I recently read a quote from an unknown person that says, “When all other means of communication fail, try words!” The quote has power meaning to me as I go through my transition from being an “E” to an “I” (read Cashflow Quadrant by Robert Kiyosaki for insight).
As adults we tend to communicate with one another through use of text message, instant messaging, email or social media. We often get a third party involved with our own conflicts just so we won’t have to speak with an individual. Body language also tells us a lot.
So, why is it so hard to communicate with our words? For me it is to avoid conflict. I don’t like a lot of drama and if I know you are the type of person that gets loud and obnoxious when any type of feedback is given, I simply stay away from your path. I also feel that if you are bold enough to bring in a third party to our “conflict” then you can come to me with the same information.
I feel that feedback, whether positive or negative, is a gift. Everybody is not going to take what is said the same way it was intended to be. I’ve often written something or said something and after it was discussed, everybody was happy and we were able to move on.
For years I held a grudge with someone who treated me wrong growing up. I didn’t call, write, stop by or did anything that I knew would allow me to cross their path. Through the years the constant third party intervention started to get on my nerves so I reached out to the person with a bold statement. Too bad it took this long to express how I felt but at least the person got it from me, through words.
Just remember that when we deal with people everyone has a different personality. I am a yellow but I tend to have some red personality in me when I’m fed up.
This is my insight for you and let’s talk sometimes.
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