WHY BITCH WHY“You never find yourself until you face the truth.”-- Pearl BaileyIn order to understand the mindset of a mistress, we have to know the way they think. There are many reasons why women are willing to play second best, and we do not have enough time or energy to go into all of them, but we will explore the main ones.Like Mother, Like DaughterA woman’s first role model is her mother. Growing up, we all look at our parents as the prime example of what we think we should be like as adults. If you are raised in a household where your mother is sleeping around and seems to have no boundaries, how do you think that will affect you? Parents love to say “do as I say, not as I do”, but let’s be honest with ourselves, we do what they do. If your mother was messing with married men, who would have taught you that it was wrong? Nobody! If your mother was a hoe, nine times out of ten, you will be a hoe. There is good news, though; you can break the cycle. With a little therapy and a lot of prayer, you can begin to change your life around.Afraid of CommitmentBeing a mistress has its benefits. You have great sex, good conversation and a free pass to do whatever you want. If a man is married, he has no right to tell you what you can or cannot do. You can go out whenever you want, have as much company as you want, come in as late as you want, and he can’t say anything. He goes home to his wife every day. Some women really don’t want to be tied down. It is easier to have sex with someone that you like, than it is to work on a relationship with someone that you love. I know someone who has dated a few married men. The problem with these kinds of women is their fear of commitment comes from the pain of a past relationship. She has built up a wall that makes it hard for her to see the pain that she is causing to another woman by sleeping with that woman’s man. She is so blinded by her own pain that nothing else matters. This can become very dangerous in the long run.Hopeless RomanticThe hopeless romantic is such a silly hoe. She may watch all the movies and read all the romance novels. She believes in the fairy tale. She really believes that this man is going to fall in love with her and leave his wife. She fantasizes about the nice house and the children, as well as her wedding dress picked out in her mind. She falls in love easily and thinks that the man feels the same way about her. While this silly hoe is at work day dreaming about the life that she could have with him, his wife is at home living it.LonelinessLoneliness is a big factor in being a mistress. Some women just need a man to be around. They need attention and affection. The pathetic part is they don’t care where they get it from. She knows the man is taken. She knows that he is not leaving his wife for her. She knows that he doesn’t love her. As long as she is getting quality time, nothing else matters. These women have low self-esteem. Everyone gets lonely sometimes, but normal people can set boundaries. So to these women I say, get your shit together!Father FigureShow me a hoe, and I’ll show you a woman that has issues with her father. Maybe he was abusive, maybe he died when she was young, or maybe he just wasn’t around. Either way, she is trying to fill that void. This is the woman that has a lot of sex looking for a little bit of love. Single or married, it doesn’t matter. As long as a man is there, she’s happy.
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