Sunday, March 30, 2008Getting older - Growing UpToday my daughter is 18. An age we all have looked forward to - the beginning of adulthood. It symbolizes the time where we are able to make independent decisions.However, my daughter is somehow not quite ready. She has quite a bit of maturing still on her list of things to do. As I have observed my children, I can appreciate the unique aspects of their characters. They are all very different yet the same. They are all talented writers, singers, dancers,etc. They love to read, travel, go to the theater,museums, dining, etc. However, when it comes to making decisions they are really different.My birthday girl has always been the daughter who I consider to be my biggest challenge as a parent. Of all my children, she is the one who pushes it every time. An example would be her habit of breaking curfew. My other children will be back on time and even before the time. My birthday girl will say that the train was late when in fact she did not check the schedule to see what time she needed to get on the train in order to be home on time. She does not hesitate to point out the privileges that are extended to her other siblings. I have explained to her that they have shown that they are responsible. I can go on and on about her attitude of entitlement, etc.As a parent I allow my children to grow and make their decisions. Somehow, my 18 year old is just not quite ready and I am not ready to let her go. However, I know that I must. I have to trust that as I have done my best - she will be able to follow the examples that were shown to her.Although right now she is not exhibiting the level of maturity that she needs to - she will eventually realize that she must navigate her own life. She will have to determine what is best for her and deep down I know she will. She is a winner - I know she is.
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