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TURNABOUT by April Alisa Marquett - What A FABULOUS read!!!

Posted by April Alisa Marquette on April 5, 2010 at 7:25pm

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I’m a big fan of Ms. Marquette’s work and TURNABOUT, her latest novel, is a beautifully written masterpiece...

---Tamela Quijas, Author: Blood of the Beast

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For more on this enticing love story that involves family, friends and foes, or to read a tantalizing excerpt,

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HIV / AIDS Film Trailer

Posted by Nicole Dennison on January 2, 2010 at 2:00pm

Hello,My name is Nicole AlexanderPlease review my HIV / AIDS Film Trailer and tell me what you think. Thanks!REAL TALK FROM BLACK WOMEN ABOUT SEX, LOVE, SELF ESTEEM, AIDS, AND MEN ON THE DOWN LOWPlease give me feedback

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New 1980's Hip Hop Throwback Movie "Up in the Attic"

Posted by KAMAL IMANI*The Soul Griot! on August 8, 2009 at 3:22pm

Get ready for the New Hip Hop 1980’s Throwback Movie "Up in the Attic". There’s a lot of joy, pain and teenagers doing what teenagers do in the NJ suburbs of NYC back in the day. The fly guys and fly girls ran mad episodes and many lessons were learned Available on DVD October 1, 2009. Check out the clips and join the movement on http://www.upintheattic.ning.com andhttp://www.myspace.com/upintheatticmoviehttp://www.upintheatticmovie.com

Drama?!?! This is not what 09 is hitting for!

Posted by Lipstick Killers Collection on February 14, 2009 at 8:06pm

Ladies, I am going to jump right into it this go round. Why are family members so dependent on others to the point where the other family member wants to bounce and leave them all! Okay, here is the situation and please feel free to give me your opinion in the comments. You have had a rough childhood with two parents being alcoholics. Arguing, fighting, physical fights, and a lot of verbal abuse. Now that you are a grown woman with your own home and family, you have one parent left, your mother. She has not let the alcohol go and has had drama with a new guy ever since your father died. The fighting is extremely worse than with your original parents. Cops are now involved on a regular basis. Years pass and you and your siblings are just leaving the situation alone because you all are just freaking tired of it, fed up, and are dealing with your own issues. Now, your mother gets locked up! In this economy, trying to makes ends meet, you now have to come up with 1k to bail her out. So you and your siblings get the money together with the help of only 4 other family members, that's it. No one else wants to help because they know that she will not pay them back and she is going to go back to him. She gets out the same night. You make a deal with the bail bondsman for payments on the remaining amount of the bail that your mother is responsible for. She doesn't work, she only collects unemployment and the boyfriend doesn't help either, on top of all that, she still has a drinking problem. She makes two payments and here comes all of lies because the bail bondsman is calling you now for the money. Four months pass and now you get a call that you are getting sued for the full bail amount of 23k. Scrambling around again, your siblings do not help. Your brother doesn't want to help because he did a day in jail already fighting the boyfriend and your sister doesn't want to help because she is putting her bills first and doesn't have the extra money. Now its up to you again, even though you go to school, work, run three businesses on the side, manage your home, and plot and plan to become successful to get out of your debt and live your dreams. Nobody cares about what you have to do. But that is your mother, if you don't pay the rest of the bail, she is going to jail for 30 days, a 52 year old alcoholic mother going to jail. So what do you do? You get the worst thing you can ever do, payday loans. Now you have 3 outstanding to pay her bail. She said she is going to pay you back when she gets her tax return in two weeks, but you need that money now, because you are traveling next week for business. You need that money now because you put some bills on hold in order to save her ass. Here is when you really get pissed off. After you paid this $600, she calls you tipsy saying thank you and she is going to pay you back and all this and that, but how is she drinking with no money? Then she calls you back from the bar! What the hell are you doing at the bar when you still owe the bail bondsman $200 that no one else will pay. Now you feel as though you should have let her sit in jail. But its all good though because you are going to your business trip anyway and are going to make it happen when you get out there. You are determined to get those business deals and contracts! Inside, you feel betrayed, and they always say your family is your worst enemy. They pull you down just like a crab in a bucket. I hate the crab in a bucket syndrome with a passion, it has held back so many of our black people to this day because of this lazy, jealous, dependent mentality. They don't care that you have three conference calls, homework, and a tshirt to finish before you go to sleep, they got to come over and use your internet. They don't care what business meetings you have set up for the day, they just want to know when you are going to be free so you can pick them up from work. Do any of you guys feel pulled like this from your family? Here you are trying to do you and get this paper and here comes the drama and bullshit. You are not on that type time this year, this year is your year, you are going to do it this year. You got plans dammit, how come they don't understand that. Its to the point where you have to cut everybody off. Don't depend on me for a thing anymore, this is not the same Reeta. They say that people change when they get money, well your damn right if you have ignorance and selfish people trying to keep you down and are not there for you at all when you need them. UUUGGGHHH. Okay, just had to vent that out because my anger has affected my work and I cannot let that happen when I am soo close. Thanks for reading and I look forward to your comments.-S

If It Don't Fit...

Posted by Trisha Martin on October 23, 2008 at 9:05pm

When I was a child, I remember one of my favorite songs was, If It Don’t Fit, Don’t Force It, by Kellee Patterson. That song came out in 1978 and I could not have known what they were talking about at such an early age because if I had, years later, I would not have stayed in my marriage as long as I had. Actually, I don’t even know if I would have gotten married at all to the man that fathered my three boys. I mean really, in the three years before we even tied the knot, I had gone through an obstacle course full of red flags. As if it were yesterday, I remember pulling up to the church where we were to have our shoe string wedding with my soon to be mother-in-law and our two kids in tow. I can’t remember what we were arguing about, but I do distinctly remember my ex-mother-in-law saying, “y’all sure y’all wanna do this?” If I had known what I know now, is the phrase that comes to mind right now.But how could I have known? I was only twenty-four and thought I was doing the right thing by getting married to the man that fathered one of the two children that I had then. All I could think of was, if I marry him, God would fix everything. He’d make everything right. Wrong! “God bless this mess,” was the prayer that I prayed often. But in my experience, God doesn’t bless mess; at least He didn’t bless mine’s. I was a good wife; really. I went to work everyday, made sure the kids were properly fed and clothed, and even though I wasn’t an A-plus housekeeper (that’s what maids are for), I did however take care of my business in the bedroom, if you know what I mean. My husband didn’t have to worry about me running around on him. Our entire marriage, I pretty much stayed at home with the kids, so he basically ran the streets with a piece of mind as to my whereabouts, while he was out doing his dirt.Marrying someone with an addiction is like signing yourself up for a life full of distress, disappointments and dis-ease. “But I love him, and love conquers all,” bullcrap! That’s the lie we’ve been led to believe. Oh, it sounds really great, but take it from me, love does not conquer all. Being a lover through and through, the love I had for my husband and every guy since him, should have been enough to keep everything together. Not! I’ve learned that when loving, you need to make sure that the person you are giving your love to, is even capable of reciprocating the act itself. It’s one thing to say I love you, but if there’s no action that backs that up, then those are essentially empty words. And the act of love-making, if that is indeed what occurs in your bedroom, does not prove one’s love for you. Being compatible in that area is one of the reasons we stay involved even when the rest of the relationship is falling apart.In closing I’d like to say that when you’re truly in the market for attracting someone you’re considering building a solid relationship with, make sure that person is as close to a fit as possible. Trying to fit a square into a rectangle has never been possible unless you have a hammer as a tool and even after it’s finally inside the irregular space, the original shape is destroyed.

Wedding Drama Pt. 1

Posted by Michaela on September 15, 2008 at 9:21pm

Can I vent here with my fellow sista's???So it's 5 days before the wedding and I find out that my sister (and her husband) and my Aunt, who also happens to be my Godmother, will not be attending my wedding.NO I am not Joking... I have been slaving over planning a wedding far in advance for these "folks" to find a sitter for my special day and no one has found a sitter yet. I know at first everyone was pissed because I wanted a "adult" only reception. Does anyone find this offensive?? I don't, especially considering the "Be-Be" kids that would have been in attendance. I would prefer to not have to deal with the agravation of these kids running around acting up on my day. Personally, when I am invited to a wedding, I would prefer not to bring my child, because I like to enjoy myself at the ceremony and reception.The second problem they are having with my wedding is that it happens to be 45 minutes from my hometown and everyone wants me to getting married in the church I was raised in. Well, I don't mean to sound like a brat, but I always envisioned myself walking down a center aisle, and my "home" church does not have that. Besides, I have been attending this new church for over a year and I really love it. I would love to start my new life with my soul mate in "OUR" church, not "my" church. Am I wrong???Ahhh... so the husband to be is home.. I am sure I will be venting in the near future... hopefully everyone else attends so I don't have to (as my mom would say) BLESS someone out!{I labeled it part 1 because I know there is more to come}

Why I wrote "I Need Therapy"

Posted by glenda wallace Greenidge-Blake on May 15, 2008 at 10:30pm

I wanted to take this opportunity to introduce myself, tell you a little bit about why I'm here, and why after many years of writing, I decided to venture into writing about relationships.Relationship topics are always popular because relationship problems will always exist. Most of us have experienced the hurt, and anguish of a broken heart, but it happens every day. And at many stages in my life, I too have experienced it, but after five marriages and 18 marriage proposals, I have gained the knowledge of certain key elements to maintaining a healthy, happy and fulfilling relationship.I decided to write “I Need Therapy” because at some point in a woman’s life we’ve all silently made this statement, whether we admit it or not.When some of you experience problems within your relationships, you run out and buy our books, or sit at home watching Dr. Phil hoping that you will learn the key to fixing all of your problems. Believe me, I’m not pointing fingers, I used to be that person.I, like most of you, have had my heart broken more times than I can count. I can vividly remember a time back in my early twenties, when a man I was dating told me that he didn't want me anymore. To me, this was unimaginable and it hurt like hell . . . how in the hell could he not want me!From that point, it seemed like the more he showed me that he didn’t want me, the more determined I was to make him love me.I had to learn a hard lesson. I had to learn to love MYSELF and recognize my worth! And once I did, I developed a different attitude toward this man. I realized that he didn’t deserve me.When I learned this powerful lesson, I stopped calling him, hounding him, driving past his apartment or place of business. I stopped my obsessive behavior, because ladies, you know we can develop obsessive behavior. But when I stopped . . . the roles reversed. He started ringing my phone off the hook, driving past my house and coming into my place of business with the pretense of conducting business.He couldn’t understand how he had lost his hold over me. Ladies, sometimes we too freely give up control to a man.There are certain things in life that we can’t change. We can’t change a man, change his mind or his way of thinking.The only thing that you have control over is YOU! You can change your behavior and your way of thinking.I am so happy to know that this book has helped so many women. I receive emails every day from women who say how “I Need Therapy” has literally changed their lives. I also receive emails from men who say that they found the book to be “on point” and helpful in understanding what women want from their relationships.It gives me such pleasure to know that this book that I poured so much of myself into, is actually serving the purpose in which it was written.Fix your relationship problems by starting with YOU!!! I Need Therapy . . . available everywhere books are sold! Or click the link below to go to my order page.
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