Posted by Denise Bethune on September 19, 2008 at 4:57pm
This was sent to me today...True as it maybe, I still wanted to share this in showing that no matter if the support is not standing with me, I am standing for you and with you...Success To All...Ok…so I walk in and you see me. You see that my hair is done, my outfit is fierce and I carry myself like a lady. I smile at you but you roll your eyes at me, then, turn your head and whisper something to your girl. Why you hatin'?Ok… so maybe I'm a new employee and this is my first day at work. I almost thought I would be the only sister in the joint until someone introduced us to each other. I smile and extend my hand, happy to know I won't be here alone. You smile and shake my hand but there's insincerity in your eyes and your hand is limp. You seem guarded. What's wrong?Ok …so maybe my husband and I have been having problems. And since you've been my best friend for years I confide in you that I think he's cheating on me. You offer your support. Until I find out that he's been cheating on me….with you! Why would you hurt me like that?I found your knife girl…..it's in my back. Now I'm not saying every sister has a knife…but some of you do….and you know who you are.As women we battle daily. We battle keeping our families together, keeping our men happy and maintaining our presence in the workforce. With all that battling going on why in the world should we have to battle each other?Why is it that a woman can't get her shine on without you having a problem with it? Why is it when I have some news to share with you, you make it about you? If I'm working myself to death in the office trying to climb the corporate ladder…why am I suddenly a sellout? Why is it if I'm working two and three jobs I must need something...How about a sister trying to be "debt-free! Have you thought about that?Just because I'm smiling at you, doesn't mean I'm not onto you...If I leave the room for a minute why can't I trust you not to talk about me, let alone be around my man? Why are you always silently competing with me? You know I'm hitting home now...You're just smiling in my face, but gossiping behind my back… you now have permission to consider yourself trifling'!Inferiority Complex; it makes us feel that in order to be someone special we have to put everyone else beneath us. Are we so insecure in ourselves that we can't feel good until we pull someone else down? There's something wrong here. We've come to envy those who've accomplished in their lives what we've only dreamed of having for ourselves. And when we fear we will never be able to get what we want - so what do we do....steal it... and make the other sister feel bad about making decisions that's right for her.There is a serious self-worth issue going on here. We're in a day and age where we should be encouraging each other and holding each other up. Sisterhood should not end when Oprah goes off! Truth be told, there will always be someone prettier, sexier, stronger, and smarter. that's just the way it is. But that's ok …I don't care how good Beyonce' looks - if she walks into the same room I'm in, it doesn't make me any less of the diva than I already am! I love admiring hairstyles…but there's no need to be jealous. Honey, nowadays there's enough hair for everybody.I have goals in life. There are things I strive to attain. Yet I seek out successful sisters because they keep me motivated. So my beautiful sisters please don't tear one another down for personal gain and satisfaction, it still makes you ugly no matter what the men are saying!!! Check your loyalty!Life is so much more than who looks the best, who dresses the best and who makes more money. So when you see your sister going for hers let it inspire you.... I'm going to still keep on keeping on...And as for you, try to do you and be happy for the next sister! When you are happy for your sister, God can bless you with your own: house, finances, husband, children, job, and education.Peace and Blessings
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