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One Of Our Passions - Mom's With Deadbeat Dad's

Posted by Valarie Harris on February 6, 2011 at 11:42pm

We created the Mom's with Deadbeat Dad's Booklet as a resource for single working mothers. We tried to find creative ways to relieve some of the financial burden that single working mothers carry while raising their children and waiting on support from the absentee or non-custodial parent.

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STAY STRONG FOCUS, AND MOVE ON

Posted by Tamar on November 26, 2008 at 4:37pm

There is a popular term used that says, “Let Go and Let Flow”. During my journey to prosperity, I learned many tough lessons, including the one that co-workers, bosses, friends and especially family will discourage you in different ways. I remember when I was younger and working for the state department. For a year I had a fantastic supervisor, who always encouraged and told me to focus more on my studies, and to not get comfortable working in my department. He was promoted and replaced. I continued to keep to myself, do my work, study on my breaks, etc. After six months passed, I was told by my new supervisor that she and my co-workers felt that I was not taking my job seriously, and if I did not change my attitude I would be fired. I prayed about it, and remembered what my old supervisor told me. I stayed for another month, until ironically, my old supervisor offered me another job in his new department. My point is, although I wanted to tell the supervisor what she could do with the job, I did not. That job was helping me to pay some of my mortgages. A couple of years ago, when we were sleeping on a mattress on the floor, a relative would always ask me each time we spoke, if we finally had a bed to sleep on . Now that our bed can pay for a new car, I have no regrets about sleeping on floor. Although I always explained to this person that we wanted our money to work for us, it did not register. I have shared these stories because it is not easy to change your mind set on things. Just because you change your way of thinking, it does not mean others will change theirs. When you are going against mainstream’s society’s and beliefs, you and thinking out side the box, and this upsets and scares a lot of people What we have to remember is that wealthy people and families(with old money) like the Rockefeller’s, Morgan’s, etc, are thinking outside the box. This subject is not illegal or new. The term old money means just that; they have had their money for generations. Their money is being recycled in antiques, gold, silver, etc.We tend to get caught up in other people’s hang ups, instead of staying positive about things, and continuing to do what we need to do to get to the next level. That is a part of life, but as long as we remember that our Creator loves, guides and protects us, that should be our faith. Faith is important.The weekly challenge for the week is to do something nice for the that person who is giving you a hard time. Give him or her a magazine or book on Antiques or silver. Share this blog. Invite him or her to the Metropolitan museum or a local museum that exhibits fine art and antiques. Or just say thank-you. When I was a senior in high school, I worked at a fast food restaurant. I thanked the manager for telling me that I just was not cut out for fast food and then firing me. My point is to reverse the negative remarks and replace them with positive remarks. You can change the discouragement into encouragement. What I have learned over the years, is some people that were discouraging me were afraid, and wanted to do what I was doing. When they finally stepped out on faith he or she was very happy.

HEALTH IS WEALTH

Posted by Tamar on July 31, 2008 at 3:22am

For a very brief period of my life I use to surround myself with millionaires or people who thought they were millionaires. One thing I noticed in that journey was that they were not healthy at all. I remember being told that an associate could not meet with us because he was taken to the hospital after having a heart attack. Although this was a very wealthy man it did not stop him from getting sick. I don't understand why things like steak, lobster, etc are associated with having money. You eat enough of these foods and you might not live long enough to enjoy your riches. On the other hand you may live a long life coupled with sickness. We hear of these billionaires dying from very poor health. While their money is still here they are gone. There are so many wonderful foods full of nutrients that actually enhance our bodies rather than to harm them. The scriptures clearly tells us that we should treat our bodies like temples. We were provided with so many fruits and vegetables, legumes, and nuts that is not a necessity to eat meat. And if you still want to eat meat the scriptures points out that you should only eat meat that is clean. Being a vegan or vegetarian is a blessing and not a burden.Now the saying health is wealth goes both ways. There are people who are very healthy and not wealthy or comfortable. They eat and exercise properly and do whatever is necessary to keep their bodies at optimum level. For example, I had a roommate who was 70 years old but didn't look a day past 35. She was a natural doctor and fantastic vegan chef. These were only a couple of her long list of talents. She was also on public assistance and was content on being there for the rest of her life. She is always in my prayers and I pray that she successful today. Ironically I aspired to be a natural doctor and wanted to study under her but all of that changed after we started living together. While I wanted to budget and save on what we could, she wanted to spend money that was not there. While she was a brilliant woman in many areas she had not mastered the financial area.So I mentioned both points to say that there should be a balance between health and wealth. You can do both. Again we must remember our children. The woman I mentioned earlier has children who feel that they have to take care of her. That is not how it should be. It is our responsibility to be positive examples for our children. If a little girl or boy is use to seeing his or her parents buying or selling silver,gold, or property; growing their own crops;sharing with and helping others then they will do the same when they are adults. On the other hand if that same little girl or boy sees his or her parents buying and "renting" unnecessary items, unfortunately he or she will go down the same path of making conscious decisions that leads to generations of poverty. "The sins of the father" is literal not figurative.Here's another challenge. If you are wealthy or comfortable but still eat meat try omitting meat for the rest of the week or if that is too much to ask try 1 day. If you are healthy but not wealthy or comfortable try omitting one thing from your routine that will allow you extra money for a day or the rest of the week. For example you can buy food on sale; skip a weekly massage;walk or ride your bike instead of driving a car. If you do take challenge and find it rewarding please share with us in the comments section of this blog. Todah(Thank-you)for reading this blog. Have a very blessed healthy and wealthy rest of the week.Shalom,Tamar

SILVER SPOONS FOR OUR CHILDREN

Posted by Tamar on July 31, 2008 at 3:16am

Today's big question is "Should Our Children be born with Silver spoons in there mouths?" The answer is "Absolutely". Gold or Platinum is even better. As mentioned in our first blog it is the obligation (as parents and guardians) we have in sustaining our cultural heritage, and investing all our talents wisely. Scriptures tells us throughout that we are to be prosperous an wealthy in silver, gold, and land. We must ask ourselves especially for our children's sake "will this appreciate in the future". The very first item that our son received after he was born was a sterling silver rattle and spoon. Today at age three his favorite word for when he sees at toy is "foolishness". On the other hand, if you give him a piece of silver or gold he will gladly take it and play with it. My point is this is what he knows and will continue to know. The seed has been planted. Meaning that when he is old enough to do so, he will share knowledge of wealth and prosperity through scriptures. Yes knowledge is very powerful. There are other items that have great value like old cars, trains, trucks, etc.It is tradition for people to give money only instead of toasters, blenders, silverware, etc at Jewish weddings. The idea is that Jewish young adults get an opportunity to start their lives without unnecessary financial burden as long as they take the money and invest it wisely in gold, silver, land, etc. It is also the norm to pass property and businesses to children when they become young adults.Shalom,Tamar

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