Many of us are unable to recognize when help is needed or reluctant to ask for the help that others can provide. There will come a time in everyone’s life when we are asked to identify our primary weakness. Our culture says it’s a weakness to ask for help...but don't fall for that so called logic for it is...NOT TRUE.Everyone of us has both strengths and weaknesses – it’s simply a part of our being who we are...human for no one is no one is perfect. As very independent people, we want to do most things ourselves, but hiding problems, ignoring them, avoiding them or pretending we don’t have them is by far the worst thing we can do, for it doesn’t make the problem go away.We all need help every now and then, and asking for help is a response of strength, not weakness for it takes courage to ask for the help we need. Honesty and vulnerability about our need for help is what can bind us to family, friends or even a stranger together to give and receive the help we need.Ask and you shall receive.....None of us can face the world or life alone. If you fear that you are too self-sufficient, ask yourself what the extreme behavior is costing you. Your relationships? Your mental or physical health? Something or someone whom you value? What are you giving up by not asking for help? When you could ask for help, what stops you? Fear? The need to control the situation? Distrust of the person who is offering you the help? Again most of us believe that we must be self-sufficient and that asking for help is somehow a sign of weakness, or forces us to be vulnerable or dependent on others, This belief causes us to not reach out when we need to or when it is in our best interest. And by not asking for help when you need it, you are actually making your life a lot more difficult. You don’t need to make excuses or apologize. Simply explain the situation and the help you need.Doesn't it amaze you at times when people do things to help you? There are an overwhelming number of people in this world who are amazingly kind and thoughtful. Doing things to help other people makes us feel better. Oftentimes we feel honored that another person asked us for help. It is better to serve than to be served, as we strive to find a balance between being independent and dependent, and the point of balance is different for each of us, as there is a peace of mind in knowing that others will be there to help us when we are in need. If we want others to see us as the real person we are, naturally creative, resourceful and whole, then we must learn to see others in this way as well.Someone, somewhere has to break the cycle! So, if you do not usually ask for help – find your strength today by asking for help, and give someone the opportunity to give. People never forget that helping hand especially when times are tough. Help someone who can't return the favor, for there is more happiness in giving than in receiving.I’m Asking For Your Help LordHe is knocking on my door Lord, that old devil in disguise.He’s trying mighty hard to tempt me with his disguises & lies.He’s whispering in my ear and I know You gave me a choice,But he’s whispering soft and gentle with such a charming voice.So, I’m asking for Your help Lord, through each and every day,For only with Your help Lord can I chase temptation away.You know it’s really hard, for You were tempted too.But You rebuked that tempter Lord and I want to be like You.So help me lock the door, then throw away the key.Cease his tempting voice Lord and let my thoughts dwell on You.Let me feel Your loving presence, bestow Your sweet blessings of peace on me, my family, friends and strangers.Keep me ever in Your presence, now and throughout eternity.There's lots of things with which I'm blessed.My problems have been few, but of all this one's the best:To have a friend like you and others in my times of trouble.True Friends will say, "Just ask, I'll help you through it."But you don't wait for me to ask, you just get up and do it!And I can think of nothing more that I could wisely do than know a friend, and be a friend, and have a friend like you!For that I give you all the blessings of "THANK YOU" from deep inside my heart......MZGLORIA
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