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I Hope!

Posted by Author Lily L. Ratliff on October 26, 2008 at 1:38am

I hope that I will always be for each personwhat he or she needs me to be.I hope that each person’s death will diminish me,but that fear of my own will never diminish my joy of life.I hope that my love for those whom I like will never lessenmy love for those whom I do not.I hope that another person’s love for me will neverbe a measure of my love for him or her.I hope that everybody will accept me as I am,but that I never will.I hope that I will always ask for forgiveness from others,but will never need to be asked for my own . . .I hope that I will always recognize my limitations,but that I will construct none.I hope that loving will always be my goal,but that love will never be my idol.I hope that everyone will always have hope.-Henri NouwenI read this poem and cried! This is ME! How many of you have hope like this?In His Love,Lily

If It Don't Fit...

Posted by Trisha Martin on October 23, 2008 at 9:05pm

When I was a child, I remember one of my favorite songs was, If It Don’t Fit, Don’t Force It, by Kellee Patterson. That song came out in 1978 and I could not have known what they were talking about at such an early age because if I had, years later, I would not have stayed in my marriage as long as I had. Actually, I don’t even know if I would have gotten married at all to the man that fathered my three boys. I mean really, in the three years before we even tied the knot, I had gone through an obstacle course full of red flags. As if it were yesterday, I remember pulling up to the church where we were to have our shoe string wedding with my soon to be mother-in-law and our two kids in tow. I can’t remember what we were arguing about, but I do distinctly remember my ex-mother-in-law saying, “y’all sure y’all wanna do this?” If I had known what I know now, is the phrase that comes to mind right now.But how could I have known? I was only twenty-four and thought I was doing the right thing by getting married to the man that fathered one of the two children that I had then. All I could think of was, if I marry him, God would fix everything. He’d make everything right. Wrong! “God bless this mess,” was the prayer that I prayed often. But in my experience, God doesn’t bless mess; at least He didn’t bless mine’s. I was a good wife; really. I went to work everyday, made sure the kids were properly fed and clothed, and even though I wasn’t an A-plus housekeeper (that’s what maids are for), I did however take care of my business in the bedroom, if you know what I mean. My husband didn’t have to worry about me running around on him. Our entire marriage, I pretty much stayed at home with the kids, so he basically ran the streets with a piece of mind as to my whereabouts, while he was out doing his dirt.Marrying someone with an addiction is like signing yourself up for a life full of distress, disappointments and dis-ease. “But I love him, and love conquers all,” bullcrap! That’s the lie we’ve been led to believe. Oh, it sounds really great, but take it from me, love does not conquer all. Being a lover through and through, the love I had for my husband and every guy since him, should have been enough to keep everything together. Not! I’ve learned that when loving, you need to make sure that the person you are giving your love to, is even capable of reciprocating the act itself. It’s one thing to say I love you, but if there’s no action that backs that up, then those are essentially empty words. And the act of love-making, if that is indeed what occurs in your bedroom, does not prove one’s love for you. Being compatible in that area is one of the reasons we stay involved even when the rest of the relationship is falling apart.In closing I’d like to say that when you’re truly in the market for attracting someone you’re considering building a solid relationship with, make sure that person is as close to a fit as possible. Trying to fit a square into a rectangle has never been possible unless you have a hammer as a tool and even after it’s finally inside the irregular space, the original shape is destroyed.

Turn You On!

Posted by KAMAL IMANI*The Soul Griot! on October 6, 2008 at 7:10pm

Thank God, there are still people who enjoy being married.

Posted by Tracey on September 2, 2008 at 5:30pm

My husband and I came up with the idea for this network after a pretty big disagreement (fight or whatever you'd like to call it). And the name of the network came from when I thought back to how we acted toward one another when we first started dating, we were respectful, patient, kind, and all the other mushy things we all do in the dating stage. After a series of long talks late into the night we decided to that one thing that would help us stay on track with our goals (of having a strong, long lasting and happy marriage) would be a support network, hence 'Still Dating My Spouse,' is that network.Someone might ask why didn't you just go to counceling? First I'd like to say counceling is a great tool and I am all for it but with a working schedule like my husbands and the girls busy schedules it wasn't the most convenient thing for us to do. Now let me say this, if we didn't get it together after the network got started (like you read in many of my blog post and forum discussions) we would of had to nix the schedules, rearrange our lives in order to schedule some counseling in. Cause this time WE were determined to get it right (YES, I said this time- this is a second marriage for both of us). So yes I do believe in counseling (I prefer Christian Counselors- that's just me) and think it is a most valuable tool to help inspire new ways of seeing a PROBLEM in the marriage. That being said, this network will be featuring some marriage counselor, life coaches and other professionals that can INSPIRE all of us to LIVE OUR BEST LIVES.This network of married couples is a place that we all can inspire each other to see problems that, are bound to happen at one time or another, from other couples perspective. And the discussions aren't ment to solve the problem, but to inspire you to see a problem as an opportunity to grow, making effort to change the situation yourself. Change and problem solving always starts with each individuals choices, and the work they are willing to put in (both parties involved) to see the problem for what it is and to choose to do something about it.Go to 'STILL DATING MY SPOUSE,' at www.stilldatingmyspouse.ning.comNo we are not perfect but we are working on it.Love is work and work can be fun, but sometimes hard and always worth it.

HOW DO YOU LIVE YOUR DASH?

Posted by Michelle James on September 4, 2008 at 7:23am

One of my favorite poems is called "The Dash" by Linda Ellis. Written shortly after her grandmother’s death, it’s an eloquent invocation to live one’s life thoughtfully...So, what on earth is a dash and why should it count?We are born and then we die. But what really matters is what happens in between. By making a conscious choice to live our lives with passion and purpose, we can leave our mark on the world by leaving it in a better place than we found it.

THE DASHby Linda EllisI read of a man who stood to speakAt the funeral of a friend.He referred to the dates on her tombstoneFrom the beginning…to the end.He noted that first came her date of birthAnd spoke the following date with tears,But he said what mattered most of allWas the dash between those years.For that dash represents all the timeThat she spent alive on earth…And now only those who loved herKnow what that little line is worth.For it matters not, how much we own;The cars…the house…the cash,What matters is how we live and loveAnd how we spend our dash.So think about this long and hard…Are there things you’d like to change?For you never know how much time is left,That can still be rearranged.If we could just slow down enoughTo consider what’s true and real,And always try to understandThe way other people feel.And be less quick to anger,And show appreciation moreAnd love the people in our livesLike we’ve never loved before.If we treat each other with respect,And more often wear a smile…Remembering that this special dashMight only last a little while.So, when your eulogy’s being readWith your life’s actions to rehash…Would you be proud of the things they sayAbout how you spent your dash?(Article submitted by Michelle James: 1961 dash ....)

What's In a NAME?

Posted by Debra P. Declouet on August 29, 2008 at 5:02am

(a healing poem)I said, “I don’t really know her.”Truth is, I’ve known her too well.As we’ve spent all of our life together, occupying the same human shell.Abused and confused, not understanding what was wrong.Because it persisted for such a long time;Its power had become too strong.Neglected, rejected, abandoned and let down,By those who were to love me and always be around.This healing search began long ago; but, would have never begun with me.For I constantly ignored the one identity needed to successfully set me free.Tolerated, never celebrated; I’d hidden her within myselfFocusing all my attentions on pleasing everyone else.So, bad choice after bad choice, with each one lower she would descend.The abuse was like a vicious cycle, not seeming to have an end.Until all at once and that time is NOW, I’ve decided I’ve had ENOUGH!I’m tired of living life settling while the enemy’s enjoying my stuff.So, today I’m taking back my heart and I’m declaring out loud, “I am free!”And I’m resting untangled in my Saviors arm, who’s given me this victory.For I’d come to fear the process of “LOVE”, the giving unselfishly of self;Too afraid that I’d have nothing left if I shared my heart with someone else.Now I’ve given it over to Jesus, my heart is safe in His care.It’s being healed, mended and restored; new desires are being set in there.God’s revealing His plan of Love to me;He is enlightening my eyes, enabling me to see:“Love on the Highest Degree” was my prayer;But deep within my heart I thought I’d never get there.For so long I have walked around brokenThe words were kept silent, never spoken.My eyes are refocused now that the scales have come off andI have regained some semblance of hope.I peer out in the distance at what can now be; all the love that is readily available to meAnd I sigh deeply, as if in relief.This inner healing brings with it such peace.The LOVE OF GOD is truly amazing.It is so powerful, it has set me free.I’m now liberated and able to love againAnd the first recipient of that LOVE is ME!!!Debra P. DeclouetBeloved – one who is greatly LOVED!Copyright 2008. Women of Destiny, LLC. All Rights Reserved.

Romance Novel: TWO LOVES, ONE HEART

Posted by Carrie James-Keaton on September 3, 2008 at 6:30am

This book depicts a woman's search for true love. I try to bring these emotions to life in the story of a young, ambitious woman who must choose between her first love turned abusive and an old friendship that develops into a passionate romance.Lynnette Thomas is a beautiful and passionate young woman from Atlanta who has firm plans for her life. She dreams about marrying her childhood sweetheart, Billy Matthews, launching a career in business administration and raising a family. Lynnette’s plans start out well as she and Billy get married and move to Charleston, S.C., to begin their life together. They are the perfect couple for a while, until Billy becomes extremely possessive and demanding of Lynnette. He starts using drugs, alienates her from her friends and ambitions and emotionally and physically abuses her.Billy ends up abandoning Lynnette while she is pregnant, leaving her feeling ashamed, hurt and alone. At her lowest point a long-lost childhood friend, Steve Montgomery, re-enters her life. Steve was a nerd in high school who loved Lynnette from afar, but is now a dashing, successful lawyer and sweeps Lynnette off her feet in a dazzling romance. Though both Steve and Lynnette are a little frightened by the new, unfamiliar feelings between them, they join together in a happy marriage. Their new life together flourishes until Billy resurfaces after a 10 year absence looking for a fresh start with Lynnette. Lynnette must decide whether to continue her life with Steve or give her first love a second chance.

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In Denial Of Self Denial!

Posted by Pastor Aminata on August 24, 2008 at 7:31pm

Wow I constantly meet christians who are so caught up in this prosperity ring. That's what I call it, a ring, because it appears that more and more, people forget that the Lord requires something from us, as opposed to us expecting something from Him. After all, did not Jesus pay it all on the cross? Did not Jesus, shed his blood for the remission of our sins? Are we not the benefactors of such a supreme sacrifice!

You would think that the bible was all about prosperity. Now don't get me wrong, I ain't hatein on anyone, just sad to know that the true meaning of the Gospel has been replaced with a psuedo gospel of "let me get mine" and "God's gonna do it for me too!"

But what about when Jesus asked us, if anyone would be my disciple, let him deny self, put away his own selfish ambitions.... how does that line up with all this prosperity teaching today? I know I'm probably gonna be a lone voice on this one.

Pastor Aminata

How Many Missed Opportunities?

Posted by Pastor Aminata on August 19, 2008 at 9:55pm

How many missed opportunities did you have today? Umm? How many times did you missed a chance to be about your Father's business today? Umm? In our fast-paced, busy, busy, daily please move out of my way, cause I've got-to-get-things-done-ness, we often times forget that we are to be about our Father's business, in the midst of the no see-ums.What about when you were standing on the check out line in the department store, and you saw that mother struggling with her young child who was having a serious temper tantrum? Did you say a pray for that mother, or did you watch in judgement?What about when you were stuck in that traffic jam on the highway, and when the traffic finally started to move again, you passed by that accident, and saw the ambulance and fire trucks? Did you say a prayer for who ever was in the cars, or did you just drive by relived that the traffic was moving again?How about when you were at the ATM waiting for your turn and someone was yelling at the elderly lady who was a bit confused on how to use the ATM? Did you say a prayer for both the yeller and the one being yelled at, or did you suck your teeth in insensitivity?What about the time you saw that woman walking down the street, crying? Did you say a prayer on her behalf, or did you shrug it off as mere curiosity? These are just a few examples of the many no see-ums we experience in our daily lives. We see them, but we don't see them because there is no emotional connection, so we just move on.But these are precious opportunities to be about our Father's business. Opportunities to be ambassador for Christ. True, nobody will know that you said a prayer, nobody will say thank you, nobody will praise you, that is except God. God knows all and sees all and God is the one who will reward you for being about His business today.John 14:14 - "If you ask anything in my name, I will do it."Pastor Aminata

On Any Typical Day.. or Is There Such A Thing?

Posted by Pastor Aminata on August 13, 2008 at 5:41pm

On any typical day... or is there such a thing.... ?You woke up late this morning, rushing to get out of the house, to catch the 7:15 express bus, only to find that you left your metro card in your other bag, and you don't have enough change for the bus. Finally at work, with frowns abouding from them to you and you back to them, your told that you have 3 minutes until the staff meeting begins, and your expected to make a presentation, agrh. So why today does a cup of coffee decide to spill over into your lap?Wrinkled and stained, you do what you gotta do, anyways.... the rest of the day is typical, or is there such a thing... ? Feeling like an octupus out on the skating rink, you handle it all, phone calls, requests, emails, yadder, yadder, just a typical day.... or is there such a thing?Another day's journey and I'm so glad... well at least it's almost over. On your way home you remember that you promised the kids... ah... mind goes blank, seems like there always a promised due lately, anyways, so why isn't the express bus showing up? It just darned on you that you've been standing there for over 40 minutes and out of the blue a thunderstorm comes, and so where is your umbrella? It's home, watching the weather channel.With key in hand, you approached your home, wet, no soaked, tired, no beat, no exhausted, you prepared yourself for round two with the spouse and kids, on this typical day... or is there such a thing? No matter because whatever you go through, on any typical day, which really isn't so typical at all, you know that you have God's Word, His precious promises to encourage you and strengthen you.Neh 8:10 - And Nehemiah continued, "Go and celebrate with a feast of choice foods and sweet drinks, and share gifts of food with people who have nothing prepared. This is a sacred day before our Lord. Don't be dejected and sad, for the joy of the Lord is your strength!Pastor Aminata

Keep on Pushing and MOVE ON UP.....Reinvention in a time of Crisis

Posted by Valerie Pompey Weathers Jones on July 27, 2008 at 9:30pm

The more I push forward. The more obstacles come my way but you know what. You have to KEEP ON PUSHING and MOVE ON UP.On May 9 my 31 year old younger brother just died. with no warning or anything. This was the first blow of the summer until my grandmother died on July 9. So I have been in NY most of the month still pushing and moving.since I have 2 children I have no choice but to keep on pushing and moving. It is hard but ya got ta do what ya got ta do.After all of the drama I still rise. God is so good. I am still here. My business is still rolling. I got many things that are brewing and I am still moving.I also have to take time out for myself.Yesterday I had a birthday party to take my daughter to. A million errands to run prior to 1:30pm, I decided I had to get my bushy eyebrows attended to. I sat down and decided to take the time out for a pedi also. Even thought I felt guilty at the time, everything worked out and I was able to just sit down for a moment and do something for myself.I wonder did my grandmother ever have the chance to do anything for herself. At 91 I recall she worked until 80 something. Can you imagine that???? I know socially life had to be hard back then. I wonder if she was able to do the things that she wanted to do in life. I know of a couple of things she wanted to do but could not. She did keep pushing and to me life is the greatest gift. God granted her a long one and I hope he will do the same for me.So I will keep on pushing and moving on up.Thanks for listening. I pray that August will bring me more joy and peace.Valerie

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Your ~ Mother's Love!

Posted by Debra P. Declouet on July 11, 2008 at 4:32am

Tears and hugs, intimate talks about loveFuture endeavors and all that we treasureHopes and dreams that we prayed would come trueThat's only a portion of what I've shared with you.Aspirations shared through conversationsAs I poured out my very heart,And you listened intently, and smiled gentlyAnd took your own turn to share your thoughts.You've always seen the best in me and you've covered me in your prayers.And the thing that blessed me most of all is... no matter what you've always been there.You helped me through my lowest points, when even I detested my actions,And we praised God through my roughest times; not giving the enemy any satisfaction.I got saved with you that special night, over 11 years ago, I recall.What a blessed event that followed ~ the lowest point that I could fall.Mother, you mean so much more than these words can express,When I think back over our relationship ~ I see, it was you who loved me best.And I pray to God that I've returned the favor,For acceptance of souls is what we all long for and dear one, that is what I savor.You see, I've been in your family 17 years now;And you've accepted and loved me through it all somehowIn a way I know only to be ChristTo be my mother and friend, you've sacrificed-And I don't take it lightly, this bond that we shareAnd my promise to you is ... I will always be there.I'll hold your hand until the very end.When a new life in Christ one shall begin.I will cherish you always; your laughter, your love, your wisdom, your hopes and desires.Remembering always the times that God has allowed us to seeAnd the love that you've so generously given to me.You've enriched my life, you are my family;Thank you for all that you've taughtAnd for sharing with me your grand heart.Momma, I can't imagine my life without youAnd I pray that we've many more years.However, today I am sharing my heart and I'm making it crystal clear.I love you more than you'll ever knowMore than my actions and these few words could showAnd I know that you'll always be nearBut, I'm giving you your flowers while you're still here.And I am eternally grateful to God ~ for sending me blessings from above.For He brought you into my lifeSo, I can experience YOUR MOTHER'S LOVE!_____________________________________________________________Abridged Version---Originally Presented: IN HONOR of YOUR MOTHER's LOVE ~ Birthday 2006IN LOVING MEMORY of Mrs. ANITA (TEE TAH) JONES (Ex-mother-in-law)Passed OVER on July 7, 2008

You need to Listen to Leonard Johnson, He walked across the USA at 75!!!

Posted by Rickey on June 19, 2008 at 5:21am

Hello BBWO, I know this site is for enterprising ladies to communicate. Not trying to intrude. However, for everyone who has a special guy in their life ( Dad, Brother, Cousin, Friend who is way up the Road of Life, with some us right behind) this interview has to be shared. One of the reasons Leonard embarked on his walk across the USA, was to honor his deceased wife. Leonard is one of my strong examples of what one person can accomplish that can influence so many more. Enjoy. Networkingly yours.This radio interview was great!!!!! You have to hear the travels of Leonard , who will be 80 years of age this august. This gentleman can teach you a thing or two about living.Find out what was going on when he walked across the USA, with no sponsor, but the CREATOR!Find out how he manages to do more in his Senior Year than most of us do in our Junior Years. Baby Boomer Alert, you really need to listen in.Ok, go to www.jusmcc.com and click on the radio!!!!Look forward to sharing this great interview.Networkingly yours,Rickey

God's Love (1st person; God speaking)

Posted by Debra P. Declouet on June 23, 2008 at 3:42am

When I think of you I smile, just want your attention for a whileAs I share with you my heart, so that you may do your partAnd succeed in all I've called you to do.I want you to know that I'm depending on you,For you were created in my image.Yes, when you see you, you see me.Now let me share with you my character, and my hope for our family.I long for creation to love each other,Love your fathers and your mothersLoving your neighbors as yourselves,As with your sisters and your brothersAdopt the Spirit of Love, you seeOf faith, of hope and tenacityAnd then you will walk like me.With an ability to know and a capacity to showWhat it means to love another deeply.You must learn to give, for you will never beat me givingAnd help others in need in this life that you are living.Respect each others minds, be patient and kindAnd live in peace with others not quite like youFor in this, you do what's been commanded of you.You see, my thoughts are for the lostI want to tap into their heartsYou are my children, my heirs; I call you friendI am your Father and I'm here until the end.Forever teaching, leading and guiding you.Directing each step along the wayAnd with all this love that I am faithfully providingIt is my belief that you will never stray.So now, here's my planI need you to extend your hands and lovingly lead others to ChristAnd as our family is enlargedI can give others the charge, for I would that you all be freeAnd in Christ, live this life in Victory.Love was the commandment you were left withAnd my dear ones Love is truly the keyFor love for yourselves and of othersIs how you are connected to me.I loved you first and I love you bestBut now I put you to the test.To walk in this newness of life.Walk holy and righteous, free from sinIn peace and joy, for my Spirit lives with.You've a direct connection to me and when you seek me sincerely, you'll seeThat in love I have covered you, now you can cover others tooYou can live abundantly in this life,Live in humility, not in strifeFor I have loved you all the same and I call each of you by nameYou are the fruit of my lips, my offspring and true obedience, I expect you to bring.For to look like me IS to do what I doAnd to love everyone is what I'm calling you to.As you imitate me, this world is able to seeThat Love is my powerful gift,For truly to love is DIVINEAnd when given in Truth, it'll last a lifetime.So, in closing I'll just say,"Stay in the WORD and always prayFor love is closer to you than it may seem;It's in your hearts and in your minds, it's in your dreamsAnd in case you haven't known, I hope this time with me has shownThat the heritage of Christ still lives onFor Calvary is not where it ends.Quite the contrary, it's where it beginsYou've a direct command from HIM to love one another until the end.When HE comes back in all of HIS glory, that event shall mark the end of this story,For eternally with Him, You shall beFor indeed, it is YOU who completes our family tree."Oh, how wondrous is our Family AboveAnd it all began with GOD and HIS infinite LOVE.Copyright 2006, Debra Poole Declouet

I Am..."A Reflection of YOU"!

Posted by Debra P. Declouet on June 22, 2008 at 11:55pm

Sister…Don’t hate me because I AM beautiful;For I AM truly a reflection of youThe same beauty you see when you gaze upon me,Permeates within you, too.Don’t despise me because I AM intelligent.For Infinite Wisdom is yours too, to receive.All you’ve to do is ask Our Father in faith,And in your heart you must truly believe,Your mind HAS the capacity to conceive.Don’t revile me because I have style;Flair and expression, all my own:From my clothing and my hair, to the make-up I wear and even my poetic tone.For from my appearance, to my height and the Words I recite;To the depth in which the poetry flows ~I stand willing to glorify God in it all;With every gift that He’s blessed me to receive.So Sister…Don’t condemn me for all that I Am;Neither, loathe me for all that I do.For this Life I live as an example of GodAnd His Favor that is available to you.So, walk in your gifts and your talentsThose abilities given uniquely to you.For to Glorify God and His Kingdom, we must do what He’s chosen us to.‘Cause, we are truly one Father’s children,Our resemblances should ALL be of HIM.And the glow that you see when you look upon meIs HIS goodness that lights me within.Yes, I shine as a mirror, reflecting His grace;God is Alive in me and His glory I embraceAnd Sister…That is why I Am a reflection of you,I can CLEARLY see God Alive in you, too.Poet: Debra DP DeclouetWritten for Women of Destiny “P-MTP” ™ © June 2008

BGOTM Contest!

Posted by Lipstick Killers Collection on June 30, 2008 at 9:26pm

Don’t forget to enter the Big Gyrl of the Month Contest. We have some fierce competition but we still need more entries to keep it going! So if you think you have what it takes to be crowned the fashion queen of the urban plus women of the world, then send us a full body or ¾ length body picture to biggyrlclothing@yahoo.com ASAP.As always, if you do not win, do not get discouraged. Your picture is considered every month until you win!As BGOTM you win a free gift with a value of $25, free shipping for the month, international exposure as a BGC Model, and calendar placement. There have been instances when we chose a beautiful diva and she never claimed or took advantage of the free gifts. That hurts other plus divas that are waiting to be crowned. Please ladies, be serious in your entry and respond to all emails giving instructions. Good luck to ALL of you!Deadline: June 30th, 2008 1159pm ESTStay beautiful and blessed,Syreeta Rios, CEO Big Gyrl Clothing, Inc.Fashion for the Urban Plus Womanwww.biggyrlclothing.net

Without Choice There are no Options - 20 Ways to Earn $100 per day online

Posted by Rickey on June 28, 2008 at 6:20am

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Messages and Dedications to the Sisters (Videos by Kamal Imani)

Posted by KAMAL IMANI*The Soul Griot! on June 3, 2008 at 2:18pm

Messages to the Black Woman by Kamal Imani http://www.myspace.com/kamalsupremePeace Sisters,Yes, I have all of this video and poetic song dedications to you so why should I keep them dormant? By blessing you with them I in turn get blessed as well so let’s go!One Love!Brother KamalMs. Melanin, A Dedication to the Sisters by Kamal Imani as seen on Xposed TV NYC

See the New Spoken Word & Hip Hop Soul Music Video“ALL SHE REALLY WANTS IS LOVE”

Yo, I Copped A New Whip! (lol)

Lovin Her Nappy Nappy

A dreadication to sisters who sport natural hair styles in particular and all Black women in general. Yall so damn beautiful (lol).

Why I wrote "I Need Therapy"

Posted by glenda wallace Greenidge-Blake on May 15, 2008 at 10:30pm

I wanted to take this opportunity to introduce myself, tell you a little bit about why I'm here, and why after many years of writing, I decided to venture into writing about relationships.Relationship topics are always popular because relationship problems will always exist. Most of us have experienced the hurt, and anguish of a broken heart, but it happens every day. And at many stages in my life, I too have experienced it, but after five marriages and 18 marriage proposals, I have gained the knowledge of certain key elements to maintaining a healthy, happy and fulfilling relationship.I decided to write “I Need Therapy” because at some point in a woman’s life we’ve all silently made this statement, whether we admit it or not.When some of you experience problems within your relationships, you run out and buy our books, or sit at home watching Dr. Phil hoping that you will learn the key to fixing all of your problems. Believe me, I’m not pointing fingers, I used to be that person.I, like most of you, have had my heart broken more times than I can count. I can vividly remember a time back in my early twenties, when a man I was dating told me that he didn't want me anymore. To me, this was unimaginable and it hurt like hell . . . how in the hell could he not want me!From that point, it seemed like the more he showed me that he didn’t want me, the more determined I was to make him love me.I had to learn a hard lesson. I had to learn to love MYSELF and recognize my worth! And once I did, I developed a different attitude toward this man. I realized that he didn’t deserve me.When I learned this powerful lesson, I stopped calling him, hounding him, driving past his apartment or place of business. I stopped my obsessive behavior, because ladies, you know we can develop obsessive behavior. But when I stopped . . . the roles reversed. He started ringing my phone off the hook, driving past my house and coming into my place of business with the pretense of conducting business.He couldn’t understand how he had lost his hold over me. Ladies, sometimes we too freely give up control to a man.There are certain things in life that we can’t change. We can’t change a man, change his mind or his way of thinking.The only thing that you have control over is YOU! You can change your behavior and your way of thinking.I am so happy to know that this book has helped so many women. I receive emails every day from women who say how “I Need Therapy” has literally changed their lives. I also receive emails from men who say that they found the book to be “on point” and helpful in understanding what women want from their relationships.It gives me such pleasure to know that this book that I poured so much of myself into, is actually serving the purpose in which it was written.Fix your relationship problems by starting with YOU!!! I Need Therapy . . . available everywhere books are sold! Or click the link below to go to my order page.
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