Hello Community,
You hear this word used in many conversations. Speakers earn great income from addressing this issues. Many theories are submitted to addressing theory. Ok here is my take on the powerful word fear!!! I look forward to your assessment of what this word can or can not do!!
At your service,
Rickey
Whether in your business or personal life, do you have the issue of making sure everything is ‘perfect’ before making a move?
The Next Step
Sometimes we may get stuck – waiting, and waiting, and waiting as we pull together what we think is important before we move forward. But if you think about it, is it really necessary to wait? Yeah, I know, this can be harsh on those of us who are analytical and have perfectionist tendencies.
Maybe the following is your situation:
You don’t have everything you need to roll out your full vision at the moment and it may take you a little while to unfold all the phases in your plan.
Solution: Rather than making it a long, drawn out chore, consider what you CAN do NOW. More than likely, you have what you need to take the next step. Do that -- take the next step!
Real vs Busy Work
Beware! Speaking of next steps . . . make it count. While you’re preparing to share your vision or bring your product or service to market, make sure you’re not just doing busy work, working on the shiny bells and whistles, business cards, brochures -- avoiding the ‘real’ work. For real work, externally, how about building relationships -- establishing some one-on-one connections; doing some vision casting over lunch. Internally, how about establishing business systems – infrastructure.
Fear & Procrastination
Most times, we innately know what to do and how to do it. Sometimes stagnation has nothing to do with busy work, analysis paralysis, or the guise of perfection, but simply has to do with fear and its offspring, one of which is procrastination. The good thing is . . . we always have a choice.
Choices
Question is . . . What's your choice?
Latifah Abdullah is founder of Tibay International. Using optimism, forward thinking, and passion for a woman’s well being, the Tibay Community provides tools, how to’s, and candid conversation on legacy wealth, business, finance, faith, fashion, and health -- empowering women and women entrepreneurs to live a full, authentic life.
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As posted on Denene Millner's "My Brown Baby" on November 5, 2012. See full post here.
Author: Akilah S. Richards
How is it that, according to the U.S. Bureau of Labor and Statistics, our percentage of business ownership as black women in the U.S. is up 59 percent since 2002, yet we make up a mere 3 percent of the $1.2 billion dollars in sales from women-owned businesses?
Unjust systems and long-standing, deliberately placed hurdles aside, many of us are learning to maneuver this new era of social impact through technology, and leveraging our skills with our passions to the tune of thriving businesses and comfortable lifestyles.
But on the real, the numbers of us who hoist sails on sinking ships with unstable businesses far surpass the number of financially and emotionally stable black women business owners.
Certainly, we do not lack access to the resources or the brainpower it takes to excel in business—so what’s the deal?
Business and Life Strategist Katrina M. Harrell and I have got a theory about these troubling truths. It might ruffle your feathers a bit, but perhaps that’s a necessary part of your growth and ours.
The theory: Black women in business have been B.I.T.C.H.ing up, big time!
Yes, we BITCH up! We get scared. We stop trusting ourselves. We take the shortcuts and we prioritize popularity over business ownership. Many of us, myself included, spent years building a “popular brand”, without focusing on operating a business.
The results: High visibility, but low income. Some success, but no real fulfillment.
I was a slave to the very thing I had built. But thankfully, I got free.
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It happened.
Your heart is pounding,
Your palms are sweating
You’re stuttering and fumbling over your words
Your stomach starts to turn flips and you secretly wish the sky would fall so you have a valid excuse to end this situation – IMMEDIATELY.
No matter the level of your business – whether you are new or seasoned, it’s inevitable, you will experience challenges. They may all appear different but they all have similar underlying emotions.
they create fear, anxiety, frustration and even in some cases horrible procrastination (I’m looking at you Dream list that’s collecting dust).
I’ve had my own share of challenges since starting my journey in entrepreneurship over 5 years ago – even in the midst of tremendous success and recognition I still struggled with work-life “balance”, learning the fine art form of attracting the RIGHT customers (I’ve never had issues in attracting but in attracting the right customers consistently, I learned a while ago is a fine art) The beauty of challenges however that many entrepreneurs often overlook is that they also create tremendous opportunities when you’ve learned to master the art of “CALL & RESPONSE” instead of “REACTION”
My eldest child plays soccer. She's pretty good at it too. And this year, her team moved up to Division 1 so things are exceptionally competitive.
When she was younger, the "Princess" was always ultra polite - one of those kids who all the teachers fawn over because she said, "please" and "thank you". I suppose that's not a commonality much anymore. But that streak of politeness doesn't work very well when you play competitive sports. You have to be pretty tough and thick-skinned.
Now that she's older, the Princess still has a very quiet strength about her. She is at the stage now where her feelings are fragile (she's a tweener), but she gets assertive on the field because her goal is clear as a Forward - be in front position to get the ball to and into the net.
This week, while she was targeting the goal, a kid on the other team recognized her skill and honed in on her. The competitor started hounding her pretty hard verbally and physically...to the point that she was elbowing the Princess constantly. At one point, she elbowed her so hard in the ribs she went down, tears in her eyes and a defeated look on her generally smiling face. Things didn't look good.
I waited until half time and went over to check on her. When I got there, I looked her in the eye and asked her how she was. Although she responded quietly, "fine", I could tell her eyes were saying, "she's getting to me". I told her I knew she was stronger than that but for the rest of the game, that girl took the fight out of my Princess.
You know I gave her 'the talk' on the drive home, right? But in my heart I knew none of that would matter until SHE knew she was strong enough to overcome the pain and that much of it was in her own mind.
As I prayed about it later on, I had a revelation. It was this -- how often do we allow our dreams to be sidetracked and wiped out because of FEAR? It can creep up on you, whisper things in your ear that tell you "you're not good enough" or " you can't do this" and when you listen and let it knock you down, you lose sight of the goal -- the main reason why you're even playing the game. Your business and your personal life suffer when you let Fear get the best of you.
Like I told the Princess, we have to never let our fear see us sweat - it may be there, but you look it in the eye and you show it just how good you are. Never lose sight of the goal. Because just like the game that night? We were destined to win and it happened anyway - in spite of what fear tried to do. It can kick your butt and you may even need a little Tylenol afterwards, but don't let fear put you out of the game.
Get your theme song going in your head. Mine is by Mary Mary and it's called Get Up.
Some of the words go like this,
"What are you afraid of? Don't you know what you're made of? One of God's greatest creations. Take this invitation now.
Get up, 'cause you can't stop. Get up, got a lot to do. 24 hours, almost gone.
Get up, don't sit back. Get up, if you wanna get there. Clocks don't stop and time won't wait."
Just remember, you have the power to choose - keep your head in the game, or let fear bully you into giving up. What's it going to be?
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Rejection feels “icky” doesn’t it? It hits that space in us that we are uncomfortable with. That space that reminds us that we perhaps aren’t good enough or worthy enough. It reminds us of those childhood memories we would much rather forget. It just doesn’t feel good to be rejected by others.
We’ve all experienced it at some point in our lives, perhaps regularly. That feeling of wanting to retreat and hide in our “caves” after someone has rejected us or made us feel as if we weren’t “in the in crowd”. Or perhaps that family member who spoke to you in a manner that contradicts the symbol and role they are supposed to play in your life, confirming that “people are selfish or out to get you” It could also be the lost client contract or the new connection you made with someone on line who’s positive energy wasn’t favorably returned. It happens to us all at one time as we all have this undercurrent desire to be accepted and connected to each other. It’s normal for us to want to bond with others and co-exist with others. It’s part of our human DNA – but when rejection begins to take over our human existence, the feeling of wanting to be accepted begins to appear in an unhealthy way.
You know…
::Seeking approval over and over from others and feeling “empty” when not reciprocated
::Not knowing when it’s time to let go of a relationship or connection
::Making personal decisions based on what others think of you…
::The ironic disconnect from others (i.e. isolation or indifference because the world isn’t giving you “your way”)
or the most common for most people…
Living your entire life against the flow of your LIFE PURPOSE.
IS THAT HOW WE REALLY SHOULD LIVE OUR LIVES?
What keeps you focused? What do you say when you feel ready to give up? There are moments when as women we simply get drained, and maybe even ready to throw in the towel. However there is a powerful restorative beauty in daily reminders of what is ultimately important to you.
“YOU.WILL.RISE. ->The myth of the phoenix describes the fire-bird who is burned to ashes with its nest. Out of the ashes a new egg is created and a new bird is born, who lives longer and more powerful than the original bird. Your ability to “reborn” after a personal set-back or failed business venture is important to remember. You may fail at some point, but it’s what you learn from the experience that will raise you to another level of excellence that ultimately creates the powerful businesswoman you are.” ~Excerpt from Embrace Your Journey: 180 Day journey of Spiritual Transformation for the Woman Entrepreneur-Day 1 (c) Copyright 2011, 2012 Sum of Her Publishing/Katrina M. Harrell
Below of 107 powerful mantras, reminders and affirmations for you on your wealth journey. Read them print them, share them, commit some of them to memory.
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There is infinite wisdom inside of you, waiting to unleash itself. Let's embark on this journey of self-discovery together. Visit www.amazon.katrinamharrell.com for a groundbreaking best seller written for the spiritual journey of Women entrepreneurs.
I WAS THAT GIRL...THE ONE WHO THOUGHT SHE HAD TO FIX EVERYTHING, CONTROL EVERY OUTCOME AND JUST BE IN CONTROL ALL THE TIME. Until I had a revelation...FEAR is a manmade myth and that when I learn to LET GO I gain control...enjoy the blog post below where I share my insight into my revelation and how you can uncover the same journey for yourself. ~Katrina
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I started my day as normal, clear focused intentions, meditation time and time to give thanks. I’m ready to hit my day swinging focusing on my W.I.N. and making things happen because that’s what creatives do. Then it hit me….my video camera battery was completely out and the video I needed to record early this morning to send to my list for registration to my 21 Day challenge was already 3 hours late. My kids were in full fledge “mommy! mommy!” mode and I felt the twinge of “ugh” reach my belly – an all to familiar feeling of…”FEAR”
I know the signs…frustration, annoyance “why didn’t I charge the camera up last night!!!” and even the feeling of putting off my objective for today for another day (procrastination). ALL the ugly signs of FEAR that in the past would mean I would find myself “fighting” to get through the day, needing to make sacrifices instead of choices. I wasn’t having it…afterall I wrote the book on learning to “let go” and Embrace the real journey of your life. No way I was going to start tripping today.
Instead I did what I have learned to do…I told FEAR to buzz off…in my Martin Lawrence voice I told it to “Get to Steppin’” because I know now that FEAR isn’t real. It’s a manufactured emotion we’ve created when the perception of the world doesn’t happen the way we “think” it should. In other words…I ignored the fear and instead found courage to make a different choice.
Why is Fear a Myth?
It would take me an entire book to explain how I have come and am still evolving to learn that FEAR is a big ole nasty myth that we’ve all purchased, but to put it in few words. Fear is a myth because all that there is is LOVE and ABUNDANCE. We’ve been conditioned to accept fear because we have also been conditioned that we cannot control but should fight to control everything. You know…the client that doesn’t respond to the email fast enough or even the partner that doesn’t seem to “get” your point of view in business or maybe the product launch that isn’t selling. We feel as though we have to fight every battle in life…with only a few worth fighting. All those creepy thoughts that love to remind you that ‘fear” is a constant thing we must FIGHT-{a daily battle of external manifestations that don’t add up to our PERCEPTION of the world}. The constant reminder of Fear that we’re not good enough, smart enough, have enough money, our kids don’t do enough or fear that we’re not working hard enough to push past generational curses that we are determined not to repeat. So we MUST fight.
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Empowering Women Entrepreneurs: Does Fear grip you when you think of these three words?
I need help! Those are three of the most feared words for many that I know of. Why is this?
Do you feel that asking or admitting that you need help means that you’ve failed or maybe you feel inferior?
Let’s take a look at the consequences of not asking for or seeking help.
You continue repeating the same steps getting the same results.
You waste time and money trying out new bright shiny objects. The next best thing.
A great service or product is withheld from the world.
The solution to someone’s problem is hidden and causes them to either
continue on a long search or never realize the resolve for their problem.
You continue to toss and turn afraid that your mortgage won’t be paid or that you won’t be able to keep up with your bills.
A lack of confidence and low self esteem sets in as you beat up on yourself for not accomplishing what you thought you would have by now.
You finally give up.
Is it worth it?
Seeking out the necessary support and resources is an action of a woman who knows that she has gifts that the world needs to be exposed to, an unstoppable woman of tenacity that has made a resolve of no retreat.
It doesn’t make you weak or inferior.
The added support of a coach and/or mentor will save you years of trouble, reduce the mistakes that you end up making and will keep you from reinventing the wheel.
You will also realize increased revenue and save time.
If it hasn’t worked for you for the last 1 – 5 years or more, you can’t afford to continue on your own.
Stop now. Look at where you are? Are you satisfied?
Make an agreement with yourself that you will do whatever it takes to position yourself for empowering success. Don’t cheat yourself simply because you’re afraid of or too proud to say “I need help.”
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Are you struggling with the emotion fear?
Why are you struggling? Isn’t it time to take control and acquire the necessary skills to combat fear. I’m not saying to focus on fear because “what you focus on expands!”
There’s no time to contemplate or ponder this thing. It’s time now to break free so you can live your best life ever!
Here are three reasons that you must break free from fear now!
Fear is a Dream Killer
Like procrastination, fear is a thief of time and I know all to well
about this one. There are many opportunities that have been lost
because of fear. I’m sure you can think of some missed opportunities
of your own. This will continue to happen unless you break free.
The life of your dreams is at stake. You must break free now!
Fear is a toxin
Our subconscious mind receives messages from our thoughts and actions
and it doesn’t know whether it’s a temporary or insincere thought.
No, our subconscious mind gets to work on whatever we send its way.
So in essence fear is a toxin to the subconscious mind.
Fear is not a part of God’s plan and is not from God
In the bible we read that God has not given us a spirit of
fear but He’s given us power, love and a sound mind. So if
God didn’t give it to us then we shouldn’t have it and it
hinders the flow of blessing on our lives.
Your goal should never be to focus on totally being free from fear,
that would be unbalanced, however, you should learn keys and the
necessary mindset shifts needed to empower you to live a life free
from the bondage of fear.
What will you do if you never break free? You don’t have to wait
any longer.
I invite you to request access to my FREE laser coaching call “Blast fear, procrastination and get focused!” You’ll hear the value added content I shared and hear the laser coaching a few of the ladies experienced with me on the call.
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1: an act, process, or instance of transforming or being transformed
In the bible it reads; Be not conformed to this world but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind. Notice it states renewing which is continual. It’s not a place of arrival and then you’re done. There are many things that come to stop us from reaching our destiny and fulfilling our purpose.
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What do you do when all of your motivation has dried up?
How do you continue on?
When you’ve tried everything and it seems that your dreams will never
come to fruition you’ve got to believe!
Yes, believe. It may look dark and grim, however, it’s at this time that
you must go back to your why, revisit your vision and believe.
Believe: 2: to have a firm conviction as to the goodness, efficacy, or ability of something Merriam Webster Dictionary
Take inventory of why you started on the path to Health and Fitness, building a business, strengthening your Faith, building a successfulmarriage. Assess what worked and what didn’t. Write down action stepsthat you will need to take for a different result.
Reignite your passion and believe! Believe in your dream. Believe in the
goodness of the realization of your desired result.
You don’t fail unless you quit.
“It’s never too late to redeem your dreams.” Sharon Williamson
Believe in and redeem your dreams!
Of course it’s going to take more than believing, however, you can resuscitate your motivation and passion when you simply make one more effort to Believe!
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Is your mindset holding you back?
Don’t know?
I’m going to share 3 mindsets to avoid.
Getting better and this is not simply personal development it’s continued activities based on the comparison with others. You should
always avoid this self doubt. It is draining and will sabotage any
endeavor of empowering success. So shake the mindset of “I’m not good
enough.”
2) It’s too late for me. Sure things may not have happened the way you want them to happen, however, as long as you have breath in your body there’s hope. Take inventory of why things are not working. Don’t
be a victim of time. There are many who started in there latter years
and actually realized more in their latter years than their earlier
years. Spend your time discovering new ideals, strategies and
resources. Determine who it is you are here to serve. Develop an
appropriate brand and make sure you have an online visibility plan.
3) Who am I to charge that? Okay this is where I had an incredible shift in my life and business. I kept hearing the limiting belief or
you could say negative chatter and it included “Who am I to charge
that?” If you have determined who you serve, a solution to their
problem and can help them get results, you had better charge for that.
Don’t look at it as what hourly rate you can charge but rather what are
the results that you help them achieve? What’s it worth to them? If you
can provide solutions and help them manifest the desired results, you’re the person for the job. Besides it’s not a money thing
with everyone. Charge too little and they may start doubting the
effectiveness of your program, product or service.
I have shared 3 mindsets to avoid. There are many more that you want to stay clear of. There are also mindset shifts that need to be made and this comes as you master your mindset.
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Having the right mindset is crucial to your Authentically Brilliant Life and Business Empowerment. Empowerment is a choice. Make the choice for maximum empowerment today!
