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3 Simple Solutions for that Disappearing Youthful Glow
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2015-01-22T21:47:04.000Z
2015-01-22T21:47:04.000Z
Itiel McVay "Smell Goods Lady"
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<div><div><p><font><i>Sigh</i>. The silent expression given after looking over those fun, summer pictures taken of you in your twenties. Those were the days - sun, fun, laughter and beautiful skin happily displayed under shorts and sleeveless tops. “When did my youthful glow disappear?” As the body ages, cellular regeneration slows down, and skin begins to act differently, yielding dark spots, wrinkles, and rough, cracked skin. Thankfully, plenty of wholesome products from nature can help you maintain your beautiful skin, and this puts you on the winning side - allowing you to grow older gracefully. </font></p></div><div><p></p></div><div><p><font>You truly are what you eat, therefore an adequate intake of water and nourishing foods work internally and the epidermis benefits from those positive effects. </font></p></div><div><p></p></div><div><p><font>In addition to eating and drinking mindfully, consistently use these three topical steps to keep your body’s largest organ conditioned, hydrated, and have you on your way to celebrating the reappearance of that youthful glow: </font></p></div><div><p></p></div><div><p><font><b>First</b>, cleanse the skin using soap or body wash with rich emollients, such as raw butters and plant/fruit oils. The hydration process begins when water comes in contact with the skin, and the wholesome emollients seal moisture into the skin. Forgo products with harsh surfactants, such as sodium lauryl sulfate. They strip the natural oils from the skin, and hinders the goal. </font></p></div><div><p></p></div><div><p><font><b>Next</b>, slough off dead skin cells using salt or sugar scrubs, clays, or a natural fiber sponge. Exfoliation is one of the most skipped steps in bath and body care, but is necessary for a radiant hue. Exfoliating the skin 2-3 times a week, softens rough skin, lightens hyper-pigmented spots, and allows for better absorption of other bath and body care products. </font></p></div><div><p></p></div><div><p><font><b>Lastly</b>, apply moisturizers with liquid content and emollients (lotion/cream) to maintain skin hydration and soft skin throughout the day. Or use emollients (no water content) such as body butters and body balms for sealing in moisture after showering, softening rough skin, and protecting the skin. Petroleum jelly is an emollient, however, it does not allow the skin to breathe as well as plant/fruit-based emollients. </font></p></div><div><p></p></div><div><p><font>Add these simple solutions to your bath and body care regimen, and you can expect that youthful glow to reappear. Say, “Good-bye” to <i>sigh</i> and hello to shorts, racerback tanks and short maxi dresses.</font></p></div><div><p><font> </font></p></div><div><p><font> </font></p></div><div><p><font> </font></p></div><div><p><span style="font-family:Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;font-size:medium;"> </span></p></div><div><p><font>Be Whole,</font></p></div><p class="separator"><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-6AwJoWzHEHc/UXU-HudlDUI/AAAAAAAAC3M/iKvmSuSKFQw/s1600/mysignature.png"><img border="0" src="//images-blogger-opensocial.googleusercontent.com/gadgets/proxy?url=http%3A%2F%2F1.bp.blogspot.com%2F-6AwJoWzHEHc%2FUXU-HudlDUI%2FAAAAAAAAC3M%2FiKvmSuSKFQw%2Fs1600%2Fmysignature.png&container=blogger&gadget=a&rewriteMime=image%2F*" alt="proxy?url=http%3A%2F%2F1.bp.blogspot.com%2F-6AwJoWzHEHc%2FUXU-HudlDUI%2FAAAAAAAAC3M%2FiKvmSuSKFQw%2Fs1600%2Fmysignature.png&container=blogger&gadget=a&rewriteMime=image%2F*" /></a></p></div>
WHERE DID THIS FLAG COME FROM ?
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2014-11-17T01:00:00.000Z
2014-11-17T01:00:00.000Z
Claudette Gunter
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<div><p><a href="http://www.trinityflag.com/?p=399" target="_blank"></a></p><p>I would like to share with you all how the TRINITY Flag was created. Growing up, I have always enjoyed art, especially colors. I’d received the highest grades in Art, than any other subject. Not because everything I had drawn or made was good, but because my teachers saw something, whether it was potential or my passion in doing my best. Their encouragement helped me to grow & explore more.</p><p><a href="http://www.trinityflag.com/?p=399" target="_blank"></a></p><p><strong>History of Business (how it started to where it is now) … Isaiah 48:17</strong></p><p></p><p><strong><img src="http://www.trinityflag.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/04/TRINITY-Flag-Logo-large1-236x300.jpg" alt="TRINITY Flag Logo" width="164" height="201" class="align-center" /></strong></p><p><a href="http://www.trinityflag.com/?p=399" target="_blank"></a></p><p><strong>The Kingdom of God Flag Company</strong> is a for-profit ecommerce company.</p><p><a href="http://www.trinityflag.com/?p=399" target="_blank"></a></p><p>I know now that God has been directing my steps <strong>(<em>Psalm 23</em>)</strong>. The Kingdom of God Flag Company started step by step. As I look back, I can see how it came together. In the 1960’s, as a child in school, everyday, we all sang the “Pledge of Allegiance”. This song’s lyrics included “One Nation under God”. Also in school, we read about Betsy Ross as being the woman credited with making the first American flag. I am realizing now, what an impact that song and the United States flag had on me at a young age. I believe this is where the concept of making my flag with my God came from.</p><p></p><p><a href="http://www.trinityflag.com/?p=399" target="_blank"></a></p><p><img class="aligncenter size-medium wp-image-450 align-center" src="http://www.trinityflag.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/04/file00018192538-300x214.jpg" alt="U S flag" width="203" height="145" /></p><p> </p><p>As a teenager in the 1970’s, my sisters and I joined a neighborhood church called Holy Trinity Church of God in Christ. During this time, my grandmother gave me a sewing machine and I took sewing classes in high school. I began altering my clothes. My sisters & I were in the choir, so I made at least four skirts (we wore long skirts to church at that time, they were called “maxi” skirts). I believe this is where the name of my flag originated in my heart.</p><p>Also as a teenager, one of my sisters and I participated in the Junior Achievement in our community. I believe we had made those round plastic lamp shades and those flat wooden bat & ball with a rubber string stapled to the bat. We even had the opportunity to sell them at a trade show sponsored by Junior Achievement. I remember when the class was over; we were taught how to liquidate our merchandise. Years later, I had the great opportunity to work for Loyola University Medical Center. We had the most wonderful Administration, who taught us self manage skills. I got elected the co-facilitator for our department’s Patient Care Team. We typed up our own agendas and took the minutes of the meetings. We accomplished a lot for our department. When an issue that involved another department arose, we were able to sit down together for the resolution. I believe all of this combined with the fact that my husband & I have been landlords for over 30 years; my taste for business has only gotten stronger and better. I am ready to learn & do more.</p><p></p><p><img src="http://www.trinityflag.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/04/student_file2491277420286-300x200.jpg" alt="A Learner" width="210" height="140" class="align-center" /></p><p></p><p>I graduated in 2007 from the Joseph Business School, a program at my church; Living Word Christian Center. I know this is where I discovered the purpose for The Kingdom of God Flag Company / TRINITY Flag <strong>(<em>Psalm 35:27</em>)</strong>.</p><p><strong>I am being transformed; here is how I know …</strong></p><p>I have always enjoyed dancing, when I was worldly. Now, our TRINITY Praise & Worship Banners and Streamers gives me the opportunity to continue to dance. There is not a more joyful way to dance than to dance before the Lord.</p><p>I never really felt comfortable in the lounges, but I enjoyed dancing. I would definitely have to have a strong drink just to relax myself to fit into the environment. I never once felt comfortable enough to go out by myself.</p><p>What I am pleased to discover is that I could go to church alone with ease. I didn’t need any type of drink other than having my thirst quenched by the Lord. I have finally found where I belong. I really enjoy being drunk in the Spirit. The first time I experienced this pleasure was at one of our Women Fellowship nights. It was time to leave the sanctuary to go to another area to eat, & when I stood up & I was actually dizzy & begin giggling. Of course, no one could see this from just observing me. They told me I looked fine, even though I felt that my eyes were half closed.</p><p><img class="aligncenter size-medium wp-image-452 align-center" src="http://www.trinityflag.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/04/TRINITY-Praise-Worship-Streamer-Blog-No-image-300x157.jpg" alt="TRINITY Praise & Worship Streamer Blog - No image" width="316" height="87" /></p><p></p><p><strong>Now, here is where I was heading …</strong></p><p>Our <strong>niche</strong> is to cater to dancers. I get so much pleasure watching our praise & worship dancers glide around the sanctuary, wielding their flags in love for God, with power, authority & in spiritual warfare, but more importantly I see how much they are enjoying themselves. This is the reason that the TRINITY Praise & Worship Banner and Streamer was created and is dedicated to the Kingdom of God; the TRINITY; God the Father, God the Son, God the Holy Spirit. Because the TRINITY Praise & Worship Banner and Streamer is a point of contact to God, such as a cross or rosary beads, any dancer can dance like David before God, with confidence & unashamed<strong> <em>(2 Samuel 6:14</em>)</strong>.</p><p>The Kingdom of God Flag Company’s success is by keeping God first in everything I do, which is doing business God’s way <strong>(<em>Matthew 6:33 AMP</em>)</strong>.</p><p>God’s Word is the CEO of The Kingdom of God Flag Company. I have diligently worked on The Kingdom of God Flag Company to where it is now. Now, the time has come: Presenting the TRINITY Flag as a point of contact to God, such as a cross or rosary beads, for the purpose to help align us with the Word of God. All governments have a flag. Now, the Kingdom of God has its governmental flag on earth as it is in Heaven. The profit from the purchases of the TRINITY Flags & TRINITY Praise & Worship Banners will be used to show the Love of God. These funds are sown into established ministries, whose projects meet the needs of people (<strong><a title="ABOUT US" href="http://www.trinityflag.com/?page_id=7" target="_blank">ABOUT US</a></strong> page).</p><p> </p><p><a href="http://www.trinityflag.com/?p=399" target="_blank"></a></p><p><strong>THERE IS SOMETHING INSIDE OF EACH OF US FROM GOD, NEEDING TO COME OUT. GOD IS WAITING !!! <img src="http://www.trinityflag.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif" alt=":)" class="wp-smiley" /></strong></p><p><a href="http://www.trinityflag.com/?p=399" target="_blank"></a></p><p></p><h3>Isaiah 48:17 King James Version (KJV)</h3><p><span>17 </span>Thus saith the Lord, thy Redeemer, the Holy One of Israel; I AM the Lord thy God which teacheth thee to profit, which leadeth thee by the way that thou shouldest go.</p><h3>Psalm 23:1-6 King James Version (KJV)</h3><p><span>1 </span>The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want. <span>2 </span>He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: He leadeth me beside the still waters. <span>3 </span>He restoreth my soul: He leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for His name’s sake. <span>4 </span>Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for Thou art with me; Thy rod and Thy staff they comfort me. <span>5 </span>Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: Thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over. <span>6 </span>Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life: and I will dwell in the house of the Lord for ever.<span> </span></p><h3>Psalm 35:27 King James Version (KJV)</h3><p><span>27 </span>Let them shout for joy, and be glad, that favour my righteous cause: yea, let them say continually, Let the Lord be magnified, which hath pleasure in the prosperity of His servant.</p><h3>2 Samuel 6:14 King James Version (KJV)</h3><p><span>14 </span>And David danced before the Lord with all his might; and David was girded with a linen ephod.</p><h3>Matthew 6:33 Amplified Bible (AMP)</h3><p><span>33 </span>But seek (aim at and strive after) first of all His kingdom and His righteousness (His way of doing and being right), and then all these things taken together will be given you besides.</p><h3>Genesis 1:26 King James Version (KJV)</h3><p><span>26 </span>And God said, Let Us make man in Our image, after Our likeness: and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth.</p><h3>Acts 10:34 King James Version (KJV)</h3><p><span>34 </span>Then Peter opened his mouth, and said, Of a truth I perceive that God is no respecter of persons:</p><h3>James 1:17 King James Version (KJV)</h3><p><span>17 </span>Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning.</p><h3>James 1:16-18 The Message (MSG)</h3><p><span>16 </span>So, my very dear friends, don’t get thrown off course. Every desirable and beneficial gift comes out of heaven. <span>17 </span>The gifts are rivers of light cascading down from the Father of Light. There is nothing deceitful in God, nothing two-faced, nothing fickle. <span>18 </span>He brought us to life using the true Word, showing us off as the crown of all His creatures.</p><h3>1 Peter 4:10 Amplified Bible (AMP)</h3><p><span>10 </span>As each of you has received a gift (a particular spiritual talent, a gracious divine endowment), employ it for one another as [befits] good trustees of God’s many-sided grace [faithful stewards of the extremely diverse powers and gifts granted to Christians by unmerited favor].</p><p></p><p><strong><a href="http://www.trinityflag.com/?p=399" target="_blank">http://www.</a><a title="My TRINITY Flag Store" href="http://shop.trinityflag.com/" target="_blank">TRINITY</a></strong>flag.com/</p><p><strong><a title="My TRINITY Flag Store" href="http://shop.trinityflag.com/" target="_blank">http://Shop.TRINITYflag.com/</a></strong></p><p><strong><a title="TRINITY Flag Stationery" href="http://www.cafepress.com/TheKingdomofGodFlagCompany" target="_blank">http://www.cafepress.com/TheKingdomofGodFlagCompany</a></strong></p><p><strong><a href="http://www.trinityflag.com/?p=399" target="_blank"> </a></strong></p><p></p><p></p></div>
3 Simple Steps for Hydrating Winter Epidermis
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2015-01-22T21:51:00.000Z
2015-01-22T21:51:00.000Z
Itiel McVay "Smell Goods Lady"
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<div><p>The winter months can be so unkind to your skin - wrecking havoc by turning hydrated skin into parched skin. With the dry, cold air outside beating at your skin, cranked up heat indoors pulling moisture out of your skin, there seems to be no rescue for your epidermis. Lost cause? Absolutely not. You just have to make a few adjustments to your winter bath and body care routine:</p><p></p><p><b>Step 1</b>: Use a gentle grime fighter that won't strip your skin of its natural, protective oils, and that will also add to the conditioning of your skin. </p><p></p><p> <a href="http://smellgoodspa.com/index.php?route=product/product&path=89_91&product_id=69">Organic Love Body Wash</a>- <font class="Apple-style-span">A pure organic, castile body wash! Lather up in goodness of sunflower oil, coconut oil, palm kernel oil, and glycerin! Organic Love is enriched with African Black Soap and Green Leaf Papaya to eat up those dead skin cells! </font></p><p></p><p class="separator"><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-lZN4WUvXDsY/UuaWskKK_yI/AAAAAAAADoA/1bYUREVdJ3I/s1600/organiclove.jpg"><img border="0" height="400" src="//images-blogger-opensocial.googleusercontent.com/gadgets/proxy?url=http%3A%2F%2F1.bp.blogspot.com%2F-lZN4WUvXDsY%2FUuaWskKK_yI%2FAAAAAAAADoA%2F1bYUREVdJ3I%2Fs1600%2Forganiclove.jpg&container=blogger&gadget=a&rewriteMime=image%2F*" width="163" alt="proxy?url=http%3A%2F%2F1.bp.blogspot.com%2F-lZN4WUvXDsY%2FUuaWskKK_yI%2FAAAAAAAADoA%2F1bYUREVdJ3I%2Fs1600%2Forganiclove.jpg&container=blogger&gadget=a&rewriteMime=image%2F*" /></a></p><p><font class="Apple-style-span"><br /></font><font class="Apple-style-span"><br /></font></p><p><font class="Apple-style-span"> </font></p><p><font class="Apple-style-span"> </font></p><p><font class="Apple-style-span"> </font></p><p><b>Step 2</b><span>: No more than 3 times a week, your skin should receive some TLC with a scrub/polish. Exfoliating eliminates dead skin (keratin) sitting on the surface, removes impurities from the pores, and leaves behind smooth, soft skin. </span></p><p><font class="Apple-style-span"> </font></p><p><font class="Apple-style-span"><a href="http://smellgoodspa.com/index.php?route=product/product&path=89_90&product_id=65">Almond Whipped Cream Scrub</a>- </font>A creamy body wash and exotic sugar scrub, with Sweet Almond oil to boot.<font class="Apple-style-span"> Pick up your favorite sponge or puff and cleanse, exfoliate, moisturize, and fragrance your body!</font></p><p><font class="Apple-style-span"> </font></p><p class="separator"><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-B8oxT1K3v9c/UuaYsv0IYKI/AAAAAAAADoI/3QXZ-pE01Vs/s1600/almondscrubclose.jpg"><img border="0" height="216" src="//images-blogger-opensocial.googleusercontent.com/gadgets/proxy?url=http%3A%2F%2F4.bp.blogspot.com%2F-B8oxT1K3v9c%2FUuaYsv0IYKI%2FAAAAAAAADoI%2F3QXZ-pE01Vs%2Fs1600%2Falmondscrubclose.jpg&container=blogger&gadget=a&rewriteMime=image%2F*" width="320" alt="proxy?url=http%3A%2F%2F4.bp.blogspot.com%2F-B8oxT1K3v9c%2FUuaYsv0IYKI%2FAAAAAAAADoI%2F3QXZ-pE01Vs%2Fs1600%2Falmondscrubclose.jpg&container=blogger&gadget=a&rewriteMime=image%2F*" /></a></p><p><font class="Apple-style-span"><br /></font><font class="Apple-style-span"> </font></p><p><font class="Apple-style-span"> </font></p><p><font class="Apple-style-span"><a href="http://smellgoodspa.com/index.php?route=product/product&path=89_90&product_id=67">Sweet Raw Sugar Honey Polish</a>- </font>A skin delicious blend of golden crystals, for banishing dead skin; pure plant oils effective for mature skin; rich humectants for protecting the skin; and honey to boot<font class="Apple-style-span">.</font></p><p><font class="Apple-style-span"> </font></p><p><font class="Apple-style-span"> </font></p><p><font class="Apple-style-span"> </font></p><p class="separator"><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-jvaMuMRnO8U/UuaYyek5tAI/AAAAAAAADoQ/T6tFss3jnkc/s1600/sweetsugarpolish.jpg"><img border="0" height="309" src="//images-blogger-opensocial.googleusercontent.com/gadgets/proxy?url=http%3A%2F%2F1.bp.blogspot.com%2F-jvaMuMRnO8U%2FUuaYyek5tAI%2FAAAAAAAADoQ%2FT6tFss3jnkc%2Fs1600%2Fsweetsugarpolish.jpg&container=blogger&gadget=a&rewriteMime=image%2F*" width="320" alt="proxy?url=http%3A%2F%2F1.bp.blogspot.com%2F-jvaMuMRnO8U%2FUuaYyek5tAI%2FAAAAAAAADoQ%2FT6tFss3jnkc%2Fs1600%2Fsweetsugarpolish.jpg&container=blogger&gadget=a&rewriteMime=image%2F*" /></a></p><p class="separator"></p><p class="separator"></p><p><font class="Apple-style-span"> </font></p><p><font class="Apple-style-span"> </font></p><p><font class="Apple-style-span"><b>Step 3</b>: Add an oil treatment to your bath & body routine. Topping the epidermis off with wholesome oils (emollient) is the best way to seal in moisture. </font></p><p><font class="Apple-style-span"><br /></font><font class="Apple-style-span"><br /></font></p><p><font class="Apple-style-span"> <a href="http://smellgoodspa.com/index.php?route=product/product&path=89_92&product_id=74">Marinade</a>- </font><font class="Apple-style-span">An after-bath oil, that is great for those on-the-go days. Seal in the moisture after showering, by spritzing on this oil-free Shea Butter oil blend. </font></p><p><font class="Apple-style-span"><br /></font><font class="Apple-style-span"><br /></font><font class="Apple-style-span"><br /></font></p><p class="separator"><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-aPicf8rbVFY/UuaZvZCJnsI/AAAAAAAADoY/VTr4AGM3Qko/s1600/marinade.jpg"><img border="0" height="320" src="//images-blogger-opensocial.googleusercontent.com/gadgets/proxy?url=http%3A%2F%2F3.bp.blogspot.com%2F-aPicf8rbVFY%2FUuaZvZCJnsI%2FAAAAAAAADoY%2FVTr4AGM3Qko%2Fs1600%2Fmarinade.jpg&container=blogger&gadget=a&rewriteMime=image%2F*" width="144" alt="proxy?url=http%3A%2F%2F3.bp.blogspot.com%2F-aPicf8rbVFY%2FUuaZvZCJnsI%2FAAAAAAAADoY%2FVTr4AGM3Qko%2Fs1600%2Fmarinade.jpg&container=blogger&gadget=a&rewriteMime=image%2F*" /></a></p><p><font class="Apple-style-span"><br /></font><font class="Apple-style-span"><br /></font><font class="Apple-style-span"> <a href="http://smellgoodspa.com/index.php?route=product/product&path=89_92&product_id=128">Pure Body Balm</a>- </font>A head-to-toe deep moisturizing balm, created for those women who need a bit more TLC for their scalp and body. Pure Body Balm rejeuvenates dehydrated skin, works as a protective barrier, and is gentle on sensitive skin. </p><p><font class="Apple-style-span"> </font></p><p class="separator"><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-hkwEGN71l1Y/UuaaZFoBhVI/AAAAAAAADog/pNjgOaBh24Y/s1600/purebbclose.jpg"><img border="0" height="249" src="//images-blogger-opensocial.googleusercontent.com/gadgets/proxy?url=http%3A%2F%2F2.bp.blogspot.com%2F-hkwEGN71l1Y%2FUuaaZFoBhVI%2FAAAAAAAADog%2FpNjgOaBh24Y%2Fs1600%2Fpurebbclose.jpg&container=blogger&gadget=a&rewriteMime=image%2F*" width="320" alt="proxy?url=http%3A%2F%2F2.bp.blogspot.com%2F-hkwEGN71l1Y%2FUuaaZFoBhVI%2FAAAAAAAADog%2FpNjgOaBh24Y%2Fs1600%2Fpurebbclose.jpg&container=blogger&gadget=a&rewriteMime=image%2F*" /></a></p><p class="separator"></p><p class="separator"></p><p class="separator"></p><div><p></p></div><div><p></p></div><div><p><b> </b></p></div><div><p></p></div><div><p></p></div><div><p></p></div><div><p>Be Whole,</p></div><div><p></p></div><p class="separator"><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-6AwJoWzHEHc/UXU-HudlDUI/AAAAAAAAC3M/iKvmSuSKFQw/s1600/mysignature.png"><img border="0" src="//images-blogger-opensocial.googleusercontent.com/gadgets/proxy?url=http%3A%2F%2F1.bp.blogspot.com%2F-6AwJoWzHEHc%2FUXU-HudlDUI%2FAAAAAAAAC3M%2FiKvmSuSKFQw%2Fs1600%2Fmysignature.png&container=blogger&gadget=a&rewriteMime=image%2F*" alt="proxy?url=http%3A%2F%2F1.bp.blogspot.com%2F-6AwJoWzHEHc%2FUXU-HudlDUI%2FAAAAAAAAC3M%2FiKvmSuSKFQw%2Fs1600%2Fmysignature.png&container=blogger&gadget=a&rewriteMime=image%2F*" /></a></p></div>
126 Dates in 42 Days - Secrets to Online Dating Success Teleconference
https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/126-dates-in-42-days-secrets-to-online-dating-success
2013-08-22T16:26:33.000Z
2013-08-22T16:26:33.000Z
Cyndi Harris
https://mybbwo.com/members/CyndiHarris
<div><p>Yes, you read correctly... 126 dates in 42 days. And yes, I had an amazing time. Below is the main reason I am sharing this special teleconference with you is:</p><p></p><p>I heard a startling statistic. The statistic says...</p><p></p><p style="text-align:center;"><span class="font-size-4" style="color:#800000;">"The average single has not been on a date in 2 years."</span></p><p></p><p>I was shocked when I heard this disturbing statement. <span class="font-size-3"><strong>2 years, seriously, this cannot be true.</strong></span> But then, I started thinking about the stigma and difficulties some women have with online dating:</p><ul><li>They get nervous.</li><li>Are unsure how to write a great profile that attracts really great guys.</li><li>Have been turned off by their own or other people's bad online experiences.</li><li>Etc.</li></ul><p>With so many misconceptions and fears surrounding online dating, I understand it can be a challenge that most women will not pursue or if they had a bad experience in the past; may be scared to try again.</p><p>I am here to tell you once you understand how to properly use online dating it can be a wonderful way to:</p><ul><li>Meet really good men.</li><li>Make new friends.</li><li>Relearn your current city and fun things to do with a fun companion.</li><li>If you are new to the area, safely meet new people and quickly learn your way around.</li><li>Have a really good time overall.</li><li>And so much more.</li></ul><p>But, you must know how to do this correctly and with ease. Why? Because, according to online dating research:</p><p style="text-align:center;"></p><p style="text-align:center;"><span class="font-size-4" style="color:#800000;">Only 20% of the people registered with online dating site are actually going on dates, getting into relationships,etc. <span style="color:#000000;">The other 80% are not.</span></span></p><p></p><p>Well, I can tell you from personal experience. It is much more fun being part of the successful 20% and if you are ready to get out of your dating funk. Then, sign up for this special and lively upcoming call.</p><p>I will share with you some of my secrets to successful online dating and relationships. Especially since Match.com is famous for quoting that <strong>"1 in 5 relationships start online."</strong> This is probably true with the numbers being even higher. So, join me for a really great time and some fun and useful information that will enhance your love life.</p><p></p><p style="text-align:center;"><span class="font-size-4" style="color:#ff0000;">126 Dates in 42 Days - Secrets to Online Dating</span></p><p style="text-align:center;"><span class="font-size-4" style="color:#ff0000;">Success Teleconference Call</span></p><p style="text-align:center;"><span style="color:#000000;" class="font-size-3">Wednesday 8/28/2013 6p to 7p. EDT (3p to 4p Pacific)</span></p><p style="text-align:center;"><span style="color:#000000;" class="font-size-3">You may register at:</span></p><p style="text-align:center;"></p><p style="text-align:center;"><span class="font-size-3"><a href="http://undeniablyirresistible.com/126_Dates_in_42_Days.html" target="_blank">www.undeniablyirresistible.com/126_Date_in_42_Days.html</a></span></p><p style="text-align:center;"></p><p style="text-align:center;"></p><p style="text-align:center;"><span class="font-size-3">to receive the call in information.</span></p><p style="text-align:left;"><span class="font-size-3">Wishing you much love and unlimited joy,</span></p><p style="text-align:left;"><span class="font-size-3">Cyndi Harris</span></p><p style="text-align:left;"><span class="font-size-3">Lifestyle and Relationship Coach</span></p><p style="text-align:left;"><span style="color:#000000;" class="font-size-3"><a href="http://undeniablyirresistible.com" target="_blank">www.undeniablyirresistible.com</a></span></p><p style="text-align:left;"><span class="font-size-3"><a href="http://1000dollarperhourquestion.com" target="_blank">www.1000dollarperhourquestion.com</a><br /></span></p></div>
Overwhelmed... Exhausted... Frustrated
https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/overwhelmed-exhausted-frustrated
2013-06-25T01:30:00.000Z
2013-06-25T01:30:00.000Z
Cyndi Harris
https://mybbwo.com/members/CyndiHarris
<div><p><span class="font-size-4">Question:</span></p><p><span class="font-size-3">Are you ready?</span></p><p><span class="font-size-3">Ready to:</span></p><ul><li><span class="font-size-3">Live pain free from fibromyalgia and other chronic pain.</span></li><li><span class="font-size-3">Enjoy better overall health.</span></li><li><span class="font-size-3">Enjoy your newfound freedom (newly single, empty nester, etc.)</span></li><li><span class="font-size-3">Live your life's mission: Career, motherhood, travel, etc.</span></li><li><span class="font-size-3">Experience new love.</span></li></ul><p><span class="font-size-3">Yes, then a special teleconference on <strong><span style="color:#3366ff;">Monday 7/1/2013 from 7 to 8:30pm (EDT)</span></strong> has been created just for you.</span></p><p></p><p style="text-align:center;"><a href="{{#staticFileLink}}10744097863,original{{/staticFileLink}}"><img width="400" src="{{#staticFileLink}}10744097863,original{{/staticFileLink}}" class="align-center" alt="10744097863?profile=original" /></a><span class="font-size-4">Are you sick & tired of being sick & tired? Yes then...</span></p><p style="text-align:center;"><span class="font-size-6"><span style="color:#3366ff;">"Here's Your Next Step"</span><br /></span></p><p style="text-align:center;"><span class="font-size-4">Learn how to have real fun and feel good again.</span></p><p style="text-align:center;"><span class="font-size-3">Go to: <a href="http://heresyournextstep.com" target="_blank">www.heresyournextstep.com</a> for more information and to reserve your spot.</span></p><p style="text-align:center;"><span style="color:#3366ff;"><font class="Apple-style-span" color="#3366FF"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:21px;"><a href="http://heresyournextstep.com" target="_blank"><span style="color:#3366ff;">Click on "Register Here"</span></a></span></font></span></p><p style="text-align:center;"><span class="font-size-3" style="color:#000000;">Join me for this informative 90 minute call which includes a 30 minute Q & A section.</span></p><p style="text-align:center;"><span class="font-size-3" style="color:#000000;">To be happy and live a truly fulfilling life is your birthright. </span></p><p></p></div>
Are You Wasting Precious Time?
https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/are-you-wasting-precious-time
2013-07-29T17:55:49.000Z
2013-07-29T17:55:49.000Z
Cyndi Harris
https://mybbwo.com/members/CyndiHarris
<div><p><strong><span class="font-size-4">Something to think about:</span></strong><br /><br /><span style="color:#0000ff;" class="font-size-3"><strong>"Guilt is a manmade emotion and is a huge time/life waster.</strong></span> Yes, we all mess up from time to time, but there comes a time when you must let go and move on with your life. Forgiveness (Self and others) and Love are Divine." - Cyndi Harris </p><p><span class="font-size-3"><strong>Question:</strong></span></p><ol><li>Which emotions (guilt, Forgiveness, or Love) do you indulge?</li><li>Which ones dictate the direction of your life?</li><li>How often do you allow yourself to relax in these Divine emotions?</li></ol><p>Life is a joyful experience when you decide it should be.</p><p>Have a wonderful day.</p><p>Wishing you much love and unlimited joy,</p><p><strong><span class="font-size-3" style="color:#0000ff;">Cyndi Harris, HP</span></strong></p><p>Lifestyle and Relationship Coach @ Undeniably Irresistible</p><p><strong><a href="http://undeniablyirresistible.com" target="_blank">www.undeniablyirresistible.com</a><br /></strong></p><p></p></div>
La Dolce Vita - "The Sweet Life"
https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/la-dolce-vita-the-sweet-life
2013-07-07T19:24:09.000Z
2013-07-07T19:24:09.000Z
Cyndi Harris
https://mybbwo.com/members/CyndiHarris
<div><p><strong><span class="font-size-4" style="color:#0000ff;">La Dolce Vita</span></strong> is Italian for <strong><span style="color:#3366ff;" class="font-size-3">"The Sweet Life"</span></strong>. It means to live a life that is enjoyable, lavish, and opulent; allowing yourself to indulge in the finer things in life that bring you pleasure.</p><p></p><p style="text-align:center;"><a href="{{#staticFileLink}}10744096101,original{{/staticFileLink}}"><img width="300" src="{{#staticFileLink}}10744096101,original{{/staticFileLink}}" class="align-center" alt="10744096101?profile=original" /></a><span class="font-size-4" style="color:#0000ff;">"It's time to celebrate love and living the good life."</span></p><p>Love is a pleasure too many women forgo. Or if they do get into relationships; the relationships are less satisfying than expected. Since happiness is an inside job, now is a good time to take a look at your love life and decide if you are happy with your current status. </p><p>If not, be sure to register for an exclusive specialty teleconference I am hosting on <strong><span style="color:#000000;"><span style="color:#3366ff;"><span style="color:#0000ff;">Wednesday 7/10/13 6 to 7pm (EDT)</span>.</span>..</span></strong> called <span style="color:#3366ff;"><em><strong><span class="font-size-3">"The $1000/hour Question"</span></strong></em></span>. I will be offering you tips to improve the type of men you are attracting if you are single or begin to transform your relationship if currently involved. I am only offering this call to <strong>30 women and as of today nearly 1/2 of the 30 spots have been reserved.</strong></p><p>So go to: <strong><span class="font-size-3"><a href="http://1000dollarperhourquestion.com" target="_blank">www.1000dollarperhourquestion.com</a></span></strong> and reserve your spot. And while visiting the site; have some fun and fill out the quizzes to uncover your potential Millionaire Match.</p><p></p><p>Have an amazing day,</p><p><span class="font-size-4">Cyndi Harris</span></p><p>Lifestyle and Romance Coach</p></div>
Millionaire Match Quiz
https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/millionaire-match-quiz
2013-07-03T18:41:41.000Z
2013-07-03T18:41:41.000Z
Cyndi Harris
https://mybbwo.com/members/CyndiHarris
<div><p><span class="font-size-3">Hello lovely ladies,</span></p><p><span class="font-size-3">Have you ever really thought about the type of man you would like to date and maybe one day marry?</span></p><p><span class="font-size-3">As a relationship coach, I have met far too many women with vague ideas or cookie cutter answers to this question. It's seems that more time is spent planning careers, vacations, etc. then, their love life.</span></p><p><span class="font-size-3">Or the opposite is true: The guidelines they set are so restrictive that they miss out on wonderful dating opportunities.</span></p><p><span class="font-size-3">My coaching experience has shown me; if a woman is truly going to find happiness in love and romance. She needs to:</span></p><ul><li><span class="font-size-3">Be open-minded (Love can be full of interesting and pleasant surprises.)</span></li><li><span class="font-size-3">Ready to have fun.</span></li><li><span class="font-size-3">Be in tune with who she is as a woman; emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.</span></li><li><span class="font-size-3">And understand the type of man that really speaks to her heart. </span></li></ul><p><span class="font-size-3">So, to get you started go to: </span><span class="font-size-3"><strong><span class="font-size-4"><a href="http://1000dollarperhourquestion.com" target="_blank">www.1000dollarperhourquestion.com</a></span></strong> and</span></p><p style="text-align:center;"><span class="font-size-3">click on the <strong><span class="font-size-4" style="color:#800080;">Millionaire Match Quiz</span></strong> to learn some basics about the type of man who might be a good fit for you.</span></p><p><span class="font-size-3">Have fun and get ready for some eye-opening questions created to get you thinking about your current or future love interest. </span></p><p style="text-align:center;"><span style="color:#800080;"><strong><span class="font-size-4">Be sure to fill out your contact info to receive your</span></strong></span></p><p style="text-align:center;"><span style="color:#800080;"><strong><span class="font-size-4">millionaire match results.</span></strong></span></p></div>
Millionaire Match Quiz Link Correction
https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/millionaire-match-quiz-link-correction
2013-07-04T23:25:52.000Z
2013-07-04T23:25:52.000Z
Cyndi Harris
https://mybbwo.com/members/CyndiHarris
<div><p><span class="font-size-4">Happy 4th of July, everyone!!!</span></p><p></p><p><span class="font-size-5"><strong><span style="color:#3366ff;">Quiz Update:</span></strong></span></p><p><span class="font-size-3">I want to thank the ladies who have registered for the <strong><span class="font-size-4">$1000/hour Question</span></strong> teleconference call on <strong><span style="color:#0000ff;">Wednesday 7/10/13</span></strong> the spots are filling up and apologize to anyone who filled out the quiz; the form had a bad link so, I did not receive your answers (Gotta love technology : )</span></p><p><span class="font-size-3">All is good... <span style="color:#0000ff;"><strong>The link is fixed</strong></span>. So, check out the quiz and get glimpse at your potential millionaire type : )</span></p><p><span class="font-size-3">My coaching experience has shown me; if a woman is truly going to find happiness in love and romance.</span></p><ul><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:16px;">She needs to:</span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:16px;">Be open-minded (Love can be full of interesting and pleasant surprises.)</span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:16px;">Ready to have fun.</span></li><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:16px;">Be in tune with who she is as a woman; emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.</span></li><li><span class="font-size-3">And understand the type of man who really speaks to her heart</span>.</li></ul><p></p><p style="text-align:center;"><span class="font-size-5"><a href="http://1000dollarperhourquestion.com" target="_blank">www.1000dollarperhourquestion.com</a> then,</span></p><p style="text-align:center;"><span class="font-size-5">click on the <strong><span style="color:#3366ff;">Millionaire Match Quiz</span></strong></span></p><p style="text-align:center;"><span class="font-size-5" style="color:#000000;"><strong>Enjoy!</strong></span></p></div>
Time to Forgive #16
https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/time-to-forgive-16
2013-06-04T02:33:24.000Z
2013-06-04T02:33:24.000Z
Di Jones
https://mybbwo.com/members/DiJones
<div><p> It’s time to Let Go<br />Completely <br />From our thoughts and our heart<br />It’s time to Let Go<br />Completely<br /> So we can move forward<br />To forgive someone is sometimes easier said than done. <br />What is it to forgive someone? I have been hurt physically &amp; emotionally. It will take a lot for me to get over all the hurt that I had to endure and yet I must find a way to forgive. It is very easy to see or feel how much someone hurts us, however we may not always see or feel how much we also have hurt others. Maybe if we could understand where our hurt comes from, it would be easier to forgive. If we could find a way to let go completely we would be able to move forward. <br />My husband and I didn’t communicate to each other and that caused us both to jump to conclusions based on our past. We didn’t love ourselves enough to be honest about our own hearts and feelings. We didn’t allow ourselves to become one because we both held on to our past hurt so much. By holding onto those past hurts we let ourselves experience the hurt over and over again instead of allowing us to heal together. We were our own worst enemies. We knew we had something special because God brought us together to help each other. We knew that we had gone through the same things and therefore should be able to understand each other. We should have been able to help each other and yet we let our own feelings cause us the pain we tried so hard to avoid. My husband and I experienced a selfish -kind of hurt. I say that because we were too concerned about ourselves rather than being concerned about each other. This selfish hurt caused us to not let go and therefore, we could not move forward. The sad thing about it is that we caused our own problems by being selfish. He did not cause my hurt and I did not cause his hurt, we were both responsible for our own hurt. <br />How could we ever forgive each other if we were not willing to let go of the hurt we had built up inside ourselves? In order to forgive others we must first look in the mirror and see who we are. Are we holding onto hurt feelings and holding someone else responsible for our feelings? Everyone has a past and our past makes us who we are, however our past is just that…”our past”…it is not our future. I had to look inside myself to find what drives the force of forgiveness for me personally. I had to look within myself to find the peace in my heart that allowed me to forgive. My life consisted of many experiences which I held on to. Some of those experiences were good and some were bad. I realized that by holding on to those experiences, they had a part in developing me as a person. I choose how to categorize each experience and how to let each experience shape my life. Because, we as humans, tend to dwell on the bad or negative, I allowed those bad and negative experiences to control my inner self. I don't think we realize when we do this. I don't think we even realize that it is our choice how we live. We are in control of our self no one else can control what is in us...only we have that control. I had to realize this to understand how to forgive. My husband was not responsible for the feelings I had. Those feelings were in me long before I even met him. My feelings of insecurity, my feelings of being unloved, my feelings of having no self esteem were my choices. It was my choice to allow my feelings to be confirmed by his words or actions. It was my choice to allow him to affect my life in a negative way. What happened to me...was not me. I had always tried to live my life in a positive way. One of the main beliefs I lived by was that everything in life is a gift from God. Everything is an experience that God has allowed us to have. You do not know the reason, however at the very base we were given each experience to learn from and possibly to use to help someone else in the future who may also go through the same experience. I lost this belief, because I choose to. I was not strong enough within myself to realize what I was allowing to happen. I had to look within myself to be able to forgive myself enough to let go of the choices I kept buried in my heart. I had to let go of the bad choices I was allowing to control my life and my feelings. I had to accept that my choices are mine...no one else's. To understand the unique person that God made me to be, allowed me to not only accept myself as a beautiful creation of God, I was also able to forgive myself and accept my own choices. By accepting my self, I can accept that my husband is his own person also....an equally beautiful creation of God who was allowed his own unique choices (good or bad). In realizing this, I realized that my husband is responsible for his own choices and I don't have to allow his choice to affect me in a negative way. The story I have expressed was from my heart, however it is not a true story in that it was not only my heart that was involved. My husband went through his own types of pains and hurts. My husband was also a victim of my choices. My husband deserves the right to be who God created him to be without judgment or blame from me or anyone else. Just as I became the person I became, he also became the person he became due to his past and the very hard and unique challenges he had to experience. No one can say that either he; nor I was more or less to blame... we are who we are because God made us this way. God has a reason for each of us, that is why he created us each as a unique individual. I am blessed and able to accept and love myself and my husband as the unique and blessed people that God has created us to be. I am a perfect creation of God and so is my husband; that is the reason God brought us together… for each other. For me to forgive was to find peace within myself through Christ. To forgive I had to replace the hurt in my heart with Love.<br />I forgive because I accept the blessings God has given us as individuals.<br />Maybe to forgive others<br />means<br />to be able to forgive ourselves;<br />and now in front of the world...<br />I proclaim <br />To my Husband.....<br />Donell,<br />I forgive you!<br />Can you forgive me?<iframe width="640" height="360" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/DVr4CW87W58?feature=player_embedded&wmode=opaque" frameborder="0"></iframe></p></div>
Others Will Appreciate You; Once You Appreciate Yourself
https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/others-will-appreciate-you-once-you-appreciate-yourself
2013-05-20T19:35:35.000Z
2013-05-20T19:35:35.000Z
Cyndi Harris
https://mybbwo.com/members/CyndiHarris
<div><p>Hello everyone,</p><p><strong>Today, I want to ask you a few questions:</strong></p><ul><li>Do you feel unappreciated by others?</li><li>Do your contributions and talents go unnoticed?</li><li>Do you suppress feelings of frustration because, you are trying to be nice and not rock the "boat" at home or at work?</li><li>Do you feel that others treat you disrespectfully?</li></ul><p>If you answered yes to any of these questions? Then, <strong>you may have an issue with self-perception.</strong> People's treatment of us tends to be a direct reflection of how we treat ourselves. If you treat yourself well; others will too.</p><p><strong>For example, if you notice people:</strong></p><ul><li>Talk over you doing regular conversations or disagreements.</li><li>Do not respond to your requests for help or to complete a task you assigned them (Co-workers. your kids,etc.)</li><li>Make you feel "invisible".</li></ul><p><strong>Then these things may be occurring because you:</strong></p><ul><li>Are not speaking up and articulating your opinion with confidence.</li><li>Are not holding people accountable to complete the task/s you have given them and in your frustration you simply take care of it yourself. (This simply encourages people to ignore you because, they know you will do their work for them.)</li><li>Appear to lack self-confidence and you tend to "hide" from recognition.</li></ul><p>Our self-assured or poor opinion of ourselves shows up in our work, relationships (family, friends, romantic), and in the general day to day activities of our lives.</p><p>If you constantly feel frustrated or overwhelmed; find yourself constantly complaining about a lack of cooperation or help; or allow others to ignore you. You are encouraging behavior that says it is okay to treat you carelessly and with a certain level of disrespect.</p><p><strong>Maybe you grew up believing:</strong></p><ul><li>You had to make everything right for others, go the extra mile (Even, if it meant ignoring your needs.)</li><li>Do whatever it takes to keep the peace (Even, if it meant loss of personal peace of mind.)</li><li>That having a good opinion of yourself is arrogant and uncomely behavior (especially for a woman).</li></ul><p>Whatever has brought you to this point in your life. Now, is the time to change how you feel about yourself and finally experience a life that is more complete and satisfying. Take charge of your personal self-opinion and acknowledge you are an amazing person who deserves to receive the best. Others will follow your lead.</p><p>Here are a few things you can do to get started:</p><ul><li><strong>Stop taking on other peoples responsibilities.</strong> (Co-workers, spouse/partner, your children, etc.) </li><li><strong>Say "No" more often</strong>. If you feel uneasy about a request for your time and attention because, you know it will "stretch" your already limited time. Just say "No".</li><li><strong>Treat yourself kindly</strong>. Find ways to pamper and allow yourself time to relax.</li><li><strong>Make time for things you enjoy</strong> and be firm about this time being just for you. Let other people work around your schedule for a change.</li><li><strong>Speak up;</strong> if you feel strongly about something or have an idea that might be helpful let others know. Even, if the idea is rejected. At least you spoke up and others know you are unafraid to speak your mind.</li><li><strong>Be thoughtful and courteous to others and allow them to be helpful for you as well.</strong></li><li><strong>Learn to accept compliments.</strong> Yes, this seems like an odd thing to say, but learning how to be more gracious encourages others to treat you with more respect and look for additional ways to make your life easier and more pleasant.</li></ul><p>Utilize the above list and gradually you will see a positive change in how others treat you and <span style="color:#800000;"><strong>even more important; how you are enjoying and finding new ways to honor and respect yourself.</strong></span></p><p>You are always in control of your own good opinion of yourself so, lead by example.</p><p>Wishing you much love and unlimited joy,</p><p>Cyndi Harris, HP</p><p>Relationship Solutions Coach, Joyologist (Expert in the Art of Joyful Living), and Author </p><p>Click here to schedule your <a href="http://redtentwisdom.com" target="_blank">20 minute Complimentary Irresistible Solutions Session</a> and go to the Solutions Session page. Let's talk about ways to increase the joy in your life.</p><p></p><p></p></div>
Is Your Life Ordinary or Extraordinary?
https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/is-your-life-ordinary-or-extraordinary
2013-05-30T17:58:04.000Z
2013-05-30T17:58:04.000Z
Cyndi Harris
https://mybbwo.com/members/CyndiHarris
<div><p>How often do you wake up and full incredible? I mean really... <strong>Really</strong>... good. You wake up and you know the day is going to be an extra special day.</p><p>Is it:</p><ul><li>Daily</li><li>Periodically</li><li>Rarely</li><li>Never</li></ul><p>Well, if you said, "Daily". Congratulations, you are welcoming into your life; the abundance and joy life has to offer and setting yourself up to receive even more<span style="color:#800000;"><strong> </strong></span>of the <span style="color:#800000;"><strong>fabulous and fantastic opportunities</strong></span> life gladly sends your way.</p><p>If you selected any of the other selections, I appreciate your honesty. And, I want you to know you can learn how to change your thinking and wake up daily feeling incredible too.</p><p>How do you know if your life is stuck in ordinary? The following are several words and attitudes that describe an ordinary life?</p><ul><li>Comfortable</li><li>Defensive</li><li>Reasonable</li><li>Avoid risk.</li><li>Fearful</li><li>Playing small in the world around them then, get upset because they are unappreciated by others or feel invisible within their "world".</li><li>Judgmental</li><li>Not Coachable <strong>(Struggles with new information and/or ideas. Unwilling to learn new things.)</strong></li><li>Negative</li><li>Blame Others </li><li>Reactive <strong>(Always seem to have some sort of drama going on in their lives that they are acting out or responding to.)</strong></li><li>Makes excuses vs. taking responsibility for their choices.</li></ul><p>Does anything from the previous list seem familiar to you. If you answered yes, understand you can always change and learn to live your life in a more enjoyable way.</p><p>Now, if you are curious about how a person lives an extraordinary life; read through the following list for a few helpful hints:</p><ul><li><strong>Coachable</strong> (They enjoy learning and are receptive to new ideas.)</li><li><strong>Committed</strong></li><li><strong>Courageous</strong> (They take chances and actively invite change into their life.)</li><li><strong>Creative</strong> (They look for different ways to do things and have more fun.) </li><li><strong>Determined</strong> <span style="color:#800000;"><strong>(Naysayers have little to no effect on their life and life choices.)</strong></span></li><li><strong>Disciplined</strong> (Actively looks for ways to experience life in a more positive and productive way.)</li><li><strong>Enjoys a more balanced approach to life and life experiences.</strong></li><li><strong>Passionate</strong> (They are excited about something that makes them happy and adds pleasure to their lives.)</li><li><strong>Possibility thinkers</strong></li><li><strong>Proactive <span style="color:#800000;">(Not waiting around for something to happen, they make things happen.)</span></strong></li></ul><p>This is a brief list of some simple attitude adjustments anyone can make to take their life from ordinary to extraordinary. Life requires active participation and if you are tired of sitting on the sidelines watching other people have a good time; make a few simple changes to your attitude.</p><p><strong>Be bold, step out of your comfort zone</strong> and guess what? You will wake up one morning feeling <span style="color:#800000;" class="font-size-3"><strong>incredible</strong></span> too. Once this happens; you will be unable to go back to the boring and fearful existence you may have been living. You may for the first time in a long time... <strong>(maybe ever)</strong>... finally understand what it means to feel alive and excited about your life. </p><p><strong>Go for it!</strong> Abundance, happiness, love, and life's other goodies are only available to those who choose to live life with no limits. Why? Because, they appreciate life and rejoice in every common and new experience. <span class="font-size-3" style="color:#800000;">I dare you to be</span> <strong><span class="font-size-3"><span style="color:#800000;">Extraordinary. </span>I believe in you and now, I need you to believe in yourself.</span></strong></p><p>Have an amazing day.</p><p>Wishing you much love and unlimited joy,</p><p><strong>Cyndi Harris, HP</strong></p><p>Life and Relationship Solutions Coach, Author, & Joyologist</p><p><a href="http://redtentwisdom.com" target="_blank">www.redtentwisdom.com</a> or <a href="http://undeniablyirresistible.com" target="_blank">www.undeniablyirresistible.com</a></p><p>Go to either website and sign up for a chance to receive a <span class="font-size-2"><span style="color:#800000;" class="font-size-3"><strong>20 minutes Complimentary Irresistible Solutions Session</strong></span></span> with me.</p><p></p></div>
Remember, Tonight is the Night to Overcome!
https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/remember-tonight-is-the-night-to-overcome
2013-07-01T20:16:25.000Z
2013-07-01T20:16:25.000Z
Cyndi Harris
https://mybbwo.com/members/CyndiHarris
<div><p><span class="font-size-6" style="color:#0000ff;">Question:</span></p><p><span class="font-size-5">Are you ready? Ready to:</span></p><ul><li><span class="font-size-4">Live pain free from fibromyalgia and other chronic pain.</span></li><li><span class="font-size-4">Enjoy better overall health.</span></li><li><span class="font-size-4">Enjoy your newfound freedom (newly single, empty nester, etc.)</span></li><li><span class="font-size-4">Live your life's mission: Career, motherhood, travel, etc.</span></li><li><span class="font-size-4">Experience new love.</span></li></ul><p><span class="font-size-5">Remember our special teleconference today... 7/1/2013 from 7 to 8:30pm (EDT) has been created just for you.</span></p><p><span class="font-size-5"> </span></p><p><span class="font-size-5" style="color:#0000ff;">Call in #: 218-895-3835 PIN: 1033354 #</span></p><p></p><p><span class="font-size-5">Are you sick & tired of being sick & tired? Yes then... "Here's Your Next Step" Learn how to have real fun and feel good again.</span></p><p></p><p><span class="font-size-5">Go to: <a href="http://www.heresyournextstep.com">www.heresyournextstep.com</a> for more information and to reserve your spot.</span></p><p></p><p></p><p style="text-align:center;"><span class="font-size-5" style="color:#0000ff;">Click on "Register Here"</span></p><p></p><p><span class="font-size-5">Join me for this informative 90 minute call which includes a 30 minute Q & A section. To be happy and live a truly fulfilling life is your birthright.</span></p></div>
What Type of Man Best "Fits" You? - Part 1
https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/what-type-of-man-best-fits-you-part-1
2013-06-13T17:39:14.000Z
2013-06-13T17:39:14.000Z
Cyndi Harris
https://mybbwo.com/members/CyndiHarris
<div><p>As a relationship coach, I have the privilege of meeting a variety of people. And, while my client base is mostly women; I talk to men from all walks of life as well. The average everyday man to the mega rich; plus, living in S. FL also offers me an international selection of guys to talk to. </p><p>I love it because, I have such a great deal of respect for men. I notice men everyday in my travels and day to day activities. In the morning as I am driving to the store. I notice men waiting on street corners with coolers containing their lunch in work clothes and steel toe work boots waiting for their ride to pick them up as they head to work a hot and dirty job that most people would never consider because it pays so little for such tedious labor. <em><strong>It may not be the best job, but these men show up every day rain or shine.</strong></em></p><p>Then, continuing with my day, I walk into my favorite Starbucks and in line ahead of me are the <strong>"Money Men"</strong>. The men who spend their days in air conditioned offices working with millions; sometimes billions of dollars worth of financial transactions. They are dressed in their designer suits or other well-groomed and appropriate attire that shows their status as high-powered movers and shakers. They are talking about today’s business, golf, or where they will meet for dinner and drinks after work. </p><p>The contrast is extreme, but underneath it all. These men are the same. <strong>Their dreams and goals are to be happy, to love and be loved.</strong> They want to be appreciated and respected by the woman they love and their children (if applicable) or if single they long for the love and companionship of a woman who understands that he goes to work every day to be the best man he can be for her. A good woman is the inspiration for most men's achievements.</p><p>I watch this process day in and day out and as I listen to women complain about the lack of available good men or the disengaged behavior of their current men. I have to sit back and think; do we even know what a good man is? </p><p>I hear the sincere heartache from both men and women. The pressure they feel to live up to standards that may or may not be viable for who they are at the moment; not feeing appreciated for doing the best they know how to do, right now. Women are ready to discard men because, they seem to lack ambition or are not providing them with the lifestyle they want... right now. Men are ready to walk away from women because, they feel they are unable to be their woman's champion.</p><p>It may be true or their lives may be at the beginning of a new positive personal growth cycle, but the frustration of wanting more... Right now... sometimes keeps us from enjoying what and who we currently have. It is perfectly natural to desire more out of life, but we need to be grateful for what we currently have. Once we are; we will be spiritually aligned to receive more and improve our life and relationships.</p><p>At times I feel like the media has created a level of discontent in some women. It causes these women to wish for a lifestyle that: </p><ul><li>Is inappropriate for her and her true life goals. </li><li>Creates discontent and impatience; causing her to lose sight of the ways her life is already improving.</li><li>Compels her to pursue a man or men; she is not prepared to create and maintain a relationship (life ambitions, money mindset, etc. may not match up) </li></ul><p>Maybe, a woman has a diamond in the rough at home; who with her loving support and belief in his dreams will become the next major player in business or his chosen field. Many successful men began their careers from humble beginnings. It has taken them years to acquire the success they currently enjoy and many of these men have enjoyed the loving support of a woman who knows him and has been with him from his early days.</p><p>Professional athletes seem to be a good example of this behavior. A good portion of them, if involved in a staple relationship, are usually with a high school or college sweetheart. Shared values and mindset are more relevant than most people realize. This is not exclusive to professional sports. If you look at some of the most successful men; you will notice the happiest ones are with a woman who shares their:</p><ul><li>Money mindset</li><li>Personal interests</li><li>And general values</li></ul><p>Keep this in mind when searching for your next romantic partner. If you are currently in a long-term relationship; you may need to do some soul-searching to see if you the 2 of you began your life together with mutual basic needs. If not, then what was the attraction and where are you now in regards to your life plans; separately and together. </p><p>The goal of this article is to get you to think about you and your mate. Are a good fit? Or if you are single; to really think about what you desire in a relationship, who you are as a woman, and the qualities you have to attract this man to you.</p><p>In part 2; I will break it down and offer you some useful tips to point you in the right direction to personal happiness in your love relationship whether you are single or in a relationship.</p><p>Remember, life is constantly changing. We grow into people with different and new desires along the way. Our love lives can be one of our greatest joys or biggest heartaches. Take this time to look at men or your man with "new" eyes. You may be pleasantly surprised by what you "see".</p><p>Wishing you much love and unlimited joy,</p><p>Cyndi Harris, HP</p><p>Relationship Solutions Coach, Author, and Joyologist</p><p><a href="http://undeniablyirresistible.com" target="_blank">www.undeniablyirresistible.com</a></p></div>
What Type of Man Best "Fits" You? - Part 2
https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/what-type-of-man-best-fits-you-part-2
2013-06-24T17:28:48.000Z
2013-06-24T17:28:48.000Z
Cyndi Harris
https://mybbwo.com/members/CyndiHarris
<div><p><b>A man wants a partner not a competitor. You should too. </b></p><p>In part one, I asked you to evaluate or revaluate, what you are searching for in a man and your romantic relationship. I mentioned how men really are looking for the opportunity to love a woman who really appreciates him and what he does for her to make her life easier.</p><p>I asked you to take a look at shared values and to check your money mindset to see if it matches your mate or potential mate and to search for ways you may be able to resolve conflict by becoming more aware of your relationship patterns.</p><p>Now, in this article. I want to talk about creating a quality relationship with a man. Read the top line again... <span style="color:#800000;"><strong>A man wants a partner not a competitor. You should too</strong>.</span></p><p>What do I mean? In the pursuit of better education, jobs, and recognition; ladies we have taken on a pseudo masculine approach to life and unfortunately our romantic relationships as well. While learning how to increase our level of desire and life ambitions; we adopted a man’s view on business, competition, success, and as role models. Since, men have been the dominant faces and gender in the workplace for decades, when we started to emerge into the work place with our intellect and skills. We looked to men and their behaviors to get ahead. This can be a good thing if you understand how to disconnect the masculine aggression once you leave the office. </p><p>Men are wonderful sources of information about business and business processes since they have been the dominant trendsetters in the business world. Only recently has it begun to shift (Thank goodness). And yes, we do have some wonderful examples of business success who are women, but if you read their autobiographies and biographies you will notice most of their early years were spent learning how to compete and at times survive in a “Man’s” world. </p><p>Unfortunately, this aggressive style spilled into their personal lives leaving a trail of emotional heartache, broken relationships, and marriages. (Not all, some of these women have found a happy balance between work and their home lives.) It is important to rejoice regarding our success and career milestones, but what about the carnage that has become our romantic lives. It is time to put an end to this unproductive cycle and reclaim the romance in our lives. </p><p><strong>Tell me, when you come home from work do you want to relax and enjoy the peace and joy that is home or do you want to gear up for the next battle between you and your man?</strong> </p><p><strong><span style="color:#800000;">You want to relax, right?</span></strong> Guess what, so does he. Creating a loving and peaceful home requires continuous work on both sides. I know it sounds like common sense, but we know from personal experience that what sounds good in theory does not always transfer into the real world. </p><p>Well, allow me to suggest a useful tip. <span style="color:#800000;"><b>Make a list of the things you and your man argue about.</b></span> (If you are single, list the things that broke up your last relationship). Now, look over the list and tell me how many of those things could have been avoided or resolved with periodic discussions about the current state of your relationship: </p><p>• Any changes/shifts in mutual goals or values (We all change, grow, and develop at different rates; that means our partnerships will too.) </p><p>• Any changes in personal goals (Education, children, personal growth, etc) </p><p>• Learning how to listen more effectively to what your man is/was saying and not trying to “think” for him. </p><p>• Judgmental opinions that are/were fear-based and prevented you from really listening to what your partner was saying or trying to do that would benefit you and your family. </p><p>I could go on and on with this list. Ladies, when we are wired into our right-brain masculine mode of thinking and problem-solving. We can become very rigid in our response to our relationship challenges or as I prefer to call them… <span style="color:#800000;"><strong>“Windows of opportunity for personal growth”</strong></span>; when this happens mutually satisfying resolution is nearly impossible. You now have 2 competitors trying to basically “beat” the other one into submission. It is a disaster which unfortunately if not corrected; leads to broken relationships and unhappy men and women returning to the world of dating. You simply cannot have a real man and a pseudo man existing inside a relationship. The feminine must be properly represented to create or restore peace.</p><p>So, I am sure you are wondering how to resolve this issue that affects so many potentially great relationships. </p><p>1. <b>My first recommendation is to understand who you are as a person and a Woman.</b> What do you need to be happy? In general and your romantic relationships; too often we get caught up in some other person’s dream and discover later on it was a huge mistake. So, be authentic. </p><p>2. <b>Next be honest about the type of man you would enjoy creating a long-lasting relationship.</b> Your dream guy may not be the person you have been fantasizing about. He may be someone totally different from the ones you keep pursuing.</p><ul><li><b>How will you know?</b></li><li>Well, if you keep dating the same type of men and the relationship keep repeating the same unsuccessful relationship patterns. He mostly likely is not the right type of man for you. You are trying to “fit’ into someone else’s dream. Be bold and daring; take the time to write out who you really desire then, learn what you need to know to invite this man into your life. </li></ul><p>3. <b>Stop trying to be so “tough”</b>. The <b><i>“I don’t need a man”</i></b> attitude will keep you single and in fault-finding state of mind when it comes to men. This holds true even if you are currently in a relationship; you will find ways to undermine your man and his efforts to be of assistance to you. Learn how to enjoy the softer side of your personality and allow men to step up, help you, and appreciate your feminine nature. </p><p>4. <b>Stop trying to do this alone.</b> Hire the services of someone who can help you unlock your hidden desires and dreams for a wonderful and satisfying relationship. We all at one time or another need the help of someone who holds us accountable to our dreams. Our love life is no different. </p><p>Remember the definition of insanity is: </p><p><span style="color:#800000;"><b>“Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”</b> – <i>Albert Einstein </i></span></p><p>Does this sound like your life and romantic relationships? If so, here’s your chance to stop repeating dead-end habits and learn the skills to finally be happy. The steps outlined in this article can be the starting point for true romantic success, but they will only work if you are willing to step out of your comfort zone and be accountable for your love life and there is no reason to go it alone.</p><p>Go to: <a href="http://undeniablyirresistible.com" target="_blank">www.undeniablyirresistible.com</a> and request your <span class="font-size-3" style="color:#800000;"><strong>Complimentary Solutions Session</strong></span> for guidance and some additional helpful hints.</p><p>Wishing you much love and unlimited joy,</p><p>Cyndi Harris, HP</p><p>Relationship Solutions Coach, Author, and Joyologist</p><p><a href="http://undeniablyirresistible.com" target="_blank">www.undeniablyirresistible.com</a></p></div>
Be Fearless and Say " I Love You" More Often
https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/never-tire-of-saying-i-love-you
2013-05-14T16:00:00.000Z
2013-05-14T16:00:00.000Z
Cyndi Harris
https://mybbwo.com/members/CyndiHarris
<div><p>Hello everyone,</p><p>How are you? I hope each of you had a wonderful weekend. Mother's day has come and gone and for every mom out there I hope your day was an amazing one filled with much laughter and love. Personally, my day was perfect. I spent time with my beloved (He surprised me with a lovely and thoughtful gift), heard from my children (They live throughout the US), and received and shared messages of goodwill and love with family and friends.</p><p>It was a memorable day and as usual it left me thinking about love. Love is such a gigantic topic that we do our best to pigeonhole and water down because, it seems to cause such discomfort in so many people. And, while I appreciate holidays like Mother's day. It always makes me curious to know how people express their love for mom throughout the year.</p><p>I realize I am truly blessed because I have a great relationship with my 3 incredible sons. We talk often and are a consistent part of each others lives. I love them dearly and they return my love without hesitation.</p><p>I believe it is so easy for us because, I raised them to be loving and strong men. We never leave each other, hang up the phone, or finish a texting conversation without saying "I love you." It is a natural-feeling habit for us. I let them know that saying "I love you." is a good thing and not something to fear. Even when, we have had our disagreements over the years; we still come back to love. Open communication is definitely the key. They are awesome young men and I could talk about them all day, but I want to share a quote with you that eloquently expresses the importance of fearlessly saying "I love you" to your loved ones.</p><p>It is from Leo Buscaglia's book <strong>"Born for Love"</strong>. It is a wonderful book full of joy and wisdom. I highly recommend it to anyone who is ready to change their belief systems around the topic of love.</p><p>Here it is:</p><p style="text-align:center;"><span class="font-size-3" style="color:#ff0000;"><strong>Never Tire of Saying "I Love You"</strong></span></p><p style="text-align:left;">"Such a simple phrase, 'I love you,' yet I cannot think of any words with greater power. Francois Villon, the French poet, wrote, 'I love you. These are easy words to say, yet my heart fails as I say them, for their meaning is as full and musical as the bell of doom.' </p><p style="text-align:left;">We should never tire of expressing our love, for certainly we never tire of hearing it expressed. Strange how simple it is to use these words with inanimate things. We feel safe in loving our car, a new coat, or spaghetti and meatballs. But, we have grave difficulties verbalizing our love for other human beings, even to those closest to us...</p><p style="text-align:left;">The message 'I love you,' is not something that goes without saying. To the contrary, it needs to be said whenever and wherever love is present." - <span style="color:#ff0000;"><strong>Leo Buscaglia</strong></span></p><p style="text-align:left;">I think this quote expresses how we seem to fear saying "I love you," to the people we care for so deeply.</p><p style="text-align:left;">What stops you from using those 3 little words more often. Is it:</p><ul><li>A fear of rejection</li><li>Loss of perceived power</li><li>A need to control</li><li>Fear of an awkward moment (Say it more often and it becomes less traumatic)</li></ul><p>Tell me. I have heard numerous reasons over the years and I have had to overcome my own fears. Especially, when I initially fall in love and I am worried I may say it too soon or the other person may not feel the same way. Yes, even I have a had an insecure moment or 2. But, I have learned from experience, if it is on my heart to say it then, I need to say it. Whether a person receives it or not is their issue not mine.</p><p style="text-align:center;"><span style="color:#ff0000;" class="font-size-3"><strong>"Love is meant to be shared not kept as a secret locked within our hearts." - <span style="color:#000000;" class="font-size-2">Cyndi Harris</span></strong></span></p><p>Now, having shared this with you, I am asking you to do a simple assignment for me. Actually it is more for you than me.</p><p>Today, <strong>and everyday that follows</strong>,<strong> </strong>find 3 people who you can say "I love you." Just say it and be okay if they do not say it in return. If it is someone close to you where these words have not flown freely; be patient and be prepared to answer some questions or receive a strange look or 2. </p><p><span style="color:#ff0000;" class="font-size-3"><strong>Love is an ongoing process</strong></span> that requires courage, fearlessness, joy, persistence, and trust. It is worth any and all effect you put into it. So, have faith and know that <strong>you are love and you are loved</strong>. Regardless of the circumstances that may surround your life so, pass it along and watch how the blessing of love shows up more often in your life.</p><p>Share the love and leave your comments below; also, pass this blog post on to anyone you believe will benefit from its simple message. Thank you for your continued interest and support.</p><p>Have a wonderful day and as always; I am wishing for you much love and unlimited joy,</p><p>Cyndi Harris, HP</p><p>Relationship Solutions Coach, Author, & Joyologist</p><p>You may reach me at: Cyndi@undeniablyirresistible.com or <a href="http://undeniablyirresistible.com" target="_blank">www.undeniablyirresistible.com</a> or <a href="http://redtentwisdom.com" target="_blank">www.redtentwisdom.com</a></p></div>
How to Love a Man – It Is Easier than You Think. “Showing Appreciation”
https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/how-to-love-a-man-it-is-easier-than-you-think-showing
2013-04-01T18:03:17.000Z
2013-04-01T18:03:17.000Z
Cyndi Harris
https://mybbwo.com/members/CyndiHarris
<div><p><span style="color:#ff0000;"><b>“Honey, I appreciate you.”</b></span> Hearing those words can make your man feel like <b><span style="color:#ff0000;">“Superman”</span>. </b></p><p>Men show love in many ways and only a few of them are similar to ways women express love. Think about it; when we, women, are in love with someone we tend to do some of the following: </p><p>• Send romantic cards </p><p>• Feed our beloved </p><p>• Offer backrubs </p><p>• Send cute and sexy text messages </p><p>• Etc. </p><p></p><p>Our expression of love tends to be more affectionate and emotion-based: </p><p>• <span><b>Cards - </b></span>say words we may not be creative enough to say. (Warm fuzzy feelings) </p><p>• <span><b>Food - </b></span>is comforting and at times revolves around memorable events; the holidays, special occasions, and creates memories. (More warm fuzzies) </p><p>• <span><b>Backrubs - </b></span>create intimate moments that may or may not lead to passionate sexual ones. </p><p>• <span><b>Text messages - </b></span>generally, if done right, get an immediate response and create an instant connection with our beloved. </p><p></p><p>Men can express love in these ways as well, but it does not come naturally to most of them. If you currently have a man who is offering you such emotion-based tokens of love; I can almost guarantee he was taught to be expressive, in this way, by another woman; a previous romance or a great platonic friend. Possibly, by watching a male role model (Who was probably previously guided by a woman's influence as well); however it happened be thankful and be sure to encourage him <strong>(Saying thank you is a good start.)</strong> whenever he does something; <strong>big or small</strong>. Appreciation of such <span style="color:#ff0000;"><b>“magical”</b></span> moments is very important if you want him to continue. </p><p></p><p><span class="font-size-3"><strong>Typically, men express their love for a woman through their actions;</strong></span> to do things for you is more comfortable expressions of love for him. Men love to problem-solve and find ways to be sure their beloved is comfortable, protected, and feels safe. He is more likely to take your car in for <strong>an oil change, regular maintenance, or fill your gas tank</strong> to show his love then, remember to buy a card and book reservations for your anniversary. </p><p>Yes, I know when dating and in pursuit of the woman of his dreams; a man can be very romantic. But, ladies once he has you. He starts to show his love in less dramatic ways. Things we may take for granted, <span style="color:#ff0000;"><b>like that oil change</b></span>, are his ways of loving and taking care of you. </p><p>So, learning how to be appreciative of the little things can be the difference between a tense relationship and a loving one. Why, because if you start offering <span style="color:#ff0000;"><b>“Honey, I appreciate you.”</b></span> after he has taken out the garbage, picked-up the kids from day care, or asked you about your day. You become even more lovable in his eyes and he will search for more ways to make you happy. He feels like he is getting it right with you; he feels like your hero. </p><p>Yes, your hero, every man wants to be his woman’s hero. He will never tell you, but watch him after you tell him how much you appreciate something he has done for you; <span style="color:#ff0000;"><b>big or small</b></span>. He almost “glows” with satisfaction, <strong>he did something right</strong>. </p><p>Now, to show you how true the information I am sharing is. I have <span style="color:#ff0000;"><strong>an</strong> <b>assignment for you</b></span>. This week, I want you to make a list of the little things your man and the men in your life do for you. <strong>Yes, single ladies,</strong> I want you to do this too. Appreciating men includes appreciation for all of them; <strong>our fathers, sons, friends, co-workers, etc.</strong> Even a stranger who compliments you or holds the door open for you deserves to receive some appreciation. </p><p>So, that is all for now. I hope this brief article has offered you some helpful insight about the man or men in your life. Have fun with this newfound information; <strong>email me</strong> and let me know what exciting things happen in your life once you start showing more appreciation for the men in your life or if you would like some one on one assistance learning how to really take advantage of this newfound skill.</p><p>Have a wonderful day, </p><p>Cyndi Harris, HP </p><p>Author, Relationship Transformation Coach, Man Whisperer </p><p><span><a href="http://undeniablyirresistible.com" target="_blank">www.undeniablyirresistible.com</a> </span>or <a href="http://redtentwisdom.com" target="_blank">www.redtentwisdom.com</a><span> (Go to either site to sign up for your 20 minute complimentary irresistible discovery session.)</span></p><p>Cyndi@undeniablyirresistible.com </p></div>
“Behind Every Great Woman is a Great Man”
https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/behind-every-great-woman-is-a-great-man
2013-04-18T21:00:00.000Z
2013-04-18T21:00:00.000Z
Cyndi Harris
https://mybbwo.com/members/CyndiHarris
<div><p>Yes, I have flipped around this well known quote. Typically, the statement is <span style="color:#800000;"><em><strong>“Behind Every Great Man is a Great Woman.”</strong></em></span> It is a wonderful quote and very simply explains how important a great relationship is for a man to truly reach various levels of success in his life. History is full of numerous examples of incredibly successful men who had wives, lovers, and/or mistresses who inspired them to be more than ordinary and reach great levels of accomplishment. </p><p>Monuments like the <span style="color:#800000;"><b>Taj Mahal</b></span> are constant reminders of how powerful love is and the lengths that a grateful and happy man will go to express his love for an inspiring woman. A woman who was, at times, quietly in the background offering her love and support for his ideas and visions of success; his partner, love, and many times his best friend. </p><p>Knowing how powerful the right love connection can be for true happiness and success in life. I decided to also point out how important is for a woman to also have a truly wonderful and supportive man in her life; <span style="color:#800000;"><b>someone who rouses her to be and do more;</b></span> a man who is confident, lovable, and passionately believes in her and her dreams. </p><p>To prove my point here are few modern day women who have amazing and loving support from their men: </p><p>• Michelle Obama <b><i>(Husband - President of the United States Barack Obama) </i></b></p><p>• Angelina Jolie <b><i>(Life Partner – Brad Pitt) </i></b></p><p>• Jada Pinkett-Smith <b><i>(Husband – Will Smith) </i></b></p><p>• Beyonce <b><i>(Husband – Jay Z) </i></b></p><p>Are a few wonderful examples of women with a powerhouse man in her corner; these ladies understand the importance of having a great life partner because, if you really think about it being married or in a long-term relationship is about much more than romance. It is about coming together with common goals and life visions. Our individual goals are important, but having someone who you can share your dreams, fears, and victories is priceless. </p><p>Unfortunately, too often, as we move forward on our path to personal success we leave out one of our greatest fans. The man who loves us and wants nothing but the best for us and truly does want to offer assistance and guidance (when requested); learning how to invite him in requires courage, humility, and trust. </p><p><span style="color:#800000;"><strong>You must be willing to communicate your ambitions, desires, and goals with the one you have selected to share your life.</strong></span> Or if you are single, now is the time to develop the skills to communicate these ideas with a future mate. Learning how to be supportive is not only about being there for your man. <strong><em><span style="color:#800000;">I</span></em><span style="color:#800000;"><em>t is also about letting him be available for you</em>.</span></strong> He wants to help you, if he is unaware of what you are thinking about; how can he be of assistance? </p><p>So, the next time you are feeling discouraged and alone in your quest for success. Think about the women I listed in the beginning of this article. They have found a healthy balance of individual success within a loving partnership/relationship. You can too. It is all about communication. </p><p>Here are a few questions for you: </p><ul><li>Do you have some misguided belief that you must pursue your desires alone? <span style="color:#800000;"><b><i>(The “Superwoman” syndrome; I don’t need a man. I don’t need anyone. I can do this on my own.) </i></b></span></li><li>Does your beloved know about your secret ambitions and goals? </li><li>If yes, good for you. If not, why not?<ul><li>Are you afraid to personally step up to your dreams and know that if you share with your partner you will need to finally take action? </li><li>Are afraid of possible ridicule? (Fear is usually <span style="color:#800000;"><b>“Much ado about nothing.”</b></span> Take that leap of faith; you deserve to live your best life.) </li><li>Has your beloved ever been unkind about any personal goals you have shared with him? If not, then let him know what is on your mind… <strong><span style="color:#800000;">Remember you are in a partnership with this person. </span></strong></li></ul></li></ul><p>So, if you are ready to put aside your fears, stop trying to be superwoman, and finally bring your beloved back into your life, but are unsure where to begin. Let’s talk, I am here for you. I believe in you and I want you to have a life that fulfills you and allows you to join the ranks of great women with a great guy standing “behind” her. </p><p>As always, I am wishing you much love and unlimited joy, </p><p>Cyndi Harris, HP </p><p><b><span style="color:#800000;">Relationship Solutions Coach and Man Whisperer “Intimacy Creation Savant”</span> </b></p><p>Author of the forthcoming book <strong>“Official Handbook to Becoming Irresistible – Learn How to be a Woman Who is Positively Unforgettable.”</strong> </p><p><span><a href="http://redtentwisdom.com" target="_blank">www.redtentwisdom.com</a> </span>or <a href="https://www.undeniablyirresistible.com" target="_blank">www.undeniablyirresistible.com</a> </p></div>
How to Love a Man - "Affection"
https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/how-to-love-a-man-affection-1
2013-04-29T17:00:00.000Z
2013-04-29T17:00:00.000Z
Cyndi Harris
https://mybbwo.com/members/CyndiHarris
<div><p>Hello everyone and welcome to the next installment from the <strong><span style="color:#800000;">"How to Love a Man"</span></strong> series. I certainly hope the previous posts helped you feel a little closer to your beloved or offered some valuable insight to the single ladies who are preparing to meet their future beloved.</p><p>Loving a man and being loved by a great guy is such a delectable and delightful feeling, but if you are feeling a little lonely in your relationship let me ask you a few questions:</p><ul><li>When was the last time you really looked at your beloved? I mean really looked at him and noticed how attractive and strong he is.</li><li>Have you ever taken the time to notice the shape of his hands, the width of his strong shoulders, how he stands when he feels really good, or the way he moves when he is feeling momentarily discouraged. </li><li>Have you ever just sat in a room and watched your man move about totally unaware of your admiration? Or sat across the table from him listening to him share something important with you? It can be mesmerizing. The sound of his voice or the way moves throughout his space.</li><li>Have you thought about how much you enjoy his hugs or the way he smiles at you?</li><li>How about the way he feels in your arms when you hug him?</li></ul><p><span style="color:#800000;"><strong>Affection is impulsive</strong></span> and can be sparked by the feelings the previous questions can create. You may observe how your man looks and suddenly feel the urge to be close to him. So, if you don't remember how your beloved feels when you hug him. Does this mean you haven't hugged him lately? Why not? <strong>Men need love too.</strong></p><p>Yes, your big, strong, and possibly silent type needs to feel your soft warm arms wrapped around him from time to time for no particular reason. He needs to know that you just love being close to him as much as he loves being close to you.</p><p>Men may seem all tough on the outside, but inside they can be as <span style="color:#800000;"><strong>soft and wonderful as a</strong></span> <strong><span style="color:#800000;">"marshmallow"</span></strong>. Just because your beloved may appear invincible; doesn't mean he is untouchable or has no need for your affection.</p><p>He may be craving:</p><ul><li>The feel of your skin.</li><li>The lingering scent of your perfume on his shirt after you hug him.</li><li>The comfort of your touch.</li><li>Or many other things that having an affectionate and loving woman in his life provides.</li></ul><p>Affection is a huge topic even <strong>Leo Buscaglia's in his book "Born for Love"</strong> mentions the following:</p><p style="text-align:center;"><span style="color:#800000;"><em><strong>"Science has proven that a simple hug is one of the most convenient and inexpensive therapies available. Yet, we remain touch starved."</strong></em></span></p><p>He continues to talk about some interesting information he gathered while doing research for another book. He says " People consistently mentioned that there were certain qualities that they found to be essential for a happy and long lasting relationship." <span style="color:#800000;"><strong>Affection (touching, holding, and stroking</strong>)</span> was named the most important by the majority of the participants. Surprisingly, sex ranked # 8 on the list.</p><p>Affection, unfortunately seems to be one of the most neglected aspect in most relationships. It is unfortunate, since nonsexual touch is so vital to our emotional and physical well-being. <strong>Being affectionate is a fun, simple, and sweet way</strong> to show our beloved how much we care and enable him to share his affection for us as well.</p><p>This should be such an effortless thing for couples to do, but I know some women who withhold affection. They do this because, they are worried if they hug or touch their man; that the simple nonsexual interaction may be misinterpreted as a sexual come-on and then their man will want sex. So, to avoid unwanted sexual advances, they completely avoid contact with their man.</p><p>This is a very sad situation because, now we have <strong>two touch-starved people</strong> living a very sterile existence. Leaving sex as the only way either one of them receives any human contact from each other. No wonder sex becomes such a big issue for their man. It is the only time he gets to be physically close to his beloved.</p><p>So, if you want to avoid this scenario. I recommend that you make a conscious effort to touch your beloved. There are easy and simple ways you can invite more affection into your relationship without turning every touch into a sexual encounter (Unless that is your goal... If so, then go for it.). For example:</p><ul><li>Touch his hand when you are talking to him. </li><li>Touch his arm as he is passing you in the hallway or kitchen.</li><li>Offer to rub his shoulders if he looks tired after a long day. (Bonus, be sure to mention how strong he is as you are rubbing his shoulders. He will "melt" under your care and compliments.)</li><li>Give him a hug and tell how much you appreciate him then, walk away.</li><li>When he is sitting in front of the TV in his "papa bear" chair give him a kiss on the cheek or forehead. (<em><span style="color:#800000;"><strong>But, not while he is watching the game or any other event that has an intense hold on his attention. This will avoid aggravation on both sides.)</strong></span></em></li><li>Be creative and make a list of ways you can show more affection to the one you love.</li></ul><p>These are just a few suggestions. They are simple non-threatening ways to bring more nonsexual contact back into your love life and joy back into your relationship. Being close to your beloved should be one of the things that makes you feel adored and cherished in your relationship. So, relax and have some fun.</p><p>Now, go give your sweetie a hug. If he hasn't felt your arms around him in awhile and looks at you kind of strange. <strong>Just smile and say, " I am having such a wonderful day. I wanted to share my excitement with you." Then, smile and walk away.</strong> Be confident in the knowledge that he will come around and who knows he may have a few happy surprises for you too.</p><p>That is all for now. Enjoy, we will talk again soon. Plus, for more fun and playful ways to enhance your love life. Sign up for <strong><span style="color:#800000;">your 20 minute Complimentary Solutions session at <a href="http://redtentwisdom.com" target="_blank">www.redtentwisdom.com</a> or <a href="http://undeniablyirresistible.com" target="_blank">www.undeniablyirresistible.com</a>.</span></strong></p><p>Wishing you much love and unlimited joy,</p><p><em><span class="font-size-3">Cyndi Harris, HP</span></em></p><p><strong>Relationship Solutions Coach, Man Whisperer</strong> (Intimacy Creation Savant), <strong>Author, Radio Host of Red Tent Wisdom radio</strong> - Broadcasting live starting Tuesday 4/30/13 at 11am EDT. (Blogtalkradio)</p><p></p></div>
"5 Things That Make You Irresistible to a Man”
https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/5-things-that-make-you-irresistible-to-a-man
2013-03-28T17:30:00.000Z
2013-03-28T17:30:00.000Z
Cyndi Harris
https://mybbwo.com/members/CyndiHarris
<div><p>If you have been caught up in the dating "hamster" wheel lately and are having a hard time understanding why your dates are not progressing beyond a first date then, this report will give you a glimpse at what you may be doing unintentionally that is turning off your dates.</p><p></p><p><b>Here's the set up: </b></p><p>You know you are a beautiful, caring, fun, and loving woman. But for some reason, your dates either do not call back or if they do call back; nothing happens. No second date is booked and eventually he stops calling. You are feeling confused and disappointed; possibly a little hurt as well. You thought the date went well. Both of you were laughing, sharing great conversation, and he mentioned a few times that he was having a good time. Yet, nothing happens after the first date.</p><p></p><p>Well, I have a secret to share with you. One of the reason, he may not be calling back is; he thinks it would be too much work to date you. Men love to date confident women. They want to spend time with a woman who is easygoing, fun, intelligent, and relaxed. But, if during any of the conversations you had with your date: </p><p>• He felt you were sharing too much personal information too soon. </p><p>• Coming on the dating with a "Could He Be the One?" agenda. </p><p>• Or did not come across as a confident woman. </p><p></p><p>He has decided to walk away. Men get nervous when they notice they are out with a woman who: </p><p>• Still has unresolved issues with an ex. </p><p>• Is obviously on the "marriage" bandwagon. </p><p>• Or is telling him too many private details regarding her life on the first date. </p><p></p><p>If during the initial conversation you were basically giving him your life and dating history. He will feel overwhelmed or he decides since you have shared so much already; there really isn't much more that he needs to know about you. A man rarely calls you back when either of these two happens on a first date. So, if you want to put yourself in the rare category of multiple dates and have more options than the average woman.</p><p></p><p>Here are <span><b>5 secrets about men</b></span>, most women ignore. <span><b><br /></b></span></p><p></p><p>1. The majority of men like a woman who is a little mysterious. He wants to learn about you layer by layer. He wants to feel like he has to "earn" the right to spend time with you. I know this sounds a bit old-fashioned, but in this age of information overload. A woman who leisurely “unfolds” in front of a man is very beautiful to him and a rare delight. Think about the men you have met in the past who you did not instantly share your life story. They usually wanted to see you again because, they thought you were interesting and had a desire to learn more about you. </p><p></p><p>2. Men love confident women. An insecure woman will rush through explaining who she is and provide too much information; just in case she may never see him again. This feels desperate and can make a man feel uncomfortable. A confident woman gives just enough information about herself to keep him interested for more. Example: The question comes up about your ex. </p><p><span>•</span> <b>A confident woman</b> will smile and say "He was a great guy and we had so much fun together, but eventually we just grew apart and knew it was time to move on. I really do wish him the best." </p><p><span>•</span> <b>The typical woman</b> when asked this question will tell the her date all the lousy and worst things about her ex and the break up. </p><p><span>•</span> <b>The first answer</b> shows your date you are a confident and relaxed person. This makes him feel good and there is a good chance he will want to see you again. If he is smart, he will ask for a second date before you finish the first date. </p><p><span>•</span> <b>The second answer</b> lets your date know you are probably still bitter about the breakup and your date will have no desire to ask for a second date. </p><p>So, if you are looking to improve your chances of going on a second date and beyond with the right guy. Remember to: </p><p>3. <b>Smile</b> – Smiling makes you look confident and relaxed. Plus, if you are smiling you will look even more attractive. </p><p>4. <b>Be Classy and Confident</b> - Let him see that you are a confident woman who really does enjoy her life. Show him through your actions that you are a charming and charismatic person. </p><p>5. <b>Flirt</b> – Yes, flirt and depending on your personality style; you can be demure or slightly more daring. Keep it light and playful (avoid coming across too sexy.) You want to peak his interest not turn this into foreplay. </p><p></p><p>The most important thing you can do is to have fun. Smile, flirt, and be playful. Keep the conversation light. Ask questions that are easy to answer and keep you from sounding like an FBI interrogator. If you would like some useful tips on how to flirt successfully and with ease; send me an email at:</p><p><span style="color:#800000;"><strong>Cyndi@undeniablyirresistible.com</strong></span> to receive my free guide to the <span style="color:#800000;"><strong>"The Art of Flirting".</strong></span><span><b><br /></b></span></p><p>This is the end of the report. Hopefully, you will use these 5 tips on your next date. If you do, watch how often you are asked out on a second date. Keep it simple and enjoy. </p><p>Have a lovely day. </p><p>I am wishing you much love and unlimited joy, </p><p>Cyndi Harris, HP </p><p>Relationship Solutions Coach and Man Whisperer "Intimacy Creator Savant" </p><p>And author of the forthcoming book: </p><p><span class="font-size-3" style="color:#800000;">“The Official Handbook to Becoming Irresistible”</span> </p><p><b>(Learn How to Become a Woman Who Is Positively Unforgettable.)</b></p></div>
“Should I Stay or Should I Leave?”
https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/should-you-stay-or-should-you-leave
2013-04-12T17:00:00.000Z
2013-04-12T17:00:00.000Z
Cyndi Harris
https://mybbwo.com/members/CyndiHarris
<div><p>I hear this question so often from women who are feeling exhausted, neglected, and overwhelmed in their romantic relationships. They are struggling with the decision to stay or leave a relationship they feel has lost its appeal. They are unhappy and truly have no idea what their next step should be.</p><p>It is very sad because, my married ones or clients in long-term relationships are wondering if they will ever feel love again and my single clients (usually newly single) wonder if they will ever find love again. <span style="color:#800000;"><em><strong>(FYI - my typical client is 40 to 48 years old women, with children in their teens to early 20's, and she is or has been in a long-term relationship that has lasted 10 years or longer.)</strong></em></span></p><p>Does this sound like your current situation? If so, tell me:</p><ul><li>Do you long for days gone by when you and your beloved were still happy and deeply in love with each other?</li><li>When was the last time your beloved treated you with adoration and affection?</li><li>Are arguments becoming the main style of communication between the two of you?</li></ul><p>Well, if you are at your <b>“wits”</b> end about what to do next in your relationship and are thinking… <span style="color:#800000;"><b>“Should I stay or should I leave?”</b></span> I want you to stop for a moment and think very carefully about what I am about to share with you; <b><i>being single will not solve the communication and intimacy issues you are experiencing.</i></b> It may offer some temporary relief. But, the personal underlying communication issues that caused the disconnect will still remain. Even if you move on to another relationship.</p><p><b>And if you are single and reading this article,</b> I want you to think back to your last relationship and think about how the lack of communication and previous questions played out in your last meaningful relationship. Did they have something to do with why you left?</p><p>As a <span style="color:#800000;"><b>relationship solutions coach</b></span>, I talk to many frustrated women. Especially ladies who are suffering from regrets about past decisions they made in the process of maturing into the woman they are today. It is tough to look back over your life and realize you may not have fulfilled some or any of the goals you set for yourself as a younger woman.</p><p>You may have made a multitude of decisions that now feel like sacrifices for your children and significant other (husband or long-term boyfriend). And now, you may be working on life improvements and want to remove yourself from what feels like a life-draining situation. I have noticed so many women, <b><i>who in the process of working on self-improvement</i></b>, want to discard their man.</p><p>I personally think this is unfair unless, you have a man who truly does mistreat you.</p><p><b>For example:</b></p><ul><li>He is abusive</li><li>An active addict or alcoholic whose behavior is destructive</li><li>Or has other qualities that can potentially harm you; emotionally, mentally, physically, and/or spiritually.</li></ul><p>If this is true then, I recommend you seek help and remove yourself from the situation as quickly as possible. <b>You cannot help someone who is unwilling to help themselves.</b> But, <b><i>if you are basically using your man as a scapegoat for all the unexpressed unhappiness you are currently feeling</i></b> in your life then, I want you to carefully read what I am about to say..</p><p>Far too many women have left a truly wonderful man and solid loving relationship because, her <strong>uncommunicated</strong><b> needs were going unmet and she did not truly understand how to invite her man back into her life to assist her.</b> Why, because, she had emotionally disconnected from him and in her frustration started blaming him for being the cause of her dissatisfaction.</p><p>This is tragic because, most men do want to be there for the woman they love, but have no idea how to reach her once her walls have gone up and she starts to treat him like a nonessential part of her life.</p><p>If this sounds like you then, please understand that things may not be as hopeless as they seem. I would enjoy talking to you in greater detail and show you some ways you can go from “No Love to True Love” once again. Join me for a very special teleconference on: <span style="color:#800000;"><b><i>Thursday 4/18/2013 from 6:00 to 7:30p EDT called “No Love to True Love” – Fall in Love All Over Again.</i></b> </span>Go to: <a href="http://www.redtentwisdom.com">www.redtentwisdom.com</a> and click on the teleseminar page to register and receive call in information.</p><p>Or if you are ready for some immediate solutions then, go to: <span><a href="http://www.redtentwisdom.com">www.redtentwisdom.com</a></span> and sign up for <span style="color:#800000;"><b><i>your 20 minute complimentary Relationship Solutions Session</i></b>.</span></p><p>Either way I am looking forward to sharing with you some useful information that may turn your relationship in a positive direction or start your next relationship with more confidence. </p><p>Have a wonderful day and I am sending you much love and wishing you unlimited joy,</p><p>Cyndi Harris, HP</p><p>Relationship Solutions Coach; Man Whisperer “Intimacy Creation Savant”</p><p><a href="http://www.redtentwisdom.com">www.redtentwisdom.com</a></p></div>
Your Words Are Real - What "Reality" Have You Created For Yourself?
https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/your-words-are-real-what-reality-have-you-created-for-yourself
2013-05-06T16:00:00.000Z
2013-05-06T16:00:00.000Z
Cyndi Harris
https://mybbwo.com/members/CyndiHarris
<div><p>Hello everyone,</p><p>Question? <strong>How are you?</strong></p><p>Looks like a pretty innocent question, right? We hear it everyday throughout our day from family, friends, and strangers. We hear it so often we seem to slip into autopilot when we answer this question.</p><p>What is your normal response? I'm:</p><ul><li>Fine</li><li>Ok</li><li>Sad</li><li>Lousy</li><li>Angry</li><li>Scared</li><li>Sick</li></ul><p>And the list goes on. Too often the responses are energy-sapping like the ones I listed above. How often have you heard responses like these. How does it usually make you feel? Bummed out, right?</p><p>Think about it. If you were asking the question in good faith, did you really want to hear an awful answer. We all can be compassionate, but sometimes we would like to hear some good news.</p><p>It can become so overwhelming at times and there are probably some people you no longer ask how they are doing. Because, you know they will not have anything good to say. So, you avoid them or limit your conversation with them; which is perfectly fine. You have the right to protect your good feelings and peace of mind.</p><p>But, what if you are the one who provides the <span style="color:#800000;"><strong>"downer"</strong></span> answers to this little question? We all have days when we don't feel our best; this is normal, but what if you consciously decided to answer differently. Let's do this again:</p><p><span class="font-size-3" style="color:#800000;"><strong>"How are you?"</strong></span></p><p>Now, instead of using the standard response to this little question; what if you responded by saying <span class="font-size-3"><strong><span style="color:#800000;">I Am:</span></strong></span></p><ul><li>Amazing <span style="color:#800000;"><strong>(I got up this morning and realized I live an amazing life.)</strong></span></li><li>Excited</li><li>Delightful <span style="color:#800000;"><strong>(I am great. My life is delightful and full of joy.)</strong></span></li><li>Fabulous</li><li>Fantastic</li><li>Magnificent</li><li>Wonderful</li></ul><p>Can you see the direction I am heading with these responses? <span style="color:#800000;" class="font-size-3"><strong>Say them with me:</strong></span></p><ul><li>"I Am Amazing."</li><li>"I Am Excited."</li><li>"I Am Fabulous"</li><li>"I Am Fantastic."</li><li>"I Am Magnificent."</li><li>"I Am Wonderful."</li></ul><p><span style="color:#800000;"><strong>How do you feel? Better, right?</strong></span></p><p>Yes, I'll admit it may feel a little awkward at first, but do this on a regular basis and <span style="color:#800000;"><strong>I guarantee</strong></span> you will feel better and your life will begin to shift in a more positive direction. Gradually, you will begin to notice more happy and interesting things taking place around you and you are ready to receive this newfound joy. It can be really exciting and fun.</p><p>Will this simple exercise change your life overnight? It might, because, how you talk about your life and life experiences does show up in the outward appearance of your life. But, if not overnight; at least you will be on track to making some pleasant changes in your life and how it shows up around you.</p><p>So, instead of talking about lack, misery, sickness, etc. Talk about the things you are happy about or grateful for. Let the universe know you are in a good place by talking about what makes you feel good and guess what? <span style="color:#800000;"><strong>You will be provided with more reasons to enjoy your life and the world around you.</strong></span></p><p>How can I be so sure? Because, I am living and loving proof this works. When I:</p><ul><li>Was going through a major health crisis <strong>(Fibromyalgia)</strong> that I left me in constant chronic pain. I chose to speak positive and healing words. I am completely healed and naturally pain-free. <strong>(I'll share how on a different day.)</strong></li><li>Walked away from a 10 years relationship with a man I loved dearly. I chose to speak words of gratitude for the time spent and lessons learned from an interesting and wise "teacher". <strong>(New love has entered my life.)</strong></li><li>Moved away from family and friends to begin a new chapter in my life in a new state where I knew no one. I chose to speak words of excitement and joy for the opportunities I knew where coming my way<strong>. (I truly wake up thrilled about each new day.)</strong></li></ul><p>I can list many more life events that I have <span style="color:#800000;"><strong>used the power of words to create incredible experiences</strong></span>, but I mainly shared my personal experiences with you because:</p><p style="text-align:center;"><span class="font-size-3"><strong>I hope you allow yourself to utilize the power of your words to positively reconstruct your life too. </strong></span></p><p>So, let's start simple. <span style="color:#800000;" class="font-size-3"><strong>Tell me, "How are you?"</strong></span></p><p>If you are ready to live and love your life in the most joyous and spectacular way click on my website link<span class="font-size-3"> <a href="http://undeniablyirresistible.com" target="_blank">www.undeniablyirresistible.com</a></span> and <span class="font-size-3" style="color:#800000;"><strong>schedule your Complimentary Irresistible Solutions Session</strong></span>. It is a fun and pleasant way to receive a tip or two that may delightfully change your life.</p><p>Have an amazing day and let's talk soon,</p><p>Cyndi Harris, HP</p><p>Relationship Solutions Coach, Man Whisperer (Intimacy Creation Savant), Author, and general Joyologist</p></div>
The First Steps to Unlocking a Man's Love Code
https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/the-first-steps-in-unlocking-a-man-s-love-code
2013-04-05T13:20:38.000Z
2013-04-05T13:20:38.000Z
Cyndi Harris
https://mybbwo.com/members/CyndiHarris
<div><p>Men… delightful, scrumptious, and wonderful men; I love men. I think they are amazing and interesting. I love the way they look, sound, and process life. But, if loving a man has ever left you feeling confused and frustrated. You are not alone. I admit, men can be some of the most mysterious “creatures” at times. We love them, long for them, and at times want to shake them until some type of emotional response occurs. What is a woman to do? </p><p>Well, if you are interested in cracking a man’s love code and learning how to lovingly and peacefully coexist. I have a few simple tips that will point you in the right direction. But first, I have a couple of questions for you. Then, I am will offer you a few suggestions that can help you get closer to almost any man. </p><p>The questions: </p><p>1. Do you like men? Not only in a romantic sense, but overall. </p><p>2. Do you respect men? </p><p></p><p>Yes, I know these questions are unusual, but I have a very specific reason for asking them. If you want to get inside the mind of a man, you must first understand what is important to him. And yes ladies, sex is important. Goodness ladies, you have such a one-track mind. Granted, it is a delightful “track”. But, a wise woman knows there is more to a man’s needs than simply sex. Even if at times that seems to be all he wants. If you really want to get close to a man and have him open up to you; he must know that you like and respect him. Knowing this little secret can almost instantly change the dynamics of your relationships with men.</p><p>Genuinely liking and respecting a man is important in the beginning of a relationship and beyond, if you want a man to see you as something more than a sex object then, you must let him know you have a sincere interest in him as a man; show him that you think he is fascinating and that you admire him. </p><p>Sounds a bit old-fashioned, right? Maybe, but we put so much pressure on ourselves to appear a certain way when we are with men or get caught up in trying to beat men at their own “game”. We can easily forget to relax and simply get to know a man person to person. </p><p></p><p>So, if you want the inside scoop to better relationships with men here are a few starter tips whether you are just meeting a man or have known him for sometime. If you want your man or men to enjoy your company and develop better communication with them; go back to basics find out:</p><p>• <span><b>What are his interests?</b></span> (Even if you think you know; ask anyway. He may have changed interests or has learned something new about an old one he would love to share with you.)</p><p>• <span><b>Who does he admire and why?</b></span> (This is a big one. It will offer valuable insight into the type of man he is striving to be. Listen carefully to his answers and do some research of your own about the person or people he mentions, This is a great way to gather information for a future conversation.) </p><p>• <span><b>What are his ambitions?</b></span> (Listen with an open-mind, even if you think his ambitions are impossible or unrealistic. They are his dreams; be supportive.) </p><p></p><p>Understanding how to ask good questions is a talent that is underestimated. When you show a real interest in a man as a person; a man will find you fascinating as well. And here's the sweet part; when you follow the above suggestions, a man will find himself thinking about you and he will find a reason; a deep need to spend more time with you. Because, for him, he will have found a woman who is charming, easy to talk to, and whose company he enjoys. This is a win/win situation for both of you.</p><p>Does this sound too simple? Well, if you want to become a man magnet whose beauty, intelligence, and sensuality makes you unforgettable. Give it a try:</p><ul><li>Think about the reasons you truly like men.</li><li>Think of ways you can show a man true respect</li><li>Then, think of some basic questions you can ask (or use the ones provided in this article), and watch what happens. </li></ul><p>I can guarantee you will notice a change in the way men respond to you and how you respond to them. It will become easier and you will be able to pick and choose the type of men you invite into your life. Whether that is a new love interest, a new friend, or reigniting the romance between you and your current man; you now have taken the first steps to cracking a man’s love code. Enjoy and we will talk again soon.</p><p> </p><p>Sending you much love and unlimited joy, </p><p>Cyndi Harris, HP (Life and Relationship Transformation Coach) </p><p>Author of the forthcoming book; “The Official Handbook to Becoming Irresistible – Learn How to be a Woman Who Is Positively Unforgettable.” </p><p><span><a href="http://undeniablyirresistible.com" target="_blank">www.undeniablyirresistible.com</a> </span>or <a href="http://redtentwisdom.com" target="_blank">www.redtentwisdom.com</a></p></div>
I LOVE TO FAIL AND YOU SHOULD TOO by Rickey Johnson, Juniques Multi Cultural Connections
https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/i-love-to-fail-and-you-should-too-by-rickey-johnson-juniques
2013-03-05T00:30:00.000Z
2013-03-05T00:30:00.000Z
Rickey
https://mybbwo.com/members/Rickey
<div><p><strong> </strong></p><div class="post-body entry-content"><strong>Why buy hair when you can buy a hair business for only $19.95</strong></div><div class="post-body entry-content"><strong><a href="http://www.juniques.ws/micore" target="_blank">http://www.juniques.ws/weave</a></strong></div><p> </p><p><strong><span class="font-size-3">I LOVE TO FAIL AND YOU SHOULD TOO!</span></strong> <br /> <span class="font-size-3"><strong> By RICKEY JOHNSON</strong></span></p><div class="post-body entry-content"><br /> <span class="font-size-3">Great Day to ya!!!!</span><br /> <br /> <span class="font-size-3">This is the area that many do not talk about with any substance.</span></div><div class="post-body entry-content"> </div><div class="post-body entry-content"><span class="font-size-3">It is always presented as the "thing" to avoid while making your success journey.</span></div><div class="post-body entry-content"> </div><div class="post-body entry-content"><span class="font-size-3">REALITY, it is the "thing" you must properly place in your psyche as move on the road of life.</span><br /> <br /> <span class="font-size-3">It is a subject that deserves discussion, for the proper understanding of this event, will help multitudes move forward.</span></div><div class="post-body entry-content"><br /> <span class="font-size-3">Enjoy Everyday to the Fullest</span><br /> <br /> <span class="font-size-3"><strong>FAILURE</strong></span></div><div class="post-body entry-content"> </div><div class="post-body entry-content"><span class="font-size-3">With the Puritans, the success/failure ethic was born. America invented a new upper class with only one entry requirement: money. America is the cruelest county in which to fail</span></div><div class="post-body entry-content"><span class="font-size-3">.</span><br /> <span class="font-size-3"><strong>America is also the best place in the world to fail.</strong></span></div><div class="post-body entry-content"><br /> <span class="font-size-3">This is the land where you can go from rags to riches to rags and still hope to go back to riches. Few of us recognize the benefit of failure.</span></div><div class="post-body entry-content"><br /> <span class="font-size-3"><strong>It is important to fail and important to give our children permission to fail.</strong></span></div><div class="post-body entry-content"><br /> <span class="font-size-3">Learning early in life, that you can survive defeat, makes you tougher and more resilient, for the rest of your life.</span></div><div class="post-body entry-content"><br /> <span class="font-size-3">There is no accomplishment without risk. Failure gives you options. It is important to understand what failure is and what it isn’t.</span><br /> <br /> <span class="font-size-3"><strong>Success and failure are not polar opposites they are part of a continuum</strong>.</span></div><div class="post-body entry-content"> </div><div class="post-body entry-content"><span class="font-size-3">Neither is likely to be permanent; the irony is we believe both we last forever. It is the way you cope with failure that shapes you, not the failure itself.</span></div><div class="post-body entry-content"><br /> <span class="font-size-3">In the end, real strength comes from knowing we can survive.</span></div><div class="post-body entry-content"><br /> <span class="font-size-3">There are few things worse than feeling you have failed.</span></div><div class="post-body entry-content"><br /> <span class="font-size-3">Your mood swings wildly from hope to despair.</span></div><div class="post-body entry-content"> </div><div class="post-body entry-content"><span class="font-size-3">It is a time of great confusion.</span></div><div class="post-body entry-content"><br /> <span class="font-size-3"><strong>Failure seems to trigger a series of stages that are distinct and predictable.</strong></span></div><div class="post-body entry-content"> </div><div class="post-body entry-content"><span class="font-size-3">The stages are (1) Shock, (2) Fear, (3)Anger and Blame, (4) Shame, (5) Despair.</span></div><div class="post-body entry-content"><br /> <span class="font-size-3"><span style="color:#ff0000;">First stage</span> – Shock– The first reaction to sudden loss is disbelief, shock, and numbness.</span></div><div class="post-body entry-content"> </div><div class="post-body entry-content"><span class="font-size-3"><strong>The mind denies what it cannot process.</strong></span></div><div class="post-body entry-content"><br /> <span class="font-size-3">Reactions are often physical; at this stage you should do nothing.</span></div><div class="post-body entry-content"><br /> <span class="font-size-3"><strong>It is always a mistake to make any major decisions during this phase.</strong></span></div><div class="post-body entry-content"><br /> <span class="font-size-3">What you need most at this stage is a sympathetic listener, not someone who will offer advice.</span></div><div class="post-body entry-content"> </div><div class="post-body entry-content"><span class="font-size-3">Whenever shock occurs, it is safer do absolutely nothing except wait and allow the pain to recede</span></div><div class="post-body entry-content"><span class="font-size-3">.</span><br /> <span class="font-size-3"><span style="color:#ff0000;">Second Stage</span> – Fear– At first, fear may be quite specific and even appropriate, but they can escalate quickly to unmanageable proportions.</span></div><div class="post-body entry-content"><br /> <span class="font-size-3">By taking fear out of the shadows, fear becomes more manageable. Fear can turn into panic – a sense of sudden, incapacitating alarm.</span></div><div class="post-body entry-content"><br /> <span class="font-size-3"><span style="color:#ff0000;">Third Stage</span> – Anger and Blame- as long as it is a passing stage it’s healthy. It is a sign you value yourself.</span><br /> <br /> <span class="font-size-3">Blame, although everybody engages in it, it is almost always inaccurate.</span></div><div class="post-body entry-content"><br /> <span class="font-size-3">Blame, in other words, will only be your first interpretation, and not a very accurate one at that. Anger, revenge, and blame are temporary and highly useful emotions. These feelings serve a definite function; they become a problem only if they persist.</span></div><div class="post-body entry-content"><br /> <span class="font-size-3"><span style="color:#ff0000;">Fourth Stage</span> – Shame– Shame owes its existence to the authority we give other people to judge us. Judging our own behavior, we might feel ashamed- a personal regret in not living up to an ideal – not shame – disapproval in the yes of others.</span> <br /> <br /> <span class="font-size-3">Your attitude will determine the way they see you. If you act ashamed and defeated people will treat you accordingly. Shame is an unproductive feeling, but one that can only exist if you grant others authority to judge you. Remind yourself that you are in power here.</span></div><div class="post-body entry-content"><br /> <strong><span class="font-size-3">NO ONE CAN MAKE YOU FEEL A VICTIM BUT YOU YOURSELF</span></strong><br /> <span class="font-size-3">(Say that Again!!!!)</span></div><div class="post-body entry-content"><br /> <span class="font-size-3"><span style="color:#ff0000;">Fifth Stage</span> – Despair– Despair occurs only when there is a massive ego loss with no subsequent ego gain, and no apparent way out “Depression occurs when we lose confidence in our own coping mechanisms.</span></div><div class="post-body entry-content"><br /> <span class="font-size-3">"We become depressed when we are bankrupt of self-esteem and self-confidence, when we no longer have sense of our own capacities to insure either our actual survival or the worthiness or value of the life which we can sustain. Psychiatrist Willard Gaylin.”</span></div><div class="post-body entry-content"><br /> <span class="font-size-3">Most depression is self-limiting. Usually after a period of a few months at most, the depression will usually have run it course.</span></div><div class="post-body entry-content"><br /> <strong><span class="font-size-3">One of the best ways to hasten the end of this stage of despair is to give in to it and allow yourself to mourn.</span></strong></div><div class="post-body entry-content"><br /> <span class="font-size-3">The best way to overcome despair is to give up least temporarily the serious endeavor that has defeated you and to turn instead to an easier, more accomplishable, different activity.</span></div><div class="post-body entry-content"><br /> <span class="font-size-3">The stages of failure are as predictable as the stages of a disease, and just as survivable.</span></div><div class="post-body entry-content"><br /> <span class="font-size-3">Everyone experiences them and although they are uncomfortable, they are not permanent.</span></div><div class="post-body entry-content"><br /> <span class="font-size-3">What is important is to let them happen so that you can get done with them.</span></div><div class="post-body entry-content"><br /> <span class="font-size-3"><strong>To fail achieving a particular objective or goal is not a determination of self – worth</strong>.</span></div><div class="post-body entry-content"><br /> <span class="font-size-3">It is just measuring point of what other areas of self-development you may need to experience or skills you may need to obtain.</span></div><div class="post-body entry-content"><br /> <span class="font-size-3">The irony of succeeding is that one must fail first, to some degree, to obtain success.</span></div><div class="post-body entry-content"><br /> <span class="font-size-3">This is a valuable lesson of life to recognize and accept.</span></div><div class="post-body entry-content"> </div><div class="post-body entry-content"><span class="font-size-3">Once you understand this realization, that succeeding is failing and failing leads to success, you are own your on way to some exciting and personally rewarding experiences.</span></div><div class="post-body entry-content"><br /> <span class="font-size-3">This is one of business building articles by Juniques Marketing.</span> <br /> <br /> <span class="font-size-3">I Love to Fail and You should too! Will help you succeed beyond your wildest dreams.</span> <br /> <span class="font-size-3"><a href="http://www.jusmcc.org">www.jusmcc.org</a></span></div><div class="post-body entry-content"> </div><div class="post-body entry-content"><strong>Why buy hair when you can buy a hair business for only $19.95</strong></div><div class="post-body entry-content"><strong><a href="http://www.juniques.ws/micore" target="_blank">http://www.juniques.ws/weave</a></strong></div></div>
Marriage #15
https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/marriage-15
2013-03-12T03:00:00.000Z
2013-03-12T03:00:00.000Z
Di Jones
https://mybbwo.com/members/DiJones
<div><p align="center"><b><i>Love between two people</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>Commitment between two people</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>Two people becoming one</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>How do I know if I am married or not?</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>Is marriage when two have united through their hearts;</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>With God as their witness?</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>Or</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>Is Marriage when two people have a piece of paper, saying they are married?</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i> </i></b></p><p><b><i>What is marriage? There are many who would question this due to questions surrounding gay marriage. I have another reason to question this. Mine is very personal. Mine has religious as well as legal ramifications.</i></b></p><p><b><i>This is my religious dilemma:</i></b></p><p><b><i>When I married I insisted on getting married in a church because this was something I believed strongly in. When I married I took my vows very seriously. The circumstances surrounding my marriage were a bit unusual and this added to the strong beliefs behind my marriage. I had known my husband for only a month and a half via phone conversations. I flew to St Louis to meet him and we got married the same day. We knew, in our hearts, that God had brought us together. Due to my past, I prayed from the moment I stepped off the airplane, while standing in line at the court and up until the time I said “I DO” at the church. I prayed that God would watch over us and I asked to be led to do God’s will; if this was his will that he would bless us in this marriage ceremony. I prayed and I prayed and we were married. I went into this marriage knowing that I made my vows with God as my witness. I believed in my vows till death do us part. I believed in my vows for better or worse, in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer…….I believed and I promised to fulfill these vows. </i></b></p><p><b><i>Do these vows hold true In God’s eyes if my marriage was filled with abuse and adultery against me?</i></b></p><p><b><i>Do these vows hold true if the marriage was not valid in a legal sense?</i></b></p><p><b><i>No one can ever imagine or guess the events that will happen in their life. No one can be prepared for every twist and turn life offers. Shortly after my marriage I learned that my husband was a crack addict. I learned this through the trials my life was faced with. The addiction caused my husband to do many things that are totally against what the Bible says a marriage should be. My husband became abusive; physically, emotionally and verbally. My husband stole from me to pay for his addiction. My husband cheated on me on a regular basis with prostitutes. These are all things that the Bible talks against. Adultery and abuse are both reasons for divorce. The Bible talks about not associating with people like this. The Bible says a person who commits adultery will not be accepted into the kingdom of heaven. The Bible says if you commit adultery you ruin your life. The Bible says very specifically what love is and there is no way that the things my husband did to me would be considered love. And yet, the Bible also says a wife is to submit to her husband. The Bible says we are to forgive 70 X’s 7 times. I believe in God’s word…I believe I am to strive to be as Jesus was. If someone asks for forgiveness and forgives others as he would want to be forgiven; if someone repents and accepts Jesus into his life; if that someone is born again as a new creature of God, do all his past sins matter? Should they matter to anyone if God has forgiven and Only God can judge?</i></b></p><p><b><i>My dilemma is compounded by legal matters.</i></b></p><p><b><i>I have been married for four years now. Even through all the trials, we have tried to work together. Out of nowhere I receive a call from my husband’s first wife. They are not divorced….which means I am not married…or am I? Does it make a difference that he was not a husband to me even when we believed ourselves to be married? Does it make a difference that my husband has asked God for forgiveness and I truly believe that God will judge me to the same extend I judge others? In my mind, I must forgive and not judge my husband just as I would ask God (and my husband) to forgive me. I am not married legally, however, the question remains………am I married in God’s eyes? </i></b></p><p><b><i>When I said my vows to my husband, I said them believing them to be true and from my heart. </i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>Marriage; a covenant</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>In God's house with God as our witness.</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>Marriage; with vows</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>between us two, from our hearts with God's blessings.</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>Are we married in Christ</i></b></p><p align="center"><b><i>under God's Rule</i></b></p></div>
Black Girlz Talk
https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/black-girlz-talk
2013-01-25T01:04:30.000Z
2013-01-25T01:04:30.000Z
Shaneisha Dodson
https://mybbwo.com/members/ShaneishaDodson
<div><div class="sf_pagetitle"><div style="display:block;"><h1>Black Girlz Talk</h1></div></div><div class="sf_content"><div style="display:block;" class="LayoutContainer"><div><div style="overflow:hidden;display:block;"><p style="margin:0in 0in 10pt;text-align:center;"><span style="font-family:'times new roman', serif;">Coming soon is a web based talk show, Black Girlz Talk. Our goal is to showcase African American women in a positive light. In the meantime, check out some of our articles. This quarter topic is relationships. <br /><br />Why is it so hard to find a good man?</span></p><p style="margin:0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family:'times new roman', serif;">We often complain about the difficulties we face when searching for Mr. Right. It’s not enough good men in the world. No one can live up to my standards. All men are dogs. He is a male gold-digger. All men cheat. I’ve heard it all. Blah. Blah. Blah. Stop dating the same man over and over again. If you want change, you have to do something about it. I know that most people don’t like stepping outside of their comfort zone. But remember what do you call a person that keeps doing the same thing and expects different results? Insane. </span></p><p style="margin:0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family:'times new roman', serif;">I’ve talked to a lot of single women that are carrying baggage from one relationship to another. I tell everyone you can’t give someone your all until all your doors have been closed. Just like the airlines only one free small checked bag, leave the rest at the gate. When you get to a point where you are ready to date, take your time and proceed with caution. There are still some good men in the world, but here are a few of my favorite Mr. Wrongs:</span></p><p style="margin:0in 0in 10pt;"><i><span style="font-family:'times new roman', serif;">The computer love</span></i></p><p style="margin:0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family:'times new roman', serif;">The computer love is the guy with the cute pictures on Match.com, Blackplanet, and Facebook. Based on your profiles you are a match made in heaven. This is the person you are secretly obsessed with but too scared to tell your girlfriends because you don’t want to be judged. So you go by yourself to meet him for the first date, but guess what. He looks nothing like his picture. You respectfully say, “You look different in your pictures.” He explains it was a picture of him 75 pounds ago. You laugh it off, but deep down inside you feel played.</span></p><p style="margin:0in 0in 10pt;"><i><span style="font-family:'times new roman', serif;">Mr. out of my league</span></i></p><p style="margin:0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family:'times new roman', serif;">Let’s keep it real. It may be easy to catch a fish, but it hard to keep it from slipping out of your hand. This is the man that is out of your league. He has himself together and searching for someone to compliment him. How can you keep this winner if you have nothing to offer? Looks get old, but substance is priceless.</span></p><p style="margin:0in 0in 10pt;"><i><span style="font-family:'times new roman', serif;">The pretender</span></i></p><p style="margin:0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family:'times new roman', serif;">The pretender is the guy who pretends to be whatever you want him to be: the church boy who can’t quote a scripture, the entrepreneur whose credit score is 300, and the man who claims to love his momma but refers to every woman that has pissed him off as the b word. This is the type of man that completely loses himself when he dates. Who wants a man that has no self-identity?</span></p><p style="margin:0in 0in 10pt;"><i><span style="font-family:'times new roman', serif;">Mr. Married to my job.</span></i></p><p style="margin:0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family:'times new roman', serif;">A man can’t give you his all until he is satisfied with himself. He has to feel like he can love, honor, cherish and take care of you. Don’t date someone who does not have time for you. Ladies, you can’t change him. Keep it moving.</span></p><p style="margin:0in 0in 10pt;"></p><p style="margin:0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family:'times new roman', serif;"><i>I’m single but married.</i></span></p><p style="margin:0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family:'times new roman', serif;">Ladies, just because a man says he is single doesn’t mean he is divorced. Don’t play yourself. Dating a married man is like working a dead end job with no opportunity for advancement. Nobody wants to work a dead end job! Everyone deserves to move up the ladder.</span></p><p style="margin:0in 0in 10pt;"><i><span style="font-family:'times new roman', serif;">Mr. Illusionist.</span></i></p><p style="margin:0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family:'times new roman', serif;">This is the man that gives you the illusion that he is perfect. When you first meet him, it is love at first sight. He has great looks, dressed to the nines, expensive car, good job and the gift of gab meaning he can talk any woman out of her panties. If something looks too good to be true, it probably is. Therefore, it is important to take time to get to know a person before you fall victim to the illusion. If you give up your goods to early, you miss a lot of red flags. Take your time. It can save a lot of heartache.</span></p><p style="margin:0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family:'times new roman', serif;">Now, I know you are asking what can I do to put an end to this dating curse. The answer is to get yourself together and do a little soul searching. Instead of evaluating ourselves, we point the finger at everyone else. One of my teachers used to say if you point one finger, you have four pointing back at you. As women, we often settle for the sake of not being alone. This usually leads to trouble. Remember, the first step to self- improvement is to love yourself flaws and all.</span></p><p style="margin:0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family:'times new roman', serif;">Take a moment and look in mirror. What do you see? Why are you scared of being alone? Are you where you want to be in life? Can you stand on your own two feet? Are you comfortable in your own skin? Do you have your finances in order? Are you open to try new things? Are you ready to be in a relationship? Do you have time to give someone your all? Are your standards set to high? Are you really five karat worthy? Are you wife material? After you answer these questions, create a game plan on how to be the best you. Determine the areas that need work and make improvements. No one is perfect. It’s time for you to become Mrs. Right so you can stop attracting Mr. Wrong.</span></p><p style="margin:0in 0in 10pt;"></p><p style="margin:0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family:'times new roman', serif;">Shaneisha Dodson</span></p></div></div></div></div><div class="sf_extra12"></div><div class="sf_region7"></div><div class="sf_region8"></div><div class="sf_extra7"></div><div class="sf_region9"><br />follow me on twitter @ blkgirlz & sdodson08</div><div class="sf_extra8"><br /><a href="http://www.blackgirlzproductions.com">www.blackgirlzproductions.com</a></div><div class="sf_extra9"></div><div class="sf_region10"><div class="sf_banner"><div style="display:block;"><div style="text-align:center;"></div></div></div></div></div>
Self Love is Not Selfish
https://mybbwo.com/profiles/blogs/self-love-is-not-selfish
2012-06-27T23:57:35.000Z
2012-06-27T23:57:35.000Z
Mothyna James-Brightful
https://mybbwo.com/members/MothynaJamesBrightful
<div><div><p style="margin-top:0px;margin-bottom:0px;color:#800000;"><strong><span style="font-family:Arial, 'sans-serif';"><a target="_blank" href="http://i953.photobucket.com/albums/ae14/hwhncure/BIAQselfloveselfish.jpg"><img class="align-center" src="http://i953.photobucket.com/albums/ae14/hwhncure/BIAQselfloveselfish.jpg" height="274" width="274" alt="BIAQselfloveselfish.jpg" /></a></span></strong></p><p style="margin-top:0px;margin-bottom:0px;color:#800000;"><strong><span style="font-family:Arial, 'sans-serif';"> </span><span style="line-height:115%;font-family:Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;color:#800000;font-size:12pt;">"Self Love is not Selfish!"</span></strong></p><p style="margin-top:0px;margin-bottom:0px;color:#800000;"><span style="line-height:115%;font-family:Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;color:#800000;font-size:12pt;"> </span><br /> <span style="line-height:115%;">This affirmation is featured in our book <i>Because I am a Queen: 100 Affirmations for Daily Living</i>, however, this isn't about a shameless plug. Rather, it's a reflection on what it means to truly internalize self love.</span></p><p style="margin:0in 0in 0pt;"><span> </span></p><p style="margin:0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="line-height:115%;">A perception of love that I embrace is that it is an action word; a verb that requires movement and an expression of what one has declared. If you heard someone state to "love" something then one would expect to see that love displayed. For example, if it were a professed love for ice cream, you may expect to often see them indulging in the latest ColdStone creation. Or perhaps they are a gold card carrying member of Starbucks because of their immense love for the brewed beverage. On the other hand that love may be for a spouse or child and their undying devotion is displayed in everyday acts of kindness and sacrifice. So then it begs the question, if one has self love how then is it displayed? Better yet, if YOU have self love how do you display it? Can YOU be found indulging in activities that promote your wellness? Are YOU a gold card carrying member of immense love for self? Are YOU capable of undying devotion to yourself in everyday acts of kindness and sacrifice? These are the questions I had to ask myself.</span></p><p style="margin:0in 0in 0pt;"><span> </span></p><p style="margin:0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="line-height:115%;">Self love is not selfish!</span></p><p style="margin:0in 0in 0pt;"><span> </span></p><p style="margin:0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="line-height:115%;">It's ok to say no sometimes. It's ok to feed yourself and not starve literally and figuratively for the things you need to be well. Self love means WE understand our self worth. It's inherent, intrinsic and cannot be lessened or made poor. Self love means care for our mental and physical well being. Self love means we are careful of who we allow into our sacred space.<span> </span> Self love means we define situations and do not allow situations to define us. Self love means that we value people, things and experiences that assist us into developing into our best selves. Recently, I've embraced the concept of being a self-love revolutionary. It's dawned on me that many people who do not value themselves will aim at killing another's natural desire to see themselves in the best light. Thus, we unwillingly accept others perception of who we are and the value we bring to the world. When the reality is, very often those individuals are viewing us from their own skewed reality. There is a serious lack of beautiful, reflective love in our communities and sometimes our homes. Our girls do not see themselves as beautiful and thus struggle with seeing the beauty in their sisters. I've been blessed with an amazing group of women around me who strive to reflect the best of themselves so I see the best within myself, yet we're not perfect and we too struggle.</span></p><p style="margin:0in 0in 0pt;"><span> </span></p><p style="margin:0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="line-height:115%;">While, writing in my journal the other day I realized I was feeling quite unhappy. It seemed out of the blue but upon further introspection I realized that even with all my work, I was still engaged in habits of negative self talk, giving more time and voice to things that I didn't want rather than positive self talk to things I do want. I needed a mutiny in my own mind. I needed to take drastic action. Self love!</span></p><p style="margin:0in 0in 0pt;"><span> </span></p><p style="margin:0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="line-height:115%;">Thus, I declared a ground breaking, radical revolution in my life. I would be a self love revolutionary. We must thank the late and great Gil Scott Heron and the Last Poets for the adage that the revolution will not be televised because it shall surely start in my mirror. It means I take care of my spiritual, physical and mental wellness. I speak words of love and encouragement to myself. I write myself love letters that I mail at random. It means to not sacrifice my spiritual time with my Creator or treat it remotely. It means to be purposeful in taking care of my body. It means I become a "gold card" carrying member of the self love club. While it's a very personal journey to be a self love revolutionary, I would appreciate my sisters (and brothers) checking in on me. If it touches a part of you declare a self love revolution in your life. Be innovative and absolutely rebellious with your revolution, because self love is not selfish and you deserve the greatest love.</span></p><p style="margin:0in 0in 0pt;"> </p><p style="margin-top:0px;font-family:Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;margin-bottom:0px;color:#7e4043;font-size:12pt;">Your Sister,</p><p style="margin-top:0px;font-family:Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;margin-bottom:0px;color:#7e4043;font-size:12pt;">Mothyna James-Brightful</p></div></div>
Mother - It Takes One to Know One
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2012-05-12T14:18:23.000Z
2012-05-12T14:18:23.000Z
DawnKA
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<div><p><a href="{{#staticFileLink}}10744078493,original{{/staticFileLink}}"><img width="190" src="{{#staticFileLink}}10744078493,original{{/staticFileLink}}" class="align-left" alt="10744078493?profile=original" /></a></p><p>I remember when I first found out that I was pregnant the sheer fright of it all was overwhelming. I had so many things to consider but most importantly - my parents specifically my mother. I was raised by a God fearing, God loving, God everything mother. I was raised in the church and Sundays was reserved for church starting from Sunday School to Sunday morning service and then back for the evening service. The week nights had services as well which I also attended. I could not understand why I had to go to church all the time, I thought my mother was so mean. I was sent to the best schools that they could afford, graduating from an all girls high school. Next step - college. Well, not for me, with my new found independence, I became pregnant. I was so ashamed, I could not find the courage to tell my mother. I knew it would hurt her and after all that she invested in me, this is what I gave in return. I kept my mouth shut and let my pregnancy show for itself. My mother and I coexisted in silence, she was too numb to speak.</p><p>During my pregnancy, I had nightmares of having an alien for a baby. I wondered if I would die during the birthing process. I prayed and asked God to please let it be a girl but I just knew it would be a boy because I had no right to ask for a girl knowing that I had sinned. It was such a God fearing ten months, yes it felt as though I was carrying my baby for almost a year. However, after giving birth and hearing that it was a girl, I became overwhelmed. What kind of mother would I be? How would I take care of her?</p><p>On the other hand, I was excited that I had a healthy baby girl and I felt that perhaps God was not as disappointed in me as my mother. Somehow, I was able to get through motherhood by applying some of the values that my mother gave me and maturing into setting my own standards and values. I realized very early, while holding my newborn baby in my arms that I wanted the best for her. I wanted her to be smart, to have an exceptional relationship with God, be nice to others, go to college, have great friends and have an amazing life.</p><p>While making my detours through life, I completed college and excelled academically. I have accomplished quite a lot and my mother is proud. I am a mother and now a grandmother of girls and I am so thankful to God for giving me the best mother in the whole wide world! I could not have done it without her.</p></div>
Be Inspired and Join us today!!
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2010-12-14T03:30:00.000Z
2010-12-14T03:30:00.000Z
Chari T
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Keys to A Successful Relationship! What Love Has to Do With It!
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2010-12-16T04:15:35.000Z
2010-12-16T04:15:35.000Z
KAMAL IMANI*The Soul Griot!
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<div><a href="{{#staticFileLink}}10744057671,original{{/staticFileLink}}"><img width="750" class="align-full" src="{{#staticFileLink}}10744057671,original{{/staticFileLink}}" alt="10744057671?profile=original" /></a>What Love Has to Do With It!The Importance of Unconditional Love in A Relationship!By Kamal Imani © 2010My wife and I have been happily married for 15 years and together for 19. Much of our success can be attributed to a book we read entitled “Black Woman’s Black Man’s Guide to a Spiritual Union” by Ra Un Nefer Amen. In this book he speaks about the importance of unconditional love. He also highlighted how we have a script or sort of fantasy like picture in our minds of the perfect or ideal lover or mate and when that person doesn’t meet our expectations, we feel let down, disappointed, the drama begins and things begin to fall apart.When our partner fails to perform up to our Hollywood or conditioned standard financially, sexually, emotionally or otherwise, maybe they didn’t cook, clean, communicate or perform the way that we envisioned it, we allow dissatisfaction to set in.Have Realistic Expectations but High standardsWhen getting to know your significant other, you need to be real when it comes to acknowledging his/her strengths and weaknesses. You also need to realize that peoples long developed habits are slow to change. If you’re hoping that something he/she does will change simply because you have entered their life, you may be disappointed. Some changes can be made if it’s clearly communicated, understood and your partner makes a conscious effort to change, but be very patient because it will probably be a slow and gradual process. I’m not saying that you should lower your standards, but have you ever heard the term wysiwyg? It is an acronym for what you see is what you get. And, you know while you’re dating you’re getting a persons best side, and as the saying goes “You don’t know a person until you live with them”. So keep it real, but stay optimistic, patient and keep the faith. Always keep a spiritual vibration in your relationship.Unconditional LoveUnconditional love is giving of your self without expecting anything in return. It is being selfless! If you’re giving and taking is like a Wall Street financial transaction, sometimes you will rise, other times you will be in a recession, a depression and eventually a crash! So it is important for both partners to practice selfless giving with out making the other partner feel that he/she owes you something.When unexpected financial, medical and other emergencies arise, you will have to be flexible, calm and optimistic until the situation improves (because you will be tested). Always find a creative way to communicate, be understanding, stay affectionate, optimistic, patient and faithful…Did I say patient? Selfless giving/unconditional love is a high form of practical spirituality and it takes two to apply it. It indeed takes two to make a thing go right.Watch Kamal’s tribute to the sisters “Ms. Melanin” on Youtube <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aledyuIlCjs">http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aledyuIlCjs</a>Kamal Imani is a Poet, Author, Film Maker Teacher and Mentor residing in New Jersey. He can be reached at <a href="http://www.kamalinspires.com">http://www.kamalinspires.com</a> To book Kamal for speaking engagements email Terrenceteaches@gmail.com or call 201-923-9213<object width="480" height="385" data="http://www.youtube.com/v/jPczuNKN3Eo?fs=1&hl=en_US" type="application/x-shockwave-flash"><param name="allowScriptAccess" value="never" ></param><param name="allowNetworking" value="internal" ></param><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/jPczuNKN3Eo?fs=1&hl=en_US" ></param><param name="allowFullScreen" value="false" ></param><embed wmode="opaque" src="http://www.youtube.com/v/jPczuNKN3Eo?fs=1&hl=en_US" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="never" width="480" height="385" allownetworking="internal"></embed> <param name="wmode" value="opaque" ></param></object></div>