span class="font-size-4">Are you sick & tired of being sick & tired? Yes then...</span></p><p style="text-align:center;"><span class="font-size-6"><span style="color:#3366ff;">"Here's Your Next Step"</span><br /></span></p><p style="text-align:center;"><span class="font-size-4">Learn how to have real fun and feel good again.</span></p><p style="text-align:center;"><span class="font-size-3">Go to: <a href="http://heresyournextstep.com" target="_blank">www.heresyournextstep.com</a> for more information and to reserve your spot.</span></p><p style="text-align:center;"><span style="color:#3366ff;"><font class="Apple-style-span" color="#3366FF"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:21px;"><a href="http://heresyournextstep.com" target="_blank"><span style="color:#3366ff;">Click on "Register Here"</span></a></span></font></span></p><p style="text-align:center;"><span class="font-size-3" style="color:#000000;">Join me for this informative 90 minute call which includes a 30 minute Q & A section.</span></p><p style="text-align:center;"><span class="font-size-3" style="color:#000000;">To be happy and live a truly fulfilling life is your birthright. </span></p><p></p></div>Are You Wasting Precious Time?https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/are-you-wasting-precious-time2013-07-29T17:55:49.000Z2013-07-29T17:55:49.000ZCyndi Harrishttps://mybbwo.com/members/CyndiHarris<div><p><strong><span class="font-size-4">Something to think about:</span></strong><br /><br /><span style="color:#0000ff;" class="font-size-3"><strong>"Guilt is a manmade emotion and is a huge time/life waster.</strong></span> Yes, we all mess up from time to time, but there comes a time when you must let go and move on with your life. Forgiveness (Self and others) and Love are Divine." - Cyndi Harris </p><p><span class="font-size-3"><strong>Question:</strong></span></p><ol><li>Which emotions (guilt, Forgiveness, or Love) do you indulge?</li><li>Which ones dictate the direction of your life?</li><li>How often do you allow yourself to relax in these Divine emotions?</li></ol><p>Life is a joyful experience when you decide it should be.</p><p>Have a wonderful day.</p><p>Wishing you much love and unlimited joy,</p><p><strong><span class="font-size-3" style="color:#0000ff;">Cyndi Harris, HP</span></strong></p><p>Lifestyle and Relationship Coach @ Undeniably Irresistible</p><p><strong><a href="http://undeniablyirresistible.com" target="_blank">www.undeniablyirresistible.com</a><br /></strong></p><p></p></div>La Dolce Vita - "The Sweet Life"https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/la-dolce-vita-the-sweet-life2013-07-07T19:24:09.000Z2013-07-07T19:24:09.000ZCyndi Harrishttps://mybbwo.com/members/CyndiHarris<div><p><strong><span class="font-size-4" style="color:#0000ff;">La Dolce Vita</span></strong> is Italian for <strong><span style="color:#3366ff;" class="font-size-3">"The Sweet Life"</span></strong>. It means to live a life that is enjoyable, lavish, and opulent; allowing yourself to indulge in the finer things in life that bring you pleasure.</p><p></p><p style="text-align:center;"><a href="{{#staticFileLink}}10744096101,original{{/staticFileLink}}"><img width="300" src="{{#staticFileLink}}10744096101,original{{/staticFileLink}}" class="align-center" alt="10744096101?profile=original" /></a><span class="font-size-4" style="color:#0000ff;">"It's time to celebrate love and living the good life."</span></p><p>Love is a pleasure too many women forgo. Or if they do get into relationships; the relationships are less satisfying than expected. Since happiness is an inside job, now is a good time to take a look at your love life and decide if you are happy with your current status. </p><p>If not, be sure to register for an exclusive specialty teleconference I am hosting on <strong><span style="color:#000000;"><span style="color:#3366ff;"><span style="color:#0000ff;">Wednesday 7/10/13 6 to 7pm (EDT)</span>.</span>..</span></strong> called <span style="color:#3366ff;"><em><strong><span class="font-size-3">"The $1000/hour Question"</span></strong></em></span>. I will be offering you tips to improve the type of men you are attracting if you are single or begin to transform your relationship if currently involved. I am only offering this call to <strong>30 women and as of today nearly 1/2 of the 30 spots have been reserved.</strong></p><p>So go to: <strong><span class="font-size-3"><a href="http://1000dollarperhourquestion.com" target="_blank">www.1000dollarperhourquestion.com</a></span></strong> and reserve your spot. And while visiting the site; have some fun and fill out the quizzes to uncover your potential Millionaire Match.</p><p></p><p>Have an amazing day,</p><p><span class="font-size-4">Cyndi Harris</span></p><p>Lifestyle and Romance Coach</p></div>Millionaire Match Quizhttps://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/millionaire-match-quiz2013-07-03T18:41:41.000Z2013-07-03T18:41:41.000ZCyndi Harrishttps://mybbwo.com/members/CyndiHarris<div><p><span class="font-size-3">Hello lovely ladies,</span></p><p><span class="font-size-3">Have you ever really thought about the type of man you would like to date and maybe one day marry?</span></p><p><span class="font-size-3">As a relationship coach, I have met far too many women with vague ideas or cookie cutter answers to this question. It's seems that more time is spent planning careers, vacations, etc. then, their love life.</span></p><p><span class="font-size-3">Or the opposite is true: The guidelines they set are so restrictive that they miss out on wonderful dating opportunities.</span></p><p><span class="font-size-3">My coaching experience has shown me; if a woman is truly going to find happiness in love and romance. She needs to:</span></p><ul><li><span class="font-size-3">Be open-minded (Love can be full of interesting and pleasant surprises.)</span></li><li><span class="font-size-3">Ready to have fun.</span></li><li><span class="font-size-3">Be in tune with who she is as a woman; emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.</span></li><li><span class="font-size-3">And understand the type of man that really speaks to her heart. </span></li></ul><p><span class="font-size-3">So, to get you started go to: </span><span class="font-size-3"><strong><span class="font-size-4"><a href="http://1000dollarperhourquestion.com" target="_blank">www.1000dollarperhourquestion.com</a></span></strong> and</span></p><p style="text-align:center;"><span class="font-size-3">click on the <strong><span class="font-size-4" style="color:#800080;">Millionaire Match Quiz</span></strong> to learn some basics about the type of man who might be a good fit for you.</span></p><p><span class="font-size-3">Have fun and get ready for some eye-opening questions created to get you thinking about your current or future love interest. </span></p><p style="text-align:center;"><span style="color:#800080;"><strong><span class="font-size-4">Be sure to fill out your contact info to receive your</span></strong></span></p><p style="text-align:center;"><span style="color:#800080;"><strong><span class="font-size-4">millionaire match results.</span></strong></span></p></div>Millionaire Match Quiz Link Correctionhttps://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/millionaire-match-quiz-link-correction2013-07-04T23:25:52.000Z2013-07-04T23:25:52.000ZCyndi Harrishttps://mybbwo.com/members/CyndiHarris<div><p><span class="font-size-4">Happy 4th of July, everyone!!!</span></p><p></p><p><span class="font-size-5"><strong><span style="color:#3366ff;">Quiz Update:</span></strong></span></p><p><span class="font-size-3">I want to thank the ladies who have registered for the <strong><span class="font-size-4">$1000/hour Question</span></strong> teleconference call on <strong><span style="color:#0000ff;">Wednesday 7/10/13</span></strong> the spots are filling up and apologize to anyone who filled out the quiz; the form had a bad link so, I did not receive your answers (Gotta love technology : )</span></p><p><span class="font-size-3">All is good... <span style="color:#0000ff;"><strong>The link is fixed</strong></span>. So, check out the quiz and get glimpse at your potential millionaire type : )</span></p><p><span class="font-size-3">My coaching experience has shown me; if a woman is truly going to find happiness in love and romance.</span></p><ul><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:16px;">She needs to:</span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:16px;">Be open-minded (Love can be full of interesting and pleasant surprises.)</span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:16px;">Ready to have fun.</span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:16px;">Be in tune with who she is as a woman; emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.</span></li><li><span class="font-size-3">And understand the type of man who really speaks to her heart</span>.</li></ul><p></p><p style="text-align:center;"><span class="font-size-5"><a href="http://1000dollarperhourquestion.com" target="_blank">www.1000dollarperhourquestion.com</a> then,</span></p><p style="text-align:center;"><span class="font-size-5">click on the <strong><span style="color:#3366ff;">Millionaire Match Quiz</span></strong></span></p><p style="text-align:center;"><span class="font-size-5" style="color:#000000;"><strong>Enjoy!</strong></span></p></div>Others Will Appreciate You; Once You Appreciate Yourselfhttps://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/others-will-appreciate-you-once-you-appreciate-yourself2013-05-20T19:35:35.000Z2013-05-20T19:35:35.000ZCyndi Harrishttps://mybbwo.com/members/CyndiHarris<div><p>Hello everyone,</p><p><strong>Today, I want to ask you a few questions:</strong></p><ul><li>Do you feel unappreciated by others?</li><li>Do your contributions and talents go unnoticed?</li><li>Do you suppress feelings of frustration because, you are trying to be nice and not rock the "boat" at home or at work?</li><li>Do you feel that others treat you disrespectfully?</li></ul><p>If you answered yes to any of these questions? Then, <strong>you may have an issue with self-perception.</strong> People's treatment of us tends to be a direct reflection of how we treat ourselves. If you treat yourself well; others will too.</p><p><strong>For example, if you notice people:</strong></p><ul><li>Talk over you doing regular conversations or disagreements.</li><li>Do not respond to your requests for help or to complete a task you assigned them (Co-workers. your kids,etc.)</li><li>Make you feel "invisible".</li></ul><p><strong>Then these things may be occurring because you:</strong></p><ul><li>Are not speaking up and articulating your opinion with confidence.</li><li>Are not holding people accountable to complete the task/s you have given them and in your frustration you simply take care of it yourself. (This simply encourages people to ignore you because, they know you will do their work for them.)</li><li>Appear to lack self-confidence and you tend to "hide" from recognition.</li></ul><p>Our self-assured or poor opinion of ourselves shows up in our work, relationships (family, friends, romantic), and in the general day to day activities of our lives.</p><p>If you constantly feel frustrated or overwhelmed; find yourself constantly complaining about a lack of cooperation or help; or allow others to ignore you. You are encouraging behavior that says it is okay to treat you carelessly and with a certain level of disrespect.</p><p><strong>Maybe you grew up believing:</strong></p><ul><li>You had to make everything right for others, go the extra mile (Even, if it meant ignoring your needs.)</li><li>Do whatever it takes to keep the peace (Even, if it meant loss of personal peace of mind.)</li><li>That having a good opinion of yourself is arrogant and uncomely behavior (especially for a woman).</li></ul><p>Whatever has brought you to this point in your life. Now, is the time to change how you feel about yourself and finally experience a life that is more complete and satisfying. Take charge of your personal self-opinion and acknowledge you are an amazing person who deserves to receive the best. Others will follow your lead.</p><p>Here are a few things you can do to get started:</p><ul><li><strong>Stop taking on other peoples responsibilities.</strong> (Co-workers, spouse/partner, your children, etc.) </li><li><strong>Say "No" more often</strong>. If you feel uneasy about a request for your time and attention because, you know it will "stretch" your already limited time. Just say "No".</li><li><strong>Treat yourself kindly</strong>. Find ways to pamper and allow yourself time to relax.</li><li><strong>Make time for things you enjoy</strong> and be firm about this time being just for you. Let other people work around your schedule for a change.</li><li><strong>Speak up;</strong> if you feel strongly about something or have an idea that might be helpful let others know. Even, if the idea is rejected. At least you spoke up and others know you are unafraid to speak your mind.</li><li><strong>Be thoughtful and courteous to others and allow them to be helpful for you as well.</strong></li><li><strong>Learn to accept compliments.</strong> Yes, this seems like an odd thing to say, but learning how to be more gracious encourages others to treat you with more respect and look for additional ways to make your life easier and more pleasant.</li></ul><p>Utilize the above list and gradually you will see a positive change in how others treat you and <span style="color:#800000;"><strong>even more important; how you are enjoying and finding new ways to honor and respect yourself.</strong></span></p><p>You are always in control of your own good opinion of yourself so, lead by example.</p><p>Wishing you much love and unlimited joy,</p><p>Cyndi Harris, HP</p><p>Relationship Solutions Coach, Joyologist (Expert in the Art of Joyful Living), and Author </p><p>Click here to schedule your <a href="http://redtentwisdom.com" target="_blank">20 minute Complimentary Irresistible Solutions Session</a> and go to the Solutions Session page. Let's talk about ways to increase the joy in your life.</p><p></p><p></p></div>Is Your Life Ordinary or Extraordinary?https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/is-your-life-ordinary-or-extraordinary2013-05-30T17:58:04.000Z2013-05-30T17:58:04.000ZCyndi Harrishttps://mybbwo.com/members/CyndiHarris<div><p>How often do you wake up and full incredible? I mean really... <strong>Really</strong>... good. You wake up and you know the day is going to be an extra special day.</p><p>Is it:</p><ul><li>Daily</li><li>Periodically</li><li>Rarely</li><li>Never</li></ul><p>Well, if you said, "Daily". Congratulations, you are welcoming into your life; the abundance and joy life has to offer and setting yourself up to receive even more<span style="color:#800000;"><strong> </strong></span>of the <span style="color:#800000;"><strong>fabulous and fantastic opportunities</strong></span> life gladly sends your way.</p><p>If you selected any of the other selections, I appreciate your honesty. And, I want you to know you can learn how to change your thinking and wake up daily feeling incredible too.</p><p>How do you know if your life is stuck in ordinary? The following are several words and attitudes that describe an ordinary life?</p><ul><li>Comfortable</li><li>Defensive</li><li>Reasonable</li><li>Avoid risk.</li><li>Fearful</li><li>Playing small in the world around them then, get upset because they are unappreciated by others or feel invisible within their "world".</li><li>Judgmental</li><li>Not Coachable <strong>(Struggles with new information and/or ideas. Unwilling to learn new things.)</strong></li><li>Negative</li><li>Blame Others </li><li>Reactive <strong>(Always seem to have some sort of drama going on in their lives that they are acting out or responding to.)</strong></li><li>Makes excuses vs. taking responsibility for their choices.</li></ul><p>Does anything from the previous list seem familiar to you. If you answered yes, understand you can always change and learn to live your life in a more enjoyable way.</p><p>Now, if you are curious about how a person lives an extraordinary life; read through the following list for a few helpful hints:</p><ul><li><strong>Coachable</strong> (They enjoy learning and are receptive to new ideas.)</li><li><strong>Committed</strong></li><li><strong>Courageous</strong> (They take chances and actively invite change into their life.)</li><li><strong>Creative</strong> (They look for different ways to do things and have more fun.) </li><li><strong>Determined</strong> <span style="color:#800000;"><strong>(Naysayers have little to no effect on their life and life choices.)</strong></span></li><li><strong>Disciplined</strong> (Actively looks for ways to experience life in a more positive and productive way.)</li><li><strong>Enjoys a more balanced approach to life and life experiences.</strong></li><li><strong>Passionate</strong> (They are excited about something that makes them happy and adds pleasure to their lives.)</li><li><strong>Possibility thinkers</strong></li><li><strong>Proactive <span style="color:#800000;">(Not waiting around for something to happen, they make things happen.)</span></strong></li></ul><p>This is a brief list of some simple attitude adjustments anyone can make to take their life from ordinary to extraordinary. Life requires active participation and if you are tired of sitting on the sidelines watching other people have a good time; make a few simple changes to your attitude.</p><p><strong>Be bold, step out of your comfort zone</strong> and guess what? You will wake up one morning feeling <span style="color:#800000;" class="font-size-3"><strong>incredible</strong></span> too. Once this happens; you will be unable to go back to the boring and fearful existence you may have been living. You may for the first time in a long time... <strong>(maybe ever)</strong>... finally understand what it means to feel alive and excited about your life. </p><p><strong>Go for it!</strong> Abundance, happiness, love, and life's other goodies are only available to those who choose to live life with no limits. Why? Because, they appreciate life and rejoice in every common and new experience. <span class="font-size-3" style="color:#800000;">I dare you to be</span> <strong><span class="font-size-3"><span style="color:#800000;">Extraordinary. </span>I believe in you and now, I need you to believe in yourself.</span></strong></p><p>Have an amazing day.</p><p>Wishing you much love and unlimited joy,</p><p><strong>Cyndi Harris, HP</strong></p><p>Life and Relationship Solutions Coach, Author, & Joyologist</p><p><a href="http://redtentwisdom.com" target="_blank">www.redtentwisdom.com</a> or <a href="http://undeniablyirresistible.com" target="_blank">www.undeniablyirresistible.com</a></p><p>Go to either website and sign up for a chance to receive a <span class="font-size-2"><span style="color:#800000;" class="font-size-3"><strong>20 minutes Complimentary Irresistible Solutions Session</strong></span></span> with me.</p><p></p></div>Remember, Tonight is the Night to Overcome!https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/remember-tonight-is-the-night-to-overcome2013-07-01T20:16:25.000Z2013-07-01T20:16:25.000ZCyndi Harrishttps://mybbwo.com/members/CyndiHarris<div><p><span class="font-size-6" style="color:#0000ff;">Question:</span></p><p><span class="font-size-5">Are you ready? Ready to:</span></p><ul><li><span class="font-size-4">Live pain free from fibromyalgia and other chronic pain.</span></li><li><span class="font-size-4">Enjoy better overall health.</span></li><li><span class="font-size-4">Enjoy your newfound freedom (newly single, empty nester, etc.)</span></li><li><span class="font-size-4">Live your life's mission: Career, motherhood, travel, etc.</span></li><li><span class="font-size-4">Experience new love.</span></li></ul><p><span class="font-size-5">Remember our special teleconference today... 7/1/2013 from 7 to 8:30pm (EDT) has been created just for you.</span></p><p><span class="font-size-5"> </span></p><p><span class="font-size-5" style="color:#0000ff;">Call in #: 218-895-3835 PIN: 1033354 #</span></p><p></p><p><span class="font-size-5">Are you sick & tired of being sick & tired? Yes then... "Here's Your Next Step" Learn how to have real fun and feel good again.</span></p><p></p><p><span class="font-size-5">Go to: <a href="http://www.heresyournextstep.com">www.heresyournextstep.com</a> for more information and to reserve your spot.</span></p><p></p><p></p><p style="text-align:center;"><span class="font-size-5" style="color:#0000ff;">Click on "Register Here"</span></p><p></p><p><span class="font-size-5">Join me for this informative 90 minute call which includes a 30 minute Q & A section. To be happy and live a truly fulfilling life is your birthright.</span></p></div>What Type of Man Best "Fits" You? - Part 1https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/what-type-of-man-best-fits-you-part-12013-06-13T17:39:14.000Z2013-06-13T17:39:14.000ZCyndi Harrishttps://mybbwo.com/members/CyndiHarris<div><p>As a relationship coach, I have the privilege of meeting a variety of people. And, while my client base is mostly women; I talk to men from all walks of life as well. The average everyday man to the mega rich; plus, living in S. FL also offers me an international selection of guys to talk to. </p><p>I love it because, I have such a great deal of respect for men. I notice men everyday in my travels and day to day activities. In the morning as I am driving to the store. I notice men waiting on street corners with coolers containing their lunch in work clothes and steel toe work boots waiting for their ride to pick them up as they head to work a hot and dirty job that most people would never consider because it pays so little for such tedious labor. <em><strong>It may not be the best job, but these men show up every day rain or shine.</strong></em></p><p>Then, continuing with my day, I walk into my favorite Starbucks and in line ahead of me are the <strong>"Money Men"</strong>. The men who spend their days in air conditioned offices working with millions; sometimes billions of dollars worth of financial transactions. They are dressed in their designer suits or other well-groomed and appropriate attire that shows their status as high-powered movers and shakers. They are talking about today’s business, golf, or where they will meet for dinner and drinks after work. </p><p>The contrast is extreme, but underneath it all. These men are the same. <strong>Their dreams and goals are to be happy, to love and be loved.</strong> They want to be appreciated and respected by the woman they love and their children (if applicable) or if single they long for the love and companionship of a woman who understands that he goes to work every day to be the best man he can be for her. A good woman is the inspiration for most men's achievements.</p><p>I watch this process day in and day out and as I listen to women complain about the lack of available good men or the disengaged behavior of their current men. I have to sit back and think; do we even know what a good man is? </p><p>I hear the sincere heartache from both men and women. The pressure they feel to live up to standards that may or may not be viable for who they are at the moment; not feeing appreciated for doing the best they know how to do, right now. Women are ready to discard men because, they seem to lack ambition or are not providing them with the lifestyle they want... right now. Men are ready to walk away from women because, they feel they are unable to be their woman's champion.</p><p>It may be true or their lives may be at the beginning of a new positive personal growth cycle, but the frustration of wanting more... Right now... sometimes keeps us from enjoying what and who we currently have. It is perfectly natural to desire more out of life, but we need to be grateful for what we currently have. Once we are; we will be spiritually aligned to receive more and improve our life and relationships.</p><p>At times I feel like the media has created a level of discontent in some women. It causes these women to wish for a lifestyle that: </p><ul><li>Is inappropriate for her and her true life goals. </li><li>Creates discontent and impatience; causing her to lose sight of the ways her life is already improving.</li><li>Compels her to pursue a man or men; she is not prepared to create and maintain a relationship (life ambitions, money mindset, etc. may not match up) </li></ul><p>Maybe, a woman has a diamond in the rough at home; who with her loving support and belief in his dreams will become the next major player in business or his chosen field. Many successful men began their careers from humble beginnings. It has taken them years to acquire the success they currently enjoy and many of these men have enjoyed the loving support of a woman who knows him and has been with him from his early days.</p><p>Professional athletes seem to be a good example of this behavior. A good portion of them, if involved in a staple relationship, are usually with a high school or college sweetheart. Shared values and mindset are more relevant than most people realize. This is not exclusive to professional sports. If you look at some of the most successful men; you will notice the happiest ones are with a woman who shares their:</p><ul><li>Money mindset</li><li>Personal interests</li><li>And general values</li></ul><p>Keep this in mind when searching for your next romantic partner. If you are currently in a long-term relationship; you may need to do some soul-searching to see if you the 2 of you began your life together with mutual basic needs. If not, then what was the attraction and where are you now in regards to your life plans; separately and together. </p><p>The goal of this article is to get you to think about you and your mate. Are a good fit? Or if you are single; to really think about what you desire in a relationship, who you are as a woman, and the qualities you have to attract this man to you.</p><p>In part 2; I will break it down and offer you some useful tips to point you in the right direction to personal happiness in your love relationship whether you are single or in a relationship.</p><p>Remember, life is constantly changing. We grow into people with different and new desires along the way. Our love lives can be one of our greatest joys or biggest heartaches. Take this time to look at men or your man with "new" eyes. You may be pleasantly surprised by what you "see".</p><p>Wishing you much love and unlimited joy,</p><p>Cyndi Harris, HP</p><p>Relationship Solutions Coach, Author, and Joyologist</p><p><a href="http://undeniablyirresistible.com" target="_blank">www.undeniablyirresistible.com</a></p></div>What Type of Man Best "Fits" You? - Part 2https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/what-type-of-man-best-fits-you-part-22013-06-24T17:28:48.000Z2013-06-24T17:28:48.000ZCyndi Harrishttps://mybbwo.com/members/CyndiHarris<div><p><b>A man wants a partner not a competitor. You should too. </b></p><p>In part one, I asked you to evaluate or revaluate, what you are searching for in a man and your romantic relationship. I mentioned how men really are looking for the opportunity to love a woman who really appreciates him and what he does for her to make her life easier.</p><p>I asked you to take a look at shared values and to check your money mindset to see if it matches your mate or potential mate and to search for ways you may be able to resolve conflict by becoming more aware of your relationship patterns.</p><p>Now, in this article. I want to talk about creating a quality relationship with a man. Read the top line again... <span style="color:#800000;"><strong>A man wants a partner not a competitor. You should too</strong>.</span></p><p>What do I mean? In the pursuit of better education, jobs, and recognition; ladies we have taken on a pseudo masculine approach to life and unfortunately our romantic relationships as well. While learning how to increase our level of desire and life ambitions; we adopted a man’s view on business, competition, success, and as role models. Since, men have been the dominant faces and gender in the workplace for decades, when we started to emerge into the work place with our intellect and skills. We looked to men and their behaviors to get ahead. This can be a good thing if you understand how to disconnect the masculine aggression once you leave the office. </p><p>Men are wonderful sources of information about business and business processes since they have been the dominant trendsetters in the business world. Only recently has it begun to shift (Thank goodness). And yes, we do have some wonderful examples of business success who are women, but if you read their autobiographies and biographies you will notice most of their early years were spent learning how to compete and at times survive in a “Man’s” world. </p><p>Unfortunately, this aggressive style spilled into their personal lives leaving a trail of emotional heartache, broken relationships, and marriages. (Not all, some of these women have found a happy balance between work and their home lives.) It is important to rejoice regarding our success and career milestones, but what about the carnage that has become our romantic lives. It is time to put an end to this unproductive cycle and reclaim the romance in our lives. </p><p><strong>Tell me, when you come home from work do you want to relax and enjoy the peace and joy that is home or do you want to gear up for the next battle between you and your man?</strong> </p><p><strong><span style="color:#800000;">You want to relax, right?</span></strong> Guess what, so does he. Creating a loving and peaceful home requires continuous work on both sides. I know it sounds like common sense, but we know from personal experience that what sounds good in theory does not always transfer into the real world. </p><p>Well, allow me to suggest a useful tip. <span style="color:#800000;"><b>Make a list of the things you and your man argue about.</b></span> (If you are single, list the things that broke up your last relationship). Now, look over the list and tell me how many of those things could have been avoided or resolved with periodic discussions about the current state of your relationship: </p><p>• Any changes/shifts in mutual goals or values (We all change, grow, and develop at different rates; that means our partnerships will too.) </p><p>• Any changes in personal goals (Education, children, personal growth, etc) </p><p>• Learning how to listen more effectively to what your man is/was saying and not trying to “think” for him. </p><p>• Judgmental opinions that are/were fear-based and prevented you from really listening to what your partner was saying or trying to do that would benefit you and your family. </p><p>I could go on and on with this list. Ladies, when we are wired into our right-brain masculine mode of thinking and problem-solving. We can become very rigid in our response to our relationship challenges or as I prefer to call them… <span style="color:#800000;"><strong>“Windows of opportunity for personal growth”</strong></span>; when this happens mutually satisfying resolution is nearly impossible. You now have 2 competitors trying to basically “beat” the other one into submission. It is a disaster which unfortunately if not corrected; leads to broken relationships and unhappy men and women returning to the world of dating. You simply cannot have a real man and a pseudo man existing inside a relationship. The feminine must be properly represented to create or restore peace.</p><p>So, I am sure you are wondering how to resolve this issue that affects so many potentially great relationships. </p><p>1. <b>My first recommendation is to understand who you are as a person and a Woman.</b> What do you need to be happy? In general and your romantic relationships; too often we get caught up in some other person’s dream and discover later on it was a huge mistake. So, be authentic. </p><p>2. <b>Next be honest about the type of man you would enjoy creating a long-lasting relationship.</b> Your dream guy may not be the person you have been fantasizing about. He may be someone totally different from the ones you keep pursuing.</p><ul><li><b>How will you know?</b></li><li>Well, if you keep dating the same type of men and the relationship keep repeating the same unsuccessful relationship patterns. He mostly likely is not the right type of man for you. You are trying to “fit’ into someone else’s dream. Be bold and daring; take the time to write out who you really desire then, learn what you need to know to invite this man into your life. </li></ul><p>3. <b>Stop trying to be so “tough”</b>. The <b><i>“I don’t need a man”</i></b> attitude will keep you single and in fault-finding state of mind when it comes to men. This holds true even if you are currently in a relationship; you will find ways to undermine your man and his efforts to be of assistance to you. Learn how to enjoy the softer side of your personality and allow men to step up, help you, and appreciate your feminine nature. </p><p>4. <b>Stop trying to do this alone.</b> Hire the services of someone who can help you unlock your hidden desires and dreams for a wonderful and satisfying relationship. We all at one time or another need the help of someone who holds us accountable to our dreams. Our love life is no different. </p><p>Remember the definition of insanity is: </p><p><span style="color:#800000;"><b>“Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”</b> – <i>Albert Einstein </i></span></p><p>Does this sound like your life and romantic relationships? If so, here’s your chance to stop repeating dead-end habits and learn the skills to finally be happy. The steps outlined in this article can be the starting point for true romantic success, but they will only work if you are willing to step out of your comfort zone and be accountable for your love life and there is no reason to go it alone.</p><p>Go to: <a href="http://undeniablyirresistible.com" target="_blank">www.undeniablyirresistible.com</a> and request your <span class="font-size-3" style="color:#800000;"><strong>Complimentary Solutions Session</strong></span> for guidance and some additional helpful hints.</p><p>Wishing you much love and unlimited joy,</p><p>Cyndi Harris, HP</p><p>Relationship Solutions Coach, Author, and Joyologist</p><p><a href="http://undeniablyirresistible.com" target="_blank">www.undeniablyirresistible.com</a></p></div>Be Fearless and Say " I Love You" More Oftenhttps://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/never-tire-of-saying-i-love-you2013-05-14T16:00:00.000Z2013-05-14T16:00:00.000ZCyndi Harrishttps://mybbwo.com/members/CyndiHarris<div><p>Hello everyone,</p><p>How are you? I hope each of you had a wonderful weekend. Mother's day has come and gone and for every mom out there I hope your day was an amazing one filled with much laughter and love. Personally, my day was perfect. I spent time with my beloved (He surprised me with a lovely and thoughtful gift), heard from my children (They live throughout the US), and received and shared messages of goodwill and love with family and friends.</p><p>It was a memorable day and as usual it left me thinking about love. Love is such a gigantic topic that we do our best to pigeonhole and water down because, it seems to cause such discomfort in so many people. And, while I appreciate holidays like Mother's day. It always makes me curious to know how people express their love for mom throughout the year.</p><p>I realize I am truly blessed because I have a great relationship with my 3 incredible sons. We talk often and are a consistent part of each others lives. I love them dearly and they return my love without hesitation.</p><p>I believe it is so easy for us because, I raised them to be loving and strong men. We never leave each other, hang up the phone, or finish a texting conversation without saying "I love you." It is a natural-feeling habit for us. I let them know that saying "I love you." is a good thing and not something to fear. Even when, we have had our disagreements over the years; we still come back to love. Open communication is definitely the key. They are awesome young men and I could talk about them all day, but I want to share a quote with you that eloquently expresses the importance of fearlessly saying "I love you" to your loved ones.</p><p>It is from Leo Buscaglia's book <strong>"Born for Love"</strong>. It is a wonderful book full of joy and wisdom. I highly recommend it to anyone who is ready to change their belief systems around the topic of love.</p><p>Here it is:</p><p style="text-align:center;"><span class="font-size-3" style="color:#ff0000;"><strong>Never Tire of Saying "I Love You"</strong></span></p><p style="text-align:left;">"Such a simple phrase, 'I love you,' yet I cannot think of any words with greater power. Francois Villon, the French poet, wrote, 'I love you. These are easy words to say, yet my heart fails as I say them, for their meaning is as full and musical as the bell of doom.' </p><p style="text-align:left;">We should never tire of expressing our love, for certainly we never tire of hearing it expressed. Strange how simple it is to use these words with inanimate things. We feel safe in loving our car, a new coat, or spaghetti and meatballs. But, we have grave difficulties verbalizing our love for other human beings, even to those closest to us...</p><p style="text-align:left;">The message 'I love you,' is not something that goes without saying. To the contrary, it needs to be said whenever and wherever love is present." - <span style="color:#ff0000;"><strong>Leo Buscaglia</strong></span></p><p style="text-align:left;">I think this quote expresses how we seem to fear saying "I love you," to the people we care for so deeply.</p><p style="text-align:left;">What stops you from using those 3 little words more often. Is it:</p><ul><li>A fear of rejection</li><li>Loss of perceived power</li><li>A need to control</li><li>Fear of an awkward moment (Say it more often and it becomes less traumatic)</li></ul><p>Tell me. I have heard numerous reasons over the years and I have had to overcome my own fears. Especially, when I initially fall in love and I am worried I may say it too soon or the other person may not feel the same way. Yes, even I have a had an insecure moment or 2. But, I have learned from experience, if it is on my heart to say it then, I need to say it. Whether a person receives it or not is their issue not mine.</p><p style="text-align:center;"><span style="color:#ff0000;" class="font-size-3"><strong>"Love is meant to be shared not kept as a secret locked within our hearts." - <span style="color:#000000;" class="font-size-2">Cyndi Harris</span></strong></span></p><p>Now, having shared this with you, I am asking you to do a simple assignment for me. Actually it is more for you than me.</p><p>Today, <strong>and everyday that follows</strong>,<strong> </strong>find 3 people who you can say "I love you." Just say it and be okay if they do not say it in return. If it is someone close to you where these words have not flown freely; be patient and be prepared to answer some questions or receive a strange look or 2. </p><p><span style="color:#ff0000;" class="font-size-3"><strong>Love is an ongoing process</strong></span> that requires courage, fearlessness, joy, persistence, and trust. It is worth any and all effect you put into it. So, have faith and know that <strong>you are love and you are loved</strong>. Regardless of the circumstances that may surround your life so, pass it along and watch how the blessing of love shows up more often in your life.</p><p>Share the love and leave your comments below; also, pass this blog post on to anyone you believe will benefit from its simple message. Thank you for your continued interest and support.</p><p>Have a wonderful day and as always; I am wishing for you much love and unlimited joy,</p><p>Cyndi Harris, HP</p><p>Relationship Solutions Coach, Author, & Joyologist</p><p>You may reach me at: Cyndi@undeniablyirresistible.com or <a href="http://undeniablyirresistible.com" target="_blank">www.undeniablyirresistible.com</a> or <a href="http://redtentwisdom.com" target="_blank">www.redtentwisdom.com</a></p></div>“Behind Every Great Woman is a Great Man”https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/behind-every-great-woman-is-a-great-man2013-04-18T21:00:00.000Z2013-04-18T21:00:00.000ZCyndi Harrishttps://mybbwo.com/members/CyndiHarris<div><p>Yes, I have flipped around this well known quote. Typically, the statement is <span style="color:#800000;"><em><strong>“Behind Every Great Man is a Great Woman.”</strong></em></span> It is a wonderful quote and very simply explains how important a great relationship is for a man to truly reach various levels of success in his life. History is full of numerous examples of incredibly successful men who had wives, lovers, and/or mistresses who inspired them to be more than ordinary and reach great levels of accomplishment. </p><p>Monuments like the <span style="color:#800000;"><b>Taj Mahal</b></span> are constant reminders of how powerful love is and the lengths that a grateful and happy man will go to express his love for an inspiring woman. A woman who was, at times, quietly in the background offering her love and support for his ideas and visions of success; his partner, love, and many times his best friend. </p><p>Knowing how powerful the right love connection can be for true happiness and success in life. I decided to also point out how important is for a woman to also have a truly wonderful and supportive man in her life; <span style="color:#800000;"><b>someone who rouses her to be and do more;</b></span> a man who is confident, lovable, and passionately believes in her and her dreams. </p><p>To prove my point here are few modern day women who have amazing and loving support from their men: </p><p>• Michelle Obama <b><i>(Husband - President of the United States Barack Obama) </i></b></p><p>• Angelina Jolie <b><i>(Life Partner – Brad Pitt) </i></b></p><p>• Jada Pinkett-Smith <b><i>(Husband – Will Smith) </i></b></p><p>• Beyonce <b><i>(Husband – Jay Z) </i></b></p><p>Are a few wonderful examples of women with a powerhouse man in her corner; these ladies understand the importance of having a great life partner because, if you really think about it being married or in a long-term relationship is about much more than romance. It is about coming together with common goals and life visions. Our individual goals are important, but having someone who you can share your dreams, fears, and victories is priceless. </p><p>Unfortunately, too often, as we move forward on our path to personal success we leave out one of our greatest fans. The man who loves us and wants nothing but the best for us and truly does want to offer assistance and guidance (when requested); learning how to invite him in requires courage, humility, and trust. </p><p><span style="color:#800000;"><strong>You must be willing to communicate your ambitions, desires, and goals with the one you have selected to share your life.</strong></span> Or if you are single, now is the time to develop the skills to communicate these ideas with a future mate. Learning how to be supportive is not only about being there for your man. <strong><em><span style="color:#800000;">I</span></em><span style="color:#800000;"><em>t is also about letting him be available for you</em>.</span></strong> He wants to help you, if he is unaware of what you are thinking about; how can he be of assistance? </p><p>So, the next time you are feeling discouraged and alone in your quest for success. Think about the women I listed in the beginning of this article. They have found a healthy balance of individual success within a loving partnership/relationship. You can too. It is all about communication. </p><p>Here are a few questions for you: </p><ul><li>Do you have some misguided belief that you must pursue your desires alone? <span style="color:#800000;"><b><i>(The “Superwoman” syndrome; I don’t need a man. I don’t need anyone. I can do this on my own.) </i></b></span></li><li>Does your beloved know about your secret ambitions and goals? </li><li>If yes, good for you. If not, why not?<ul><li>Are you afraid to personally step up to your dreams and know that if you share with your partner you will need to finally take action? </li><li>Are afraid of possible ridicule? (Fear is usually <span style="color:#800000;"><b>“Much ado about nothing.”</b></span> Take that leap of faith; you deserve to live your best life.) </li><li>Has your beloved ever been unkind about any personal goals you have shared with him? If not, then let him know what is on your mind… <strong><span style="color:#800000;">Remember you are in a partnership with this person. </span></strong></li></ul></li></ul><p>So, if you are ready to put aside your fears, stop trying to be superwoman, and finally bring your beloved back into your life, but are unsure where to begin. Let’s talk, I am here for you. I believe in you and I want you to have a life that fulfills you and allows you to join the ranks of great women with a great guy standing “behind” her. </p><p>As always, I am wishing you much love and unlimited joy, </p><p>Cyndi Harris, HP </p><p><b><span style="color:#800000;">Relationship Solutions Coach and Man Whisperer “Intimacy Creation Savant”</span> </b></p><p>Author of the forthcoming book <strong>“Official Handbook to Becoming Irresistible – Learn How to be a Woman Who is Positively Unforgettable.”</strong> </p><p><span><a href="http://redtentwisdom.com" target="_blank">www.redtentwisdom.com</a> </span>or <a href="https://www.undeniablyirresistible.com" target="_blank">www.undeniablyirresistible.com</a> </p></div>How to Love a Man - "Affection"https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/how-to-love-a-man-affection-12013-04-29T17:00:00.000Z2013-04-29T17:00:00.000ZCyndi Harrishttps://mybbwo.com/members/CyndiHarris<div><p>Hello everyone and welcome to the next installment from the <strong><span style="color:#800000;">"How to Love a Man"</span></strong> series. I certainly hope the previous posts helped you feel a little closer to your beloved or offered some valuable insight to the single ladies who are preparing to meet their future beloved.</p><p>Loving a man and being loved by a great guy is such a delectable and delightful feeling, but if you are feeling a little lonely in your relationship let me ask you a few questions:</p><ul><li>When was the last time you really looked at your beloved? I mean really looked at him and noticed how attractive and strong he is.</li><li>Have you ever taken the time to notice the shape of his hands, the width of his strong shoulders, how he stands when he feels really good, or the way he moves when he is feeling momentarily discouraged. </li><li>Have you ever just sat in a room and watched your man move about totally unaware of your admiration? Or sat across the table from him listening to him share something important with you? It can be mesmerizing. The sound of his voice or the way moves throughout his space.</li><li>Have you thought about how much you enjoy his hugs or the way he smiles at you?</li><li>How about the way he feels in your arms when you hug him?</li></ul><p><span style="color:#800000;"><strong>Affection is impulsive</strong></span> and can be sparked by the feelings the previous questions can create. You may observe how your man looks and suddenly feel the urge to be close to him. So, if you don't remember how your beloved feels when you hug him. Does this mean you haven't hugged him lately? Why not? <strong>Men need love too.</strong></p><p>Yes, your big, strong, and possibly silent type needs to feel your soft warm arms wrapped around him from time to time for no particular reason. He needs to know that you just love being close to him as much as he loves being close to you.</p><p>Men may seem all tough on the outside, but inside they can be as <span style="color:#800000;"><strong>soft and wonderful as a</strong></span> <strong><span style="color:#800000;">"marshmallow"</span></strong>. Just because your beloved may appear invincible; doesn't mean he is untouchable or has no need for your affection.</p><p>He may be craving:</p><ul><li>The feel of your skin.</li><li>The lingering scent of your perfume on his shirt after you hug him.</li><li>The comfort of your touch.</li><li>Or many other things that having an affectionate and loving woman in his life provides.</li></ul><p>Affection is a huge topic even <strong>Leo Buscaglia's in his book "Born for Love"</strong> mentions the following:</p><p style="text-align:center;"><span style="color:#800000;"><em><strong>"Science has proven that a simple hug is one of the most convenient and inexpensive therapies available. Yet, we remain touch starved."</strong></em></span></p><p>He continues to talk about some interesting information he gathered while doing research for another book. He says " People consistently mentioned that there were certain qualities that they found to be essential for a happy and long lasting relationship." <span style="color:#800000;"><strong>Affection (touching, holding, and stroking</strong>)</span> was named the most important by the majority of the participants. Surprisingly, sex ranked # 8 on the list.</p><p>Affection, unfortunately seems to be one of the most neglected aspect in most relationships. It is unfortunate, since nonsexual touch is so vital to our emotional and physical well-being. <strong>Being affectionate is a fun, simple, and sweet way</strong> to show our beloved how much we care and enable him to share his affection for us as well.</p><p>This should be such an effortless thing for couples to do, but I know some women who withhold affection. They do this because, they are worried if they hug or touch their man; that the simple nonsexual interaction may be misinterpreted as a sexual come-on and then their man will want sex. So, to avoid unwanted sexual advances, they completely avoid contact with their man.</p><p>This is a very sad situation because, now we have <strong>two touch-starved people</strong> living a very sterile existence. Leaving sex as the only way either one of them receives any human contact from each other. No wonder sex becomes such a big issue for their man. It is the only time he gets to be physically close to his beloved.</p><p>So, if you want to avoid this scenario. I recommend that you make a conscious effort to touch your beloved. There are easy and simple ways you can invite more affection into your relationship without turning every touch into a sexual encounter (Unless that is your goal... If so, then go for it.). For example:</p><ul><li>Touch his hand when you are talking to him. </li><li>Touch his arm as he is passing you in the hallway or kitchen.</li><li>Offer to rub his shoulders if he looks tired after a long day. (Bonus, be sure to mention how strong he is as you are rubbing his shoulders. He will "melt" under your care and compliments.)</li><li>Give him a hug and tell how much you appreciate him then, walk away.</li><li>When he is sitting in front of the TV in his "papa bear" chair give him a kiss on the cheek or forehead. (<em><span style="color:#800000;"><strong>But, not while he is watching the game or any other event that has an intense hold on his attention. This will avoid aggravation on both sides.)</strong></span></em></li><li>Be creative and make a list of ways you can show more affection to the one you love.</li></ul><p>These are just a few suggestions. They are simple non-threatening ways to bring more nonsexual contact back into your love life and joy back into your relationship. Being close to your beloved should be one of the things that makes you feel adored and cherished in your relationship. So, relax and have some fun.</p><p>Now, go give your sweetie a hug. If he hasn't felt your arms around him in awhile and looks at you kind of strange. <strong>Just smile and say, " I am having such a wonderful day. I wanted to share my excitement with you." Then, smile and walk away.</strong> Be confident in the knowledge that he will come around and who knows he may have a few happy surprises for you too.</p><p>That is all for now. Enjoy, we will talk again soon. Plus, for more fun and playful ways to enhance your love life. Sign up for <strong><span style="color:#800000;">your 20 minute Complimentary Solutions session at <a href="http://redtentwisdom.com" target="_blank">www.redtentwisdom.com</a> or <a href="http://undeniablyirresistible.com" target="_blank">www.undeniablyirresistible.com</a>.</span></strong></p><p>Wishing you much love and unlimited joy,</p><p><em><span class="font-size-3">Cyndi Harris, HP</span></em></p><p><strong>Relationship Solutions Coach, Man Whisperer</strong> (Intimacy Creation Savant), <strong>Author, Radio Host of Red Tent Wisdom radio</strong> - Broadcasting live starting Tuesday 4/30/13 at 11am EDT. (Blogtalkradio)</p><p></p></div>Your Words Are Real - What "Reality" Have You Created For Yourself?https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/your-words-are-real-what-reality-have-you-created-for-yourself2013-05-06T16:00:00.000Z2013-05-06T16:00:00.000ZCyndi Harrishttps://mybbwo.com/members/CyndiHarris<div><p>Hello everyone,</p><p>Question? <strong>How are you?</strong></p><p>Looks like a pretty innocent question, right? We hear it everyday throughout our day from family, friends, and strangers. We hear it so often we seem to slip into autopilot when we answer this question.</p><p>What is your normal response? I'm:</p><ul><li>Fine</li><li>Ok</li><li>Sad</li><li>Lousy</li><li>Angry</li><li>Scared</li><li>Sick</li></ul><p>And the list goes on. Too often the responses are energy-sapping like the ones I listed above. How often have you heard responses like these. How does it usually make you feel? Bummed out, right?</p><p>Think about it. If you were asking the question in good faith, did you really want to hear an awful answer. We all can be compassionate, but sometimes we would like to hear some good news.</p><p>It can become so overwhelming at times and there are probably some people you no longer ask how they are doing. Because, you know they will not have anything good to say. So, you avoid them or limit your conversation with them; which is perfectly fine. You have the right to protect your good feelings and peace of mind.</p><p>But, what if you are the one who provides the <span style="color:#800000;"><strong>"downer"</strong></span> answers to this little question? We all have days when we don't feel our best; this is normal, but what if you consciously decided to answer differently. Let's do this again:</p><p><span class="font-size-3" style="color:#800000;"><strong>"How are you?"</strong></span></p><p>Now, instead of using the standard response to this little question; what if you responded by saying <span class="font-size-3"><strong><span style="color:#800000;">I Am:</span></strong></span></p><ul><li>Amazing <span style="color:#800000;"><strong>(I got up this morning and realized I live an amazing life.)</strong></span></li><li>Excited</li><li>Delightful <span style="color:#800000;"><strong>(I am great. My life is delightful and full of joy.)</strong></span></li><li>Fabulous</li><li>Fantastic</li><li>Magnificent</li><li>Wonderful</li></ul><p>Can you see the direction I am heading with these responses? <span style="color:#800000;" class="font-size-3"><strong>Say them with me:</strong></span></p><ul><li>"I Am Amazing."</li><li>"I Am Excited."</li><li>"I Am Fabulous"</li><li>"I Am Fantastic."</li><li>"I Am Magnificent."</li><li>"I Am Wonderful."</li></ul><p><span style="color:#800000;"><strong>How do you feel? Better, right?</strong></span></p><p>Yes, I'll admit it may feel a little awkward at first, but do this on a regular basis and <span style="color:#800000;"><strong>I guarantee</strong></span> you will feel better and your life will begin to shift in a more positive direction. Gradually, you will begin to notice more happy and interesting things taking place around you and you are ready to receive this newfound joy. It can be really exciting and fun.</p><p>Will this simple exercise change your life overnight? It might, because, how you talk about your life and life experiences does show up in the outward appearance of your life. But, if not overnight; at least you will be on track to making some pleasant changes in your life and how it shows up around you.</p><p>So, instead of talking about lack, misery, sickness, etc. Talk about the things you are happy about or grateful for. Let the universe know you are in a good place by talking about what makes you feel good and guess what? <span style="color:#800000;"><strong>You will be provided with more reasons to enjoy your life and the world around you.</strong></span></p><p>How can I be so sure? Because, I am living and loving proof this works. When I:</p><ul><li>Was going through a major health crisis <strong>(Fibromyalgia)</strong> that I left me in constant chronic pain. I chose to speak positive and healing words. I am completely healed and naturally pain-free. <strong>(I'll share how on a different day.)</strong></li><li>Walked away from a 10 years relationship with a man I loved dearly. I chose to speak words of gratitude for the time spent and lessons learned from an interesting and wise "teacher". <strong>(New love has entered my life.)</strong></li><li>Moved away from family and friends to begin a new chapter in my life in a new state where I knew no one. I chose to speak words of excitement and joy for the opportunities I knew where coming my way<strong>. (I truly wake up thrilled about each new day.)</strong></li></ul><p>I can list many more life events that I have <span style="color:#800000;"><strong>used the power of words to create incredible experiences</strong></span>, but I mainly shared my personal experiences with you because:</p><p style="text-align:center;"><span class="font-size-3"><strong>I hope you allow yourself to utilize the power of your words to positively reconstruct your life too. </strong></span></p><p>So, let's start simple. <span style="color:#800000;" class="font-size-3"><strong>Tell me, "How are you?"</strong></span></p><p>If you are ready to live and love your life in the most joyous and spectacular way click on my website link<span class="font-size-3"> <a href="http://undeniablyirresistible.com" target="_blank">www.undeniablyirresistible.com</a></span> and <span class="font-size-3" style="color:#800000;"><strong>schedule your Complimentary Irresistible Solutions Session</strong></span>. It is a fun and pleasant way to receive a tip or two that may delightfully change your life.</p><p>Have an amazing day and let's talk soon,</p><p>Cyndi Harris, HP</p><p>Relationship Solutions Coach, Man Whisperer (Intimacy Creation Savant), Author, and general Joyologist</p></div>Mom Knows Best... in Business Too!https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/mom-knows-best-in-business-too2012-05-10T19:37:19.000Z2012-05-10T19:37:19.000ZTamara Garrison-Thomashttps://mybbwo.com/members/TamaraGarrisonThomas<div><p><img class="aligncenter wp-image-351 align-center" title="moms collage2" alt="" src="http://garrisonprosperitysolutions.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/05/moms-collage2-300x225.jpg" width="369" height="262" /></p><p style="text-align:center;"><br /><strong>Cheryl Garrison</strong></p><p style="text-align:center;"><a href="http://www.topleaderstraining.com/">http://www.topleaderstraining.com/</a></p><p style="text-align:center;"><a href="http://www.mytopleaders.com">http://www.mytopleaders.com</a></p><p style="text-align:center;"> </p><p>In honor of Mother’s Day on May 13, 2012, I would like to dedicate this post to my mother, Cheryl Garrison. In my interviews to business owners for <a href="http://www.peoplewhoprosper.com" target="_blank">PeopleWhoProsper.com</a>, one of the questions I ask is, “Do you have a mentor? Who is it and why?” Commonly, the answer is the entrepreneur’s mother OR they will definitely mention their mother as an inspiration and/or help in their business; someone they can call on for advice.</p><p>Fortunately for myself, my mother is actually a business woman herself. Therefore, I am able to confide in my mom on a personal and professional level. She is truly my inspiration, mentor and accountability partner to keep me on my toes. It is very rare that I make a business decision without consulting my mom. I mean, why wouldn’t I? She has been in business for HERSELF for over 25 years JUST to take care of my siblings and me when we started school. I truly admire her for that. Even now, she continues to build successful businesses; mentoring women and helping people live a healthier life. I hope to make my child as proud of me as I am of my mom. She has made so many sacrifices in her life for her kids and sometimes we just need to recognize our mothers for that. That’s why I love Mother’s Day. It’s a chance to really thank your mother for all that she has done (whether living or in heaven). So, as we approach this day, I want to encourage you to continue to ask your mom for her advice and take it. Most times, it’s the best advice you will get!</p><p><em>"A mother is the truest friend we have, when trials heavy and sudden, fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity; when friends who rejoice with us in our sunshine desert us; when trouble thickens around us, still will she cling to us, and endeavor by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace to return to our hearts."</em></p><p><em>~ Washington Irving</em></p><p></p><p>Tamara Garrison-Thomas</p><p> <a href="http://www.garrisonprosperitysolutions.com">www.garrisonprosperitysolutions.com</a></p><p> <a href="http://www.busy925.com">www.busy925.com</a></p><p></p><p></p></div>Talking to Your Cold Markethttps://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/talking-to-your-cold-market2011-08-31T19:53:05.000Z2011-08-31T19:53:05.000ZTamara Garrison-Thomashttps://mybbwo.com/members/TamaraGarrisonThomas<div><p><span>A couple of weeks ago, I had a great team meeting led by my business partners, which just so happen to be my distinguished parents, Dr. Jerome and Cheryl Garrison. My father spoke about how to approach someone and talk to your cold market and I wanted to share this effective way to get more prospects or get connected with <span class="hiddenGrammarError">someone that</span> can give you hot referrals for your business! My father studied these strategies from Network Marketing Gurus such as Bob Schmidt and Zig <span class="hiddenSpellError">Ziglar</span> and shared them with our team:</span></p><p>There are 3 things you need to find out when speaking to a prospective business partner or customer:</p><p>1. Find out who they are by using the PIN strategy (which we'll get to in a sec)</p><p>2. Find out when they can talk again</p><p>3. Decide what type of client they would be: Business Partner, Customer, or New Friend</p><p> </p><p>1.When considering opening up your market and approaching people you see when you're out grocery shopping, or at the mall, or even at the gas station, there are several things you need to consider. First, you should <span>probably be in a good mood and have a great attitude. You should be ready to present yourself with confidence and great knowledge and love for you business! IF and only IF you see someone who fits in the prior categories should you use this strategy. The PIN:</span></p><p><span> </span></p><p>P= Personal</p><p>You need to find out about the person. Go up and introduce yourself. Edify the person and give them a compliment. For example say, "I couldn't help but notice how sharp you looked, how nice your makeup was, how firm your handshake was". Then ask them about themselves. What do they do for a living? Do they have a family? Do they work long hours?</p><p> </p><p>I=Interest</p><p>Find out what their hobbies are. What do they like to do for fun? These questions are building trust and allowing your future prospect to trust you and become more comfortable talking to you.</p><p> </p><p>N=Need</p><p>Find out what their needs are. What MORE are they looking for in life? (NOTE: Some people are very content with their lifestyle. Whether it be stressing from check-to-check or spending more hours working, away from family or no vacations to make more money, <em>"to each is own"</em><span>.) You could ask them, if you could change <span class="hiddenSpellError">1 thing</span> about their life or career, what would it be?</span></p><p><span> </span></p><p><span>2.After using the PIN strategy find out when and how would be a great time to reconnect with them, contingent on if the person and conversation went well, of course. You might ask something like, " Do you keep your income options open? I would love to share with you what I do", or " I enjoyed talking to you, I would like to talk to you more about what I do and how it might help you, when would be a great time to meet up with you again?" or even " Do you have a card or number so we can connect again?"</span></p><p><span> </span></p><p><span>3.Keep in mind that while you're talking to people you should be thinking of the categories and figuring out where they would fit in. Would they be a:</span></p><p><span> Business Partner: Do they seem industrious, would go the extra mile, are they influential, are they a good communicator, are they open-minded, are they warm and easy to talk to, do you think <span class="hiddenGrammarError">they're</span> reliable person? </span></p><p>Customer: Do they have a need for new makeup or have health issues you might be able to help them with? Do they like to throw parties? Do they like candles? Etc.</p><p><span>New friend: Believe it or not, most people might end up in this category. But if you think about it, what's wrong with having a new friend? Especially if they already own business, you could help each other out.</span></p><p>So, there you have it, some strategies you can use when speaking to a brand new person or what we call someone in your cold market. Speaking to new people can expand your business greatly. You never know who you can come across and what they can help you do. So, consider it!</p><p> </p><p style="text-align:justify;">Tamara</p><p style="text-align:justify;">____________________________________________________________</p><p><span>If you need help staying focused and motivated to be the best you and gain a profitable business to increase your finances let me help you. Subscribe to my blog today and receive a FREE 30 minute consultation and 1 follow-up appointment. ONLY FOR A LIMITED TIME, SUBSCRIBE TODAY! <strong><a href="http://www.garrisonprosperitysolutions.com">http://www.garrisonprosperitysolutions.com</a></strong></span></p></div>Why you should Break Free from Comforthttps://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/why-you-should-break-free-from-comfort2011-09-20T02:59:52.000Z2011-09-20T02:59:52.000ZTanya Taylorhttps://mybbwo.com/members/TanyaTaylor<div><p><a target="_blank" href="http://www.allblackwoman.com/why-you-should-break-free-from-comfort/"><img class="align-center" width="750" src="{{#staticFileLink}}10744067476,original{{/staticFileLink}}" alt="10744067476?profile=original" /></a></p><p> </p><p>Comfort means you’re safe, you’re in a domain that is not opposing or challenging, you’re familiar with that around you and there is no intent on changing from your large, strong and coo-shy safety net, but what happens when you want to break free from that net, jump back into the ocean or spread your wings? DISCOMFORT! Facing new challenges is exactly that as it means taking a risk, a chance, grasping at an opportunity. There's nothing comfortable about striving to achieve a goal but there is joy in the making of dreams.</p><p> </p><blockquote><p><span>A dream is your creative vision for your life in the future. You must break out of your current comfort zone and become comfortable with the unfamiliar and the unknown. - <em>Denis Waitley</em></span></p></blockquote><p> </p><p>As black women we are all to ready to clutch to our comfort zones, we take a step, two or three, achieve a university degree, a white career and then phew we made it, and it feels good being right here, so let’s stay right here, in the comfort zone. If that’s were your dream ended then congratulations be proud of yourself but that doesn’t mean you have to stop dreaming.</p><p> </p><blockquote><p> <span>We shall have no better conditions in the future if we are satisfied with all those which we have at present. - <em>Thomas Edison</em></span></p></blockquote><p> </p><p>Discomfort is falsely associated with failure and we misinterpret the feeling of discomfort and evade it where we should welcome it. Ever heard the expression ‘no pain, no gain’? We understand this very well for beauty and fitness but fail to recognise the same for our professional and personal progression, although it’s entirely the same game.</p><p> </p><blockquote><p><span>Progress always involves risk; you can't progress to second base and also keep your foot on first. - Christie Mason</span></p></blockquote><p> </p><p>Success is always preceded by a <em>temporary</em> condition of discomfort and discomfort is a temporary condition of expanding your comfort zone, but the longer you dwells in a comfortable the greater the number of situations that make you feel uncomfortable will grow.</p><p> </p><blockquote><p><span>Nobody ever died of discomfort, yet living in the name of comfort has killed more ideas, more opportunities, more actions, and more growth than everything else combined. Comfort kills! - T. Harv Eker</span></p></blockquote><p> </p><p>Comfort is the most potent inhibitor of success. We must remember that as black people it took many stepping far outside of their comfort zone for us to finally arrive where we are today. In two of my earlier articles I address the history of <strong><a target="_blank" href="http://www.allblackwoman.com/queen-amina-african-warrior-queen/">Queen Amina the African warrior queen</a></strong> who achieved one of the greatest military success in African history and <strong><a target="_blank" href="http://www.allblackwoman.com/great-black-women-in-history-harriet-tubman/">Harriet Tubman</a></strong> who refused to remain a slave and went on to free hundreds more. These great black women are fine examples that demonstrate; the higher the measures of discomfort the greater the achievement.</p><p> </p><blockquote><p><span>Be brave enough to live life creatively. The creative is the place where no one else has ever been. You have to leave the city of your comfort and go into the wilderness of your intuition. - Alan Alda</span></p></blockquote><p> </p><p>In order to rise we must prepare to be discomforted, expect discomfort and welcome it with a “Hello old friend, let’s push the boundaries together again”. Make discomfort a familiar friend and not a stranger in so far as your competence allows and where is doesn’t find the tools to make it do so.</p><p> </p><p> </p><p>Original article can be found here: <a target="_blank" href="http://www.allblackwoman.com/why-you-should-break-free-from-comfort/">Why you should Break Free from Comfort.</a></p></div>How To Create the Perfect Spicy Sales Cyclehttps://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/how-to-create-the-perfect-12011-06-17T02:32:37.000Z2011-06-17T02:32:37.000ZTanya Smithhttps://mybbwo.com/members/TanyaSmith<div><a target="_blank" href="http://www.dreamstime.com/stock-photography-chart-rimagefree2204450-resi2895060"><img class="align-left" style="padding:3px;" src="http://www.bepromotable.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/06/dreamstimefree_2204450-150x150.jpg?width=150" width="150" alt="dreamstimefree_2204450-150x150.jpg?width=150" /></a>I am such an impatient person. I can admit it right out of the gate, but one thing I've learned after a number of business "beat-downs" is that planning is priceless.<br /><br />One of the steps often forgotten in the excitement of creating a new business that you're going to market is the planning phase. But this is particularly important when you're creating your sales and marketing strategy.<br /><br />You have got to spend some time mapping out how your content, products and services, and marketing are all going to work together to build a profitable online business.<br /><br />To help you out, I'm going to share a few key steps - all of which I'll be talking about in my brand new coaching program that launches in a few weeks - <a title="spicy hot systems" href="http://spicyhotsystems.com"><strong>Spicy Hot Systems That Sell</strong></a> (SPICY = simple, profitable, impactful, convenient, and getting your buyers to YES!):<br /><br /><strong>Step One: Develop high quality offerings.</strong> Starting off on the right foot with your customer service approach is very important for the livelihood of your online business. Quality products, from the very first freebie to your largest ticket item, will help you gradually build a positive reputation for yourself. Any future dealings you have where you can do repeat business with your customer should leave them feeling as if they were treated as well if not better than the first time around.<br /><br /><strong>Step Two: Create your product line.</strong> A sales funnel is a series of incrementally more valuable, and perhaps more expensive, products or services to offer your customers. However, people are going to enter your funnel at various stages. Some may begin by taking advantage of your free offer while some may jump right in and buy a product or service. Create a plan for each type of customer. Set the stage for the next level of products you have available. Figure out which ones might be of interest to your clients, or which ones could be useful. Help them to see just how they can be helpful and how to implement them effectively into their present business or organization.<br /><br /><strong>Step Three: Maintain the Communication.</strong> In addition to creating a line of high quality products and services, you’ll also want to establish consistent communication with your prospects and customers. Accomplish this by continuing the flow of valuable information in the form of blog posts, email messages and perhaps a newsletter.<br /><br />Maintaining the flow of valuable information makes it easier for your customers to confidently pass your information on to others. You could soon find yourself starting the process all over again with new referrals, or other people you have found on your own who have become customers.<br /><br />Planning is the key to online business success. Create your sales funnel plan, marketing plan and content plan and work to integrate the three into a seamless and efficient system. Consistency is the key, and by using the same plan over and over again with each new person, your online business will grow. And everyone will be receiving the same great quality products and services you have to offer.<br /><br />Now that's SPICY!</div>3 Brand Support Systems You Can't Do Without - Part 2 of 4https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/3-brand-support-systems-you-12011-05-06T16:10:36.000Z2011-05-06T16:10:36.000ZTanya Smithhttps://mybbwo.com/members/TanyaSmith<div>This is part 2 of a 4 part series where I'm sharing the essential systems entrepreneurs must have in place to support a solid brand.<br /><h2>System #1: Customer engagement</h2><a target="_blank" href="http://www.bepromotable.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/iStock_000007773142Medium-150x150.jpg"><img class="align-left" style="padding:3px;" src="http://www.bepromotable.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/iStock_000007773142Medium-150x150.jpg?width=150" width="150" alt="iStock_000007773142Medium-150x150.jpg?width=150" /></a>Brand support system number one is about the way in which you engage your customers. This is the process by which you create a path of attraction to your business. It's the way that you make it easy for prospects to meet you, to love what you do, to test drive your services. This might look like your current opt-in strategy. Or it may even be the type of events you host that attract people to your business.<br /><br />Creating an easy path for prospects to engage is critical to building your pool of interested buyers. As a system, this path should be outlined in such a way that you can powerfully reflect your brand with ease. The goal is to create a connection between you as a solution provider and the potential client, or prospect.<br /><br />What is evident when you view an entrepreneur’s website is whether or not there is an easy way to determine your next step. Successful entrepreneurs are clear in the single action they would like for a viewer to take when visiting their website the first time. But unfortunately too many business owners fail to streamline the instruction for their prospect. There is no opt-in form. There is nothing “sticky" about the page that keeps a person there, so viewers leave after only visiting a few seconds.<br /><br />One example of a way to engage customers that capitalizes on the way they first interacted with you is to create a social media landing page. This blog post by visibility guru Nancy Marmalejo tells you how to do this: <a href="http://vivavisibilityblog.com/social-networking-landing-page/">http://vivavisibilityblog.com/social-networking-landing-page/</a>.<br /><br />There are other ways to engage your customer or prospect. One of the most widely used ways is to develop a strong opt in form. A blog post by marketing diva Ali Brown shares great insight into how to make this work for you: <a href="http://www.alibrown.com/blog/?p=722">http://www.alibrown.com/blog/?p=722</a>.<br /><br />The key to customer engagement is to entice prospective buyers within the first few seconds so they can receive your valuable information.<br /><br /><br /><br />WANT TO RE-POST THIS ARTICLE ON YOUR BLOG OR USE THIS ARTICLE IN YOUR EZINE, E-NEWSLETTER OR WEB SITE?<br /><br />You may, as long as you include this complete blurb with it:<br /><br /><em>About the Author:</em> Tanya Smith is a creative business strategist specializing in showing coaches, consultants and freelancers how to spend more time making money with simple, yet profitable marketing systems. Her company Be Promotable provides clients with fresh actionable strategies and virtual resources to promote their small businesses as power players in their market. Claim your instant access to a free 10 part ecourse, 10 Ways To Grow Your List at: <a href="../">www.bepromotable.com</a>.</div>Inexpensive Accountant For Biz Womenhttps://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/inexpensive-accountant-for-biz2011-05-05T20:55:22.000Z2011-05-05T20:55:22.000ZShirika Gomillionhttps://mybbwo.com/members/ShirikaGomillion<div><p>I believe that effective outsourced accounting, taxation, financial management and consulting is more than a service, it is a relationship. We build that relationship with each client by learning about his or her business process and culture. Then we design a service package that meets the unique needs of the business. If the client has an in-house accounting staff, our team can supplement and support their work. If needed, we can become the in-house accounting department.</p><p> </p><p>Shirika Gomillion</p><p>Accountant & Tax Advisor</p><p><a href="http://www.saccountingsolutions.com">http://www.saccountingsolutions.com</a></p></div>Click of the Week: Top 10 Words for Copy That Rockshttps://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/click-of-the-week-top-10-words2011-05-25T03:24:56.000Z2011-05-25T03:24:56.000ZTanya Smithhttps://mybbwo.com/members/TanyaSmith<div>I've been studying copy quite a bit lately because I want to improve my own business brand and make sure my stuff gets more eyes on it! What about you? Doesn't that matter to your business? Writing good copy is actually ESSENTIAL to your success, so even if you choose to outsource your writing, you should be familiar with at least the basics.Study and save this simple list of words you can use to attract more views.<object width="560" height="349" data="http://www.youtube.com/v/g9cTZmJm8h0?fs=1&hl=en_US&rel=0" type="application/x-shockwave-flash"><param name="allowScriptAccess" value="never" ></param><param name="allowNetworking" value="internal" ></param><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/g9cTZmJm8h0?fs=1&hl=en_US&rel=0" ></param><param name="allowFullScreen" value="false" ></param><embed wmode="opaque" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" width="560" height="349" src="http://www.youtube.com/v/g9cTZmJm8h0?fs=1&hl=en_US&rel=0" allowscriptaccess="never" allownetworking="internal"></embed> <param name="wmode" value="opaque" ></param></object></div>3 Brand Support Systems You Can't Do Without - Part 3 of 4https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/3-brand-support-systems-you-22011-05-16T10:54:54.000Z2011-05-16T10:54:54.000ZTanya Smithhttps://mybbwo.com/members/TanyaSmith<div><h3>System #2: Customer Relationship Management</h3>The customer relationship management system refers to the way you take care of your current customers. It may be the way that you process their intake into doing new business with you. It's about how you provide here and service once your clients have already paid or invested in your services. Ultimately the goal is for prospects to become clients and eventually to become raving fans for your business. This happens when you treat current clients or fans very well.<br /><br />How do you deliver on the promises that you make in your brand. Does it require a lot of manual labor? Can you automate delivery of your services? Can you set up systems with the click of a button that will accept payment and deliver on the promise? If you're conducting a coaching group is there self-service function word new clients can go and access their profiles, pay an invoice, create a support case? This is all part of delivering on your brand promises.<br />When you have easy tools and systems in place it's much easier for your clients to rave about your services and to refer others to them as well. A great service experience can immediately expand your level of influence and authority.<br /><br />I am a huge fan of Customer Relationship Management systems (CRM). CRMs were like a dream come true because I was tired of manually tracking loose pieces of paper, sticky notes, e-mails that flooded my inbox from people I worked with. A solid CRM can manage projects, automate your billing, and make it easy for you to find essential correspondence between you and the customer. Examples of great CRMs to research for your business include BaseCamp, Salesforce, Capsule CRM, and WorkEtc.<br /><br />Another part of the relationship management, however, involves your approach to follow-up. Send Out Cards is a simple but highly distinctive way to show your clients you care. I purchased an account with the company years ago but did not realize the power of the program until I used it to mail personalized postcards to members of a course I was teaching online. It really made an impact with my clients to receive a special thank you from the right at their doorstep.<br /><br />Trust me, in this age of Internet marketing a postcard or greeting card will help you stand out from the crowd. It will also help to solidify the emotional connection with your customer, which has the potential to generate more sales. Besides, sales are really about creating a personal experience for the buyer.<br /><br />WANT TO RE-POST THIS ARTICLE ON YOUR BLOG OR USE THIS ARTICLE IN YOUR EZINE, E-NEWSLETTER OR WEB SITE?<br /><br />You may, as long as you include this complete blurb with it:<br /><br /><em>About the Author:</em> Tanya Smith is a creative business strategist specializing in showing coaches, consultants and freelancers how to spend more time making money with simple, yet profitable marketing systems. Her company Be Promotable provides clients with fresh actionable strategies and virtual resources to promote their small businesses as power players in their market. Claim your instant access to a free 10 part ecourse, 10 Ways To Grow Your List at: <a href="../business-acumen/">www.bepromotable.com</a>.</div>3 Brand Support Systems You Can't Do Without - Part 1 of 4https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/3-brand-support-systems-you2011-05-04T17:16:11.000Z2011-05-04T17:16:11.000ZTanya Smithhttps://mybbwo.com/members/TanyaSmith<div><a target="_blank" href="http://www.dreamstime.com/free-stock-photography-puzzle-background-rimagefree1333671-resi2895060"><img class="align-left" style="padding:3px;" src="http://www.bepromotable.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/dreamstimefree_1333671-300x199.jpg?width=300" width="300" alt="dreamstimefree_1333671-300x199.jpg?width=300" /></a>Every solo business owner has a set of processes or systems that either promote their business very well or contribute to the business’ demise. There are really 3 essential systems that any successful business owner needs in place in order to automate the things they repetitively do over and over again, while adequately supporting the brand. These systems form the structure of success because they are the ways in which you continuously reinvigorate your business for expansion and growth.<br /><h2>What is a system?</h2>For purposes of this article, we’re going to define a system as follows: a set of integrated, interdependent processes that can be replicated over and over again to produce similar results.<br /><br />This article is designed to explain the 3 critical brand support systems for real breakthrough in your business. These essential systems are key to ensuring your success and creating a structure on which your brand can thrive.<br /><h2>It all starts with the BRAND</h2>Before we cover these systems, let’s talk about brand first. As a solopreneur in the “entrepreneurial renaissance” age – a coin termed by business coach, Marcia Bench, you will have to compete against many people who claim expertise in the same field as you. Regardless of their level of experience or visibility, the sheer numbers require that you carve out a way to stand apart from the crowd. Your brand must be distinctive, powerful and recognizable.<br /><br />The brand is the foundation of any effective marketing strategy. It is how people perceive you. The brand is YOU in a single owner business. If your brand is weak, the systems I will describe below will not operate to support your business. An analogy would be like building a new house, installing a beautiful kitchen, hardwood floors, and hiring a dynamic salesman to greet buyers at the door when the house has no walls yet.<br /><br />The support systems we will talk about in this article will allow you to deliver great service, they will engage your customer base, and they will automate your delivery but only when you have taken the necessary steps to first put in place your brand strategy.<br /><br />This means getting clear about what you do, the market you serve, and how you provide the service. Brand support is most connected to the latter – the “how”.<br /><br />We will spend time outlining the 3 systems over the next group of articles in this series.<br /><br /><br /><br />WANT TO RE-POST THIS ARTICLE ON YOUR BLOG OR USE THIS ARTICLE IN YOUR EZINE, E-NEWSLETTER OR WEB SITE?<br /><br />You may, as long as you include this complete blurb with it:<br /><br /><em>About the Author:</em> Tanya Smith is a creative business strategist specializing in showing coaches, consultants and freelancers how to spend more time making money with simple, yet profitable marketing systems. Her company Be Promotable provides clients with fresh actionable strategies and virtual resources to promote their small businesses as power players in their market. Claim your instant access to a free 10 part ecourse, 10 Ways To Grow Your List at: <a href="../">www.bepromotable.com</a>.</div>There's Got To Be Something Better Than Sticky Noteshttps://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/theres-got-to-be-something2011-04-15T11:25:03.000Z2011-04-15T11:25:03.000ZTanya Smithhttps://mybbwo.com/members/TanyaSmith<div><p><a target="_blank" href="http://www.bepromotable.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/04/graphorange-300x221.jpg"><img class="align-left" style="padding:5px;" src="http://www.bepromotable.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/04/graphorange-300x221.jpg?width=300" height="151" width="203" alt="graphorange-300x221.jpg?width=300" /></a>Sticky notes are not the best way to keep track of a prospect you need to call. There is a better way - thankfully. It's called a CRM.</p><p>A CRM is a sales and marketing term for "customer relationship management". It's a system to keep track of important information about your clients, customers, sales prospects and a way to centralize your business communications and resources.<br /> <br />I love technology. You may already know that from some of the resources I share. But I really didn't discover the power of a CRM until I started realizing that I had too much paperwork floating around with my client's notes, names of people I needed to follow up with, and even keeping track of any missing payments to my client accounts.<br /><br />So here are some benefits of using a CRM:</p><ul><li>Organizes your business records</li><li>Creates a safeguard of all your key contacts</li><li>Automates your appointments</li><li>Helps you develop a "pipeline", which is the path you work each client or prospect through to work with you</li><li>Gives you an easier way to pay attention to your customers</li><li>Makes it easy for people to pay you</li></ul>These are just a few of the things that I've learned a CRM can do for my business. And when you're a solopreneur, it helps to make your workflow as simple as possible.<br /><br />Need a few ideas on CRMs to try?<br /><br />I'm developing a video kit to help you use the simple, slick system I use, but for now here are some recommendations you can look into: <a href="http://capsulecrm.com/" target="_blank">www.CapsuleCRM.com</a>, <a href="http://www.highrisehq.com/" target="_blank">www.HighRiseHQ.com</a>, <a href="http://www.bigcontacts.com/" target="_blank">www.BigContacts.com</a>, <a href="http://www.salesforce.com/" target="_blank">www.SalesForce.com</a>.<br /><br />Try one and let me know what you think in the comments below!<br /><br /><strong>WANT TO RE-POST THIS ARTICLE ON YOUR BLOG OR USE THIS ARTICLE IN YOUR EZINE, E-NEWSLETTER OR WEB SITE?</strong> You may, as long as you include this complete blurb with it:<br /><br /><em>About the Author:</em> Tanya Smith is a creative business strategist specializing in showing coaches, consultants and freelancers how to spend more time making money with simple, yet profitable marketing systems. Her company Be Promotable provides clients with fresh actionable strategies and virtual resources to promote their businesses as power players in their market. Claim your instant access to a free 10 part ecourse, 10 Ways To Grow Your List at: <a title="Be Promotable" href="http://www.bepromotable.com">www.bepromotable.com</a>.</div>Wake Up Call: Short Term Nice Does Not Equal Long Term Profithttps://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/wake-up-call-short-term-nice2011-03-28T11:31:47.000Z2011-03-28T11:31:47.000ZTanya Smithhttps://mybbwo.com/members/TanyaSmith<div><p><a target="_blank" href="http://www.bepromotable.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/03/iStock_000007606415XSmall-150x150.jpg"><img class="align-left" style="padding:3px;" src="http://www.bepromotable.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/03/iStock_000007606415XSmall-150x150.jpg?width=150" width="150" alt="iStock_000007606415XSmall-150x150.jpg?width=150" /></a>I had a dream last night. In the dream I invested in some type of postal supplies shop - you know, like the ones you see on every corner now? This guy from an office next door kept coming in to say he was there to help me. Seemed like a nice enough man. At first, he offered to lay a customized floor tile that looked like a stamp for me in front of the counter. He described how it would have my initials, my favorite colors, and it would really light up the place. I was convinced and I said, "sure, that would be nice". Then after he put it in and I realized it wasn't just one tile, it was half the floor. Cha-ching.</p><p>Next, he came in and offered to change the locks on my door. I said, "yes, that's probably a good idea". And of course, he upgraded the entire door. Cha-ching...again. After a series of these offers, I realized I'd drawn up quite a bill. That's when I finally sat down to look at the total costs of my initial investment, the add-ons, and the history of success the shop had before me. Guess what? The previous owner sold it because she hadn't made a profit.</p><p>It was a pretty dismal outlook. I had the same dream at least once more the same night. It was like I had to go through it all over again, even knowing what the end would be. Then I woke up.</p><p>I realized that this was a pretty accurate picture of some decisions I've made before as a business owner. Not researching the so-called investment first, saying yes to everything that looks short-term shiny, looking at the total profit/loss picture only after I've spent all the money...</p><p>Notice I didn't say anything about "adding value" or "profit generating" decisions? What investments are you making in yourself and in your business that will add long-term value and generate profit? Got the wake up call yet?</p><p> </p><p><strong>WANT TO RE-POST THIS ARTICLE ON YOUR BLOG OR USE THIS ARTICLE IN YOUR EZINE, E-NEWSLETTER OR WEB SITE? You may, as long as you include this complete blurb with it:</strong></p><p><strong>About the Author:</strong> Tanya Smith of Be Promotable is a premier personal branding & marketing coach. Her creative genius has unlocked the potential of many women solopreneurs, helping them to reinvent themselves as power players in their startup business. Claim your free instant access to a free video download, 5 Secrets to Developing Your Unique Brand Proposition at: <a href="../">www.bepromotable.com</a>.</p></div>Well, hello! If you're just joining us, you'll see I've been writing blogs for a few months now( the one in 2010 was, "99 days to Win in 2010" ) and it's been a blast. It may come as a surprise to somhttps://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/pwell-hello-if-youre-just2011-02-07T12:30:00.000Z2011-02-07T12:30:00.000ZTamara Garrison-Thomashttps://mybbwo.com/members/TamaraGarrisonThomas<div><p>Well, hello! If you're just joining us, you'll see I've been writing blogs for a few months now( the one in 2010 was, "99 days to Win in 2010" ) and it's been a blast. It may come as a surprise to some, or confusion to others, but believe it! This is a part of the many hats that I wear. I LOVE helping others with business matters. My goal is to educate as many people as I can on all business details. Whether you own a Subway or a Network Marketing Coin Business, I can help! So click FOLLOW to the right and follow my blog for 2011, "Get Your Blessin' in 2011: Business Ideas & Advice" (<a href="http://www.businessadvice2011.blogspot.com">www.businessadvice2011.blogspot.com</a>).</p><p> </p><p>So today's topic was touched on last year but I'm going there again. For a few weeks we will be focusing on building a proper and working business plan, website and/or blog, and marketing strategies. So let's start with the website(my book on building a business plan is coming out in February! Keep your eyes and ears open for it!). Anyhow, I was thinking about all the action I get from my site, and wanted to talk to you about how to build a successful website, for....(wait for it...) FREE! There are several resources for this and if you know anymore, follow my blog and comment below with your suggestions. But lets start with wix.com. I'm not too familiar with this site, but it allows a lot of video and flash player options. Tis really cool for a unique website, trying to reach a more chic crowd.</p><p> </p><p>Another resource that I like is...Weebly.com! I found Weebly to be very easy to use. You don't even need a domain name they can give one to you and you're set. I have a hard time sitting for a long time trying to figure things out and with Weebly I didn't have any formulas to decode or vast instructions to read. Weebly has numerous templates you can use that will fit any business you are marketing. You can also monetize your site (that means MAKE MONEY!). Weebly has Google Adsense AND an affiliate program you can all use for....(here it is again)FREE!</p><p> </p><p>For a very minimal monthly fee you can receive the following features: audio player, password protection, up to 10 websites, more MB space and MORE! I don't need those features CURRENTLY, but I look forward to upgrading my membership.</p><p> </p><p>I highly suggest Weebly.com as a tool to create your website! It's fun, it's simple and it's....(drum roll please) FREE! Check it out! Talk to you soon!</p><p>Tamara</p><p>P.S. If you are not sure of what type of business you want to market or build a website for, check out my website or email me at tgarrison11@gmail.com. I can help you find a business you would be interested in starting (trust me, I have my ways)! If you have any questions about a domain name, or any of these resources, email me at tgarrison11@gmail.com. I'll be happy to answer your questions.</p><p> </p><p><a href="http://www.garrisonprosperitysolutions.com/">http://www.garrisonprosperitysolutions.com/</a></p></div>4 Parts to a Fabulous Personal Brand Statementhttps://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/4-parts-to-a-fabulous-personal2011-01-04T03:59:28.000Z2011-01-04T03:59:28.000ZTanya Smithhttps://mybbwo.com/members/TanyaSmith<div><span class="font-size-2"><a target="_blank" href="http://www.bepromotable.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/04/iStock_000008473282XSmall-150x150.jpg"><img class="align-left" src="http://www.bepromotable.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/04/iStock_000008473282XSmall-150x150.jpg?width=150" height="133" width="133" alt="iStock_000008473282XSmall-150x150.jpg?width=150" /></a>I often hear the question, "how do I develop a personal brand statement?" and my answer stays the same most of the time. A strong personal brand statement can be one of the best tools you can have and certainly one of the most critical ones for your branding and marketing toolkit, whether you are a business owner, or a professional working for someone else.</span><br /><br /><span class="font-size-2">There are certain components that are variable and others that are pretty foundational in developing your personal brand statement (P.B.S.). Some of the factors that may be variable are:</span><br /><ul><li><span class="font-size-2">When and how you will use it - e.g. interview for a job? networking situation? speech?</span></li><li><span class="font-size-2">Who you're talking to - e.g. language needs to meet the needs of the audience; the message is the same, but the approach should be adaptable</span></li></ul><span class="font-size-2">Even though these may change, there are basically four parts I like to use in developing the main statement, so I'll share these next. A great basic statement tells people:</span><br /><ol><li><span class="font-size-2">Who you are - let the recipient of the statement know your identity, your name</span></li><li><span class="font-size-2">What you do - the core service or opportunity you provide</span></li><li><span class="font-size-2">Who you do it for - your target audience and/or ideal client you work with</span></li><li><span class="font-size-2">How you do it - your style, your unique approach, what distinguishes you</span></li></ol><p><span class="font-size-2">Let me give you an example of how this might work -</span><br /> <br /><span class="font-size-2">"Hi, I'm Tanya Smith of Be Promotable, the No Guesswork Branding & Marketing Resource for women solopreneurs. We show our clients practical, step-by-step online marketing strategies to confidently promote their business and get them noticed."</span><br /> <br /><span class="font-size-2">Now you try it. Add your own P.B.S. with the 4 parts in the comments and I'll share feedback...come on, you can do it!</span></p><p><span class="font-size-2"><strong>About the Author:</strong> Tanya Smith of Be Promotable is a premier personal branding & marketing coach. Her creative genius has unlocked the potential of many women solopreneurs, helping them to reinvent themselves as</span> <span class="font-size-2">power players in their startup business. Claim your free instant access to a</span> <span class="font-size-2">free video and audio download, 5 Secrets to Successfully Starting a Solo</span> <span class="font-size-2">Business While Working Full Time at: <a href="http://www.bepromotable.com/">www.bepromotable.com</a>.</span></p></div>Simple Steps to Creating Your Marketing Maphttps://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/simple-steps-to-creating-your2010-12-30T22:08:30.000Z2010-12-30T22:08:30.000ZTanya Smithhttps://mybbwo.com/members/TanyaSmith<div><p><a target="_blank" href="http://www.bepromotable.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/03/iStock_000001184887XSmall.jpg"><img class="align-left" src="http://www.bepromotable.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/03/iStock_000001184887XSmall-150x150.jpg?width=150" width="150" alt="iStock_000001184887XSmall-150x150.jpg?width=150" /></a>Solo professionals are like big businesses when it comes to the need for a solid marketing strategy. The distinctive thing about solopreneurs, however, is that you get to be the head decision maker for every part of the business. That means it is all the more important to take your strategies from complex to simple whenever possible.<br /> <br /> Now is a great time to develop your branding and marketing plan. While you definitely need to consider mapping out a strategy that is more comprehensive to cover you for at least the next twelve months, here are four simple questions you can answer in order to set a basic foundation for promoting your distinctive brand and services you provide:<br /><br /><strong><span style="text-decoration:underline;">How will I generate leads?</span></strong><br /><br />This is one of the most critical steps to developing a solid branding and marketing strategy. Assuming you have already identified who your ideal clients are, you must now figure out where to find them. Immerse yourself in studying your target market - find out what they read, where they frequent, and what they buy - and put yourself in front of them.<br /><br /><strong><span style="text-decoration:underline;">How will prospects get to do a "taste test" with me?</span></strong><br /><br />Before a potential client will buy BIG from you, they will want to know what your services are like. Depending on the business you're in, you will need to decide what is most effective and most practical to give away. For example, you might offer a free strategy session, or a free audio, or even an e-book. What can you offer that will be of interest and take little effort or investment on your part?<br /><br /><strong><span style="text-decoration:underline;">How will I direct them from one point to the next?</span></strong><br /><br />Now that your prospect has had a taste of what you do and they want more, make it simple for them to know what is next. This involves some thinking on your part of what your marketing funnel looks like. Whenever you engage a client in your product or service, be prepared to promote the next thing and make it easy. At the end of your teleseminar, share the next program or info product. This is the time where you can extend even greater value to your new customer - at the point that you have already made good on your initial promise!<br /><br /><span style="text-decoration:underline;"><strong>How will I follow up?</strong></span><br /><br />The client engagement process usually follows a certain path - suspect --> prospect --> client --> advocate/evangelist. In order to move people through these stages, you need some idea of how to continuously follow up and stay in touch. Whether this looks like a series of autoresponder emails, a regular ezine, postcards, etc. consider how you will stay in front of your leads. The key is to add value to their inbox, not being pesky.</p><p> </p><p class="MsoNormal">I now invite you to claim instant access to a free video and audio download, <i>5 Secrets to Successfully<br />Starting a Solo Business While Working Full Time</i> at: <a href="http://www.bepromotable.com/">http://www.bepromotable.com</a> to learn even more about great solo professional business branding tips. - Tanya Smith, The Solo Business Brand Coach at Be Promotable.</p></div>Are you struggling to realize the Fit and Fabulous lifestyle you desire? FREE empowering resourcehttps://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/are-you-struggling-to-realize2011-01-13T07:34:05.000Z2011-01-13T07:34:05.000ZRobin Tramblehttps://mybbwo.com/members/RobinTramble<div><p>Are you struggling to find time to make changes to realize the fit and fabulous life you desire?</p><p>Know you need to incorporate an exercise plan but become anxious at the thought of adding anythingelse to your schedule?</p><p> </p><p>Wish you could find a way to exercise without theconventional routine work-outs? Or at least get started without routinework-outs?</p><p> </p><p>Request your FREE copy of my Brand New Special Report "Empowered to Get Fit On The GO!"</p><p><a href=""><img class="align-left" src="" width="234" alt="" /></a></p><p> </p><p>Empowering insights shared in this power-packed ebook will inspire you to pursuit your desire once again. Includes creative exercise ideas for the savvy woman who has little or no time to get and stay fit.Go to : <a href="http://tinyurl.com/getfitonthego">http://tinyurl.com/getfitonthego</a></p></div>