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10744059888?profile=originalIt is a 'Grace and Charm' Monday. Would You Like to Polish Your Image to Get More Prospects, More Clients, and More Cash Flow?
I’ve spent the entire weekend planning and strategizing. Watch for my upcoming webinar Bridging the Gap: The 5 Essential Skills That Accelerate Your Success. I’m going to show you how to position yourself in the market place, create your presence in the market place, so you will have power and influence in the marketplace!

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10744057671?profile=originalWhat Love Has to Do With It!The Importance of Unconditional Love in A Relationship!By Kamal Imani © 2010My wife and I have been happily married for 15 years and together for 19. Much of our success can be attributed to a book we read entitled “Black Woman’s Black Man’s Guide to a Spiritual Union” by Ra Un Nefer Amen. In this book he speaks about the importance of unconditional love. He also highlighted how we have a script or sort of fantasy like picture in our minds of the perfect or ideal lover or mate and when that person doesn’t meet our expectations, we feel let down, disappointed, the drama begins and things begin to fall apart.When our partner fails to perform up to our Hollywood or conditioned standard financially, sexually, emotionally or otherwise, maybe they didn’t cook, clean, communicate or perform the way that we envisioned it, we allow dissatisfaction to set in.Have Realistic Expectations but High standardsWhen getting to know your significant other, you need to be real when it comes to acknowledging his/her strengths and weaknesses. You also need to realize that peoples long developed habits are slow to change. If you’re hoping that something he/she does will change simply because you have entered their life, you may be disappointed. Some changes can be made if it’s clearly communicated, understood and your partner makes a conscious effort to change, but be very patient because it will probably be a slow and gradual process. I’m not saying that you should lower your standards, but have you ever heard the term wysiwyg? It is an acronym for what you see is what you get. And, you know while you’re dating you’re getting a persons best side, and as the saying goes “You don’t know a person until you live with them”. So keep it real, but stay optimistic, patient and keep the faith. Always keep a spiritual vibration in your relationship.Unconditional LoveUnconditional love is giving of your self without expecting anything in return. It is being selfless! If you’re giving and taking is like a Wall Street financial transaction, sometimes you will rise, other times you will be in a recession, a depression and eventually a crash! So it is important for both partners to practice selfless giving with out making the other partner feel that he/she owes you something.When unexpected financial, medical and other emergencies arise, you will have to be flexible, calm and optimistic until the situation improves (because you will be tested). Always find a creative way to communicate, be understanding, stay affectionate, optimistic, patient and faithful…Did I say patient? Selfless giving/unconditional love is a high form of practical spirituality and it takes two to apply it. It indeed takes two to make a thing go right.Watch Kamal’s tribute to the sisters “Ms. Melanin” on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aledyuIlCjsKamal Imani is a Poet, Author, Film Maker Teacher and Mentor residing in New Jersey. He can be reached at http://www.kamalinspires.com To book Kamal for speaking engagements email Terrenceteaches@gmail.com or call 201-923-9213
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Developing a Relationship with the Media

Nancy Michaels and I share something in common. She used to be the Publicist for Matt Lauer and Matt and I went to college together. I believe that makes her qualified to offer tips on how one can go about getting media coverage.

In a recent blog post titled How to Reinvent Your Relationship with the Press, Nancy offers 10 Tips on how to get reporters, producers and editors to take notice of you.

Her list is a good one—especially #1 where she suggests you take inventory of what’s going on in the world around you. Your hometown reporters are always looking for local angles to national stories so if you have one, that can certainly give you :15 to :30 of time in the media spotlight.

Another tip offered by Nancy is to make sure you keep an up-to-date database of contacts. When trying to establish media resources, it’s always good to have a contact name versus a “Dear Sir/Ma’am.” That’s one of the reasons I created the brand new BAMedia Contacts Directory. It is one of the MOST COMPREHENSIVE media directories you’ll find with REAL NAMES & REAL PHONE NUMBERS.

In my 25 plus years as a journalist in radio and television news, I have established many contacts and am now sharing them with you. You can order your very own copy right from this website for the special introductory price of $49.95 You will find yourself paying double–perhaps triple the amount for LESS information. Pick up your copy of the BAMedia Contacts Directory today and start doing as Nancy suggests: reinvent your relationship with the media.

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Excerpt from an article written by Diane Helbig

"AsI was working with a client to develop her social media strategy, she mentioned that she has realized that relationship building is really a business practice. This is someone who was under the misconception that networking is about gathering business cards. She didn’t realize that networking is really about building and maintaining relationships with other business people. As we got her more involved with LinkedIn, she started reconnecting with people she had lost contact with over time–and she was really enjoying the rediscovery. She started to understand the real value that relationships play in business.

That got me thinking about what works and what doesn’t when it comes to networking and building relationships.

Therestill seem to be some misunderstandings about networking. Based on some of the behavior I’ve seen, it appears that many people are still missing the whole idea of relationship building. It doesn’t matter
whether it is social networking or in-person networking. In the business practice of building relationships, there are three deadly sins to avoid:

1. Pitching early
2. Signing someone up without permission
3. Assuming closeness

1. Pitching early:

Thisis when you meet someone at a networking event, exchange cards, and decide that the card exchange gives you permission to give them a sales pitch. This happens all the time. It’s one of the reasons that some people avoid networking events. They either think they are supposed to behave this way and aren’t comfortable in that role, or they dislike the people who do it and don’t want to be around them.

People whopitch early don’t understand the relationship building aspect of networking. They believe that simply participating in the activity is a license to sell. Well, it isn’t. Networking is the opportunity to begin
the relationship building process. Networking gives you the chance to meet people whom you might not otherwise meet.

I submit that thesame is true for “social networking.” Linking in or friending someone online does not mean you have an open invitation to sell to them. Here’s an example of a double whammy – I met a young man at a chamber event. Within a couple of days he sent me a LinkedIn request to connect. I accepted. Now I receive solicitations from him via LinkedIn.

Theproblem? I don’t know him, so I can’t trust him. He doesn’t know what my situation is or what my needs are. He isn’t matching a solution to a problem. He is solely focused on what he wants. If, on the other hand, he had continued the process of relationship building, he would have learned more about me and my situation. He would have waited to sell until he knew there was a need and until he had established trust. As it stands, I’m not even interested in seeing him at the next chamber function. He accomplished the exact opposite of what he wanted–all because he pitched too early.

2. Signing someone up withoutpermission: As far as I’m concerned, this is one of the deadliest networking sins. It is presumptuous and rude. I believe that when you do this you are telegraphing that you are more interested in building your list than in building relationships. How do you know the person needs
what you have to offer? How do you know they want to read what you have to say? Where did you get permission to enter their e-mail inbox on a consistent basis? Remember, the simple exchange of business cards is not a license to behave in any way you choose.

The solution is sovery simple. When you meet someone and engage in a conversation, you will learn things about them. If you discover that they have an interest in or need for the information you provide, ask them if they’d like to be added to your e-mail list and tell them why you think it would be a good idea for them. If they say “yes,” jot a note to yourself on their card. If they say “no,” don’t do it!

Did you notice the steps? They go in order. To take them out of order is to ask for trouble.

3.Assuming closeness: The story I told above about the young man I met at the chamber event also falls under this category. He assumed that we were closer than we were. He assumed that we had a relationship because of our chamber and online connections.

Think about therelationships you have with your friends, significant other, co-workers. Did they happen instantly? At “hello”? They didn’t, did they? They had to be built and nurtured; they had to grow over time.

This is notto say they you didn’t feel some sort of connection with some of these people. That sense of connection is what propels you to want to get to know them better. However, until you know someone better, you really don’t know enough to explore the possibility of conducting business with
each other.

Nothing sends people running from you quicker thanassuming closeness that doesn’t exist. Not only does it send people running, but they will tell others what you did. If you want to destroy your reputation quickly, then by all means, assume closeness. If, on the other hand, you want to grow your business, don’t make assumptions. Rather, grow those relationships first.

Ask yourself: Are you inbusiness for the long haul or for a quick hit? If you answered “for the long haul,” then relationship building is a necessity. Do yourself and your business a favor and take the time to build relationships with the people you meet. Most of these people will become great referral partners for you – not customers. The more referral partners you have, the easier it will be to grow your business. Those people you’ve built relationships with will be the best promoters of you and your business.
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7 Ways to Make a More Powerful Introduction

1. Introduce yourself clearly and concisely.
Though this may seem obvious, it is often overlooked or done poorly.First, say your name and company, then ask for the same from your listener.

2. Be specific about your line of work.
Don't say, I'm in technology or, I'm in insurance. Instead, bespecific. For example, “I specialize in creating targeted marketing solutions for business insurance agents. Or, We focus on the lowest possible fares for law firms that fly their lawyers on short notice, and we can get them waivers and favors to reduce their bottom lines.

3. Organize your introduction.
Prepare a 15-second opening statement that describes what you do. Ifyour product or service is technical or hard to explain, begin with a 15- to 20-second story that illustrates how you provide solutions for your clients. Stories help create and maintain listener interest.

4. Inform, don't sell.
Don’t come on with a sales pitch. Always remember that your initial goal is in building a relationship. When in doubt, remember a low-key introduction is always better.

5. Be yourself.
Not being yourself can make you look silly, artificial, or worse.Learn what makes people receptive and master that. There is no substitute for being genuine.

6. Be a better listener,
When someone else is speaking, it’s tempting to be thinking of yourresponse. But careful listening builds goodwill, trust, and confidence. Two ears, one mouth, use them proportionately.

7. Follow-up.
Always send a personal note to follow-up your conversations. It isunlikely your listener will need your product or service immediately. But don't be surprised when they make the call and say, I really appreciated your note when we met last. Oh, and can you do it via email? Sure, but a sending a personalized greeting card goes a long way toward making a lasting impression.

So after your next networking event, pick someone and send them a follow-up greeting card on me. Go to www.sendoutcards.com/80793 - click option #2 and follow the prompts.

Take care and stay blessed!
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I am loving me....how about you?

It seems like there is this huge phenomena that is going on today where single women are always saying “I love me.” They say that they love themselves however they let others mistreat them, talk down on them, take crap from other people, and mistreat themselves. This is not considered self-love.Self-love is being patient with yourself, having self-respect, speaking to yourself with kind words, and just showing appreciation to yourself. When you begin to love yourself unconditionally, then others will do the same.This topic fits so well in attracting Mr. Right. I have seen countless women always complain about the way that men treat them and how they want a man to love them unconditionally.Through my years on this earth I have learned that you train people on how to treat you. If you are always walking around calling yourself fat, stupid, and just demeaning yourself as a woman what makes you think that others won’t pick up on that and start doing the same thing.If you’ve read any of my articles you know that I talk a lot about the Law of Reflection. The Law of Reflection is the way that you treat yourself is the same way that others treat you. It basically means that your outside world is a reflection of your inside world.Ways that you can show self-love:• Speak kind words to yourself• Be considerate of your feelings• Tell yourself that you love you every morning• Demand that people respect your body, mind, and spirit• Only listen, watch, and read anything that is going to uplift your spirit• Only surround yourself with positive people who will bring you good• Tell yourself the truth• Be patient with yourselfMy assignment for you today is to do a self-evaluation on how you treat yourself. Write it down. After analyzing your self-evaluation figure out what you need to improve on. Make a task list and get to taking immediate action.Do you need help in this area with attracting Mr. Right? Visit www.guidingu2success.com and schedule your Free Get Acquainted Call where you can ask key questions and talk about solutions free of charge.
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It's time to clear the clutter!

Do you know that everything that you want is waiting on you to receive it? Yes, this is a known fact. A spiritual principle that I follow is:Ask and you shall receive.The reason that a lot of us, including myself, have not received what we have been asking for is because we have no room to receive it.Have you ever wanted to buy more clothes but came to realize that your closet was full?Have you ever wanted to do an activity but found out that you didn’t have the time?This is the same thing that is going on with attracting Mr. Right. Mr. Right is waiting to show up in your life however, he can’t if there is no room for him.This is a conversation that I have with a lot of my clients. They want Mr. Right to show up but they don’t have time for him because their scheduled is packed to the max, they are mentally cluttered, and they have someone in the way.What I mean by someone in the way is a lot of women I know are holding onto their ex-boyfriends out of fear that Mr. Right will never show up or either they are doing it because they don’t want to be lonely.Well a word of advice. Mr. Right cannot show up if someone is in his place.Your assignment for this week is to clear the clutter. Yes, we are in the process of attracting Mr. Right and in order to do that you must clear the clutter.So here is what you need to do:1. Get rid of anything in your house that you don’t need or use. (This includes every room)2. Clean out your car3. Clean out your computer. Yes, I know that you have files that you have downloaded that you don’t need or use. You also need to clean out your e-mail from all that junk mail.4. Delete the numbers in the phone that you don’t need or never use.
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What to do now that I am single?

So now that you are single you are probably sitting around wondering to yourself, what do I do now? Well, at this point you have a lot of options.

· You can sit around and cry and pout for a couple of days or months. (Note that there is none thing wrong with crying to release all of your hurt and pain. Just don’t stay in that place too long.)

· You can go hang out with your girlfriends.

· You can spend this time getting to you know you a little bit better. (Highly recommended)

· You can find a rebound guy who you can use to cuddle up with and spend your time with so that you won’t feel lonely.

After all of the options that I have provided, I would suggest that you as a new single woman spend time getting to know yourself a little bit better.

A problem that many single women have is that they don’t take the necessary time to heal after a major breakup before jumping into a new relationship.

And the result of doing that is you go into a new relationship with mixed emotions and hurt and pain from your previous relationship.

What I suggest that you do is take some time to heal from your previous relationship.

Do you need further help in this area? Erica recommends Make-Me-Over Michelle Coaching Program where she will guide you through letting go of all of the heartache and pain that you need to get rid of to move forward in your life. Visit www.guidingu2success.com for more details.

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Single Wo(men) - Rejoice!

In recent months there’s been a brouhaha surrounding the so-called plight of single black women, arguably spearheaded by Steve Harvey’s best-selling Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man and brought into prominence on the internet by Nightline’s controversial “Why Are Black Women Single” and Helena Andrews’s newly-released Bitch Is the New Black. I’ve read everything from scary statistics to scary solutions and thought I’d offer my input on the topic: single (black) women, don’t despair because relationships and the family that they often engender are not always what they’re cracked up to be.


I love having a husband and children. To have a partner who supports and respects you, who brings out the best in you while reminding you, from time to time, that you’re not perfect, and someone with whom you can laugh often is what a lot of us women – and men – dream of. To discover the divinity of unconditional love that comes with children is a gift I would bestow upon everyone. To be the one person a young child comes to for comfort when she’s sick or scared or just wants to cuddle is validation that you’re doing something right.


However, marriage and motherhood come with a downside so steep I sometimes long for the advantages I had when I was single. Below are the five most important things I traded when I lost my single status.


1. Uninterrupted sleep. At least my kids don’t sleep through the night. When one wakes up for a drink of water, you wake up to give it to her. When you realize that the body lying next to you is not your partner, you have to get up and put said body (sometimes kicking and screaming) back in its own bed and sit there until it falls asleep. I’m a light sleeper so when my husband breathes too loud or, heaven forbid, snores, I’m wide awake staring at the ceiling. He pulls the comforter off me and rolls it around his heavy body so that I wake up … cold. When all this happens as often as it does in our home, you’re exhausted, and you still have to get up at 6:45 the next morning and drop the
one child off at school and give your undivided attention, all day, to the one who’s at home. They don’t understand, nor do they care, that Mama’s tired. They want Mama to take them to the playground or color or play with their dolls. That’snot to imply that single women always get their eight hours a night. The difference is that the latter is usually by choice. You stay up late to polish
that presentation that might get you that promotion. You were with your girls until 3:00 am talking and laughing and having a good time. You wanted to watch the end of the late movie or you were on FaceBook way too late.


2. The right to be sick. When I was growing up, I heard my mother say that with young children you can’t even be sick. This is one of the hardest parts of parenthood. Whether you have the flu or a bad cold, when you’re sick, all you want to do is sleep, or at least lie on the couch and watch crappy TV. When you have a family, you have to keep going. The deal that my husband and I made when I left my job to work at home as a freelance writer and editor was that I would be the primary care giver. And it made sense. We depend primarily on his income, so he can’t up and leave work when the kids are sick. As his parents live over an hour away and as my parents live in America, when I’m sick I still have to go on. Lunches have to be made, milk has to be poured.


3. Time. My days are not fully my own although working from home has provided me with an enviable degree of control over my own schedule. However, having a family takes a good deal of that control away. Even before I had children, I couldn’t just not come home after work. If at the last minute I wanted to have drinks with my colleagues after work, I had to let my husband know. I always had to work with his schedule, and vice versa. It’s not just my week-end anymore. If there’s
something I want to do in the evening, personal or professional, I need to make sure my husband’s going to be home on time and vice-versa. There are no more spontaneous road trips to be had. Dinner has to be done by 6:00 in order to get the kids in bed by 7:30. Now my oldest has her play-dates and sports activities and so forth, and who gets to cart her around? And on whose time? Gone are the days when I could roll out of bed at 10:00 on a Sunday morning and pick up a doughnut and coffee on my way to spending the afternoon rollerblading around the streets of DC.


4. Individuality. This can be as banal as decorating your house or apartment exactly the way you want it with the furniture you picked out. It’s as mundane as leaving a stack of papers on the table before you go to work and finding it at the end of the day in the same place as where you left it. It’s
dealing with your own messiness and watching what you want on TV every night or choosing the movie you want to see every time. It’s about doing what you want to do without consulting with anyone or worrying about the long-term affects it’s going to have on your relationship or your children.


5. Being responsible for myself. This sums up the previous four points and is this simple: when I get up in the morning, I’m automatically responsible for three people. Sure, my husband helps me with the morning routine, but even with help, I’m responsible for getting myself and two children dressed, fed and out the door on time. If we go to my in-laws’ for the weekend, I have to pack and unpack for three people. If we go out for pizza, I have to think about sweaters and pull-ups and menu choices for three people. When I buy groceries, I have to consider that my husband always wants to eat meat and that my children don’t want to eat veggies. I can never go anywhere empty-handed; I’m either carrying a child or my children’s stuff. The family car, i.e. my car, is always full of crumbs and my husband is always reminding me that it needs to be cleaned.


I wouldn’t want my life to be any different than it is right now, and when these frustrations take the forefront of my daily thoughts, I balance them with the joys that come with my lifestyle choice. I don’t have too many regrets about how I’ve lived my life or the decisions I’ve made save this one: I wish that while I was single I could have embraced being responsible only for myself. The one piece of advice I’d like to give to all you single (black) ladies is to be where you are. Take stock of what you have right now and spend as little time and energy as possible on the illusions created around relationships and families. They’re not always everything they’re cracked up to be.


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You want customer loyalty in your business. You want repeat business, yes? How about making your customers into valued friends? Showing concern and empathy for their situation? The more your able to treat your customers as friends, the more business they will want to do with you.
You’ll watch your profits soar.


Let’s go through 10 ways you can keep your customers coming back to you, time and time again. And you will no doubt make close, lifelong “friends” in the process.


1. Send Birthday Cards – Do you like to be remembered on your birthday? How about doing something really easy and sending birthday cards to your customers. Could you send a little gift with it? What
about a “special offer” coupon? Free tickets to an event.

2. Make “How’s thing’s going” calls regularly – Section out 15 minutes a day to call your customers for no other reason then saying ” Hi ______, I just called to see how things are going?” Have you ever called your customers to do that? Watch your customers appreciate you thinking of them. It makes them feel that you do care. If you want to have more business, do this regularly.

3. Send out small bags of jelly beans or candies - Could you include a bag of jelly beans, with a handwritten note on your next sale, with the note saying, ” I thought you may like these, they are my favorites.” Or a note saying “Here’s something for you to enjoy” Watch their eyes light up.

4. Send unexpected gifts – If you find an article, audiotape, or anything specific customers might be interested in,send it with a note saying ” I thought you’d enjoy this. I just finished reading it and
there are some interesting ideas here. Also, if you educate your customers they will send you more business.

5. Send Holiday Cards – What about sending a Holiday Card that is different then all the “others” your customers are getting? Make it UNIQUE and PERSONAL and DO NOT promote or ask for business when sending holiday or birthday cards. These should remain sincere and be all about the person you are sending it to, not about you or your business!

6. Send Thank You notes – Send Thank you notes for everything. When they pay their bills on time, every time they order from you, if they send a referral your way. Be sure and thank them for referring
business, coming to see you. Whatever you want more of, reward. It works.

7. Make Thank You calls - You should started making Thank you calls, A variation from the letters. Saying, “Hi ________, Just wanted to say Thank you for referring Mr. Smith to ABC Co.”

8. Give your customers recognition - Take a photo of your customers while they are in your business and send them a card with their picture in it. How about a photo and a testimonial? They’ll be flattered and
your business will increase. People love recognition.

9. Give your customer awards – Yes, you read that right. Have customers of the month. Send them a award certificate or even plaque. Dear _______, Just the other day I was going through my records and I
realized that you are one of the top (10,20,50,) customers. We really appreciate your business. That’s why I want to send you this “Top Customer Certificate” that is enclosed.ABC Company looks forward to
seeing you soon.

10. Hold seminars, breakfasts, lunches. If you want to give recognition to your customers and stay in touch, have monthly or quarterly functions for your customers. Have a speaker and an interesting topic. Dear _______, I would like to invite you to our “Special Customers” lunch. It will be held at ______ on ______. It’s FREE It’s our way of saying Thank you. etc…


Do not under-estimate the power of showing gratitude and appreciation for your customers. Treat them like GOLD and it will result in more GREEN for your business!


If you are looking for an easy and affordable way to send out cards & gifts to your clients and customers, Send Out Cards is a cost effective way to do this. Contact me for more info on this awesome customer-appreciation system! Visit my website www.socretail.com/80793 or drop me an email dbjdesigns@gmail.com and I can tell you more.

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Marketing a small business is not limited to print or online media. Using greeting cards in business is still a highly beneficial tool for marketing, promoting and most importantly to show appreciation to your clients.
REAL cards that come addressed, stamped and in the mail, not e-cards are proven effective in securing business relationships, creating referrals and can be used as a tool to generate sales. Unlike sales letters, greeting cards are appreciated and have less chance of ending up in the trash bins.

Some reasons to add greeting cards to your marketing plan-

Adding greeting cards create loyalty. A company that shows appreciation for their clientsis likely to have better business relationships in the long run. Show them that you do thank them for choosing you to provide the product or service they need by sending thank you cards.

Cards are easy to send any time of the year. Another advantage of usinggreeting cards is that you don’t even need special occasions to send them.

You can personalize them making the messages more sincere thus strengthening your relationship with them. You can also include a personal message about the recent product or service that you are promoting. Tell them that you want them to experience what you have to offer and any help that you can give them.

Using a online greeting card system like Send Out Cards can make it easy and affordable for you to send real, high quality cards on an ongoing basis to your customers to keep your business “top of mind” so that they will entrust their loyalty to you!


I extend an invitation to all of you to take a few minutes and send a thank you to your most recent customer or someone whose business you've been after.


Try Send Out Cards- online greeting card and gifting system. Visit my website at www.sendoutcards.com/80793 select option #2 OR for more information on how you can purchase this product contact me at dbjdesigns@gmail.com.


Thank you and stay blessed!

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Why Don’t People Send Out Cards?

Research shows that the average person only sends out about 10 cards per year. However the same average person has the need to send outabout 70 cards per year.

So why don’t they send them?

  • Its inconvenient to buy the card, write on it, post it.
  • Ít takes time, which people often don’t have.
  • It’s expensive
  • And people forget or don’t get around to it!

If there was a system that was

  • simple to use
  • cost effective
  • time efficient and
  • wouldn’t let you forget.

Would you be interested? Yes? This is it!!!
You can now send out cards for all occasions: personal, business, birthdays, holidaya, special occasions, staying in contact withclients, etc.

All at the click of a button.

It doesn’t matter if you are sending one card or 1000 cards, we can handle it. And these are real cards. Cards that arrive in the mail. The ones that people really appreciate. Acknowledging someone whether its a business or personal contact goes a long way.

Everyone loves getting cards in the mail, especially when it is personal and customized for them. You can even print in your ownhandwriting and sign it with you signature.

How do you Send Out Cards to your business customers, your family and friends.

  • You pick a card
  • You type in a personal message (maybe even add a photo)
  • We print the card
  • We stuff the envelope.
  • We stick the stamp.
  • We mail your card
  • The recipient receives a real card, personalized for them, in their mailbox, from you.

See how simple it is to send out cards. Try it today.... www.sendoutcards.com/80793 click option #2.

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Are you minding your business?

At times people and things get in our way because we feel the need to appease everyone that comes along. We forget the simple things such as a kind word or a smile that can impact our day in such a delightful way and raise the bar for us in our business. So today...

Do you feel tired from giving too much? Are you involved in a co-dependent relationship that you can't seem to let go of and its affecting your business? Are you growing your business at the same time growing and embracing you " A leader of your business" ? More specifically, are you in the right business?

Ladies if you are you passionately minding your business then it will show. It will show as your business grows with new prospects, clients, initiatives, additional networking ideas etc. Set the tone for your business today and the rest as they say is history!

God Bless,

Marlene McCray, MS

Personal Development Trainer & Compass Representative

http://www.fallintoyou.com

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Happy New Year to BBWO

I hope everyone had a great year in 2009, and I wish all you ladies the BEST in 2010!!!! I have been mia on the net for the past 7months. I have been Blessd to continue my education so that has been my main focus. I know there are some of us who juggle everything that's going on in their lives on one plate, but I had to find out that my health is important too. So I have decided to put my social marketing online on the back burner so to speak. My education is very important to me. Im so proud to be 40 (mistaken for 30 lol), and back to getting the education I've always wanted (God is so good!!! ). I also have been getting closer to God and learning that I don't have to do things to please others to make myself feel good. If ppl don't like me for who I am then they are not the people for me. I will find a real true husband not in my time but in Gods time. I can see that 2010 is going to be a great year for me, even though in 2009 some doors closed right in my face, so many windows opened up for me too. I am a Black Woman who loves life, and I love sharing my experiences with people just to let them know that everything is going to be alright if they just trust and have faith. Life for me is not all about how much money/friends I have. For me life is alll about how happy I am.Im going to hit the books after posting this blog, and just continue to Be Blessed. Oh and just because Im getting closer to God and Im all about pleasing the Lord this does not make me a "RELIGIOUS" chick so please don't get it twisted. I don't need people sending me all kinds of scriptures or telling me how much God loves me I already know these things. God and I have our relationship just like you may have your relationship with the Lord it may not be the same. But I don't want to get into that because that would take up too much time. I just ask that you respect me. Thanks in advance. Much Success to you all in 2010!!!!!Everyone Stay Blessed :)DawnW
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FACEBOOK MESSES UP RELATIONSHIPSComical look at how facebook can impact a relationship. very entertaining and contains some not so obvious truths how the open viewing communication system can effect people. For people considering marriage or already married should take heed to this skit. Relationships are effected by the new online communication. Love relationship can need some serious advice after viewing this.
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FOUR SECRETS TO A SUCCESSFUL JOINT VENTURE

Four Secrets to a Successful Joint VentureEvery successful Joint Venture should include a Clear Objective, The Right Partner, A Great Plan, Good Management.1. Objective - Have a clear objective. You should know what you want to accomplish right from the beginning. The company that you partner with will want to know and see that you are clear about what you want to accomplish by partnering with them. Be aware that your joint venture partner may not have the same objective as you, which is fine as longs as they compliment each others.2. Choosing the right joint venture partner is very important. The right partner in your joint venture will create a win win situation for both parties or all parties involved. You need to take ample time to search out and find the right partner / company that has similar objectives to yours and one that is interested in going into a joint venture. Some businesses might want to joint venture, but don’t have the same objective as you and their objective do not compliment yours. This is not and will not be a good joint venture for you…Move on from this one if you should come across it. You want to find a company or business partner that have an interest in going into a joint venture and that have objectives that are similar to your or that at least compliment yours. If you come across this person, a joint venture could be considered. What both parties want should come into alignment with each other, so not to clash with one another later.3. Have a great plan for your venture. Work out how you are going to go about negotiating and Continue
Saundra WatsonJoint Venture Network for Women
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The Toxic Job

Is your JOB toxic?? We have all heard of toxic relationships and friendships. You know the ones that bring you down, lead you down the wrong path, or cause you more harm or hurt than good. So, is your JOB toxic? And how can you tell. If your immediate response to the question was yes, then case closed. If you are not so sure whether your job is toxic or not, I have some things you may want to think about. I'm not professing to be a career counselor, or anything like that, but I had a conversation with a friend that some people may be able to relate to...~ Signs your job may be "toxic" ~- Are you literally saddened by thoughts of your job or the thought of going to work?- Do you constantly go to work in a good mood, but leave angry or depressed?- Have you or are you developing health issues, (for example, high blood pressure, ulceres, anxiety) due to job related stress?- Does your job consumes all aspects of your life, even when you don't want it to?- Does your job interfere with your personal life or cause a strain in your personal relationships? You know, you are constantly missing valuable family time because you have to work late or bring the job home with you. ( Think carefully about this, don't confuse it with a toxic relationship at home)- Has your behavior change negatively since you have been working at your job.?- Do the practices of your company conflict with your personal values?I think that if you've answered yes to more than one or two of these questions then you may have a toxic situation on your hands. But what should you do about it? Now, with the economy today, I would not advise just quitting. 71,000 jobs were lost on Monday, 10,000 on Wednesday, and there are certainly more to come. So chances of getting hired somewhere else are slim.But in the meantime, see if there are other ways to survive and keep your sanity. Instead of griping about your job, thank God, that you have a means to provide for yourself or your family. While you are there, take comfort in knowing that you are doing the best that you can do while you are at work. Set limitations for your self try to work late only once or twice a week, and then set limitations on how late you will stay. Say I'm leaving at "x o'clock" no matter what. And stick to it. If possible, find something you do like, whether it be another job, or your own business. And by all means, be sure not to take the stresses of the day out on your loved ones. They will be there for you long after that job has passed.
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Why Ask Why?

In the great mental vacuum of psychobabble and matching talk shows, seems to be an endless string of people from failed relationships asking “why”. “Why didn’t I get my promised phone call?” “Why weren’t they where they said they were going to be?” “Why did they lie to me?” “Why did they cheat on me?” Why, why, why, why!!! These pointless inquiries are usually followed by some mention of “closure” as if having “closure” somehow changes the end results. My question is why ask why?The fact is it makes no difference. Why people do what they do rarely makes a difference. That they do what they do is what ultimately matters. Oh, I realize most people think that if the “reason” is good enough, it’s going to make everything OK somehow. But let’s face it; the reasons are usually a far cry from the near life and death scenarios we need them to be for our own rationalizations. Oftentimes, the “reasons” people give are just more lies. Which brings me back to my original question – why ask why?Ask this, am I hurt about the lie or action? Would you really feel better knowing that you didn’t get that call because she was just trying to spare your feelings or would you prefer that she simply didn’t make a promise she never intended to keep? Would you really feel better if you knew that he lied to you just to get laid or would you prefer that he was simply honest about wanting to get laid so you could be a real adult and decide for yourself if you wanted to participate? How does it hurt less or damage you less if you know you were cheated on just because it was possible? Is it better to be cheated on for meaningless sex or because of a relationship?My point is, whatever the “reason”, the end result is the same. Most of us have enough to do trying to replenish ourselves after a bad relationship. If you really want to spend that time productively, it would be much better to focus on what actually does matter – dealing with the reality of the situation you’re left with. Don’t deny; don’t distort; don’t try to medicate away the feelings – they suck, but they’re not fatal. People somehow manage to live through them all the time – no matter how horrible.Give yourself the opportunity to be surprised and proud of how strong you really are. See it for what it is; deal with it; and become a better person on the other side of the pain. That way, you can be truly useful and pay your wisdom forward to someone else suffering the same agony.Speaking the truth in love,Deidre
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Overcoming fear

Overcoming fear© 2008 Robin TrambleHave you ever been hindered by a fear of success (or a fear of failure)?Have you ever received news that seemed to immobilize you with fear?Fear tried to grip me when I was awakened at 2:30 in the morning by my daughter's voice with these words "mom, I can't see!." Well, she recovered and my daughter , my family and I overcame the fear, doubt and unbelief.Faith is the opposite of fear. Doubt and fear are the cousins.People everywhere are beginning to live in a state of fear. There is good fear and bad fear. Fear was also designed to warn us and protect us from certain things, however, for the most part people become in bondage to the negative fear.What is fear?Fear is an emotional response to threats and danger. It is a basic survival mechanism occurring in response to a specific stimulus, such as pain or the threat of pain.You can begin to overcome fear by following a few of the keys below.1) Recognize fear as the following acronym: False – Evidence – Appearing – RealUsually we fear the outcome of the unknown. The evidence that is presented beforeyou is not necessarily truth. So it is key to know that it is only the way it appears, it is an illusion so to speak. We have somehow allowed ourselves to believe that it is real.2) Identify the source of your fear: Where does your fear stem from? Do you find yourself becoming bound by fear when facing new tasks? Could this be a result of the negative responses you received when coming up in response to your failures? Do you become bound by fear when you approach certain types of relationships? Does fear try to grip you when in confrontational situations at work? Identifying the source of your fear plays a key role in overcoming your fears.3) Develop courage: Courage, also known as bravery, will, intrepidity, and fortitude, is the ability to confront fear, pain, risk/danger, uncertainty, or intimidation. You can see by the definition that courage is very important to develop when learning to overcome your fears. You cannot be passive when dealing with fear. You must confront it head on. You must do as the last key listed below andthat is to continue in the face of fear.4) Continue in the face of fear: You must acknowledge that Fear is a spirit.2 Timothy 5:7 states “God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love and a sound mind. When you realize that God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love and a sound mind, you can continue in the face of fear. You must face it head on.Be empowered through your union with Father God, embrace the power that it ours. Put on love and receive a sound mind. This will help you to counteract fear and continue.5) Build your confidence: A lack of confidence only fuels the spirit of fear. Learn strategies for building your confidence. The more confident you are the more you will be able to face fear head on and you can also begin to embrace courage.Fear will immobilize us, steal our destiny, health and relationships. Fear empowers us to FAIL. Faith is just the opposite. Live by faith and begin to enjoy a life of freedom, freedom from a lifestyle of fear.Utilize the above keys to overcoming your fears. Don’t read them, but select one to focus on and write it down. Think about some actions you can take to bring life to the key chosen. Write them down and at weeks end update with your progress.These are just a few suggested keys to overcoming your fears.Visit here to access a free resource to aid in your effort in overcoming fear.http://www.robintramble.com/Teleseminarschedule.htmlFree eBook 15 POWERFUL tips towards boosting self esteem and confidenceWhat’s holding you back from achieving all you desire?How would you like to see some of your dreams come true in under a year?Robin Tramble is your empowering, mentoring, Trainer/Coach. Get connected todayand realize dreams come true in under a year.
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