Posted by Erica Johnson on December 2, 2010 at 9:17pm
Are you still holding a grudge?A major problem that I notice that a lot of my clients have is unforgiveness. This can range from family to friends and down to ex-boyfriends. This is something that is a major issue that will repel Mr. Right from ever coming your way. And if you have ever worked with me then you know that this is one of the first things we work on in our coaching sessions.One of my clients once asked me why is it so important that we work on forgiveness. I explained to her that the reason we work on forgiveness is because it sets you free. Have you ever heard the saying “The truth will set you free.” Well, it is the same thing with forgiveness.When you walk around with unforgiveness towards someone they have power over you. Do you actually want someone to be able to have control over you? I don’t think so. I have seen countless women hang on to issues and situations that happened years ago.You might be reading this and asking yourself, Erica what does this have to do with attracting Mr. Right? It has everything to do with it. You see unforgiveness is a form of baggage. If you were to meet that special someone today or tomorrow then you would be bringing baggage into your relationship. I would prefer that you enter into a new relationship clean so that it can blossom into something healthy and prosperous. So let’s talk about the benefits of forgiveness.• Forgiveness sets you free• Releases you from past heartaches and pains• Releases anger• Heals you spiritually• Prepares you for loveI am no different from you and have walked around with unforgiveness in my life. After my ex-boyfriend and I stopped dating, I never fully forgave him for what he did. I didn’t even forgive myself for the things I did to him. So before I could move forward I had to forgive both of us because I knew I didn’t want the next man dealing with my previous crap.So one day I had the courage to call up my ex-boyfriend and tell him that I forgave him. (I didn’t actually call but texted instead. Sorry I didn’t have enough courage to do that and besides it was like 1 year later.) Anyway, I texted him and told him that I forgave him for everything that he did to me and I also asked for his forgiveness. In my mind, I thought that this conversation was going to go well but it didn’t. He basically cursed me out through texting and said that he wasn’t going to forgive me. I was shocked after all of this amount of time he still was holding a grudge.So the lesson that I learned is:You don’t have to wait for someone to forgive you to let go of unforgiveness.Mr. Right Attraction AssignmentYour assignment for this week is to make a list of all of the people that you are still holding a grudge against whether it is family, friends, or ex-boyfriends. It doesn’t matter.Once the list is made I would like for you to choose from the following:Option 1Write them a letter describing how they have hurt you and you are forgiving them. (This letter does not have to be mailed but can be burned instead. It’s a sign of letting it go.)Option 2Contact the people on your list and talk to them about how they have hurt you and let them know that you forgive themMandatoryWrite yourself a letter and tell yourself that you forgive yourself for everything that you have been blaming yourself for. Sign it, seal it, and mail it to yourself. Once you have received it in the mail read it aloud to yourself.If you would like to recieve more of Erica's weekly Mr. Right Attraction articles visit. www.guidingu2succes.com and download your free "How to Attract Mr. Right Kit."
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