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~UnknownOk...so I walk in and you see me. You see that my hair is done, my outfit isfierce and I carry myself like a lady. I smile at you but you roll youreyes at me, then, turn your head and whisper something to your girl. Why you hatin'?Ok... so maybe I'm a new employee and this is my first day at work. I almostthought I would be the only sistah in the joint until someone introduced usto each other. I smile and extend my hand, happy to know I won't be herealone. You smile and shake my hand but there's insincerity in your eyes andyour hand is limp. You seem guarded. What's wrong Ma'?Ok ...so maybe my man and I have been having problems. Andsince you've been my best friend for years I confide in you that I think he's cheating on me.You offer your support. Until I find out that he's been cheating onme....with you! Why would you hurt me like that?I found your knife girl.....it's in my back.As women we battle daily. We battle keeping our families together, keepingour men happy and maintaining our presence in the workforce. With all thatbattling going on why in the world should we have to battle eachother?Now I'm not saying every sistah has a knife...but some of you do....and youknow who you are. Why is it that a woman can't get her glamour on withoutyou having a problem? Why can't I get a blonde weave without you havingsomething to say? If I'm working myself to death in the office trying toclimb the corporate ladder...why am I suddenly a sellout? If I leave theroom for a minute why can't I trust you around my man? Smiling in my face,but gossiping all my personal business behind my back? ....... you now havepermission to consider yourself triflin'!Inferiority Complex. It makes us feel that in order to be someone special wehave to put everyone else beneath us. Are we so insecure in ourselves thatwe can't feel good until we pull someone else down? There's somethingwrong here. We've come to envy those who've accomplished in their lives what we'veonly dreamed of having for ourselves. And when we fear we will never be ableto get what we want - we steal it.There is a serious self-worth issue going on here. We're in a day and agewhere we should be encouraging each other and holding each other up.Sisterhood should not end when Oprah goes off. Truth be told, there willalways be someone prettier, sexier, stronger, and smarter. I'm sorry Boo-that's just the way it is. But that's ok.....just do you!I don't care how good Beyonce' looks - if she walks into the same room I'min, it doesn't make me any less of the diva I already am! I love admiringhairstyles...but there's no need to be jealous. Honey, nowadays there'senough hair for err-body. I have goals in life. There are things I strive toattain. Yet I seek out successful sisters because they keep memotivated.Life is so much more than who looks the best, who dresses the best and whomakes more money. So when you see your sister going for hers let it inspire you ....To do you!!!!!!!!!!!

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