I just want to know can a brother just come clean from day one. No representative, no exxageration. Just bring all the baggage and present it to a woman when they first meet. Have you ever just thought men today forgot how to be real???
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Too much baggage on the first day might be a bit too real for me (lol) but I know what you mean. Being upfront and honest about who you are is ideal from both men and women. The reality is none of us are perfect which is why I learned that rather than go on a wild goose chase to find the perfect man, I rather work with a man whose willing to work on his imperfections. Both my son's father and myself, are honest about what we need to improve in our own lives and work to help each other reach those goals. -lhenry
Crystal Smith > LaShanda HenryJune 5, 2008 at 3:24pm
You re absolutely correct about working with perfections. I am same way. I have done it twice. This is what gets to me when you ask them to just tell you there situation and they afraid you won't. I know many women are very picky in that regard. Personally I like a genuine individual. Flaws, imperfections are not important . Things can change overnight. We all can be somewhat good one day and totally different the next. The internal heart of the man is what matters most.
Well It's a rat race it seems to me and I'm getting out of it, To many games to many insecure brothas...
But I think getting the real deal out of a man right off is not going to happen.
It is work , sister it is work. I believe it can happen. But, it takes so much to get to that point. This is why we must spend so much time getting to know each other. Talking, exploring and not be so quick to get with them. We have to see how compatible we are. Things have to be discussed. Oftentimes, people skip this getting to know you face and get physical and then they all caught up in the mix..................
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But I think getting the real deal out of a man right off is not going to happen.