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Letting Go of Old Power to Gain New Freedom
Rickey of Juniques Marketing and Multi Cultural Connections, share his insight on personal growth.

He describes how a person can be really good in a particular area of life or have a skill highly developed and it becomes their power. This power is what they use and hold on to, always.

The person may good at leadership, persuasion, arguing,loving,passiveness, etc. They use their power
constantly.

Now to experience NEW Freedom, they have to learn to let go of that power so that a new freedom
can be introduced into their life. How?

When the opportunity present itself to use their old power, they do not.

They do not take the lead, agrue, persuade,passive, follow, etc. Just for that moment.

Here is what they discover.

That they may have other powers that have not be utilized. That the situation was not as severe as they thought.

That someone else discovered they had unused power and "stepped" forward.

That someone had discovered their
new freedom and the opportunity to use it, was presented.

It like holding on to something that secures. Say you are sitting in a "four legged chair" and you are "rocking" in it.

There is a table you use to grab, just as the chair starts falling back and you know it will not "rock" forward.

You know if you do not grab that table, you will fall.

You know the fall will be "nothing nice". You get real good at grabbing that table.

Lets say the table is your power. Let say falling is the start of process of letting go. Lets say you let go!!!

That is the most emotionally unsettlling moment in your life. Because you do not have your power.

So you fall to the floor and you experience no major damage! You look around you are ok, You get up and realize you do not need
the table. You have new freedoms. You can sit there, get up, walk around, crawl, stand up, etc.

You realize now you can " Let go of old power and Gain new freedom!":

You have new freedoms. Now the cool part of gaining new freedoms is, it is a continual cycle.

New Freedoms will become Old Powers.

Now you know how to move old powers to new freedoms and you can appreciate the cycling instead being held by old powers.

The sad news about keeping old powers is YOU WILL NOT GROW, in whatever area of life, you want to grow., you let the old power remain "in charge".

Is this a easy process? NO. For it is a process. You have take "steps" to let go of old power and you have to trust the process.

I say do this and enjoy rewards of growing!!!

There was a time when I used to be amazed at the number of seemingly grown men who were unwilling to be responsible for their own lives and for those of the families they made. Like everyone else, I’ve seen the increasing dismal statistics of fatherlessness in the American community. I would even go so far as to say there is pandemic manlessness as well. Men in our extended families are also becoming increasingly rare. What seems to be commonplace now are families with lots of women, young children, and old men. Young men are few and far between – and getting fewer all the time.Many women have rushed to blame the men for this. After all, ultimately it is their choice to leave; their choice to follow the examples, or the lack thereof, that preceded them. These are grown men and entirely accountable for their action and/or inaction – granted.However, I submit to you that many women – particularly many single mothers – are in the deepest denial about their contribution to this pandemic. In their zeal to raise good sons they have often neglected to raise responsible men who would actually be suitably productive husbands and fathers. So many single mothers, mothering from the own pains and issues, often deliberately or incidentally surrogate their children into “pseudo-spouses”. In the process, these children often receive severely mixed messages. On the one hand, they are constantly reminded of how much they resemble all the worst traits in their fathers. On the other, their mothers are quick to lay guilt trips on them if they dare to establish an independent identity or a different significant female relationship. These boys get angry and resentful, so the mother’s remedy is often to indulge them. They are rewarded with material things in return for their faithfulness to fulfilling their mother’s wishes.And so the cycle continues until the sex drive takes over. Now, these same young men start “mating and procreating” with no significant grasp of the level of responsibility that creates. However, thinking that they do, they often “try” to be there. That usually lasts until he gets overwhelmed and/or it’s not fun anymore. She wakes up one day without him; and grandma is raising babies once again. Why? Because we have spawned yet another generation of people who believe the universe exists solely to serve them. If it doesn’t, then there is clearly something wrong with the universe – it couldn’t possibly be something wrong with them. We’ve created yet another generation of perfect pimps and then we get mad at them when they behave accordingly. We often create the monsters that come back to kill us.How do we stop it? Here are three things we can do: 1) Put them out of their parents’ house by age 21 – sooner if they don’t go to college at 18; 2) stop letting them have sex in a home they don’t have a lease/mortgage on; and 3) stop letting them move their girlfriends into that same house.Brain surgery – it is not!Speaking the truth in love,Deidre

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