at - Blogs - Black Business Women Online2024-03-29T12:59:18Zhttps://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/feed/tag/atYou can promote 800#s and Get Paid. Urgently Need Advertising Agents, Nationwide. NO Fees involvedhttps://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/you-can-promote-800-s-and-get-paid-urgently-need-advertising2013-08-17T17:29:30.000Z2013-08-17T17:29:30.000ZRickeyhttps://mybbwo.com/members/Rickey<div><p><span class="font-size-4">Hello Community, Juniques Media Services</span></p><p><span class="font-size-4"> <a href="http://www.mybusinessaz.com">http://www.mybusinessaz.com</a></span></p><p><span class="font-size-4">I am actively networking with many organizations. I get informed of a lot of online and offline business developments. Some companies are ready to command market share in their industry.</span></p><p><span class="font-size-4">I have searched for a long time for a company that would provide me this service. Directing people to a 800# and get paid.</span></p><p><span class="font-size-4">Years ago, directing people to 800# and 900# was very lucrative.</span></p><p><span class="font-size-4">That market still exist, however, very expensive to be part of those companies.</span></p><p><span class="font-size-4">Thanks to 123MGroup, that is not the case. </span></p><p><span class="font-size-4">You may want to check this out and recommend. </span></p><p> </p><p><span class="font-size-4">This service definitely is a great "fit" for people who mean it when they say "I do not like to sell", " I prefer not to be involved with MLM companies", " I have limited funds", " I do not have monies to purchases products I do not need or use".</span></p><p> </p><p><span class="font-size-4">I am sure you can add to this list of "why I do not get started in business".</span></p><p> </p><p><span class="font-size-4">Advertising is here to stay. Companies are going to advertise. Successful companies will seek new customers. Successful companies, will control their personnel cost, as they, acquire new customers.</span></p><p> </p><p><span class="font-size-4">This is a great benefit for vendors. They can reach more people and keep their acquisition cost low.</span></p><p><span class="font-size-4">As promoters of 800#, we can a great income.</span></p><p> </p><p><span class="font-size-4">We urgently need advertising agents around the country. We provide you with a your own 800# acct to promote. No fees to join. WE will train you and we provide customer support for English and Spanish speaking persons.</span></p><p> </p><p><span class="font-size-4">We have many clients ready for their business to be advertised. You can promote online and offline Just have qualified people call your 800 number and you can get paid!!! <a href="http://www.mybusinessaz.com">http://www.mybusinessaz.com</a></span></p></div>EVERYBODY WORKING FOR THEMSELVES IS A MYTH. HERE IS THE TRUTH!!!!https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/everybody-working-for-themselves-is-a-myth-here-is-the-truth2013-07-23T18:00:00.000Z2013-07-23T18:00:00.000ZRickeyhttps://mybbwo.com/members/Rickey<div><p> </p><p><span class="font-size-5"><strong>EVERYBODY WORKING FOR THEMSELVES IS A MYTH. HERE IS THE TRUTH!!!!</strong></span></p><p> <iframe width="420" height="315" src="//www.youtube.com/embed/TZ6Fmp7sc-8?rel=0&wmode=opaque" frameborder="0"></iframe></p><p> </p><p><span class="font-size-5"><strong>EVERYBODY WORKING FOR THEMSELVES IS A MYTH. HERE IS THE TRUTH!!!!</strong></span><br /> <br /> <span class="font-size-4">Hello Community,</span><br /> <span class="font-size-4">Lets get to it!!!! Everybody DO NOT want to work for themselves.</span></p><p><span class="font-size-4">Yes, I know all the advertisements scream</span> <br /> <br /> <span class="font-size-4">that myth at you , Daily!!!!!</span><br /> <br /> <span style="color:#ff0000;" class="font-size-4">The marketeers try to convince you having a JOB is not a good thing.</span><br /> <span class="font-size-4">Who are they trying to fool?????</span><br /> <span style="color:#ff0000;"><em><span class="font-size-4">If you are not earning a income , who will purchase the good and services and business opportunities</span></em></span></p><p><span style="color:#ff0000;"><em><span class="font-size-4">they</span></em></span> <span style="color:#ff0000;"><em><span class="font-size-4">promote???</span></em></span></p><p> </p><p><span class="font-size-4">I ask you WHO???</span><br /> <span class="font-size-4">Yes, they say JOB like it is a bad thing. You gotta be kidding !!!!</span><br /> <span class="font-size-4">Everybody who follows this flawed logic, join the JUST OVER BROKE mantra.</span><br /> <span class="font-size-4">Many do not even think about what they are advocating.</span><br /> <span class="font-size-4">Well, here is my take. <span style="color:#ff0000;">JOB stands for JOY, OVERCOMING BROKE!</span> Say that daily.</span><br /> <br /> <span class="font-size-4">Yes, every action I take to improve my income and lifestyle is supporting that realization.</span><br /> <br /> <span class="font-size-4">That includes keeping an 8 TO 5 Yes, the 8 TO 5 allows me to pursue my passion, which is marketing and</span> <br /> <span class="font-size-4">promoting, working with online business operators, consulting with small business owner.</span><br /> <span class="font-size-4">The 8 TO 5 handle basic operational cost like food, shelter, clothing. ( Remember, I am a home based</span> <br /> <span class="font-size-4">business owner/operator ), so I can generate additional income from doing my passion.</span><br /> <span class="font-size-4">Now, imagine trying to do that without the operational cost being handled.</span></p><p> </p><p><span class="font-size-4">You, those who have had to do this, know</span> <br /> <br /> <span class="font-size-4">what I am talking about , it is difficult, to say the least.</span><br /> <br /> <span class="font-size-4">Here is another irony to the Everybody wants to work for themselves myth.</span><br /> <br /> <span class="font-size-4"> As business owners grow, acquire new customers, service existing customers, purchase goods and services,</span> <br /> <br /> <span class="font-size-4">etc. they quickly realize they need help.</span><br /> <br /> <span class="font-size-4">Guess what they do next- Inquire about people looking for a JOB!!!!!</span><br /> <br /> <span class="font-size-4">Yes, a JOB!!!!</span><br /> <br /> <span class="font-size-4">Get it,</span><br /> <br /> <span class="font-size-4">We all have a JOB, some work for themselves, some work for others. A JOB is a good thing!!!</span><br /> <br /> <span style="color:#ff0000;" class="font-size-4">Now, here is the reality one should be focusing on . Create multiple streams of income.</span><br /> <br /> <span class="font-size-4">Create income producing assets.</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color:#ff0000;" class="font-size-4">Do not rely on one source of income i.e JOB.</span><br /> <span style="color:#ff0000;" class="font-size-4">HAVE A FINANCIAL PLAN B!!!!!</span><br /> <br /> <span class="font-size-4">Recognize and accept events change, sometimes for the good and sometimes for the not so good.</span><br /> <span class="font-size-4">You want to be prepared either way. Have options, Create options.</span><br /> <span style="color:#ff0000;" class="font-size-4">Without options they is no choice, just situations.</span><br /> <br /> <span class="font-size-4">Need help with creating your PLAN B? Want to know how to create income producing assets?</span><br /> <span class="font-size-4">How to determine how many streams of income you will need to be financially solid??</span><br /> <span class="font-size-4">Great!! I have suggestions!!!!! Email me at juniques@yahoo.com</span><br /> <span class="font-size-4">Subject: Having a Job is ok with me show me how to create my Plan B!!!</span><br /> <br /> <span class="font-size-4">Networkingly yours,</span><br /> <span class="font-size-4">Rickey</span><br /> <span class="font-size-4"><a href="http://www.juniques.ws">www.juniques.ws</a></span><br /> <br /> <br /> <span style="color:#ff0000;" class="font-size-4">JOIN OUR ONLINE NETWORK COMMUNITY AT <a href="http://WWW.JUSMCC.NET">WWW.JUSMCC.NET</a>.</span><br /> <br /></p><p> </p></div>Are You Interested in Earning Extra Money for Your Needs, Desires, Goals, Business, or Companyhttps://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/are-you-interested-in-earning-extra-money-for-your-needs-desires2013-10-14T23:58:11.000Z2013-10-14T23:58:11.000ZPink-Pantha Elitehttps://mybbwo.com/members/PinkPanthaElite<div><p><span class="font-size-3">Everything in this world seem to cost. I have been researching the World Wide Webb for around 4 years for making more money opportunities and I have found so many scams, programs to join that cost anywhere from $25 -$499 and up to $5000 or more just to join not even getting set up,or after I got in that I was not interested in it.</span></p><p></p><p><span class="font-size-3">Once I got there I did not know what to do and of course if I needed help it cost more money, more money, and more money; I am talking about at the beginning everyone know on down the road you need to <strong>upgrade</strong> to improve your <strong>quantity of money</strong> but at the beginning it sometimes for some people ( especially with the economy and people business having to close) it needs to have a very low cost to get started and free would be great but you also need most of the time especially at the very beginning someone to either hold your hand showing you or give you setup by step easy to understand and be able to follow instructions so you will have your foundation set right to make your money grow like you want it too. Most of the time even when you pay all the money they want you to shell out you still don't get the complete blue print of step by step instructions to follow through with.</span></p><p></p><p><span class="font-size-3">But I have found it and it is <strong>Free to join</strong> and <strong>Free step by step video instruction</strong> so simple as though you may not be experienced with the internet or working on a computer. </span></p><p></p><p></p><p><span style="font-size:12pt;"><strong>Just listen and follow the Complete instructions</strong> and soon you will be making money for your self or for your business. You might need to upgrade your brick and mortar</span><span style="font-size:12pt;"> business or your internet</span><span style="font-size:12pt;"> business but what ever you need or want the extra money for this will help you. This one is for real so if you would like to check it out for your self or for a friend here is the link:</span> <a href="http://www.profit2day4tomorrow.ws" target="_blank" style="font-size:12pt;">http//www.profit2day4tomorrow.ws</a><span style="font-size:12pt;"> </span></p><p></p><p><font size="3">Don't shut down now</font> <strong style="font-size:12pt;">just follow through</strong> <font size="3">with it</font> <strong style="font-size:12pt;">completely</strong> <font size="3">and give your self a chance to change your life style or help keep your life style up that your or already use too.</font></p><p></p><p><font size="3"><strong>Oh, Very Important</strong> in the beginning make sure <strong>you write down on your agenda</strong> or <strong>calendar </strong>the <strong>date you</strong> are <strong>suppose to cancel subscriptions</strong> if you indeed want to cancel and than <strong>cancel before the end of the free trial</strong> or <strong>You will be Charged</strong> a <strong>Fee</strong> for the <strong>subscription you forgot to Cancel.</strong> These are companies that already have a large marketing budget for you to subscribe to there free trials. </font></p><p></p><p><font size="3">Go to this link and it will fully and completely explain every detail of what, when, where, and how to get started making <strong>You</strong> some <strong>Money</strong>. It will take a little bit of your time to get set up but once completed you will be set up than all that is out the way and you than or only spending a couple a hours a day to bring in a couple hundred a day depending on how much you really want to obtain. One hour might be fine for you every other day; you know your goals and how much you will want to be earning daily, weekly, and monthly.</font></p><p><font size="3">Jennifer</font></p><p><font size="3">662-508-0502</font></p><p><a href="http://www.profit2day4tomorrow.ws" target="_blank"><font size="3">http//www.profit2day4tomorrow.ws</font></a></p><p><span style="font-size:12pt;"><strong>Focus</strong> on what <strong>You</strong> <strong>Want</strong> and <strong>Believe</strong> <strong>You</strong> will <strong>Achieve</strong> it.</span></p></div>Desperate #8https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/desperate-82012-11-25T03:10:37.000Z2012-11-25T03:10:37.000ZDi Joneshttps://mybbwo.com/members/DiJones<div><p align="center"><b><i>Desperate</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>I can’t control my emotions</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>Desperate</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>My heart beats fast, my breathing is erratic</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>Desperate</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>I am going to be sick, my body is shaking</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>Desperate</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>I cannot think straight</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i> </i></b></p><p><b><i>People react and do things when they feel desperate that they may not ever do in any other circumstance. People become desperate for different reasons. My husband became desperate due to his addiction. He was desperate to get his next hit. It didn’t matter what he did or if he hurt me. His drug induced paranoia and the altered state of mind he was in was his reality. I became desperate to be the person he needed me to be. I was desperate to save myself which made my life become an extension of his reality. I was desperate to save myself, him and our marriage.</i></b></p><p><b><i>Our life got so bizarre it is hard to believe that the things that happened; really happened. It is hard to remember the sequence and details of the events. I felt like I was living in a nightmare. I felt trapped and wanted to run, but I couldn’t because I was afraid of what would become of my house if I left. I had nowhere to go because I didn’t want to involve my children. I couldn’t get myself together enough to deal with things in a calm manner. I was Desperate…</i></b></p><p><b><i>I learned that if I hurt myself, it would stop him from hurting me. He would be concerned about me enough that he would quit yelling and threatening me. I was desperate to protect myself from him and I decided I would not let him hurt me again. Somehow hurting myself was easier to deal with than being hurt by him. The first incident was when he saw a bruise on my leg and started accusing me of cheating on him. He wouldn’t stop and I was feeling overwhelmed and afraid. I ran to the kitchen and said ‘you want to see marks on my legs…’ and I started to stab myself until blood started spraying everywhere. He calmed down and didn’t hurt me. When I felt trapped, I would run out the door to get away. This would get him so mad because he said I was causing a scene. I would be afraid to go home because I knew he would hit me so instead I ran to the main street and jumped in front of a truck, hoping this would take me away from the pain forever. There were other variations of what I did out of desperation. I stabbed myself in my thigh and tried to stab myself in my chest. I cut my wrists both horizontally and vertically; one cut was 5-6 inches long. I tried to take multiple pills so I could sleep and never wake up again. I couldn’t live like this anymore and yet I had to try to find ways to live through it. </i></b></p><p><b><i>My life was no longer mine. My life revolved around his drug use. I no longer felt like a loved wife. He was setting himself up in single sites on a regular basis. He would not stop associating with other females or his “drug friends”. He was stealing money on a regular basis. He was hitting me more and more and the verbal and emotional abuse was daily. Nothing I did was right and I wanted to die. My life consisted of living from day-to-day not knowing what to expect. Every day was a challenge because everything revolved around his addiction and his reactions.</i></b></p><p><b><i>I do have to give him credit for one huge thing that he did. During this time, one of my daughters was pregnant. Every time I hurt myself or tried to kill myself he reminded me about my new grand-daughter and that she needed to know me. Thoughts of my new grand-daughter are what kept me alive. If not for her, I know I would not be alive today. </i></b></p><p><b><i>My ultimate act of desperation came and I cannot ever explain how guilty I feel. The guilt will weigh my heart for years to come.</i></b></p><p><b><i>As I became more and more afraid, as I felt I had no alternative, my mind changed. I no longer cared what happened to my house or my possessions. I started planning my escape, praying I could last until I was able to get away. There were still times when I felt like killing myself was my only escape. My daughter went into labor…now was the time. I went to be with her in the hospital, and did not return home. We talked at length and he continued to say he needed me home and that he wanted help. He seemed sincere and that is all I wanted was for him to get help. I went out-of-town and he said he was going to check himself into a rehab. While I was gone I called him and he did not answer then I found out that he had another woman in our house. I believe this woman was his drug dealer. He lied to me about it and that was the final straw for me so I had him served with a restraining order that I already had in place….”just in case”. I don’t’ know why this incident was any worse than any other incident, however something inside of me snapped. I knew that I had to do something or either he or I would soon be dead. My mind told me that he knew no one and therefore had nowhere to go; he would be forced to go to rehab. After all he said he wanted to go so this should help him to actually take the step needed. I always promised him I would not call the police….my guilt was so bad because I went back on a promise…that is something I try not to ever do.</i></b></p><p><b><i>I felt guilty…I felt confused…All I wanted was for him to get help so we could fix our marriage.</i></b></p><p><b><i>A couple of hours later he returned to our house. He jumped through our sliding glass door, obviously high. What happed next is unclear. I don’t remember all of the details. My doctors said I probably blocked it out and may not ever remember. I remember parts and I know the outcome…</i></b></p><p><b><i>His ultimate act of desperation … I do not know what he was thinking… I may never know…</i></b></p><p><b><i>I remember screaming when I heard the explosion of him jumping through the glass. My scream must have been so intense that it caused my neighbors to call the police. I know that he kept asking me why I did what I did. He took me to our room and tied my legs together. He later told me it was so we could talk…so I wouldn’t run like I always do. I remember the phone ringing a couple of times and screaming into the phone when I picked it up. He grabbed the phone from me, tore it out of the wall and threw it. I believe it was the second time I screamed that the police kicked in my door because they heard me. I remember being scared to death as the police said to come out or they would shoot. I couldn’t untie my legs and I knew they were going to kill me. I remember the police trying to tell me that my husband did certain things to me and I would not say that he did because I didn’t know or remember. They tried to say he attacked me with my daughter’s taekwondo weapons. When I told them he did not, they became angry. I refused to talk to them because they would not listen. My daughter took me to the hospital and found that I had a broken jaw and my ear was cut to the point the cartilage was exposed; I had it glued back together. The back of my head was totally bruised and I do not know how any of this happened. When I told his sister what happened she said I was stupid if I thought anything other than he was going to kill me. She said she knew him better than anyone and that was his intentions. Everyone told me things I did not want to hear, everyone said things about my husband that they believed…no one understood that he needed help…no one understood that I was not mad. I was desperate to save our marriage he was desperate for me to understand his problem…</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>We were both desperate for our fairytale to come true…</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>He had a problem just like I did…</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>The things we do out of desperation</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>Are our reality, at the time. </i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>The things we do out of desperations</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>Are the only options at the time. </i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>The things we do out of desperation</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i> Can change our lives forever.</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i> </i></b></p></div>Depression #9https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/depression-92012-12-08T19:47:20.000Z2012-12-08T19:47:20.000ZDi Joneshttps://mybbwo.com/members/DiJones<div><p align="center"><b><i>Empty</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>I cannot think</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>Empty</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>I have no feelings</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>Empty</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>My heart is gone</i></b></p><p><b><i>My husband went to prison. Many people would say: “Good that is what he deserves”, however that is not the way I look at it. When people hear my story, many gasp and say “oh my gosh”, however that is not the response I needed. </i></b></p><p><b><i>After my husband was arrested, I fell into the deepest depression I have ever felt. I didn’t know things could get worse in my mind. I didn’t know there could be a new level of giving up on my life. To say I felt like a failure or to say I couldn’t think straight or to try to express my feelings in any way, would not express the depression I was in. I lost over 40 lbs. I couldn’t eat; I couldn’t sleep. It took every bit of energy I had to be able to talk to anyone because I just wanted to be alone. I tried to be the person everyone expected me to be and that only caused me to feel worse. Everyone wanted me to hate my husband, they wanted me to not ever forgive him or even talk to him again. I couldn’t do that. Remember, the one thing I have always liked about myself is that I am “too nice”. I don’t judge and I don’t get mad at anyone. I hated myself for causing my husband pain. I hated myself for causing my children pain. I hated myself for causing my parents pain. I hated myself for all the decisions I had made that affected everyone’s life in a negative way. In order to heal, I had to get back to being me because if I couldn’t like myself, I could not ever move forward.</i></b></p><p><b><i>I was afraid to be in my house alone. The quiet would ring in my ears and no matter how I tried to stop it, it wouldn’t go away. I found myself pacing the floors and breaking down for what appeared to be no reason. First my heart would start beating so fast it hurt; then I would feel sick to my stomach and my body would feel hot and flushed; then my head would feel like it was going to explode. I would start to hyperventilate and feel like passing out. My emotions were uncontrollable, I couldn’t stop crying. I couldn’t concentrate on anything; even when I realized my mind was drifting, I could not control where it went. If only I could make my mind not remember. If only I could replace the memories with something good. I struggled within my mind because I couldn’t figure out if I was afraid to be home because of the events that had taken place or because of being alone. All I knew is my heart would start to pound as soon as I got in the house. The harder I tried the worse I felt and the deeper my depression became. I was always the person that handled all problems and made sure everyone was okay, why couldn’t I handle this? What was wrong with me? Was I losing my mind? I am not a stupid person, why couldn’t I control my thoughts? Why couldn’t I figure out what was right and what was wrong? My mind would tell me I should be a certain way and my heart would tell me something different. All I could think of was going to sleep and never waking up. My life was now consumed with two main thoughts; 1<sup>st</sup> to find a way to pay my bills, pay for my funeral and have everything in order so my husband and children would not have to deal with anything after I was gone; 2<sup>nd</sup> to be sure my youngest daughter was okay since she was the only child not living on her own I needed to know she would be okay when I was gone. I tried to tell myself that my being gone would cause my family even more pain…if I could convince myself of this maybe I could stop thinking of dying. I couldn’t’...I couldn't convince myself because all I could see is the hurt everyone was feeling and it was all my fault. I felt like I was a bad person and that I was being selfish because I didn’t want to be mad, I wanted to forgive, I wanted to find a way to work things out…my wants were causing others pain and again my mind told me that everyone would be better off without me. The struggle going on within myself was taking over my life. It is a feeling I cannot describe…to be sad would have been a happy state of mind compared to what I was feeling. I just wanted to feel peace….why couldn’t I feel peace?</i></b></p><p><b><i>I went to a doctor for help and was put on some sort of anti-depressants. They took the edge off, however it didn’t take long for me to realize I felt like a zombie with no feelings at all. Which is worse…no emotions or extreme emotions? I went to counseling groups to try to understand my feelings. I couldn’t find support for the feelings I was experiencing because of the different levels of my depression. Groups that dealt with abuse, told me to be strong and to prepare myself. They focused on how to protect myself. Groups that dealt with addiction, told me to distance myself from the problem and to not take responsibility for “his” problem. Individuals that I tried to talk to, told me to not believe in my husband and to get away from him. No one seemed to understand the core of my depression. It was not the abuse or the addictions it was the struggle within myself. Nothing helped….it only made me feel worse. I felt like my mind was going to explode. I couldn’t think straight because everything in my mind conflicted with my heart.</i></b></p><p><b><i>I guess I can admit that my depression was due to my husband’s actions. However, it is not due to the things he did. It is because of his actions, I was forced into a struggle within myself because of my inner most feelings and beliefs. There is no way to express what I felt like, there is no way to explain the thought process I was struggling with because to say the words out loud would mean I would have to live with what others thought of me. I would be labeled as “stupid” or “naive” or even “weird” and “not normal”. </i></b></p><p><b><i>Everyone thought they understood my depression, they even said it was “normal after what I had gone through.” Everyone knew what was best for me…However no one knew who I was. I was/am not a person who holds a grudge or who judges. I was/am not a person who thinks negatively about situations. I was depressed because I felt guilty for causing pain to everyone. I was depressed because I couldn’t express myself without being judged or labeled negatively. I was depressed because I felt like I was causing separation between my family, because of my beliefs. I was depressed because no one understood that I loved my husband and all I wanted was for him to get better so we could resume our life together. I was depressed because I couldn’t be me…I had to not get upset if they talked bad about my husband…I had to act as if I was ready to end my marriage…I had to pretend to be someone that I was not.</i></b></p><p><b><i>I made a commitment to my husband till death do us part. I made a promise to God that I would do everything in my power to honor my marriage. I believe in forgiveness. There is a difference between forgiving someone and knowing the things they did were wrong. It is not my place to judge the things that happened. It is my place to forgive as I would want God to forgive me for the wrong things I have done.</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>If I cannot live according to God’s will</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>I would rather not live on this earth</i></b></p></div>Reflections #14https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/reflections-142013-01-09T02:02:14.000Z2013-01-09T02:02:14.000ZDi Joneshttps://mybbwo.com/members/DiJones<div><p style="text-align:left;" align="center"><i><a href="http://www.DJsUniqueSound.com" target="_blank">DJs Unique Sound Charities</a></i></p><p style="text-align:left;" align="center"><a href="http://youtu.be/AU2W3fTfvcw" target="_blank">Reflections #14</a></p><p style="text-align:left;" align="center"> </p><p align="center"> </p><p align="center"><i>Reflections</i></p><p align="center"><i> Is Love Blind</i></p><p align="center"><i>Or do we choose to see only what we want</i></p><p align="center"><i> I can see clearly now</i></p><p align="center"><i> </i></p><p><i>We all have to look in the mirror to see ourselves. Sometimes we do not see what others see. We see what we believe about ourselves not necessarily what is real. Sometimes we see what our mind tells us and sometimes we see what our heart tells us; our self-image may be a mixture of both. </i></p><p><i>The story I have told is very 'one-sided' in many ways. It tells of the hurt I felt. This hurt was real to me, however it does not tell of the hurt I caused that was just as real to my husband. When I face my judgment day, I will have to account for every word I spoke and ever thing I did. I have to reflect on me because this is the only way I can heal. </i></p><p><i>When I look back I cannot believe some of the things I did. This was not me. I say that, I believe this, and I know it to be true; so why can't I accept the same from my husband? Why can't I accept that the things he did were not who he really is? I must accept this just as I ask him to accept me for who I am...who I truly am even through the things I did.</i></p><p><i>I yelled and I cursed.....oh how I yelled. I said hateful and hurtful things. I was selfish and controlling. At the time, I would have argued each of these admissions. At the time, I would have believed I was doing the right thing. I know now that I caused my husband to hurt in many ways also. I must admit my faults. The first is that I did not respect him as my husband; I did things that belittled him. I had been a single mom for 20 years and had only my son to turn to. This became a habit for me and I didn’t realize the hurt it caused my husband. If there was something to be done; I would instantly say “let me ask (my son)” I should not have done this, I should have asked and accepted my husband’s word and opinion. Another variation of this is that he would say something and I would not acknowledge that he said it until I heard the same thing from someone else. By doing this I made him feel like I was not listening and I didn’t put any importance to what he said; it made him feel like I cared what others thought or said more than what he thought or said. I should have known this because I felt the same way. I have a very bad habit of talking…and talking…and talking…This caused many pains. First it made my husband feel like I was treating him like a child. It is not uncommon for me to say something several different ways and many times over. I did not mean to make him feel like a child, this is something I really need to work on because not only did this cause my husband pain; I was also causing some of my own pain. My husband would tend to “tune me out” after a while or after my story was repeating and this would make me feel like he was not listening or like he didn’t care what I had to say when in reality I was saying the same things over and over again. </i></p><p><i>The next fault of mine is that I was very controlling. I had to have everything my way because if I controlled the way things were, I would be sure they were done correctly. I was so used to doing everything for myself and my children. In my mind I had to do everything to be sure all was taken care of; I had to be sure all problems were solved. Because of my mind set, I took charge in every situation and did not allow my husband to be the “man of the family”. My mind had convinced me that I was taking care of him. I would nag about everything; thinking that I was just making sure everything was getting done. The Bible says it is <b>Better to live out in the</b></i> <a href="http://www.chacha.com/topic/desert"><b><i>desert</i></b></a> <b><i>than with a nagging, complaining wife.</i></b> <i>Proverbs 21:19 &</i> <a href="http://www.biblestudytools.com/csb/proverbs/27-15.html"><i>Proverbs 27:15 says</i></a> <b><i>An endless dripping on a rainy day and a nagging wife are alike. </i></b> <i>This was me and I had no idea I was hurting him and I was not acting like his wife. I was being a mom like I have always been. He didn’t need a mom he needed a wife. </i></p><p><i>One of the faults that I hate about myself the most is in the things that came out of my mouth. It is still hard for me to believe that I cursed the way I did. I had not ever cursed like this before in my life. I not only cursed, I said some very hurtful and hateful things. I told my husband he was a crack-head whore, I told my husband that I hated him. There is no way for me to say I am sorry for the words that came out of my mouth. </i></p><p><i>The guilt I feel for the ugly words I said and the way I acted will haunt me forever….who am I to complain about the names he called me when I did the same to him? Who am I to judge him when I will have to stand before God for the things I did to him?</i></p><p align="center"><i>Stop … Think … Reflect</i></p><p align="center"><i>Only God can judge</i></p><p align="center"><i>We are all unique in the way God made us</i></p><p align="center"><i>Stop and see who you are before you judge others</i></p><p align="center"><i>Think and Thank God for all of our differences</i></p><p align="center"><i>No one is perfect … we all have faults</i></p><p align="center"><i> </i></p><p align="center"><i> Reflect and look inside yourself</i></p><p><i> </i></p></div>Addictions #7https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/addictions-72012-11-18T01:32:21.000Z2012-11-18T01:32:21.000ZDi Joneshttps://mybbwo.com/members/DiJones<div><p style="text-align:left;" align="center"><a href="http://youtu.be/DtTP3acIcIQ" target="_blank">Addictions #7</a></p><p style="text-align:left;" align="center"><a href="http://www.DJsUniqueSound.com" target="_blank">DJs Unique Sound Charities</a></p><p align="center"> </p><p align="center">Addict, Addiction, Addicted</p><p align="center">Ugly words</p><p align="center">Misunderstood words</p><p align="center">Words of Judgment</p><p align="center">Words of disgrace</p><p> </p><p><b><i>My husband’s drug addiction…is that what ruined my life? I am not even sure I can say that is true, because I have to be honest and I believe there are a lot of addictions that harm us in different ways. We all have addictions of some type; sometimes we call them habits. We may be addicted to exercise or coffee or gambling or so many other things. It is when our addictions are not in balance that our life can be thrown off. I had several addictions. My addictions were to be loved, to be accepted, and to be wanted. I would do anything to try to achieve those addictions. My addictions also played a part in the craziness of what I am about to tell you.</i></b></p><p><b><i>Two definitions I found, online, are:</i></b></p><ul><li>To cause to become physiologically or psychologically dependent on a habit-forming substance</li><li>To occupy (oneself) with or involve (oneself) in something habitually or compulsively; to devote or surrender (oneself) to something habitually or obsessively</li></ul><p><b><i>To say that my life got crazy or bizarre would not express the true craziness. This was a life I knew nothing of. I was not prepared. It took me a while to even know what was happening. I was so naïve to drugs that again…I did not see the signs. There is a world known to drug addicts that I never knew existed. There is a code amongst addicts that I couldn’t understand. My life would soon become his, in part, due to my own addiction. “To occupy oneself with or involve oneself in something habitually or compulsively”…wow… that describes me exactly. I was addicted to wanting to be loved…I was addicted to wanting to fit in…I was addicted to needing to be needed. We both did things………maybe due to our addictions.</i></b></p><p><b><i>I lied to my family to protect my husband. I became more and more distant from my family because I didn’t want them to see the truth. After all, he was the man that loved me…right? I became a person I had not ever been. I yelled and I cursed at my husband. I hated the person I was turning into and yet I couldn’t stop doing what I was doing. I didn’t know that by doing these things, I belittled him. I was trying to get him to see things my way and I couldn’t understand why/how he could be treating me the way he was. I wanted so much to have the “perfect marriage” without realizing that I was contributing to my own problems.</i></b></p><p><b><i>His crack addiction led him to do things that I am not sure he would have otherwise done. I say I am not sure, because to this day, I do not know if they were drug induced actions or if these things are a part of who he is. I know he lied to me all the time. He convinced me that he needed my 401K savings to go home and invest in a business deal to help us. I believed him because he talked to “his people” on the phone and it sounded real. He lost all the money. I do know that he stole money from me on a regular basis in order to support his need. First it was $50 at a time then it was hundreds at a time. I couldn’t question him because if I did, I would spark his rage. He would take my debit card from my purse and get money before I even realized it was missing. Once I realized what he did, I started sleeping with my purse next to me or I tried hiding my card. He always seemed to find it and the times when he didn’t he found my checks and wrote checks out to himself signing my name. My money was disappearing and I wasn’t able to pay my bills. I know that he kept in contact with people that I would rather not have in my life and that at least one was a female. This certain female would text my husband every morning and I would be furious each morning. That was the way our day would begin. I know he visited porn and single sites on a regular basis. I would find flirtatious messages some of which were very graphic and inappropriate. Again, this would trigger my anger to a point I couldn’t control the things that came out of my mouth. I know he stole all of my valuable jewelry and many household items; my diamonds and pearls were gone; our flat screen T.V. was gone; I would be looking for something random and find it was gone, things that had great sentimental value to me where just all of a sudden gone. All taken, in order to pay for his addiction. When I asked him, of course, he said he didn’t do it. He swore to me that he would not ever steal from me and yet so many things were mysteriously gone… One of the other traits of his addiction, that I finally learned, is that he would lose track of time. He once left the keys in the car with the car running; he left candles burning till they burned all the way down and melting all over everything. He would swear that he had the best memory. I felt like I had to bring things to his attention when those things could put us in some type of danger, but I soon found it was easier to just let the little things go. There were enough bigger things that got me so upset, I couldn’t seem to let them go. There were several times when he would forget to pick me up from work. One time in particular, he said he was going to get gas, instead he went to the bank…took out money…went out of town and left me to walk 5 miles home from work. He didn’t get home until the following day, with no explanation except that somehow it was due to something I said or did. His addiction was combined with ongoing abuse to cause another level of craziness. If I didn’t give him the bank card, I didn’t trust him. If I questioned his whereabouts, I treated him like a child. If I got upset about his cheating, I must be guilty of cheating. The drug addiction along with the abuse, meant I was being hit on a regular basis and I never knew what I did to deserve it other than the reasons he told me which didn’t seem real in my mind or were just plain not true. </i></b></p><p><b><i>When I learned of his addiction, I was finally able to see the cycle. It was usually a three (3) day cycle. He might be able to stay clean for a couple of days, however by the third day he was craving so bad and that is when he would be violent and extremely mean to me. Although I learned the cycle, I did not learn to keep my mouth shut and that is usually the reason I would get hit. Somehow, I still believed I could reason with him. I believed this because there were some days when he truly seemed loving and believable. He would tell me that he wanted help and that he needed me to help him. He would tell me that without me he couldn’t do it. I soon found out these were only words. He was so good at saying the right thing. He always knew how to convince me. I didn’t know this was another characteristic of a drug addict. He was in his own world and there was no reasoning with him. Many of the incidents I described happened before I ever knew he had an addiction and therefore I struggled even more because I thought it was all because of me.</i></b></p><p><b><i>My addiction to him also helped in making me believe in him. After all, he was my “fairytale husband”. If only I could get him to see…If only I could get him to understand…</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>If Only…</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>If is such a big word for being so small</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>It carries so much meaning that may not ever be</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>If</i></b></p></div>Hurt #6https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/hurt-62012-11-16T01:12:04.000Z2012-11-16T01:12:04.000ZDi Joneshttps://mybbwo.com/members/DiJones<div><p style="text-align:left;" align="center"><b><i><a href="http://http//youtu.be/2U_h9obhMvA" target="_blank">Hurt #6</a></i></b></p><p align="center"> </p><p align="center"><b><i>Hurt #6</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>Love is patient, love is kind.</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i> It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i><sup> </sup></i></b><b><i>It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking,</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i> It is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i><sup> </sup></i></b><b><i>Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i><sup> </sup></i></b><b><i>It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i><sup> </sup></i></b><b><i>Love never fails</i></b></p><p><b><i>The Bible tells me what love is…this is what I believe</i></b></p><p><b><i>My mind is a cloud. I don’t remember the specific details of each hit. I do remember the types of things that would cause them. I remember the bruises, the headaches, and the heartaches. I remember the lies I had to tell in order to hide what had been done to me. I remember feeling desperate. I remember feelings like I didn’t want to live any more.</i></b></p><p><b><i>It could have been because I looked at someone when I left work and smiled as I said bye; that meant I was cheating on him. He would question me and if I said no, he would call me a damn liar and back up his words with a punch.</i></b></p><p><b><i>It could have been because I stood behind him while in a meeting, that meant I was trying to hide so I could flirt and again I would pay for it when we were alone.</i></b></p><p><b><i>It could have been because I got a call on my cell phone that was the wrong number, and that meant I had a secret code to meet someone; again a reason to hit me.</i></b></p><p><b><i>Most of the incidents were because he thought I was cheating on him or lying to him. At first I thought it was romantic that he was jealous. After all, I had never experienced a kind of love where someone actually loved me enough to care what I did. My thoughts of romance were soon replaced with thoughts of death. There was one incident when he threw a dog bone at me and hit me in the head. My head cut open and started to bleed. There was another time he kicked me in the stomach. Another punch was to my eye, which caused my contact to cut my eye. Usually it was a punch. I say a punch because that is what it felt like to me however, there were many times when he said he “barely tapped me”. Those “taps” always seemed to leave bruises on my body. One incident left me with a black eye and the white of my eye was so filled with blood that I had to wear an eye patch to work. I am sure no one believed the lies I told about the patch after all the bruises they had seen on me. I tried to cover the bruises with make-up, I am sure people saw through my attempted cover up. </i></b></p><p><b><i>I was in an abusive relationship before and I always said I would not ever allow this to happen to me again. When you are in the middle of an abusive relationship, you cannot think straight. You are too busy thinking about you next move and how you are going to survive from one day to the next. </i></b></p><p><b><i>There is not much more to say about this. It is what it is. As much as the physical abuse may have hurt me and as bad as the descriptions may seem, they were actually nothing compared to the mental/emotional abuse. The physical affects would eventually heal however, the mental/emotional scars could last a lifetime. </i></b></p><p><b><i>Through the beginning phases of this abuse, I still had no idea my husband was addicted to crack. Maybe if I would have known, some of these things may not have occurred. Maybe, I would have been able to understand the hurt he was feeling that caused him to react the way he did. Maybe I would have been able to look at him differently and therefore see myself in a different way. Maybe I wouldn’t believe that I deserved what I got because he was the person with the problem not me. Maybe….just maybe….</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>Love is not supposed to supposed to hurt....</i></b></p><p align="center"></p><p align="center"><b><i> </i></b></p></div>Mind Games #5https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/mind-games-52012-11-09T03:06:59.000Z2012-11-09T03:06:59.000ZDi Joneshttps://mybbwo.com/members/DiJones<div><p align="center"><b><i>What is truth?</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>What is true to one person may not be true to another.</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>What is truth?</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>Our minds are unique</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>We process thoughts according to our own knowledge.</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>Are there really three (3) sides to every story?</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>Or are there many more depending on the story being told?</i></b></p><p><b><i>As I said before, I have always been labeled as “too nice”. I try to believe the best in everyone, I try to trust everyone, I try to see the good side of every situation, I don’t ever hold a grudge or judge anyone. This is the way my mind works. This is who I am.</i></b></p><p><b><i>If I am told something from someone I love, I believe them. When my husband told me, on our marriage night, that I did not ever have to flinch again because he would always protect me and he would not ever hurt me….I believed him. When he told me our fairytale marriage was real….I believed him. When he told me I could believe in him….I believed him. When he told me he loved me “Like the White Light”….I believed him. I stored all his loving words in my mind. Somehow they helped to balance out all the negative words that had been said to me in my past. </i></b></p><p><b><i>When he told me, shortly after we were married, that he would not ever cheat on me unless it was with someone much better than me….I believed him. When he told me stories of his past and the “bad” things he did….I believed him. When he told me “no black man would ever want me, except to use me until there was nothing left to use”….I believed him. When he called me names and pointed out all the things I did wrong…I believed him. When he told me all he had to do was call “his boys” and they would be here…. I believed him. When he told me I better be prepared because he always took care of business when least expected…. I believed him. When he told me he wouldn’t just get me…he would get my whole family because he didn’t leave witness’…. I believed him. When he told me he would burn my house down…I believed him. As he started to tell me more and more “negative” things, his previous statements started to appear to be lies. The words he said now reinforced all the negative things that I had heard all my life.</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>I believed him, because I had no reason not to.</i></b></p><p><b><i>Our marriage was based on the Bible and our mutual beliefs. He reminded me what the Bible said about being in a marriage. I was to submit to my husband. I was to forgive 7 x’s7 times. The husband was the head of the wife. We were to become one flesh. He reminded me of our vows. Till death do us part, for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer. He knew how my mind would process these reminders.</i></b></p><p><b><i>My mind processed what I knew from my past and what was now my present. As I mentioned in a previous post, I believe the effects of childhood bullying can lead to how a person feels about themselves and can lead to adult abuse both for the abuser and the abused.</i></b></p><p><b><i>His words were like daggers to my mind. His actions were even worse. I remember one time when he got mad at me (for what I don’t remember)…any way, I was sitting on our bed and he started yelling at me and calling me names then said he would burn our room down with me in it. As I sat on the bed he put his cigarette lighter to the mattress and it caught on fire. I was so scared but I couldn’t let it show. I sat there and prayed that God would take me quickly. By his reactions, I think he surprised himself because he tried to put the fire out as it spread faster and faster. He did get it out but the memory would stay burning in my mind for years. It reminded me that I should not ever take for granted anything he said or any of the threats he made. </i></b></p><p><b><i>He kept me humiliated and feeling like I was a disgrace by his actions and words. It became a regular ritual for me to come home from work and him make me take my undergarments off so he could inspect them to be sure I hadn’t cheated on him. He would also “inspect” my private parts for the same reason. I felt so humiliated because he would then tell me I stink or that my body somehow resembled that of a “w (word)”. On one hand my mind knew that what he said was not true…the things he did were not right, on the other hand my mind was so numb I couldn’t think straight because I was too busy trying to think of how to keep things calm.</i></b></p><p><b><i> My mind told me to run…and so I tried, only to be brought back. My mind told me to be scared and yet I had to try to hide my fright. My mind told me that I had no one to turn to and I was stuck. My mind told me I was some sort of bad person, although I couldn’t figure out how or what to do, to be the person he wanted. My mind told me that my life didn’t matter; the only important thing was to protect my children. My mind told me if I wanted to be loved by the person I loved, I had to be the person he wanted me to be and since I couldn’t be that person, no matter how hard I tried, it would be best if I was no longer.</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>Your Mind can play tricks on you</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>These tricks can either protect you or harm you</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>Believe in yourself</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>Trust in yourself</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>Love yourself</i></b></p><p><b><i>It is easier said than do</i></b></p></div>my fairytale #2 my story to help others that have been hurt by abuse and addictionhttps://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/my-fairytale-2-my-story-to-help-others-that-have-been-hurt-by2012-10-21T23:12:03.000Z2012-10-21T23:12:03.000ZDi Joneshttps://mybbwo.com/members/DiJones<div><p style="text-align:left;" align="center"><span class="font-size-4"><b><i><a href="http://youtu.be/p1Vqi3JsifM" target="_blank">my fairytale #2</a></i></b></span></p><p style="text-align:left;" align="center"><span class="font-size-4"><b><i><a href="http://www.DJsUniqueSound.com" target="_blank">DJs Unique Sound Charities</a></i></b></span></p><p align="center"><b><i>It was my fairytale</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>Everything I ever dreamed of.</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>After all that I had been through,</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>After all the neglect, abuse, lying and cheating,</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>I finally found the man that would love me for me.</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i> </i></b></p><p><b><i>It started with a phone call to help a friend. The calls were short with messages to a mutual friend about his son. Until one day we started to talk about the Bible. We connected in such a way, it was like a whirlwind. We were so alike and yet complete opposites. It had been a long time since I felt this type of connection, the feeling of being accepted for being the person I am. The phrase “you are too nice” has been told to me all my life. Being nice was the one thing I liked about myself. I couldn’t understand why this was always said to me in a negative way. Maybe I was “too nice”…… I always tried to find the good in people and I always tried to believe in people. You would think I would have learned since every relationship I was in proved to me, that I was wrong. Every relationship that I believed in turned out to be a lie. Now I found someone that could relate to my every hurt. I found someone who had been hurt and betrayed to the same degree as I had.</i></b></p><p><b><i> We were exactly the same and completely opposite. We had both recently been in the same type of relationship on opposite sides. He was in prison and his significant other left him, cheated on him and did not stand by him in his time of need. I was engaged to a man in prison and I stood by him for 10 years until he cheated on me and left me as soon as he got out. He is black, I am Hispanic. He is in his early 40’s, I am in my mid 50’s. He grew up on the street, I had a “normal” childhood. We both knew the same type of hurt and understood each other. Our two opposite sides…our two halves could be put together to make a whole. He was tired just as I was. God brought us together for a reason. We could help each other to get over our insecurities and the hurt that had built up in our hearts. </i></b></p><p><b><i>We talked on the phone for about a month and a half and then I flew to St. Louis to meet him. We got married the same day…My fairytale had begun. </i></b></p><p><b><i>All my life I felt left out. I felt like the “black sheep” in every situation……like I was different, like I didn’t fit in. The weekend in St Louis was one of the best weekends of my life. I felt like I belonged and like I was accepted. I will not ever forget the way he held out his hand for me when we walked. I will not ever forget the way he held me when I told him my stories of being abused, the way he told me I would not ever have to flinch again because he would always protect me and not ever hurt me. These things probably seem small to most people, but they were HUGE to me. These were the types of things that defined love for me because I had not experienced them in my past. There are no words to explain the feelings that these two actions gave me. The way he made me feel; took away the pain of my past relationships. He told me he would treat me like a queen and that is exactly what I felt like. I knew i would not ever be alone again. I knew we were one and our love would only grow stronger as we got to know each other and share our lives. It is not often you can find someone that understands your inner most feelings because they also have those same feelings. My husband is a singer/songwriter, he expressed his love for me in songs he wrote and he sang them to me with so much love in his eyes that my eyes would fill with tears when he sang them. I was in a fairytale dream...</i></b></p><p><b><i> </i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>I felt special</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>I felt like I belonged</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>I could believe, hope & smile again</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>I could love again</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>I could be me and still be loved</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i> </i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>Fairytales do come true</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>or at least I thought they did...</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i> </i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i> </i></b></p></div>words #4https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/words-42012-11-05T02:20:11.000Z2012-11-05T02:20:11.000ZDi Joneshttps://mybbwo.com/members/DiJones<div><p align="center"><b><i>It’s not your fault,</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>You didn’t’ know your words would eat away at my heart.</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>It’s not your fault,</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>You didn’t’ know your words would break my spirit.</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>I don’t blame you,</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>You couldn’t have known.</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i> </i></b></p><p><b><i>I remember my sister once told me that you should be happy most of the time and have a few unhappy days, when you are in a relationship. I was unhappy most of the time and lived for the few days when things were good. I didn’t realize at the time that there was a cycle that I could count on. I was too busy trying to do everything right to be able to notice anything around me. The verbal, mental and emotional abuse was something I had to deal with daily. I did not ever know if I should speak or have an opinion of my own. I was always on edge. There would be times when we would be in the middle of a “normal” conversation; everything would be great and then I would say something wrong and everything would change. If my words were not EXACTLY as he thought I should say them, the accusations and name calling would begin. We came from different life styles, we came from different cultures and evidently, I didn’t know how to speak or express myself correctly. I tried so hard to say the right things in the right way…I just couldn’t get it right. If I talked “too much” or explained things in detail, he would accuse me of treating him like a child. I have been used to talking in detail with my children and family…we talk and repeat the same thing in several ways. We analyze and we discuss in detail, however when I spoke this way with my husband, again, I was accused of treating him like a child and I had to pay the price by being yelled at and called names. If I tried to explain, it just made matters worse. Even as I write this, I feel my heart start to beat fast because I am afraid I am saying “too much”. If my children called me, I had to be careful of every word I spoke in fear he might take something wrong. </i></b></p><p><b><i>I learned how to listen verbatim. If I paraphrased something and didn’t get it right, he would yell at me for “putting words in his mouth”. If I said something and then latter changed it, I was “lying” or “up to something”. If I forgot something, or didn’t remember exactly as it was said days before, I “was stupid” and a “damn liar”. Anything I got wrong could easily be turned into proof that I was cheating on him or that I was somehow putting him down. I wasn’t and I couldn’t find a way to show him.</i></b></p><p><b><i>I felt like I was losing my mind. There were times when I knew something was said or not said. It may have been that I didn’t remember word for word or that I had a different understanding of what was said then he did; it didn’t matter….I was always wrong.</i></b></p><p><b><i>If I argued what I believed I had heard, I would have to pay with his verbal assult on me.</i></b></p><p><b><i> I was a “damn liar”; I was a “m…f…”; I was a “c (word)..”; I was a “b (word)…”; I was “stupid”; “No one could be that naïve, so I must be lying”; I was a piece of “s (word)”; I was a “w (word)”;</i></b></p><p><b><i>His anger was so strong and the tone of his voice was so harsh, when he spoke these words to me, I was scared and felt helpless. </i></b></p><p><b><i>When you are in school, they call it bullying….as an adult it is abuse. Years of hearing the same types of things carried into my adult life reinforcing and strengthening each word and each name as it was yelled at me.</i></b></p><p><b><i>The name calling echoed in my mind every day and it got louder and louder each time the words were repeated.</i></b></p><p><b><i>There was a very fine line between the verbal, emotional and physical abuse. One crossed right over to the next and any one could trigger the other.</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>In school we learned</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>“Sticks n Stones may break your bones,</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>But words will never hurt you.”</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>My Daddy always told me</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>“Don’t care what other people think”</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i> </i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>Why do his words hurt me so much?</i></b></p></div>Crash #11https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/crash-112012-12-23T23:47:01.000Z2012-12-23T23:47:01.000ZDi Joneshttps://mybbwo.com/members/DiJones<div><p style="text-align:left;" align="center"><i><a href="http://youtu.be/sALh4L5a0TM" target="_blank">Crash #11</a></i></p><p style="text-align:left;" align="center"><a href="http://www.DJsUniqueSound.com" target="_blank">DJs Unique Sounc Charities</a></p><p align="center"> </p><p align="center"> </p><p align="center"><i>Crash #11</i></p><p align="center"> </p><p align="center"><i>Imagine your Highest Highs</i></p><p align="center"><i>The most spectacular events of your life</i></p><p align="center"><i>Imagine your Lowest Lows</i></p><p align="center"><i>The worst events of your life</i></p><p align="center"><i>CRASH</i></p><p><i>Is it better if I had not ever experienced such Highs in my life? Would it have been better if I had not ever had such high beliefs in someone? Would it have been better if I had not ever had such high hopes for my future? Would it have been better if I had not ever put my total trust in someone? Would it have been better if I did not believe in my fairytale marriage? If I did not experience these things I would not know the blessings of each. If I did not experience these things I would not have crashed so hard.</i></p><p><i>I was convinced that God had brought us together. After all, we would not have ever met unless this was true. Because of my beliefs, I put all my trust in my husband. I had always held back my emotions; I had never let my heart out to anyone like I did now. I remember telling my husband that this was my last chance to find love. I am 15 years older than he and I convinced myself that if this did not work, I would not ever try again. Having told myself that, I knew I had to give 1000% of myself, I couldn’t hold anything back, I had to trust and believe in him and our marriage. I know marriage takes work and I was willing to do what I needed to do. I knew I was finally going to be happy. I remember acting like teenagers and it felt so good to be giddy and carefree. I remember saying people were going to be jealous of our relationship. </i></p><p><i>I worked so hard to make our home a place I was proud of. This was a place where everyone was welcome and everyone could feel the love within the walls of our home. We had so many plans and dreams and they all began in our home. Now my house was boarded up. I was afraid to be home alone. The security of my home was gone.</i></p><p><i>There are three things that I had expected most out of our marriage. I look back now and think maybe I expected too much. Maybe, it wasn’t fair of me to expect what I did. These things were important to me and I expressed these things to my husband even before we got married.</i></p><p><i>The first was that I was extremely lonely. I hated to go to any family event because I always felt alone. I was the one person just sitting there with no one to talk with. I didn’t fit in. I had to pretend like I was happy, when inside I felt very lonely at ever get together. Now I would not ever be lonely again. I looked forward to family events just so I could be with my husband and not be lonely. Now I am lonelier than I have ever been in my life. It hurts more to be lonely when you are with someone than to be lonely when you are by yourself.</i></p><p><i>The second was to make sure my Dad knew he never had to worry about me again. I have had such bad experiences in the past and I always felt like I put worry on my Dad. I had a husband that promised to love and protect me. I couldn’t wait for my Dad to meet him so he would know he didn’t ever have to worry about me again. Now I have caused more worry and pain to my family because of the things that happened. How can I ever make this up to my Dad?</i></p><p><i>The third was to have someone love me for who I am. Someone that would love me no matter what and that I could love back with love unconditional. I had the kind of love that was so strong that my husband would dedicate his life to me and I to him. I was on my highest high and in love “Like the White Light”. I have the experience of love even if it were for only one weekend in St Louis. I was blessed with that weekend. Now all I have is a memory. </i></p><p><i>Everything else was taken from my heart.</i></p><p><i> </i></p><p align="center"><i>The things that I lost cannot ever be replaced by anyone except the person that took them</i></p><p align="center"><i>I had everything I ever dreamed of and more</i></p><p align="center"><i>I believed and had hope for my future</i></p><p align="center"><i>All was taken away from me <br />I Crashed</i></p><p><i> </i></p></div>Betrayed #12https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/betrayed-122012-12-29T22:39:11.000Z2012-12-29T22:39:11.000ZDi Joneshttps://mybbwo.com/members/DiJones<div><p style="text-align:left;" align="center"><b><i><a href="http://www.DJsUniqueSound.com" target="_blank">DJs Unique Sound Charities</a></i></b></p><p style="text-align:left;" align="center"><a href="http://youtu.be/GRxSGsyc9ww" target="_blank">Betrayed #12</a></p><p align="center"> </p><p align="center"><b><i>Is it wrong to believe in a person</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>Is it wrong to think the best of the person</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>Is it wrong to love someone unconditionally</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i> </i></b></p><p><b><i>My husband came home and I was in 7<sup>th</sup> heaven. I was so excited to begin my long awaited fairytale. I knew in my heart that we would be okay and our dreams would come true. We had worked so hard at understanding each other and at studying God’s word so we would live the right way. The things he did after he came home from prison would destroy all the trust that we had built up while he was gone. The promises he made, were nothing but words.</i></b></p><p><b><i>After about 2 months, he got mad about something and slapped my face. I don’t remember what he got mad about; I just remember how shocked I was that he put his hands on me again. As always, he was sorry and swore it wouldn’t happen again. He never hit me again.</i></b></p><p><b><i>Soon after this incident I realized that he had started using drugs again. Things got more bizarre than before. I don’t know if it is because he was using more or if it was because it was a different type. I am still naïve to this, but I do know that once again my fairytale became a nightmare and this time it was worse in many ways. Although he did not hit me again, there were so many other things that were worse.</i></b></p><p><b><i>His paranoia was so intense that it scared me. I couldn’t reason with him because in his mind his paranoia was real. The things he saw or suspected were real and of course, I needed to be aware or something might happen to me. I am not sure if he got high during the day. I suspect he did and I know he did other things that were totally disrespectful to me and our marriage. He would get high when I got home from work saying he was only going to “do a little”. That “little” would last all night. He would pace around the house in a way that made me scared. He carried a knife with him at all times and if I tried to sleep I would be woken with him standing over me with the knife in his hands. He would watch out the back window with binoculars because, as he said, a house in the next neighborhood would turn on or off their lights when he watched. He would tell me to watch the light and I honestly did not see what he saw but it was real to him. The most bizarre thing he did was due to his paranoia. I would be sitting on the couch and if he happened to come into the room and I moved at the same time he walked in, he would get so angry at me and start yelling and cursing. He was convinced that I had someone inside/or under the couch and I was having sex with them and that is why I moved. I was so scared by the way he would come at me and turn over the couch to see who was under it. Again, I couldn’t reason with him because if I tried it would only get him angrier. If I slept with my legs a bit parted and then closed them because I adjusted in my sleep; that meant I was having sex with someone or something. I was so afraid to do anything. I was afraid to sit on the couch or sleep or do anything because I didn’t know how he was going to react. I soon started to sleep with a knife and carry a knife with me at all times. I didn’t do this to hurt him; I did it because I swore I would not let him hurt me again. I would hurt myself first. I could not live like this again. I wanted to die but I had to do it in a way that he would not get in trouble for it. </i></b></p><p><b><i>There came a time when I knew I couldn’t be in the house with him if he was high. I packed my car with clothes and a jug of water. I told him that if he got high I would not be there. He didn’t seem to care. I slept in my car almost every night because that is where I felt safe. Sometimes I slept in the driveway of our house and other times I slept in parking lots; it all depended on how scared I was. After a while, I started sleeping at my job. I think what hurt the most is that he didn’t care if I was in a parking lot somewhere sleeping in my car. He didn’t care if I was sleeping on a couch at work. All he cared about is that he was able to get high. I believe he actually liked for me to be gone because he was cheating on me. It was no longer just the internet sites, now it was in person and with prostitutes. I found out that he was paying to have sex with prostitutes on a regular basis. I cannot explain the hurt this caused me on so many different levels. First because I believed in him and I believed in our marriage and this showed me he did not have the same beliefs as I did. Second because he continually accused me of cheating on him and therefore was justified in his mind to hurt me and yet he was the one doing it all along. Third because I remembered what he had told me shortly after we got married…”he would not ever cheat on me unless it was with someone better than me.” So this is what he thought of me? A wife who dedicated her life to him, who stuck by him no matter what and he would rather be with a prostitute?</i></b></p><p><b><i>I couldn’t tell my children or anyone else what was going on. I had to keep this all to myself and therefore hurt by myself. No one would understand why I didn’t want to get him in trouble. He continued to tell me he wanted help. I believed him…he was so convincing. His problem was getting worse. His actions were getting worse. </i></b></p><p><b><i>I have been told that you can’t help someone if they don’t want help. I tried to help him. He did not want help. I finally realized there was nothing I could do to help him.</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>To love someone unconditionally</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>Is to let them be who they want to be</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>To love someone unconditionally</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>Might mean to let them go</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>To love someone unconditionally</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>Sometimes hurts</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i> </i></b></p></div>Healing #10https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/healing-102012-12-15T19:26:41.000Z2012-12-15T19:26:41.000ZDi Joneshttps://mybbwo.com/members/DiJones<div><p style="text-align:left;" align="center"><b><i><a href="http://www.DJsUniqueSound.com" target="_blank">DJs Unique Sound Charities</a></i></b></p><p style="text-align:left;" align="center"><a href="http://youtu.be/ldcD4hvEULQ" target="_blank">Healing #10</a></p><p align="center"> </p><p align="center"><b><i>Time to heal</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>Mentally, physically & emotionally</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>Time to heal</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>From the hurt, abuse, & betrayal</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>Time to heal</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>So life can go on…</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i> </i></b></p><p><b><i>We had met the day we got married so we really didn’t know each other. We were able to change this during the course of the time he was gone. We were able to use this time to heal and to grow together. We talked in length about everything that had happened and why. We discussed how we felt and what we needed to do to help each other. We learned to trust each other; we learned to believe in each other. Most of all we used this time to grow in Christ. Many people would say that everyone finds God in prison. I say that is great, because it is the story of the prodigal son. God makes good of all evil if you allow him to and if you believe and ask. We asked and we believed. We took this time to start up our non-profit to help others. We could use our experiences to help someone else. For that reason it would all be worth it. God has a reason for all things; this was our reason. My husband expressed our feelings best when he put the saying on his back…”embracing the struggle”. I could hope again…I could believe again…I was excited about our future.</i></b></p><p><b><i>It wasn’t easy and it didn’t happen fast. I was still depressed and struggled to find a way out of my depression. I had lost my job which caused another level of stress for me, however it turned out to be a blessing because I was able to watch my new grand-daughter. Every time I looked at her I was reminded of my thoughts of death and how her birth had brought me hope. She was my angel…She was a blessing…She helped save my life. I focused on her and how precious she is, I focused my thoughts on my own children and my other grand-children. I focused on my husband and helping him to heal.</i></b></p><p><b><i>One day, while watching my grand-daughter, I was flipping through T.V. channels and accidently came upon a Joyce Meyer telecast. I am not sure what caught my attention. I watched the entire episode and knew that God was talking to me. I still had to deal with the guilt I felt for the restraining order. I still had to deal with the guilt I felt for causing my family pain. I knew it was time for me to heal and to put the past in the past. I heard words that I had heard all my life and it reminded me of who I was. I didn’t ever think I could get into a state of mind that would pull me away from my core beliefs and yet my depression was causing me to not be able to remember these simple beliefs. I watched the next day and the next and slowly began to feel my heart open and my mind clear. I felt light…I felt like I could believe again…I felt happiness</i></b></p><p><b><i>It has been proven that there are certain stages that most people go through in order to heal or in grieving a loss. 1<sup>st</sup>) Denial and Isolation; 2<sup>nd</sup>) Anger; 3<sup>rd</sup>) Bargaining; 4<sup>th</sup>) Depression; 5<sup>th</sup>) Acceptance. There is not a set amount of time that each stage should or might last. There are not any limitation to the severity of each stage. We are all unique so there is no right or wrong way to get through your loss or your individual hurt. Everyone I knew gave me advice to help me heal, however they did not realize that I am different; I am unique. The struggle I had, was to face the fact that I had a right to hurt in my own way and in my own time. My sister told me this recently and I didn’t realize that what she said was exactly what was causing me pain in my healing process. I could not change what others thought about my situation, I could only change the way I thought about my situation. I began to “embrace the struggle”. I began to remember that God does things for a reason.</i></b></p><p><b><i>The White Light…..It was shining brightly. I cannot explain the new feelings I had within my heart. My husband and I had so many plans. We took this time to heal in a way I didn’t think was possible. We took this time to grow together. We were one. We both wanted the same things and we were ready to work together to achieve them. The second chapter of my fairytale was becoming a reality. I was blessed in so many ways and I knew everything is possible with God.</i></b></p><p><b><i>I believed this was a new beginning……no looking back</i></b></p><p><b><i>Was I wrong?</i></b></p><p><b><i> </i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>Anything bad can be turned into good</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>It is all in how you look at it</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>Look on the positive side</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>And life will be much brighter</i></b></p></div>Broken #3 - to help those in pain due to abuse and addictionhttps://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/broken-3-to-help-those-in-pain-due-to-abuse-and-addiction2012-10-28T02:00:00.000Z2012-10-28T02:00:00.000ZDi Joneshttps://mybbwo.com/members/DiJones<div><p style="text-align:left;" align="center"><b><i><a href="http://youtu.be/-958jVIGrbE" target="_blank">Broken #3</a></i></b></p><p style="text-align:left;" align="center"><b><i><a href="http://www.DJsUniqueSound.com" target="_blank">DJs Unique Sound Charities</a></i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>Sometimes it's impossible <br /> To leave the past in the past</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>Sometimes it's impossible</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>To reach your deepest inner feelings</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>Sometimes it's impossible</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>To separate what is real and what is ingrained in you</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>Because of your past</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i> </i></b></p><p><b><i>We had a saying ..."I Love you Like the White Light." By saying this we expressed how our love was pure and beyond anything of this world. it was from Christ...</i></b></p><p><b><i>W both had a near death experience in our past. Mine was from a former partner when he tried to kill me, by strangling me. The white light was so beautiful and peaceful. The feeling is beyond anything that can be explained in words. I remember asking God to take me, I was ready to go. I wanted to go and experience the peace that the white light was offering me. He didn't take me, however he did give me something that I didn't realize at the time. He gave me strength to know that I was not afraid of dying. The peaceful feeling I had at that moment would give me strength to face what lie ahead.</i></b></p><p><b><i>The fairytale was fast becoming a nightmare....the white light was fast fading into a black hole that I couldn't escape.</i></b></p><p><b><i>I opened my heart to my "fairytale husband". Before we got married he had asked me to tell him of every relationship I had been in. I told him if our marriage depended on me telling him, we should not marry. I told him I was afraid of him using this against me. I knew...why didn't I believe in my own instincts.</i></b></p><p><b><i>After we got married, he made me feel like I could tell him everything. He made me believe that in order to be one, we had to be totally honest and open with each other. I told him how all my life I had been told how ugly I am. I told him about my previous abuse. I told him about my being raped on more than one occasion. I told him about all the mean and hateful things that were said to me. I told him specifics and in great detail. I told him because he made me believe in him.. I believed I could be me and he would still love me. I let out my heart to him. It felt so good to be able to express myself to someone in such detail. I could let out all those repressed feelings that I have carried all my life... those feelings that eat away at you little by little. The feelings that you don't dare speak out loud because if you do, they will become real to someone else and you will be found out. The feelings that you hold in a secret part of your heart; because to speak them out loud would be to acknowledge their truth. I told him how everything made me feel...I told him everything because I finally felt like I had someone I could trust that would understand me and that loved me enough to care. In telling him my inner most feelings were somehow released... I could be happy...I didn't have to be ashamed of who I was.</i></b></p><p><b><i>I had no idea he would use everything I told him against me. I had no idea he was addicted to crack. I had no idea of what lay ahead.</i></b></p><p><b><i>He used to say something on a daily basis</i></b></p><p><b><i>"signs and symbols for the conscience mind...if you cannot see, you are truly blind"</i></b></p><p><b><i>I didn't see the signs...He said these words to me on a daily basis, why did I not see the signs before it was too late.</i></b></p><p><b><i>It started with mental and verbal abuse. The things he said to break me down. I should have seen the signs. These types of things were said to me before. He would tell me I was lying when I knew I was not...he would tell me of the things he had done in his past to keep me scared and aware of his capabilities. It was so subtle and he did it in such a loving way that I didn't notice him using my insecurities against me. He would accuse me of cheating on him and when I tried to explain that I have not cheated on him he would bring up my past. I couldn't believe this was happening because it was exactly as I predicted before we even got married ... something he promised would not ever happen.</i></b></p><p><b><i>The accusations became more and more frequent, the tone of his voice changed from loving to hateful. He would hang on to my every word and if I said something incorrectly he yelled with such a harsh voice that I was afraid to speak for fear of saying the wrong thing. I began to feel like there was something wrong with me as he made sure I knew that he acted the way he did, because of me. If I questioned this he would say something like..."you don't even see the things you do" or "don't you even hear yourself". I tried so hard to stay calm because if I dared to cry, he would say something like, " I don't want to hear that fake ass sh**." I began to feel that I could not do or say anything right. It didn't help that I had started menopause and my emotions were totally out of control. When or if I tried to explain to him that I was changing ...my body was changing, he would get mad and tell me that has known plenty of women and they did not act the way I did. He said my body smelled and insisted it smelled of sex and that I had been cheating on him. I was so embarrassed and I couldn't fix the problem because what he accused me of was not true. What was wrong with me? Why couldn't I be the person he wanted?</i></b></p><p><b><i>It started...I was 'walking on eggshells.' I always felt like my heart was going to jump out of my chest, my nerves were gone and I felt like my insides were always shaking and ready to shut down. I felt like I couldn't think straight; I couldn't ever say the right things; I couldn't express my feelings or emotions; I couldn't be me...because no matter what I did or said, it always seemed to be the wrong thing. I must be a bad person...there must be something wrong with me since he is not the first person who has said these things...I have heard such things throughout my life. How could this be happening when he was the person that made me feel so special and now I felt worse than I had ever felt in my life. I couldn't face my family or friends because to express what I was going through would be to admit I was a failure. </i></b></p><p><b><i>I was alone.......My spirit was broken</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>I am who I am</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>Because of my past</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>I am who I am</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>Because of my beliefs</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>I am who I am</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>Because I can only be me</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i> </i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>If God be for me</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>What man can be against me?</i></b></p></div>Helping Youth at Risk and the Young at hearthttps://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/helping-youth-at-risk-and-the-young-at-heart2012-06-03T18:15:03.000Z2012-06-03T18:15:03.000ZDi Joneshttps://mybbwo.com/members/DiJones<div><p>I have been gone for awhile as I was concentrating on a new challenge. We started with DJs Unique Sound & Entertainment which was established to help local artist brand themselves and gain exposure through social media. We have expanded and are extremely excited to announce....DJs Unique Sound Charities. DJs Unique Charities is a non profit in Phoenix, Arizona. Our ultimate goal is to obtain a motor home and to convert it into a mobile recording studio. Our mission is to help youth by giving them a way to express themselves in a positive way through music and photography instead of negatively in the streets. It has been a slow start, however, believe in what we are doing and we know our work will help build up self esteem and self worth. If we can make a difference in one person's life, all the work is worth what we put into it. We are always looking for suggestions/help.</p><p>Diana Jones</p><p>DJs Unique Sound Charities</p><p><a href="mailto:DJsUniqueSound@aol.com">DJsUniqueSound@aol.com</a></p><p><a href="http://www.DJsUniqueSound.com" target="_blank">DJs Unique Sound Charities</a></p></div>FREE Training Confidently Market Your Biz Like a Superstar on a Shoestringhttps://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/free-training-confidently-market-your-biz-like-a-superstar-on-a2012-03-07T05:03:16.000Z2012-03-07T05:03:16.000ZRobin Tramblehttps://mybbwo.com/members/RobinTramble<div><p>FREE Training Confidently Market Your Biz like a Superstar on a Shoestring</p><p></p><p><img src="http://i577.photobucket.com/albums/ss219/4empowerment/225freetrainingsuperstarshining-star_379459225x226b.jpg" alt="" /></p><p>Attention: Women Entrepreneurs, Coaches, Consultants, Speakers, Authors or other Women in Business and you Smart Men who’ve also raised your hands to glean from my expertise…..</p><p>Are you struggling with marketing your business? Do you get anxious at the thought of marketing your business online?</p><p></p><p><font color="#660000" size="4"><b>“Finally the truth about marketing your business online without the overwhelm, with little or no money so you can increase your profits while having free time left over for what matters most!”</b></font></p><p><font color="#660000" size="4"><b><br /></b></font></p><p>Robin Tramble Empowerment and Certified Social Media Marketing Campaign Specialist will share with you How You Can Market Like A Superstar on a Shoestring Budget!</p><p><strong>Here’s some of what you’ll discover</strong></p><p><strong><br /></strong></p><p>Importance of a Magnetic Superstar Marketing Mindset<br />7 Shoestring Marketing ideas and resources<br />One mistake you’re making that’s sabotaging your sales success<br />3 Steps to Online Marketing Success<br />One thing you must do if you’re going to jump start your marketing endendeavors<br />Fast and easy ways to market your business with little or no money<br />How to leverage your time and double your productivity<br />Fatal mistakes you’re making with your website<br />And more!</p><p></p><p>If you’re tired of reinventing the wheel and doing it alone. Tired of the information overload and hype this call is one you don’t want to miss.</p><p><a href="http://bit.ly/marketlikeasuperstar" title="" target="_blank">Request VIP access to my FREE training here</a></p><p></p><p>We’re rolling out the carpet for you!</p><p>Only 200 phone lines</p><p></p><p>Talk soon!</p><p></p><p>Coach Robin</p><p>EMPOWERMENT and Certified Social Media Marketing Campaign Specialist</p><p></p><p><a href="{{#staticFileLink}}10744078275,original{{/staticFileLink}}"><img src="{{#staticFileLink}}10744078275,original{{/staticFileLink}}" width="150" class="align-full" alt="10744078275?profile=original" /></a></p></div>POWER up your Social Media Marketing with this for a profitable experiencehttps://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/power-up-your-social-media-marketing-with-this-for-a-profitable2012-02-29T01:24:47.000Z2012-02-29T01:24:47.000ZRobin Tramblehttps://mybbwo.com/members/RobinTramble<div><h1>Power up your Social Media Marketing with this for a profitable experience</h1><div class="date"><div class="dateleft"><p></p></div></div><div id="ileContent-2455"><p>There are 5 basic steps that you must follow if you’re going to have a profitable<br />Social Media experience. One of those steps is to identify your goal for each network.</p><p>There are many ways in which Social media can bring marketing success to your business. Before you start it’s important to know what exactly it is you’re trying to achieve. This will enable you to track your success and tweak your various methods easier to work on once things have started rolling with your business.</p><p>Social Media can assist in many different aspects of your marketing. Whether you are aiming at driving traffic to your site, generating referrals and sales, or just plain having a way to communicate with both current and prospective clients, social media makes this entire process much easier to accomplish.</p><p>There are a few things to keep in mind, however. the simple goal of accumulating connections through social media outlets is not the only thing necessary for a successful business. Having lists of thousands of “followers” or “friends” in your various social media platforms may be nice, but it will not make you the successful businessperson you are striving for if nobody does anything but make small talk.</p><p>There’s another important step that I’ll share as a bonus and this is to identify your strategy for not only obtaining these followers, but converting them into actual paying clientele. Another option would be to add them as associates or affiliates. It’s important to have some type of product or service each of these potential clients can relate to, in reference to their own needs. Do keep in mind that blatant sales pitches could result in rapid loss of your followers or contacts. Try to find a “happy medium” per se, where you will be providing added value information or suggestions these contacts will find useful.</p><p>Power up!</p><p>I invite you to receive additional insights on Social Media by joining other dynamic women and I for “Empowerment Diva Rocks Social Media and You Can Too!” A Free Social Media training for beginners</p><p><a href="http://bit.ly/stopbeingbestkeptsecret" title="" target="_blank">Secure your VIP Access to my Bonus Social Media Training Call here</a></p></div></div>7 Social Media Mistakes You May Be Making That Are Costing You Business and Clientshttps://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/7-social-media-mistakes-you-may-be-making-that-are-costing-you2012-02-14T07:50:42.000Z2012-02-14T07:50:42.000ZRobin Tramblehttps://mybbwo.com/members/RobinTramble<div><p></p><p><img src="http://i577.photobucket.com/albums/ss219/4empowerment/socialmediasymbolsfbtwitterli300x74.png" alt="" /></p><p><strong><span><br /></span></strong></p><p><span>Social Media is more than the latest trend. It is strongly becoming a must use tool for Businesses that are positioning themselves to gain a big piece of the market they’ve deemed their target. If you want to be seen as an authority in your field you’d do yourself justice by either acquiring the skills to utilize and I will say “effectively” use Social Media or outsource it.</span></p><p><strong><span><br /></span></strong></p><p><strong><span>Here are 7 Social Media Mistakes You Might Be Making That are costing you Business and Clients. </span></strong></p><p><strong><span><br /></span></strong></p><p><strong><span>1. You’re less than Authentic</span></strong><br />You know I’m going to talk about being authentic some where in this post. So why not start right from the top. Your followers whether on Facebook, Twitter, Linkedin etc. can smell a lack of authenticity a mile away and once they do the won’t be around for long. And I’m not stating this as a trend or the latest term being shopped around. People will follow those they can trust and so this is a great segway to embracing the know, like and trust factor. Do this and you’re on your way to converting your followers in to customers and clients who will sing your praises “to others!”</p><p> </p><p><strong><span>2. You are not clear on your Goal</span></strong></p><p>This is one of the most significant steps to realizing a profitable experience on Facebook. What is it that you wish to accomplish with Social Media and even more important what is your goal on each Social Media Network that you designate as your focus. If you’re beginning start with one to focus on. Of course you can set up an account on the the two major networks Twitter and Facebook and you might even give it a try on Linkedin, however, you want to focus on really getting a handle on one as your primary focus and then move on to another one. Take the time to get clear on your goal.</p><p><strong><span>3. You’re not clear on your Target Market</span></strong><br />This is step 2 if you desire to realize a profitable experience on Facebook. This is also one area many are missing it. You’re all over the place and your language is confusing. I’m sure you’ve heard the statement “a confused mind” doesn’t buy. If you want to amp up your results take the time to do your homework and define who your target market is. If Facebook is your primary focus right now, who is your target market? When you post on your Facebook page you should be speaking in terms of your target market. We haven’t even talked about your niche, however, even before getting to deep into that you need to determine who are Target Market is.</p><p><strong><span>4. You’re not Engaging</span></strong></p><p>Are you simply posting links and offers on your social media networks? This is a FATAL mistake. The Social is not in Social Media just because. If you’re going to have empowering success using Social Media you must engage and it must be value added.</p><p><strong><span>5. Too much Promotion – Close to Spamming</span></strong><br />There is a ratio that I like to mention to my clients and that is to serve up 60% Value added posts, 20% Retweets, sharing on Facebook and 20% sharing of your offers, links and such.</p><p>One thing that can sabotage your empowering success when attempting to effectively use Social Media that will render customers, clients and convert them into those that sing your praises “to others” is too much promotion which can actually be considered spamming or close to it.</p><p><strong><span>6. Out of balance with Quality vs Quantity</span></strong><br />Sure it’s great to have thousands of followers, friends and likes, however, what good does it do if you don’t have a balance of good quality content going out to a quality of followers, friends and community of individuals who have liked your Facebook page?</p><p>When starting out you may be tempted to go for the quantity as you’re creating your page because you need 25 to get the username and that’s after your first use of the no limit to get the username but after that your goal should be to gain targeted likes, followers, friends and to not only post the maximum of updates, tweets but to post value added content.</p><p>If you’re looking for a profitable experience, take the time to create a healthy balance between quality posts, quality targeted followers, friends and likes.</p><p> </p><p><strong><span>7. You’re operating with a negative mindset</span></strong></p><p>Operating with a negative mindset can sabotage your empowering success with Social Media. In one of my posts I refer to 3 mindsets to avoid which includes; The inferiority, Scarcity and It’s Too Late For Me mindset. These are three to avoid. You must embrace a positive mindset. A mindset of success. Feeling like you don’t have enough, that there isn’t enough to go around and so you feel there’s no room for you or that it’s too late will cause you to give up before you even begin or throw in the towel right before a possible breakthrough. Cultivate a positive mindset. This is just an excerpt from my post but you get the gist of it don’t you?</p><p> </p><p>I’ve shared great content on the mistakes you may be making when using Social Media that are costing you business and clients. Of course this is a list of a few of the mistakes.</p><p>Social Media is a phenomenal tool when used correctly which brings me to my next point. It’s up to you to acquire the skills needed to upgrade your life and business. I’m offering you an opportunity now.</p><p>I invite you to register for my Jump Start Your Social Media and Online Marketing Success Teleseries! <a title="" href="http://bit.ly/stopbeingbestkeptsecret" target="_blank">Go here and secure your place and discover more about building your list and attracting clients within 30 days! </a>If you’re serious about growing your business you should be building your list/community and when you do it effectively you will greatly enhance your ability to attract clients within 30 days!</p><p><a title="" href="http://bit.ly/stopbeingbestkeptsecret" target="_blank">Go ahead request your FREE access now!</a></p><p>I’d love to read your thoughts. You’re welcome to leave a comment. Thanks!</p><p>Your Empowering Coach “The Empowerment Diva”</p><p> </p><p><strong><span>Other posts you might enjoy</span></strong></p><p><a title="" href="http://authenticlifeempowerment.com/business/7-tips-to-jump-start-your-social-media-success/" target="_blank">7 Tips to Jump Start Your Social Media Success</a></p><p><a title="" href="http://authenticlifeempowerment.com/business/got-social-media-success-could-your-mindset-be-holding-you-back/" target="_blank">Got Social Media Success? Could your mindset be holding you back?</a></p></div>High Content Teleseries to Empower Women Entrepreneurs to Effectively use Social Media for increased profits and visibility for FREEhttps://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/high-content-teleseries-to-empower-women-entrepreneurs-to2012-01-10T02:20:57.000Z2012-01-10T02:20:57.000ZRobin Tramblehttps://mybbwo.com/members/RobinTramble<div><p>PRESS RELEASE</p><p></p><p>January 9, 2012 - Robin was introduced to Twitter and turned away out of lack of understanding it, however, because she can identity a tool that will position her for greater visibility, an ability to up level as an authority in her field It wasn't long before Robin Tramble aka Empowermentdiva went from under 100 followers to attracting droves of followers to her Twitter-verse as she likes to call it and it was all done without gimmicks. She began to attract clients some of which are still with her today and soon joined the Facebook and Linkedin Community.</p><p>Robin wants to share how individuals can gain world-wide visibility, get results, increase profits using Social Media without the overwhelm and information overload.</p><p>This training will be limited to 200 phone lines. Registration opens January 5, 2012 <a href="http://bit.ly/stopbeingbestkeptsecret">http://bit.ly/stopbeingbestkeptsecret</a> If you want to be sure to join you can use the webcast or log in early.</p><p>Authentic Life and Biz Empowerment and Social Marketing Specialist, Robin Tramble will reveal her TOP SECRETS on how to stop being the best kept secret and gain world-wide visibility, results and profits</p><p>Robin was also named 1 of 25 urban entrepreneurs to follow on Twitter by Brand Maker News.</p><p>During this training Robin will discuss:</p><p></p><p>* Why You Should Use Social Media if You're Serious About Building a Thriving Business <br />and Ministry<br />* How Your Mindset Could Be Sabotaging Your Social Media Empowering Success<br />* Surefire Ways to Get and Stay Focused<br />* Proven Tactics for Attracting Targeted Followers on Twitter<br />* Proven Tactics for Attracting Targeted Friends and Likes on Facebook<br />* Important Steps Needed for Profitable Social Media Endeavors<br />* Mistakes You're Making That's Sabotaging your Success<br />* How to Move in the Face of Fear<br />* How to diminish and eliminate the Overwhelm<br />* How to leverage your time when using social Media<br />Plus a bonus tactic for getting traffic to your blog or site when using Linkedin<br />And more!</p><p>"I'm going to share tactics that you'll be able to use immediately after the call."<br /><br /></p><p>Social Media is not going anywhere too soon so you might as well get a piece of the pie by learning how to effectively use Social Media to upgrade your business, gain world-wide<br />visibility and profits while having time for what matters most.</p><p>Media inquiries may be directed to Gen Larson info@RobinTramble.com</p><p>--- end ---</p><p></p><p></p><p><strong>About Robin Tramble</strong></p><p></p><p>Robin has coached and mentored spiritually minded women, women entrepreneurs, speakers, authors, coaches and consultants internationally on how to manifest their Authentically Brilliant Diamond Life and Business via her live and virtual events, programs, products, services, mentoring and coaching. Her Social Media Campaign Specialist Certification has equipped her with additional empowering resources for those she is so passionate about empowering "YOU!" Learn more about how she can support you here <a href="http://www.Authenticlifeempowerment.com">http://www.Authenticlifeempowerment.com</a> She is also an Author, Speaker, Trainer who is known for her passion for helping others to become empowered to discover their uniqueness, get unstuck, laser focused, uncover disempowering behaviors, master their mindset.make BIG changes and get results.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><table cellspacing="0" width="40" align="right" border="0"><tbody><tr><td></td></tr></tbody></table><p><img src="http://www.ideamarketers.com/images/contacticon.jpg" align="left" alt="contacticon.jpg" /></p></div>Do you want more Profit for your business? Want more qualified leads? Social Media Marketing can help you!https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/do-you-want-more-profit-for-your-business-want-more-qualified-12011-11-02T07:24:29.000Z2011-11-02T07:24:29.000ZRobin Tramblehttps://mybbwo.com/members/RobinTramble<div><p><a href="{{#staticFileLink}}10744071460,original{{/staticFileLink}}"><img class="align-full" width="250" src="{{#staticFileLink}}10744071460,original{{/staticFileLink}}" alt="10744071460?profile=original" /></a></p><p> </p><p>I want to ask you what do you know about the following sites – FaceBook, Twitter, Linkedin, MySpace, Youtube ?</p><p>While you might know the URL for the sites in question, did you know that you could use these Social sites to drive qualified leads to your business?</p><p>For small business owners running a business and making a profit is more difficult day by day. Very few business owners have enough clients. Paying for leads, advertising in the Yellow Pages, running ad’s on radio and television are all expensive, and without any guarantee of getting the results you need.</p><p>I don’t want to sound negative, but that is the reality.</p><p>Social Media Marketing is affordably, and more importantly it is guaranteed to work. We are a local business who specialise in delivering results for small businesses in the Sacramento area and Globally via the internet.</p><p>Social Media Marketing is really a very simple concept. </p><p>The fact that you have heard about FaceBook, Twitter, Linkedin, MySpace and Youtube should give you some confidence, because your customers have too. They use their computers just about every day – so getting your message in front of them is not going to take long.</p><p>Want to discover how to get results and increase profits using Social Media? Don’t miss my 2 Part Tele-training! <a href="http://90daysofempowerment.weebly.com/home.html" target="_blank">Go here to register for my Social Media Training</a>. It’s absolutely free to you this time.</p><p> </p><p>Empowering you!</p><p> </p><p>Robin aka The Empowerment Diva</p></div>Got Social Media Success? Could your mindset be holding you back?https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/got-social-media-success2011-11-01T05:00:00.000Z2011-11-01T05:00:00.000ZRobin Tramblehttps://mybbwo.com/members/RobinTramble<div><p><a href="{{#staticFileLink}}10744071101,original{{/staticFileLink}}"><img src="{{#staticFileLink}}10744071101,original{{/staticFileLink}}" width="407" class="align-full" alt="10744071101?profile=original" /></a></p><p></p><p>Could your mindset be holding you back from realized Social Media Success?</p><p>Any level of Woman Entrepreneur Empowerment requires continued personal, spiritual and business development endeavors.</p><p>Social media is playing a BIG role in business development. Believe or not your mindset also plays a BIG role in weather you are successful or not successful.</p><p>Your mind is a powerful thing and although there are many contributing factors the wrong mindset can hold you back from realizing the results you desire.</p><p>Here are three mindsets that will stop you every time.</p><p><br /> <strong>1. Scarcity mindset.</strong> When you operate from a mindset of scarcity you see everything from a perspective of lack. You may resist trying to learn new tactics or even attempt to apply what you’ve learned because you feel there are already so many people out there in your field so why try? Truth be told there are many individuals out there who need your expertise and are waiting for you to step up and out so that they can resolve some of their problems with your solutions, however, how will they know if you never get out there. Also you may choose not to invest in additional resources that will empower your results but your scarcity mindset kicks in again causing you to hold on to every penny because there may not be enough for something else.</p><p><strong>2. Inferiority mindset</strong><br /> Here you always size yourself up with others who are miles ahead of you. Stop! When you do this you will end up giving up and this is fuel for low self esteem. Instead tap into your brilliance. What makes you unique? What are you bringing to the table that gives you a competitive edge? It’s important that you take the time to discover this. Once you are clear on the value that you offer you will no longer practice the activity of comparison,however, you will arise and shine for all the world to see!</p><p><strong>3. It’s too late for me mindset</strong><br /> Sure things may not have happened the way you want them to happen, however, as long as you have breath in your body there’s hope. Take inventory of why things are not working. Don’t be a victim of time. There are many who started in there latter years and actually realized more in their latter years than their earlier years. Spend your time discovering new ideas, strategies and resources. Determine who it is you are here to serve. Develop an appropriate brand and make sure you have an online visibility plan that works.<br />Where are you in your Social Media Marketing endeavors? Do you recognize yourself in any of the mindsets mentioned? There are many more. Take inventory of some of the negative chatter that happens when you attempt to move forward with Social Media.</p><p>Effectively using Social Media can dramatically increase your visibility, bottom line and position you as an authority in your industry.</p><p>I’d like to offer you an opportunity to do something positively different to POWER up your<br /> Social Media endeavors.</p><p>You’re invited to join me for my 2 part Social Media Tele-series. Get Results, Profits using Social Media. I’ll be sharing insights specifically towards Facebook and Twitter. </p><p> </p><p><a target="_blank" href="http://bit.ly/getresultssocialmedia">Click here to secure your seat now for this empowering Tele-class for your Social Media Empowerment now!</a></p><p> </p></div>Do you want more Profit for your business? Want more qualified leads? Social Media Marketing is the answer!https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/do-you-want-more-profit-for-your-business-want-more-qualified2011-09-25T01:20:20.000Z2011-09-25T01:20:20.000ZRobin Tramblehttps://mybbwo.com/members/RobinTramble<div><p><b><font size="4">Do you want more Profit for your business? Want more qualified leads? Social Media Marketing is the answer!</font></b></p><p><font size="4"><b><br /></b></font><br /><img src="http://i577.photobucket.com/albums/ss219/4empowerment/socialmediasymbolsfbtwitterli300x74.png" alt="socialmediasymbolsfbtwitterli300x74.png" /></p><p> </p><p>I want to ask you what do you know about the following sites – FaceBook, Twitter, Linkedin, MySpace, Youtube ?</p><p>While you might know the URL for the sites in question, did you know that you could use these Social sites to drive qualified leads to your business?</p><p> </p><p>For small business owners running a business and making a profit is more difficult day by day. Very few business owners have enough clients. Paying for leads, advertising in the Yellow Pages, running ad’s on radio and television are all expensive, and without any guarantee of getting the results you need.</p><p> </p><p>I don’t want to sound negative, but that is the reality.</p><p> </p><p>Social Media Marketing is affordably, and more importantly it is guaranteed to work. We are a local business who specialise in delivering results for small businesses in the Sacramento area and Globally via the internet.</p><p> </p><p>Social Media Marketing is really a very simple concept. Our small team uses the most powerful software available to make sure that your message is delivered to exactly the right target audience.</p><p> </p><p>The fact that you have heard about FaceBook, Twitter, Linkedin, MySpace and Youtube should give you some confidence, because your customers have too. They use their computers just about every day – so getting your message in front of them is not going to take long.</p><p> </p><p>We can adapt our campaigns to suit your budget. Give us a try, we guarantee you won’t be disappointed.</p><p>Please feel free to contact us at <a href="mailto:aboutworldwidevisibility@gmail.com" target="_blank">aboutworldwidevisibility@gmail.com</a></p><p> </p><p>I look forward to speaking with you.</p><p> </p><p>Empowering you!</p><p> </p><p>Robin aka The Empowerment Diva</p></div>Does Affiliate Marketing Make Substantial Monthly Income?https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/does-affiliate-marketing-make2011-06-03T23:22:26.000Z2011-06-03T23:22:26.000ZSheila Caldwellhttps://mybbwo.com/members/SheilaCaldwell<div><p>Affiliate Marketing is a great way to make some additional income outside of your primary business? Here's A "Done-For-You" Prospecting and Booking Service that can earn you $800 each time you refer other network marketers, stay at home moms or anyone looking to make some extra monthly income.</p><p> </p><p>How would you like to receive an email that says " "YOU GOT MONEY!" Click below to learn how!</p><p><a href="http://bit.ly/iECZ3D">http://bit.ly/iECZ3D</a></p><p> </p></div>Celebrating Mother's Day Moms in Biz Spotlights for the Month of May - Get yourshttps://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/celebrating-mothers-day-moms2011-05-05T07:13:07.000Z2011-05-05T07:13:07.000ZRobin Tramblehttps://mybbwo.com/members/RobinTramble<div><p><a href="{{#staticFileLink}}10744064460,original{{/staticFileLink}}"><img width="275" class="align-full" src="{{#staticFileLink}}10744064460,original{{/staticFileLink}}" alt="10744064460?profile=original" /></a></p><p> </p><p>Hello,</p><p> </p><p>Mother's day will be here soon. I'd like to celebrate by doing a Moms in Business spotlight</p><p>for the month of May!</p><p> </p><p>You will receive a Spotlight on The International Association of Christian women Entrepreneurs site and my Blog.</p><p> </p><p><span style="color:#993300;" class="font-size-5"><strong>Bonus</strong></span>: If you're a VIP Inner Circle member you will also receive two tweets to my following on Twitter of over 11,000.</p><p> </p><p>Request your FREE membership to The International Association of Christian Women Entrepreneurs <a href="http://www.acwentrepreneurs.ning.com" target="_blank">here</a> and view</p><p>the post under Expert Blogs/Articles with the same topic.</p></div>Turn your knowledge into profits and activate your magnetic cash flow force so you can realize your best year ever!https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/turn-your-knowledge-into2011-03-15T09:00:00.000Z2011-03-15T09:00:00.000ZRobin Tramblehttps://mybbwo.com/members/RobinTramble<div><p> </p><div><font color="#000066" class="size10 Helvetica10" face="Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif"><b>Turn your knowledge into profits and activate your magnetic</b><br /></font></div><div><font color="#000066" class="size10 Helvetica10" face="Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif"><b>CASH flow force so you can manifest your best year ever!</b></font></div><p> </p><p>Do you feel that everybody else has an innate ability <br />to make money via their knowledge or passion but you? <br /><br />Do you play small and feel that you don't know enough to command an <br />investment in your offerings? <br /><br />How many opportunities have you missed due to low self esteem or lack of <br />confidence in your abilities? <br /><br />Do you spend endless nights comparing yourself to others? <br /><br />Want to monetize what you know but don't have a clue where to begin? <br /><br />Tired of the hype and ready for the support you need that <br />will guide you and empower you to manifest a new <br />healthier, fabulous you inside/out? <br /><br />I have a solution for you!! </p><p> </p><p>It's time you started monetizing your knowledge and making available the solutions you have</p><p>for your identified target market and even deeper your niche (those whom you serve).</p><p> </p><p><a href="http://www.robintramble.com/fitandfabulousyouinfo.html">Click here</a> to secure your seat now! <br /><br />"Give me just 45 minutes <br />and I'll share with you secrets to <br />turning your knowledge into <br />profits so you can activate <br />your magnetic cash flow <br />force!" <br /><br />You'll also embark on a journey <br />to wholeness as you realize Total <br />Transformation, manifest as the unstoppable <br />irresistable woman you were meant to be <br />with laser focus, an EMPOWERED mindset <br />and live an Authentically Brilliant <br />Diamond life!!<br /><br /><br />When: Thursday March 16 at 1:00 PM PST, 4:00 PM EST <br />This week's topic: Turn your knowledge into profits and activate your magnetic cash flow force! <br />Can't take the call? The audio replay will be available to all registrants </p><p>Cost: None</p><p><a target="_blank" href="http://www.robintramble.com/fitandfabulousyouinfo.html">Click here</a> to secure your seat now!</p></div>I Fired My Boss...https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/i-fired-my-boss2011-02-07T07:30:00.000Z2011-02-07T07:30:00.000ZApple Danielshttps://mybbwo.com/members/AppleDaniels<div><span style="color:#e33258;"><em>When I walked out those doors I said I wasn't going back and I meant it.</em></span> I didn't know how it was going to happen and apart of me feared facing the reality of what would happen if it didn't but <span style="color:#ee3258;"><strong>THANK YOU GOD</strong></span> for hearing my prayers... and I mean <span style="color:#ee3258;">I PRAYED!</span> I still can't believe it's real!<br /><br />I just couldn't do it anymore. If I said that part of me wasn't thinking "What the heck are you doing girl?" I'd be lying. But that fact of the matter is <span style="color:#e33258;">I just walked away from a Fortune 50 company not a Fortune 50 paycheck</span> and the sad part is I realized that it was never going to happen. I earned my Bachelor's degree while pregnant with the twins and then spent my Master's program pregnant and dealing with the new baby. In between degrees (and in a period of 1 1/2 years) I applied for eight promotions and received eight denials, some without any explanation. The straw that broke the camel's back for me was applying for a position within my own department, having my supervisors tell me I wasn't qualified, hiring a mail and file clerk giving her a minimum $20-$30k increase and then asking me to train her. HA!! If that isn't the biggest slap in the face, but I digress...<br /><br />Needless to say I began to plan my exit strategy. I wish I had a great elaborate story for you that speaks of how I waltzed into my boss' office on a random day and dropped the bomb on them. How I stuck it to "the MAN" just when he thought he had me down but that's not what happened. The truth of it all is that I devised a plan. My exit strategy was well thought out and I had the great benefit of working and building my business with the security of having a job and being on maternity leave allowed me to be at home full time with nothing to do but learn while receiving a paycheck. Still, without gaining and applying knowledge I know that this would have never happen and that without deciding to take action I could have just as easily been returning to that dead-end job.<br /><br />I know know you're thinking "Girl in this economy? People are dying for jobs and you're giving yours up?" YES!! I am! See when everything in the world is going right people get complacent. Dreams fade away because jobs are secure and many just coast along earning what they feel is a decent paycheck. But the last few years has shown many of that nothing is guaranteed. A new supervisor that doesn't like you, changes in policy, a failing/failed economy can put you on the wrong side of poverty faster than you can blink. Maybe you know someone this happened to... maybe it happened to you. Regardless, now is the time to take control of your own destiny... to fight the power so to speak. The greatest movements in history that produced real change came when people decided enough was enough and claimed <span style="color:#e33258;">freedom</span> for themselves.<br /><br />As I've said many times my reason for creating <span style="color:#e33258;"><strong>Maven On a Mission</strong></span> was not so much about internet/network marketing and signing people into my opportunities but more about giving moms who want to be home with their children the opportunity to do so. I've learned so much in the past 6 months to a year about being a real entrepreneur... an UNSTOPPABLE ENTREPRENEUR that I can't wait to share with you all. So much value has been poured into me knowingly and unknowingly that there is nothing for me to do but to pour it back out. I genuinely want to see you home with your children (or working from home period) if that's where you desire to be.<br /><br />To those of you that have been following this blog, thank you for your continued support and to those just joining, welcome, welcome, welcome. Stay tuned... this is going to be a ROCKIN journey!<br /><br />Wishing you growth and prosperity!<br /><br /><a href="http://www.mylivesignature.com" target="_blank"><img style="border:0;background:transparent;" src="http://signatures.mylivesignature.com/85828/apple1229/d963773cd230798d616fb1c5b48bf24b.png" border="0" alt="d963773cd230798d616fb1c5b48bf24b.png" /></a><br /><br />P.S. 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Go on.. <a href="http://www.7figurenetworker.com?a=1602035"><span style="color:#e33258;">click here</span></a></div>7 Traits of a Successful Entrepreneurhttps://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/7-traits-of-a-successful2011-01-20T22:55:29.000Z2011-01-20T22:55:29.000ZShelley Graveshttps://mybbwo.com/members/ShelleyGraves<div><p align="left"><a href="{{#staticFileLink}}10744059469,original{{/staticFileLink}}"></a><a href="{{#staticFileLink}}10744059469,original{{/staticFileLink}}"><img class="align-left" width="275" src="{{#staticFileLink}}10744059469,original{{/staticFileLink}}" alt="10744059469?profile=original" /></a><br />Do you dream of starting your own business? Do you know what skills and traits are needed to be a successful entrepreneur? More importantly, do you think you have what it takes? This article will touch on 7 of the most important traits of a successful entrepreneur.</p><ol><li>Self confidence – the successful entrepreneur is noticeably confident. Self confidence is an extremely important characteristic for the successful entrepreneur. Before you start your business, you should feel confident in your abilities and trust yourself and your unique set of skills. When and if the time comes, the successful entrepreneur knows how to summon the drive and determination needed to achieve his dream of starting his own business. He should be confident enough to tackle adversity and resolve any problems that could interfere with his dream.</li><li>Risk taker – successful entrepreneurs don’t always play it safe. They know when to trust their instincts and act on a hunch. Some of the greatest business ventures in history started from a simple “gut feeling” or “hunch”. Let’s face it, there’s always the risk of loss or failure, but the successful entrepreneurs is not afraid to take that chance. </li><li>Fiscally fit - the successful entrepreneur is careful with his finances. He understands the value of money and is usually very particular about his expenditures for his business as well as in his personal life. He may have learned the value of money at an early age; maybe as a teenager who mowed lawns after school or a little boy who took the neighbors trash out every evening.</li><li>Good Intuition – some entrepreneurs claim to “just know” (hunch) if a product or service is going to be a success. No, they aren’t psychic, most likely they just really pay attention to what’s going on in the world around them. They pay attention to the latest trends and are usually active in their industry in some way.</li><li>Competitive nature – the business world is highly competitive regardless of the industry you’re in. The successful entrepreneur knows he must be aggressive if he wants to achieve his dream. He doesn’t feel threatened by his competitors and is always looking for ways to make his business stand out from the crowd. He’s not afraid to work hard to be successful.</li><li>Honorable habits – the successful entrepreneur has a good work ethic. He welcomes suggestions and criticism from his customers or clients and diligently looks for ways to improve his business products and services based on those suggestions. He believes that good work ethic will lead to better business practices, improved business reputation and good standing among industry peers and business associates.</li><li>Vacation time – the successful entrepreneur recognizes the importance of leisure time. He knows when it’s time to step back and relax and spend quality time with family and friends. Taking time away from the hectic business world rejuvenates our mind and body and allows us to better deal with the stresses and strains that inevitably come with having our own business.</li></ol><p align="left">There you have it – 7 of the most important traits of a successful entrepreneur. </p><p align="left">Keep in mind that just because you possess some or all of these traits there is never a guarantee that you will be successful. These are but a few of the ingredients in the recipe for success. If you do happen to possess these traits, congratulations! You have a solid foundation to start building your success. </p><p align="left">---------------------------------------</p><p align="left">About the Author:Shelley Graves is a Virtual Business Support Specialist and owner of Capitol Business Support. Based out of Washington, DC, Shelley specializes in providing virtual business support services, including social media and internet marketing, to new small business owners. Visit <a target="_blank" href="http://www.capitolbizsupport.com">Capitol Business Support</a> today for a FREE business support assessment and FREE Special Report on how I can help you grow your business.</p></div>Will you experience an absolutely empowering week? Tips to empower youhttps://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/will-you-experience-an2011-01-17T03:05:17.000Z2011-01-17T03:05:17.000ZRobin Tramblehttps://mybbwo.com/members/RobinTramble<div><p>The best way to have an empowering week is to start off Monday with a solid foundation.</p><p> </p><p>This preparation begins with Friday. Set yourself up for an empowering week by closing out your week. Take inventory of what tasks you completed. Add those that you didn't complete to the list for the following week.</p><p> </p><p>Here's an important thing to remember. Do not make your top 10 to do list. Make a top 3 priority list. Among them will be at least one thing that will be cash producing.</p><p> </p><p>Read my Facebook update</p><p>Are you ready for an absolutely,empowering week? What are your top 3 to do items for Monday? Add action steps that will allow you to complete them. Avoid checking email first. Focus. Take targeted action. Balance your social media activity. Don't let it consume your day. Allow for a time to step away during the day to avoid overwhelm. Commit your works to the Lord. And so shall your plans succeed. Proverbs 16:3</p><p> </p><p>Want to accelerate your results? Embrace a mindset for success. Whatever happened the week prior is not what you want to focus on. Remember what you focus on expands!</p><p> </p><p>Focus on the results you expect to achieve. Focus on what it will look like when you achieve your desired results. Focus on what it feels like.</p><p> </p><p>Get rid of the negativity. Negative attitudes, negative environment, negative relationships. Of course I’m not suggesting that you get rid of you marriage relationships, however, you can seek out ways to empower your relationships. We’ve actually set up a community to help you do this on our Marriage Empowerment Coach page on Facebook.</p><p> </p><p>The tips I’ve shared in this post should get you started on the right path to your empowering success.</p><p> </p><p>Of course if you need additional support you might consider securing your Coaching A La Carte session</p><p>with me. <a href="http://tinyurl.com/coachalacarte" target="_blank">Click here</a> to find out more and get started.</p><p> </p><p>Here's to your empowering week!</p><p> </p><p>Share your ideas below.</p><p> </p><p>Robin aka The Empowerment Diva</p><p>Authentic Life and Biz Empowerment</p><p>Coach,Mentor,Trainer and Public Speaker to</p><p>Savvy women, New,Aspiring and Entreprising Women Entrepreneurs</p><p><a href="http://www.Authenticlifeempowerment.com">http://www.Authenticlifeempowerment.com</a></p><p> </p><p> </p><p> </p><p> </p><p> </p></div>DO YOU NEED SCHOLARSHIPS FOR COLLEGE ?https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/do-you-need-scholarships-for-2542010-12-06T03:30:00.000Z2010-12-06T03:30:00.000ZNorris Colemanhttps://mybbwo.com/members/NorrisColeman<div><span lang="en" xml:lang="en"><br /></span><p align="center"><span lang="en" xml:lang="en">New scholarships posted everyday)</span></p><p align="center"><span lang="en" xml:lang="en"><font color="#0000FF" size="5"><font color="#0000FF" size="5">Students Seeking Education by Experiencing Academic America (S.E.A.)</font></font></span></p><p><span lang="en" xml:lang="en">an <b>Houston, Texas</b> based mentoring program for <b><font color="#FF0000">high school students</font></b>, <b><font color="#FF0000">students at risk</font></b>, and <b><font color="#FF0000">college bound students</font></b> who want to attend an <b>Historically Black College / University. (HBCU).</b></span></p><p><span lang="en" xml:lang="en"><font color="#0000FF">S.E.A</font> <font color="#000000">will post a scholarship for minority students each day. If you are a high school senior, junior, or a transferring college student, these scholarships are for you.</font> <b><font color="#FF0000">FREE MONEY!</font></b> <font color="#000000">We all know through life there is nothing <b>Free</b>; you have to apply to receive this money. Your cost is time. The time it takes to fill out the scholarship application. Look for the</font> <b><font color="#0000FF">S.E.A.</font></b> <font color="#000000">blog each day, highlighting a new scholarship listing</font> <b><font color="#FF0000">2010/2011</font></b></span></p><p></p><p></p><p align="center"></p><p align="center"><span lang="en" xml:lang="en"><b><font color="#008000" size="5"><font color="#008000" size="5">SCHOLARSHIP OF THE DAY</font></font></b></span></p><p align="center"><span lang="en" xml:lang="en"><b><font color="#008000" size="4"><font color="#008000" size="4">12-05-2010</font></font></b></span></p><p align="center"></p><p align="center"></p><p align="center"><span lang="en" xml:lang="en"><b><font color="#008000" size="6"><font color="#008000" size="6">Accenture</font></font></b></span></p><p align="center"><span lang="en" xml:lang="en"><b><font color="#008000" size="6"><font color="#008000" size="6">Scholarship Program for Minorities</font></font></b></span></p><p align="center"></p><p align="center"></p><p><span lang="en" xml:lang="en">Open to: College Junior, Senior Graduate</span></p><p><span lang="en" xml:lang="en">Scholarship is Restricted to: No state restrictions were provided</span></p><p><span lang="en" xml:lang="en">Application Deadline<b><font color="#FF0000">1/31</font></b>:</span></p><p><span lang="en" xml:lang="en">Award Range: <b><font color="#FF0000">$2,500</font></b></span></p><p><span lang="en" xml:lang="en">Minimum GPA: <b><font color="#FF0000">GPA requirement not reported</font></b></span></p><p><span lang="en" xml:lang="en">Eligibility Criteria:</span></p><p><span lang="en" xml:lang="en">Must be a minority student in at least the <b><font color="#FF0000">third year</font></b> of coursework and enrolled full-time</span></p><p><span lang="en" xml:lang="en">Application Requirements: <b><font color="#FF0000">Online application • Essays</font></b></span></p><p><span lang="en" xml:lang="en">Website for Application Download:</span></p><p></p><p><a href="http://www.careers3.accenture.com/Careers/US/DiversityInclusion/Scholarships/"><u><font color="#0000FF"><span lang="en" xml:lang="en"><strong>www.careers3.accenture.com/Careers/US/DiversityInclusion/Scholarships/</strong></span></font></u></a></p><p><font color="#0000FF"><span lang="en" xml:lang="en"><strong>Scholarships_Minorities.html</strong></span></font></p><p><span lang="en" xml:lang="en">Institutions that Scholarships Can Be Used At: Consult scholarship provider</span></p><p><span lang="en" xml:lang="en">Renewable? Consult scholarship provider</span></p><p></p><p align="center"><span lang="en" xml:lang="en"><b>Contact:</b> <b><i>Deidra Willson</i></b></span></p><p align="center"><span lang="en" xml:lang="en"><b><i><font color="#000080">Accenture Scholarship Program for Minorities</font></i><font color="#000080">,</font></b></span></p><p align="center"><span lang="en" xml:lang="en">Scholarship America</span></p><p align="center"><span lang="en" xml:lang="en">One Scholarship Way, PO Box 297</span></p><p align="center"><span lang="en" xml:lang="en">Saint Peter, MN 56082</span></p><p align="center"><span lang="en" xml:lang="en"><b><font color="#FF0000">(507) 931-0407</font></b></span></p><p><span lang="en" xml:lang="en">Website: <a href="http://www.careers3.accenture.com/Careers/US/DiversityInclusion/Scholarships/"><u><font color="#0000FF"><span lang="en" xml:lang="en"><strong>www.careers3.accenture.com/Careers/US/DiversityInclusion/Scholarships/</strong></span></font></u></a></span></p><p><font color="#0000FF"><span lang="en" xml:lang="en"><strong>Scholarships_Minorities.html</strong></span></font></p><p></p><p align="center"></p><p align="center"><span lang="en" xml:lang="en"><b><font color="#008000">p.s. If you need help in your scholarship search, please contact S.E.A. c/o</font></b></span></p><p align="center"><span lang="en" xml:lang="en"><b><i>NORRIS COLEMAN</i> <font color="#008000">@</font></b></span> <a href="mailto:mr.unclean@yahoo.com"><b><u><font color="#0000FF"><span lang="en" xml:lang="en">mr.nncoleman@yahoo.com</span></font></u></b></a></p><p><span lang="en" xml:lang="en"> </span></p><p><span lang="en" xml:lang="en"><b><i><font color="#0000CC">*As part of .E.A. Mentoring Program, we want to build our Mentees vocabulary. S.E.A. has chosen to italicize words and statements in blue for our Mentee to understand and use in their vocabulary</font></i></b></span></p><p></p><p></p></div>