Is Something Holding You Back?

I would hope that being among such positive and motivated individuals as the members of BBWO, each and every person here is striving to do big things. But I'm sure that for some of you, something is holding you back from truly actualizing your dreams. Perhaps financials or personal obstacles are an area of concern? Maybe there is a feeling of not knowing where to start or a feeling of failure. Whatever the case maybe, I wanted to open up a discussion for those who need to vocalize the things that are holding them back; to find common ground among others going through the same thing or who have been there.
I myself knows what its like to say, "forget this I'm going to go back to the corporate world." I've looked at projects and thought "I can't finish this, I can't do this on my own." I personally know what is like to not feel a strong sense of encouragement from someone closest to you.

The reality is that there is always going to be someone or something there to hold you back. The question is can you look such an obstacle in the face and find the strength to keep moving forward? So if your reading this, I am asking - Is there something holding you back?

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Quanisha June 13, 2010 at 1:02am

I feel my perception of myself was holding me back for the last year. I have been able to use therapy, self-help books and personal development articles to move pass many of this mental blocks. They help me to see my true self. The self everyone else kept telling me was there. I saw an incapable woman held back by her mistakes and failures. Other view me as capable brilliant young woman who survived life's obstacles. I now see what they see and even more.

What holding me back now is simply choosing from the vast array of entrepreneurial options. Indecision is the culprit.

Quanisha
Author Patricia Yarbrough June 6, 2010 at 12:28am

What's keeping me going is my faith. Many obstacles has been in my way for years,sometimes I couldn't find my way, the roads were dark and lonely.
Instead of giving up I kept my faith, it was the light that carried me through.
Family is important to many of us, we rely on their cheers to get us through the storm, instead of the cheers we encounter tears.
As hard as it maybe, we have to detach ourselves from some of the most important people in our lives to move forward.
Many days I wanted to go back to work, I looked at many of my friends who were struggling while holding a full time job, I knew I was deserving of more, so I kept going and believing that oneday I will reach my rainbow.
You can't expect people to believe in you, when they don't believe in themselves.
hannahbanana May 26, 2010 at 10:36pm

Being financial destitute is what's holding me back. It's been that way all of my life. End of story
Patricia Roston May 14, 2010 at 7:05pm

WOW. thank you for this discussion. I have projects that are in the workings and completion is at it's peak, so I can effectively and professionally move forward with them. So I have to vision and resources and recently more established connects to accomplish the goals to where I will be making at least my first $100,000 this year 2010. Due to the fact that my financial freedom is long over due and I am able to travel and effectively build my business, I grow a little weary inbetween. I appreciate my job, that is simply allowing me to survive while I grow my business and the company that I am with Ardyss International is the best TODAY, so it's in the bag. I am getting so close to the completion so I am determined to stay focused, break past all barriers, take and keep whats mine, and reach a new level in my financial and business life this year. Just talking about it brings relief. IT literally eliminates the negativity that tried to linger in my mind and brings me back to the truth and my financial and business success in right around the corner.
Kelara Pumphrey April 16, 2010 at 5:27pm

For me, the financial obstacles are present but it just means that I will need to pace myself. Perseverance will solve that issue eventually. I believe my biggest obstacle right now is the fear of rejection. I find myself often afraid that I will offend someone. My hearts desire is to reach young black women and sometimes the topics that I feel led to talk about are very controversial.

I give my opinion on certain issues or topics in hopes of starting a discussion, however, I find myself struggling with being free to give my opinion not wanting to offend people. I also know that the name of my blog alone is very controversial, I think many people may have mixed emotions about it. However, I don't feel like I chose the name as much as it chose me. The name of my blog came to me many times in the form of a dream. I struggled a lot at first with it, however, I could not seem shake it, so I decided to be obedient and take the path that was set before me.

Being a introverted person, I would prefer to quietly remain in the background. Yet that seems to be the opposite of where my life is directing me. So despite of the fears and hesitations I choose to move forward with the vision that I have been given. My daily affirmations help me to focus on my vision and goals and not on the negative thoughts and fears that are trying to hold me back.

Kelara
http://www.thenegroqueen.com
TMARIAROMANCE June 6, 2008 at 6:51pm

I'm a very strong person when doing things for others, But when it's time to do things for me I just give up or have no energy.
- Amina Amran > TMARIAROMANCE March 20, 2010 at 2:18pm
  
  I understand exactly that you mean. My determination to help and encourage others especially my family always seems to peter out my the time it gets to me. I miss my personal deadlines and seems to lose my motivation easily.
- Quanisha > TMARIAROMANCE June 7, 2008 at 4:24am
  
  I have this same problem. Maybe we should stop being the strong person for everyone else and "Mind our own business"
Candice Griffin April 22, 2008 at 6:50pm

I once heard a quote that said "feel right now how you will feel when you have everything you want". Something is always going to be there to try and hold us back (this is something I'm really starting to realize) but we have to roll with the punches keep on pushing. A constant affirmation of your hopes and dreams is necessary for success.
- Kala Mujibha > Candice Griffin April 22, 2008 at 8:29pm
  
  Very Positive Piece of advice that I will definitely remember!

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